valentine's hater [Archive]

maxandmolly

02-14-2006, 01:28 PM

I hate it. I hate it hate it hate it. I hate watching all the flowers being delivered, the smoochy woochy couples everyone, blech, makes me wanna vomit. Where is that the rest of the year? Of course, it bothers me then, too, since I have no one to be all smoochy woochy with.
And my Valentine's mailbox that we made every year at school then put on our desks, was always empty, or at least, never as full as I wanted it to be.

katmg

02-14-2006, 01:28 PM

Seems a bit forced to me. Plus it made me feel like crap for oh-so-many years when I didn't have a SO.

I do like the free candy around the office though. Pink Watermelon Jolly Ranchers are tasty. :p

shopaholic

02-14-2006, 01:30 PM

And my Valentine's mailbox that we made every year at school then put on our desks, was always empty, or at least, never as full as I wanted it to be.
That stinks. In my classes you were asked to do a valentine for all of your classmates so no one was left out.

chefker

02-14-2006, 01:32 PM

It's pretty lame, and I don't care about it really, but hubby is bringing home a sushi boat and a bottle of sake for me for V-day dinner, so that's never a bad thing. :)

carrie9142

02-14-2006, 01:32 PM

I like getting candy or flowers. But, I don't always get them on V-day and I sometimes get them other times.

We are pretty "meh" about valentine's. We never do presents or cards. Usually I make a nice meal (the one day I cook) and he usually brings flowers or something. And maybe we say something nice and lovey :) It's funny b/c we actually started dating about 2 weeks before v-day. I was adamant that I didn't want anything and he was NOT my boyfriend (yeah, so we were 19 and lame). He had bought me like a card and a watch and I made such a fuss that he took them back! I didn't find out until maybe 2 years later. Instead I got a little devil with a heart and he got a bag of Gardetto's snack mix. Now that is romance.

kari

02-14-2006, 01:32 PM

I begged DH to not go out to dinner tonight, instead last night or tomorrow night. They jack up the prices, it's a fixed menu and the service so hurried. Not a good time to me. Alas, he insists on going tonight.

emmjay

02-14-2006, 01:32 PM

I mostly ignore it.

I think it's a stupid, made-up holiday.

dionysia

02-14-2006, 01:35 PM

I do like the free candy around the office though.Everyone got Necco candy hearts in their mailboxes here today.

YUM!

:)

Di

snowzilla

02-14-2006, 01:39 PM

I mostly ignore it.

I think it's a stupid, made-up holiday.

Agreed. We're not participating this year...mind you, our wedding anniversary is at the end of this month, so we can get all schmoopy then, and it will be a lot more genuine instead of the forced Hallmark holiday that today feels like.

And my Valentine's mailbox that we made every year at school then put on our desks, was always empty, or at least, never as full as I wanted it to be.

My kids are allowed to bring valentine's cards only if they bring one for every kid in the class, fortunately. I hate seeing children getting left out of things like that.

irish74

02-14-2006, 01:41 PM

Don't like it. Well, except we each get a 1lb box of See's on our desks at work.

greenbunny

02-14-2006, 01:42 PM

I don't like how stuff costs 400% more than it did last week...and since my birthday was last week, DH just gets me something that "counts" for both days. The flowers I got last week were still fresh this morning.

I like the feeling of cheating the Hallmark system. Even Valentine's Day is not immune to the cheap bastard inside me. :D

hockeybrat

02-14-2006, 01:45 PM

We don't get into it either, but we got each other nice cards and little trinket gifts (price limit this year was $1.50 :D ).

We're planning on a regular Tuesday evening (me-gym, DH studying/working on projects at home, etc).

We're Valentine's Day Grinches! :p

southerner

02-14-2006, 01:45 PM

I don't like how stuff costs 400% more than it did last week...
That's why you wait until the day after ;)

HeatherFL

02-14-2006, 01:47 PM

Don't hate it, but feel I don't need to tell someone I love them because Hallmark and 1-800-Flowers.com tell me to.

H.

dionysia

02-14-2006, 01:47 PM

That's why you wait until the day after ;)Exactly.

Then I buy a ton of Reese's peanut butter hearts and cinnamon imperials.

:D

Di

greenbunny

02-14-2006, 01:47 PM

That's why you wait until the day after ;)

Ohhhhh candy clearance, here I come! :p

oldsalt

02-14-2006, 01:48 PM

We don't hate it, but we don't celebrate it either. My MIL's funeral was on Valentines day so that kinda takes the spunk out of it.

But even before that, was never a big deal to us. I'd rather have little surprise gifts throughout the year than to succumb to the emotional blackmail of the card and jewelry industries.

Or at least that sounds really good when you're broke. Snicker.

amew

02-14-2006, 01:49 PM

I think Valentine's Day is kind of silly and forced, but I still like it if only for the conversation hearts--they are my all-time favorite candy. Honestly, I'll take any excuse to binge on those tasty hearts and have a nice dinner with DH, but we skip the over-priced roses, cheesy stuffed animals, jewelry, and big heart-shaped boxes of chocolate. Just not our style. I did leave a card under DH's windshield wiper this morning, though, so I guess I bought into it a little.

doublej

02-14-2006, 01:50 PM

Valentine's in school was the worse! Expecially if you didn't have someone to send you something to school. They would call names out over the PA and you would go to the office and get your flowers or whatever. I got something 2 out of the 4 years. Those 2 years I didn't get anything were just a reminder to everyone that I didn't have a BF or anyone that had a crush on me! I hated that! My sister would get something ever year. One year she got something from 4 different guys! Of course, I got nothing that year!

bethnjim

02-14-2006, 01:51 PM

I mostly ignore it.

I think it's a stupid, made-up holiday.

Yep...what she said!

southerner

02-14-2006, 01:52 PM

Then I buy a ton of Reese's peanut butter hearts
I love the hearts, Christmas trees, Easter eggs, etc. the most. Now that they have those, I barely eat the original ones anymore. They don't pack nearly as much p.b. Mmm, now I'm craving one, thanks :rolleyes:

kedzieb

02-14-2006, 01:57 PM

i love the chocolate. we celebrate it the other 364 days of the year, so on the actual hallmark date i'm kinda exhausted. :p

greenbunny

02-14-2006, 01:59 PM

thedoorchick

02-14-2006, 02:01 PM

I can kind of see the "hallmark holiday" point of view, but it's a nice excuse to cook a fancy dinner and be extra sweet to one another.

maxandmolly

02-14-2006, 02:01 PM

I worked at a jewelry store for years, and I have to admit it was always a riot on Valentine's Day to see the guys come in all panicked at the last minute and grab whatever was left, then return it the next day. Repeat on Christmas Eve. Most men just will never learn to plan ahead. :p
Most men just never learn, period. Which is why, in a certain sense, I need to remind myself how lucky I am, that the only man I *need* in my life, has a fluffy tail, big green eyes, and paws at me when he needs my attention.

irish74

02-14-2006, 02:06 PM

Oh, yeah, I'm also all about the clearance candy.:D

artist

02-14-2006, 02:07 PM

I actually like it, but I can totally understand why people hate it! Having someone as your Valentine does of course help. (Though I think I managed to still have fun with my friends on that day when I was single.)

Also, my parents have this tradition where sometime around Valentine's Day they treat our family to pie! Therefore, whatever my "status" was (as in single, dating, or married) I always could look forward to pie and we do that every year.

In my case though, DH and I met near Valentine's Day, so it's not just the Hallmark thing for us, but also celebrating when we met.

jp'swife

02-14-2006, 02:08 PM

I can kind of see the "hallmark holiday" point of view, but it's a nice excuse to cook a fancy dinner and be extra sweet to one another.

and don't forget the customary sex!

bwahhhhhhhh!!!! Ha! ha!

chefker

02-14-2006, 02:11 PM

(Though I think I managed to still have fun with my friends on that day when I was single.)

Oh yeah! I had some REALLY fun V-days with my friends during my single days. Usually revolved around a bottle of wine, some shopping, or club-hopping. The good old days.... :)

Belm

02-14-2006, 02:11 PM

I can kind of see the "hallmark holiday" point of view, but it's a nice excuse to cook a fancy dinner and be extra sweet to one another.

I feel the same way. Plus, I'll take any excuse to eat chocolate. :D

eta: spelling

Heidi

02-14-2006, 02:12 PM

Hate it, and we don't celebrate it!

I can't wait for it to be over so the DUMB Kay jewelery ads will not be on every other commercial - they are so cheesy it drives me nuts - who really acts like that anyway??

Mellow_Water1

02-14-2006, 02:13 PM

I think it's safe to say that you would find the video in this (http://www.constantchatter.com/showthread.php?t=15889) thread funny.

(Yes, I'm making a shameless attempt to get people to open my own thread, but come on, it's funny!) Haha.

artist

02-14-2006, 02:15 PM

I can't wait for it to be over so the DUMB Kay jewelery ads will not be on every other commercial - they are so cheesy it drives me nuts - who really acts like that anyway??

Yeah, the jewelry ads are pretty annoying! I agree with you on that!

shopaholic

02-14-2006, 02:17 PM

those jewelry commercials are on all the time around holidays. I really hate those too because its always the guy buying the girl jewelry as though its expected. Makes me feel sorry for men.

hockeybrat

02-14-2006, 02:19 PM

artist

02-14-2006, 02:20 PM

Speaking of the good old days of being single on Valentine's Day and still having fun:

One of the funniest Valentine's Days was...

I had a long distance boyfriend. It was a little depressing that day naturally. I also had a real good guy pal who I hung out with a lot and went on non-date dates. (Does that even make sense?) Anyway, that Valentine's Day evening I called him up assuming he already had plans but wondered if he just wanted to hang out. He was thrilled. He had some other date planned, but he really wanted to get out of it. So, he and I went to this hole in the wall coffee shop. (For those of you in the Twin Cities, it was The Hard Times Cafe, which as you know, is NOT really a place to go on Valentine's Day! It's like a coffee shop's version of a dive bar.) My friend was then real nervous his initial date would walk past us and realize he in fact was NOT home sick! I do feel bad for whoever that girl was, but we had a great non-date of a date! In retrospect it was really funny.

shopaholic

02-14-2006, 02:23 PM

Nobody I know. Not every gift begins with Kay! :pactually I think its "every kiss begins with Kay"

CityGirl

02-14-2006, 02:25 PM

I used to be so-so on Valentine's Day. I would refuse to pay the crazy dinner prices, but liked to bring little handmade cards and candy for my friends and co-workers. But my DH started making a big deal about it because it is my "half-birthday". Then I got really into it when DH proposed on Valentine's Day years ago. But I guess it means more to me as a celebration of our engagement and my half-birthday :D than it does as a Hallmark holiday. I still have a moritorium on flowers for V-Day.

thedoorchick

02-14-2006, 02:25 PM

actually I think its "every kiss begins with Kay"
Thanks a lot - now I will have that jingle in my head ALL afternoon!

Heidi

02-14-2006, 02:26 PM

those jewelry commercials are on all the time around holidays. I really hate those too because its always the guy buying the girl jewelry as though its expected. Makes me feel sorry for men.

I always wonder what goes through DH's head when those commercials are on. I wonder if he feels pressure to buy me diamonds for every friggin holiday? He knows I am not a big diamonds kind a gal, so I assume he doesn't think twice about it.

msnicolea

02-14-2006, 02:30 PM

I don't hate it but we really don't celebrate it either. I'm lucky, though--my DH is very spontaneously romantic throughout the year!

dionysia

02-14-2006, 02:30 PM

I love the hearts, Christmas trees, Easter eggs, etc. the most. Now that they have those, I barely eat the original ones anymore. They don't pack nearly as much p.b. Mmm, now I'm craving one, thanks :rolleyes:DH and I were discussing this very phenomenon: that the specially-shaped Reese's taste better than the regular cups.

Di

hockeybrat

02-14-2006, 02:30 PM

actually I think its "every kiss begins with Kay"

Ooops, :o I guess I don't really pay attention to the commercial.

dionysia

02-14-2006, 02:32 PM

Nobody I know. Not every gift begins with Kay! :pIt's "every kiss begins with Kay."

Makes sense now, doesn't it? :p

Every diamond begins with Di, you know.

:D

Di

shopaholic

02-14-2006, 02:33 PM

I always wonder what goes through DH's head when those commercials are on. I wonder if he feels pressure to buy me diamonds for every friggin holiday? He knows I am not a big diamonds kind a gal, so I assume he doesn't think twice about it.
My BF hates them. Anytime they come on he is sure to say "that is such BS" :D

chefker

02-14-2006, 02:34 PM

Every diamond begins with Di, you know.

:D

Di

Good one. Have you ever cashed in on that, so to speak? :)

dionysia

02-14-2006, 02:36 PM

Good one. Have you ever cashed in on that, so to speak? :)Nah. I have my one diamond (from Canada!!) and that's enough for me.

DH can buy me a vacation instead. ;)

Di

suzubeane

02-14-2006, 02:38 PM

Hate it. DH likes it though. I still have to find him a card.

kedzieb

02-14-2006, 02:40 PM

too funny - of course it's even worse since the jewelry most men end up buying is so cheesy!

i mean, i know there must be one women somewhere who'd like a gold heart with grey diamond chips and a lab-created ruby, but it ain't me!

http://zales.imageg.net/graphics/product_images/pZALE1-2217861t240.jpg

is that the stuff they kept returning the next day? :rolleyes:

pocket

02-14-2006, 02:45 PM

Back in the day I used to go to a really mean v-day party. Some friends lived in a group house and found a box of old melodramatic journals in the basement that had been left behind when someone moved out. The girl was in college and really going through relationship and dating drama. Every year they would have a valentine’s day party where they would read the journals aloud.

greenbunny

02-14-2006, 02:46 PM

is that the stuff they kept returning the next day? :rolleyes:

A LOT of women returned lab-created stuff because they complain it isn't real. They really don't understand it isn't like a CZ is to a diamond.

Since we're hating on the whole jewelry thing, here's a rude, inappropriate icon made from an episode of Family Guy:

http://i15.photobucket.com/albums/a354/agreenbunny/diamonds.gif

southerner

02-14-2006, 02:49 PM

On WC, I always loved to read about all the people who got engaged that day in the Someday Bride or Engagement Stories forums.

rene'

02-14-2006, 02:51 PM

This year, where my girls go to school, they sent out a notice that they were not going to accept any deliveries for the week of Feb 13th - 17th. Not even the high school would accept deliveries. I thought that was a great idea.

msnicolea

02-14-2006, 02:52 PM

I think Ron WHite sums it up re: what the real slogan for diamonds should be:

"Diamonds--that oughta shut her up."

lawyerlee

02-14-2006, 02:54 PM

I think Ron WHite sums it up re: what the real slogan for diamonds should be:

"Diamonds--that oughta shut her up."
Isn't it the truth?! LOL. I'm sure that's the only reason I'll end up getting a gift. ;)

emmjay

02-14-2006, 02:54 PM

My BF hates them. Anytime they come on he is sure to say "that is such BS" :D
I think they are BS too.

I'm a Valentine's-diamonds-roses hater. :p

artist

02-14-2006, 03:00 PM

I'd rather get those dark colored pearls or saphires. (Not that I am even the type to obsess over getting jewelry!)

lawyerlee

02-14-2006, 03:08 PM

I really only wanted Cliff to get me flowers if he was going to plan ahead and order me organic flowers. I tried to plant the hint early, but he obviously didn't take it because he hasn't done anything yet. Now I feel like being a bratty bitch and telling him to forget it, even though I was really thoughtful and bought him tickets to see Lewis Black next week. Men! :rolleyes: ;)

kedzieb

02-14-2006, 03:08 PM

not to be mean, but if i got something like the heart pendant i'd be thinking "well, i know one day a year i'm gonna wear this."

JamBray

02-14-2006, 03:10 PM

Can't stand V-Day, and in the past I was known to don black and rent horror movies. :p Now DH and I just ignore the day, and I make gagging noises whenever hearts and flowers are mentioned. ;)

Although I did send my sister a V-Day card, but only to let her know how much I heart Dunder Mifflin. :p

lawyerlee

02-14-2006, 03:11 PM

not to be mean, but if i got something like the heart pendant i'd be thinking "well, i know one day a year i'm gonna wear this."
That's nicer than I'd be. I think I'd bust out laughing if he got me that. I hope he's knows me better than that! ;) :D

kedzieb

02-14-2006, 03:12 PM

That's nicer than I'd be. I think I'd bust out laughing if he got me that. I hope he's knows me better than that! ;) :D

if my husband bought it for me i'd be pissed! but let's say it was from my mom or one of my many admirers. i'd give them the benefit of the doubt...

emmjay

02-14-2006, 03:13 PM

I'd rather get those dark colored pearls or saphires. (Not that I am even the type to obsess over getting jewelry!)
Me too! Instead of an engagement ring my husband bought me a black pearl from Tahiti (which I have yet to make into a ring, but I will one day...). The only other nice jewelry I have is a sapphire ring that belonged to DH's great-aunt.

lawyerlee

02-14-2006, 03:13 PM

if my husband bought it for me i'd be pissed! but let's say it was from my mom or one of my many admirers. i'd give them the benefit of the doubt...
Who are these admirers you speak of?! I need one of those. Maybe then I'd get my effing organic flowers! :p

eli1126

02-14-2006, 03:16 PM

and don't forget the customary sex!

bwahhhhhhhh!!!! Ha! ha!

What?! DH is working, guess my theme tonight is all by myyseeelfffff ;)
Just Kidding.

Beth

t3h_wookiee

02-14-2006, 03:18 PM

I also hate it. I don't like how it seems to say that it's ok to ignore your SO all year as long as you get her a bouquet of flowers, a diamond necklace, and a fancy dinner on V-Day.

shopaholic

02-14-2006, 03:20 PM

I don't think heart jewelry is bad at all. Although that necklace is hideous.

I got a charm brac. today that has heart charms as well as a key w/ heart.

I love it!

kedzieb

02-14-2006, 03:21 PM

well, they wouldn't stay my admirers long!

seriously, i think valentine's day is just a good excuse for guys who don't appreciate their women enough all year long to try to make up for it. luckily my husband is fabulous year-round!

artist

02-14-2006, 03:21 PM

DH does know my taste in jewelry and pretty much anything. (We tend to have the same taste for most things in life.) However, I think if he did buy some piece of jewelry that I didn't care for, I'd just be sweet and say thanks. Then again, I think if DH were to buy me jewelry, he'd probably give me the option to trade it in for something else if I wanted to.

DH would never buy me that pendant though anyway if he were buying me jewelry. For one thing, he'd buy something with white gold. For another thing, he'd buy something way simpler!

artist

02-14-2006, 03:24 PM

Actually, dinner tonight is my treat!:D

(In response to the following...)

I also hate it. I don't like how it seems to say that it's ok to ignore your SO all year as long as you get her a bouquet of flowers, a diamond necklace, and a fancy dinner on V-Day.

FWIW, I don't feel ignored. But I wouldn't mind more flowers more often!

alootikki

02-14-2006, 03:31 PM

I have loved Valentine's Day since I was four years old and making home-made cards at the kitchen table with my mom and bro!

But I always thought of VDay as a more general holiday, to give my family and closest friends sweet cards and little fun gifts. So the "romance" and pressure element of it never really hit me. I'm surprised that some of your high schools allowed deliveries for Valentine's! If you got flowers, did you carry them around from class to class?

The funniest spoof I saw this season was on SNL - making fun of the white teddy bears holding hearts, sold "wherever gas is sold".

PG-rated

02-14-2006, 03:32 PM

I like V-Day because we're very low-pressure about it, and I'm guaranteed to get chocolate. :) It never really bothered me when I was single, either. When I was in college, my fraternity would have an annual Anti-Valentine's Day Party, which had "sex without love" as its theme. :p We would dress up in bondage gear and scatter flavored condoms around. It was generally a big hit on campus.

suzfuzsunflower

02-14-2006, 03:34 PM

DH and I really don't care about Valentine's Day. It's just another day. We don't buy each other gifts or cards, but we do go out to eat - nothing fancy, though.

ManteoChik

02-14-2006, 04:02 PM

Don't hate it, but feel I don't need to tell someone I love them because Hallmark and 1-800-Flowers.com tell me to.

Ditto!

Sare79

02-14-2006, 04:57 PM

Here's a link to the anti-Valentine's e-cards:
http://www.meish.org/vd/

SingleWhiteFemale

02-14-2006, 05:20 PM

Which is why, in a certain sense, I need to remind myself how lucky I am, that the only man I *need* in my life, has a fluffy tail, big green eyes, and paws at me when he needs my attention.And he cuddles without whining!

I've always been remembered on Valentines--candy, flowers, cards, stuffed animals, the works. So I'm not bitter, I just think it is a waste. Except for the Hershey's chocolate covered marshmallow hearts :D At Christmas time, they make marshmallow bells. I'm stopping to pick up my discounted hearts tomorrow :)

This year... I go out to get the mail, and find a mystery box on my doorstep. Addressed to me. Inside, dead red roses that were molding and brown with full on bugs. I didn't sit around and count them, but it appeared to be around 2 dozen. Lovely. Who they're from, I don't know. But it appears I've pissed someone off.

So I decided to invest in good karma. My brother and his ex got together on V-day (and I think broke up on another V-day, I'm not sure), so it is not a good day for him. I suprised him with a goodie bag--strawberries and dipping chocolate, a chocolate cake (the ones by Betty Crocker in the bowl), a $5 Blockbuster giftcard, a $20 Pizza Hut giftcard, and a funny card with instructions that he needs to find a hot date, grab a pizza and a movie... and I shouldn't have to spell out the rest! ;) He was very greatful to find it there when he got home, and it did lift his spirits :)

pocket

02-14-2006, 06:17 PM

This year... I go out to get the mail, and find a mystery box on my doorstep. Addressed to me. Inside, dead red roses that were molding and brown with full on bugs. I didn't sit around and count them, but it appeared to be around 2 dozen. Lovely. Who they're from, I don't know. But it appears I've pissed someone off.

Holy crap! Who would do such an ugly thing?

lawyerlee

02-14-2006, 06:19 PM

wendalah

02-14-2006, 06:51 PM

I actually like V-day; I like most holidays as they are an excuse to be a little over-the-top.

Two exceptions: Halloween, because I hate dressing up in costume; and New Year's Eve, because it never is any fun and I feel like a loser if I'm not having a wild blast.

Tracie

02-14-2006, 06:59 PM

I don't like V-Day. (We actually call it "VD Day" in our house.) Although I'm happily married now, I remember being single and how horrible it felt when everyone around me was getting flowers and candy and all that. I guess I just don't think holidays should make people feel bad.

Lizard

02-14-2006, 07:21 PM

I could care less about V-day. We do go out to eat around that day, but NEVER on the actual day. Also, DH knows better than to buy me flowers at this time of the year... the quality is bad and they're terribly overpriced.

greenbunny

02-14-2006, 08:18 PM

Holy crap, SWF! That's terrible! I'm so sorry!

Alicia

02-14-2006, 08:36 PM

i think v-days is what you make of it. and will probably only work with a couple if they're on the same page......i was miserable last year (my marriage had just ended) and in previous years i was just very disappointed by the lack of enthusiasm. this year, i wasn't expecting anything and wound up having a really nice day (no flowers or unexpected loves) but a nice card from a new friend at work, a really cute photo-card from a friend's 1-year-old, a fun happy hour with some other "singles" in my office. i dunno, my outlook on the holiday seems to keep changing- but i think this year has taught me that going in without any expectations makes the smaller things seem that much more important.

cheers!

prudies

02-14-2006, 09:09 PM

Not into it.

I suppose I should confess that I'm not against it either. DH and I had a nice dinner at home. I like to cook, so I went a little overboard - ahi tuna tartare, salad with mango, avocado and toasted pecans, rack of lamb, and molten chocolate cake. I'm feeling kind of sick to my stomach at the moment. It could be all the wine, though. Dh got me a gc for a haircut and a manicure. I think it's funny the gift certificate included a haircut.

Bottom line - if Dh came home with red roses or carnations, or some sort of tacky V-day jewelry, it would just be so wrong.

t3h_wookiee

02-15-2006, 10:50 AM

Wow, that's awful SWF! I wonder who would have done something like that?

lightview

02-15-2006, 11:23 AM

I just feel that there is too much pressure to do something, just like NYE. Last night my FH and I couldn't spend time together due to our work schedules (we are both in the middle of some large projects). We had planned this and decided to celebrate instead over the weekend. Despite all this I still felt down last night because we didn't spend the evening together.
:(