A funny Irony

[gayle]

I will be helping to plan my eldest stedaughter's wedding in the very near future (wedding will probably be next Summer)

Take one guess where I WON'T be planning it?

[MurphysLaw]

Hehehe, But I know a place where you can get GREAT info without going to the other site. ;)

[gayle]

Yeppers, and right here, with all you gals, is where I will plan it :)

[oceaneast]

That's a great irony!

[IrisHope]

Gayle, she is getting married? Wow! How are you and your DH taking that? How far along is she now?

[gayle]

Iris, she is 4 months along now. She and BF are going to get married at the courthouse very shortly (my guess is in the next month) then plan a renewal/wedding celebration for next Summer.

DH is handling it just fine, I am sort of numb to it. I have a hard time picturing this girl being mature enough to take proper care of a baby, heck, I am not even all that comfortable leaving her to take care of my dogs when we go out of town, but I am trying to bite my lip and hope that this experience will help her to mature.

DH and I already have a few issues over the wedding. I wouldlike to have it at home. We have a lovely back yard, complete with a rose laden arbour. With very little work our own 1/2 acre back yard could be a lovely setting, and reasonable. He thinks it's too much work.

He and I are already disagreeing on money and what to spend on it. He has already given them money for rings (which the BF should be covering), and DH also seems to think that only are we responsible for the wedding, but also the honeymoon (I keep pointing him to ettiquette sites which clearly say otherwise). So, needless to say I see some conflict in our future over this.

I will definately be keeping you guys posted though. I like wedding planning, it's fun to me (I like planning any and all parties), but I suspect there will be conflicts with Liza's Mom as well.

So we shall see how this all pans out!

[maplekitty]

Oh Gayle, you're such a classy lady...I sure hope she sees that, and uses you to your fullest wedding planning potential :)

[gayle]

Ahh, thanks so much Maplekitty. You are really such a sweetheart.

Actually though, I am just a stepmom who happened to find the love of her life with "baggage". The baggage over a period of five years is becoming "friendship" with the girls. And that is all I ever wanted.

It's funny, Liza WANTS me to plan her wedding. She thinks her mom is a redneck and a spendthrift. I feel very honored. However, she and I are talking. And we KNOW, we cannot leave Mom out, or there will be HELL to pay.

I suggested that Mom and she go dress shopping, and handle all showers. Dad and I have at least agreed to a $500 limit on the dress. Important, or Liza's Mom will go whack City.

More to follow as it develops, I probably will start some journaling on this all.

[MrsWilson]

She is so blessed to have you for a Stepmom! I hope she knows how many stepdaughters out there wish their stepmom was so willing to help plan their wedding! Good luck with all the planning! I look forward to reading your journal!

[gayle]

Thanks Mrs. Wilson.

Trust me, I am no angel here. I have feelings. I have been hurt.

Liza REALLY did everything in her own power to FUP, my own weding.

Some of those images still hurt me.

But, I will do my best to give her, the image she wants. I,thank God, she and I have become friends.

That alone is huge...


Hugs,
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[miel]

I'm so glad your stepdaughter is getting married. I really am happy to know that you have become friends with her and are helping her. That is good karma! Really...giving kindness to someone who wasn't so good to you is massively good karma...

You don't need the WC. It sort of helped me plan my wedding...a teeny bit. But I planned my wedding in 7 weeks and it was fine! In fact, I regret going to the WC to plan it because it gave me this perfectionist freak out about it--there's some weird vibes there--like: If your wedding is not perfect you are doomed. Yuck!