Beach Theme Invite - Help!

[marchfamily]

My aunt is throwing a wedding shower for a family member.

I know this goes against traditional etiquette -
They'd like to include a "beach themed" card/envelope - asking for a honeymoon contribution instead of a traditional gift. They are going to have a travel suitcase so people can anonomously drop their envelopes.

Any creative ideas on how to word this? Any fun papers/envelopes?

[msnicolea]

Honestly, she shouldn't ask for money on the invite. If she wants to "spread the word," that's totally fine, but asking for $ isn't appropriate.

Now, if they do a honeymoon registry and she includes the registry information on a card, that would be ok.

[marchfamily]

I hear ya on the etiquette... she doesn't seem to be hearing what I'm saying about asking for $.... Thought I might help by coming up with a cute poem about honeymoon $ to help for their trip. I know, I know, tacky asking for money...

[MandyMaloo]

Does the bride know this is going on? If I were the bride, I would be horrified if I knew my family members were soliciting $$ from my friends. As a guest I would actually be pretty embarassed and would feel there was far too much pressure. I know you mentioned that your aunt isn't listening, but maybe you need to let the bride know what's going on. I mean, these are HER friends and she may be really upset to learn about it.

As for the shower invite, I could only point you in the direction of a good stationary website. They have a lot of really cool color combos, so maybe you could go with some neat things there. They also have a program that has all kinds of graphics and stuff that you may find useful. Here's the website (www.mountaincow.com). If you have any other questions about the site (I got my stationary for my wedding there) you can PM me and I can give you some more info. Good luck!!

[snowzilla]

Eww. I agree with Mandy - if I were the bride, I'd be so embarassed to find out that this kind of thing was being planned for me.

There's really no way for the aunt to do this besides personally spreading the word. I have to be honest - as a guest, I'd be pretty annoyed to receive an invite like that.

In fact - I just did last summer - from the MOTHER of the bride! She included a slip of paper in the invitations asking for a 15 dollar "donation" for a set of pots and pans for the bride. (Who was remarrying for the second time, if you can imagine.)

You might try doing a google image search on "beach invites" - I just did, and there were a ton of results. :)