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lawyerlee
02-08-2006, 10:30 PM
This is so sad. :(

Grieving Mother Holds One Last Wish for Son (http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/02/08/AR2006020802469.html)
Vietnamese Parents Seek U.S. Residency After Marine's Death
Washington Post

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By Karin Brulliard
Washington Post Staff Writer
Thursday, February 9, 2006; Page A01

A weeping Kim-Hoan Thi Nguyen kissed her 7-year-old son goodbye at the Ho Chi Minh airport and told him it would be a long time before they would be together again. Little Binh Le boarded the plane and flew off to the States, where his mother hoped he would flourish. It was 1991.

She next saw Le when he visited Vietnam at 12. He cooked her french fries.

He visited again when he was 18 and a recent graduate of Edison High School in Fairfax County. They had a party.

Their next reunion came in December 2004. At his funeral, at Arlington National Cemetery.

Le, a Marine corporal and a Vietnamese citizen, was killed at age 20 while defending his desert base in Iraq. The month after his death, he was awarded U.S. citizenship in a ceremony at which speakers lauded his valor.

Nguyen, who has lived with a friend in Springfield since the funeral, wants to stay. Wracked with guilt that she sent her only child off to a life that was cut short, she wants only to lay flowers on his grave each Sunday. Yet, although parents of immigrants killed in combat are eligible for permanent residency, Nguyen's applications have been denied.

The reason: She and Le's father gave up their son for adoption to an aunt and uncle so he could emigrate with them.

GeekGirl
02-08-2006, 10:39 PM
Oh for heaven's sake.

That is one of the worst things I have ever heard. How AWFUL!!! :mad:

jnettie
02-08-2006, 10:42 PM
There are so many damn freaking loopholes...find one for this woman! If Vietnamese tradtions are anything like Chinese (many are), it is extremely important to be able to visit the graves of those who have passed.

Lawyerlee, you've made me cry.

lawyerlee
02-08-2006, 10:45 PM
There are so many damn freaking loopholes...find one for this woman! If Vietnamese tradtions are anything like Chinese (many are), it is extremely important to be able to visit the graves of those who have passed.

Lawyerlee, you've made me cry.
I'm so sorry! :( (((hugs)))

I can't believe we would even try to separate these grieving parents from their son's grave after his brave work as a soldier for our country. I hate that there can't be an exception for these circumstances.

LeslieandPaul
02-09-2006, 02:48 AM
They should be given citizenship. It's not like the gave him up for adoption when he was a baby and didn't know him. He was 7, and still kept in contact with them. They were still his parents. I hope everything works out for them.

xine
02-09-2006, 11:28 AM
This story just about broke my heart as well. That poor woman!

I happen to be Vietnamese (lucky enough to be born in the U.S.), and I've seen firsthand what people in Vietnam will go through to get their children to America. Those kinds of adoptions happen all the time. In fact, when DH and I visited Vietnam two years ago, we had two friends approach us about "adopting" them or their grandchildren so they could come here to go to school. We were flabbergasted to say the least, but I was deeply touched by their earnestness for the chance to succeed here.

I've also seen, though, the abuses to which some immigrants will play the system - sham marriages, welfare fraud, etc. And sadly, that has made me a lot more conservative on the immigration issue than most people think me to be, considering that I was born to immigrants and happened to fall in love with and marry one myself.

Even so, he gave his life to defend this country (and at only 20!) - and considering that the adoption was never legal in the first place, I think it's a horribly petty thing for the IRS to prevent his mother from immigrating.

Thanks for posting it, lawyerlee.