The Maybe Mamas: TTC #1 in 2006

[Sami]

I'm boring and just like stalking the Amazon baby site. I love checking out strollers, cribs, and nursery styles. IRL, I feel weird walking into Baby Gap to fondle the onesies...:rolleyes:

[raven077]

Has everyone been to 1800diapers.com (http://www.1800diapers.com/)? Our office had a triple baby shower and gave gift certificates to it and I think it's pretty great! No sales tax, free shipping, and supposedly better bulk discounts. Check it out. :D

[L&D Nurse]

New QOTD What type of contraception are you using during the "lag time" until you officially TTC?

I was on bcp's for several years, but for the next two months we aren't really using anything, so we may be getting pg before we actually TTC (we had udd on cd 15, oops!)

[sea74]

New QOTD What type of contraception are you using during the "lag time" until you officially TTC? I've been off the pill now for two weeks and we're not using anything. I've been reading TCOYF, but I'm not temping or anything yet.

For these last two weeks, we've not worried about any birth control. BUT, starting this weekend the plan is for DH to umm ... exit before he's "happy." I know that's not 100%, but if we get PG before we "officially" start trying, we're okay with that.

[Julss05]

What type of contraception are you using during the "lag time" until you officially TTC?
Condoms and paying close attention to my temps. and O signs from TCOYF book. When I first got of BC 2 years ago I was so worried I'd get pregnant right away that I got fitted for a diaphram, but honestly after a few months I stopped using it because it was so uncomfortable (you have to leave it in after sex for a while). Some family members are shocked that I'm not actually on anything because one of them got pregnant ON BC. She realized that we are serious about this baby making thing:). I don't think many of the kids in my family were planned so I think it's weird to have them hear that we are planning to have a baby. I think after I have my first I'll get an IUD because we don't want them too close together and then one of us will get fixed. I don't regret going off BC except for the bad menstrual and O cramping but that usually only lasts a day. We are in the mindset that if I get pregnant on the methods we are using then that is okay because we will be TTC soon anyway.

I'm back from vacation! The trip to Calistoga for spa treatments was SO relaxing, I highly recommend to anyone needing to de-stress. We hit up a few wineries along the way. We also went to Dillon's Beach and San Fransisco which was great because it was HOT everywhere else in California. I miss family already:(, but it is nice to be back home with DH.

[SQ2]

Since I went of the pill in November we've been using condoms but I've also been charting the whole time. This cycle is the first time DH is ok with just using the charting method. Since we're TTC at the end of August/beginning of September, I wanted to try at least one cycle using charting.

[kanga1622]

Just stopping by to say hello. Work has been CRAZY BUSY so I haven't been here in a couple weeks.

Contreception - We used charting TTA with condom backup when we were serious about not getting pg. We felt comfortable with that and it worked for over 2 years.

[sea74]

Anyone else experience EXTREME moodiness when they went off the pill? I have all these PMS-type of feelings and I can't stand it. And I'm no where near ready in my cycle to be experiencing them. When I first started taking the pill, the first month was ROUGH. I had such intense feelings of anxiety and just overall felt out of control with my mood swings. So, is this the same thing? My body adjusting to the lack of pill hormones or am I just crazy? I've been off the pill for two weeks.

I was on the phone w/my DH and told him that I'm just having a really rough day and told him about my mood. He remembers all too well how hard of a time I had adjusting to the pill in the first place. And then he paused as if he was thinking about what advice he could give me. All that kept going through my mind was PLEASE for the love of our marriage, PLEASE don't say something stupid. And he did. He told me to walk around and "shake it off." GRRRR! He means well and has been really trying to be supportive the past two days but I'm just SO moody!


Julss05: I noticed your location is Virginia. I'll be vacationing there in a couple weeks. We go to Chincoteague Island every year. Is that near you?

[sea74]

Oops! Double post!

[LadyD088]

Sorry I've been MIA lately...We have headed down to LA 3 weekends in a row to check out placed to move to (from northern california). Along with that, I've been completely drained by work. LOVELY!!

So I am off to LA again this weekend. Just wanted to give my SHOUT OUTS to those who have gotten their BFP!!! CONGRATS!!!

Welcome to those that are new!!!!

Nothing has changed with us...just TTCing - not very well though.

Gotta run. Promise to be back more next week.

Deb

[honeygirl]

What type of contraception are you using during the "lag time" until you officially TTC?

We're TTC now, but when we were waiting we charted and used barrier methods (condoms and the spermacide you inject w/ a plunger). I didn't love the spermacide, it was messy and sometimes I got a bit of irritation. The condoms were great for me, but DH hated them. ;)

sea74 - I actually had the opposite affect when I got off the BCP. My moods were much more controlled and less intense. Sorry that you are having a negative experience! Funny about your DH (although I'm sure it didn't seem funny at the time), mine says stuff like that also!

Deb - Thanks for checking in. Best wishes with your moving planning, I'm sure it is difficult to coordinate TTC with all that going on! When do you move?

[Julss05]

Sea74- I live about 2 hours from there on the other side of the Bay Bridge Tunnel. Funny thing is we've never vacationed there but I hear it's a nice place to go. Have fun!;)

I didn't have extreme moodyness coming off BC, actually felt great minus the painful cramping that returned. Only time I've been very moody was when I first got on BC. First two months I was a crazy hormonal mess.

LadyD088-Good luck with your move!

[eli1126]

What type of contraception are you using during the "lag time" until you officially TTC?

We are more in a SWH mode so we aren't using anything. We figure if it happens, it happens and we would be excited. We moved our actual TTC date back a little because I am in a wedding in January and I didn't want to be too uncomfortable. Also DH just got a new job, he's still a career firefighter, but with the city that we live in rather than a federal one. Initially, it's a paycut, but in the longterm the retirement is better as well as the schedule, he will now only work 48 hours per week rather than the 72 he has been. This will be great for when we actually do have children because it will mean less childcare expenses. The first year with the paycut though is going to be tough :(

Beth

[raven077]

QOTD: What type of contraception are you using during the "lag time" until you officially TTC?

We're charting and using condoms. It's actually very liberating. Plus, I'm just so glad to be off BCP. And no, I didn't notice any type of moodiness when I came off them. Just an increase in my libido. ;)

[Julss05]

eli1126-DH is a firefighter too. He just changed cities so we are going through a transition. Luckily he is getting more money but not as nice of a schedule. His old schedule he'd have 4 days off in a row and now he'll be getting 2 days off every other day. I'm not working, in transition myself trying to find another job but we are doing okay money wise. We should be able to save plenty of money for baby expenses once I'm working again.

[sea74]

After a pretty fun and relaxing weekend, I'm *way* less moody and things are good :)

Has anyone purchased any baby stuff yet?

[LadyD088]

Honey - Thanks!!! We are hoping to move the first week in Sept if we get approved for the house we want to rent. We should find that out this week. What a RELIEF that would be!! Maybe after that, TTC won't be so hard.

Julss - TY!!
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So we finally found a place that was perfect for us and now we are just awaiting the approval. Hoping that will come sooner rather than later and I can give notice to our current management. We can't WAIT to be in SoCal again!!
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I think I have O'd or going to O so Dh and I are planning on a get together to take advantage of this. With all the stress surrounding our moving situation, its been very difficult to get together at the right time. Shoot, this month I don't even know if I've O'd or not but why not have the fun anyways?
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QOTH: Has anyone purchased any baby stuff yet?
***Yeah, I totally have!! Actually, my DH and I have. I have my baby bedding already (Animal Antics by Sumersault). DH has purchased a few of the Baby Booties and even has some baby shoes on hold at the store he works at. I have a few books and clothes already as well as some holiday bibs I got on SUPER clearance!! Its just TOO much fun and if I like it that much, why not?

Hope everyone is doing well.

D

[sea74]

We've purchased some stuff for baby, like storage things, some cute gender neutral baby clothes like sleepers and some bibs, some books and whatnot.


So, I'm 99% sure I ovulated last night. The last time we DTD was Sunday so I think we're in the clear and don't think we have anything to worry about this month.

[SQ2]

Hi, ladies! :D Well, at the end of this month we'll be TTC. We were going to start Sept. 1st, but we decided that as soon as we get back from our vacations near middle/ end of August, we won't be avoiding anymore. Yay! (I have one more year of school to go so we want to make sure the baby doesn't come before I graduate...that is if we're lucky enough to have success the first try.) My last cycle was 94 days long :eek: but I attribute that to regulating from being on the pill and also overseas travel & stress. I'm secretly (ok, not so secretly) hoping that I O at the end of August so we can get started right away, otherwise we'll miss the window and have to start trying the next cycle, hopefully in September....I'm crossing my fingers for shorter, more normal cycle lengths this time. It's crazy how fast the summer is going by!

[sea74]

SQ2: How totally exciting for you! I hope you O at the right time and you'll get your BFP soon after :)

[SQ2]

Thanks, sea74! I'm hopeful, but at the same time, I'm on CD7 right now so if my cycle is more normal this time I'll probably O too early, but it's still fun to think about the possibility. At this point I'd have to O around CD29 to have a chance, but hey, it wasn't until CD80 or something that I O'd last cycle so anything's possible I guess. ;)

[Reenie]

Congrats, SQ2! I hope it works out just the way you're hoping. :)

[kanga1622]

QoTD Baby Stuff - We currently have 2 rubbermaid containers and a 6 drawer dresser completely full of baby clothes, toys, and books. The dresser is actually a long dresser that we will use as a changing table too. DH works with preschool aged kids so we have quite the collection of baby/young child toys. Whenever I have time and am in the mood, I cross-stitch more bibs and onesies for us. We figure that if we never have kids we could still use all this stuff as gifts are have a really great garage sale.

SQ2 - I actually talked DH into starting TTC a week early so we could try and catch my O. I think the first cycle TTC was the most fun because you just never knew what was going to happen.

[eli1126]

QOTD: Baby Stuff:

I have not bought anything, but books for me. I don't want to jinx anything!

Beth

[Julss05]

Good luck SQ2!

QOTD: Baby Stuff, two books on conceiving and pregnancy, and a picture of a giraffe mom/baby. I saw baby furniture by IKEA for $400 (had the crib which converted to a bed, changing table, and dresser) that I was drooling over, but it would be silly to get it now:rolleyes:. I know I'll go crazy buying baby stuff when I'm pregnant though!:) I wouldn't mind hitting up some garage sales and thrift stores to save some money because I've always bought new stuff for baby showers, spending at least a $100 on very little.

I'm one day late with my period. I hate that because I know I'm not pregnant (low temps.) but have no idea when to expect it:(. I went on vacation right before ovulating and am thinking that might have messed it up somehow.

I went on a job interview yesterday but it was not in the area I majored in and not the area I plan to get into so I think I'm going to keep looking. All I need is one foot in the door but no luck so far.

[MrsWilson]

Good luck SQ2!

QOTD: I really don't have anything and don't want anything. Our apartment is 2 rooms. There isn't enough room for a kitchen table, much less baby stuff!

Our plan was to start TCC this month, but I started a new job (that I LOVE!) and the maternity leave doesn't start until I've been here 1 year. So, we've decided to put off TCC one cycle. I think I ovulated yesterday, so I should again at the end of this month/begining of September. We are also saving for a house and should be ready to start house hunting near the end of this month. So, hopefully, August will be a good month for us and we can start trying to reach some of our goals!

[honeygirl]

Looks like it's time to update the roster again. I can't believe that another month has passed already!

Please let us threadmistresses know if there are any other updates/changes and remember to post them in RED.

[LadyD088]

Julss - Good luck on the job hunt. Just gotta believe there is something out there for ya!!! Keep us posted.

As for us...totally missed the O - due to a stressful household lately. Too much crap going on. Hoping August is the right month to reconnect!!

Deb

[MaybeMamas]

Updated to here.

Congrats on moving up your date SQ2!

[Sami]

Has anyone purchased any baby stuff yet?

Nope. I think about it all the time though, especially when I am in Macy's or Target and see cute baby outfits or baby toys. But I hate clutter and think it would just take up space, so I've held out so far. I think the first thing I want to buy when I found out we're expecting is a baby Bjorn, I can't wait to have one of those for some strange reason! :D

[L&D Nurse]

Question for all of you who were on bcp's and then went off: How long was your first cycle off bcp's? How long did it take your cycle to regulate back to the length they were pre-bcp's?

Thanks!

[MrsWilson]

Question for all of you who were on bcp's and then went off: How long was your first cycle off bcp's? How long did it take your cycle to regulate back to the length they were pre-bcp's?

Thanks!

My first cycle was 51 days, second was 26 days, and I'm in my third (should be around 28 days). Each cycle has gotten closer to normal. If I had to guess, this cycle will be the closest to pre-bcp's cycles (according to O.) I don't know if how long I was on bcp had anything to do with me regulating so quickly. I was only on them for 3 1/2 years.

[LynzeyAHL]

Question for all of you who were on bcp's and then went off: How long was your first cycle off bcp's? How long did it take your cycle to regulate back to the length they were pre-bcp's?

Thanks!

my cycles just slowly went from 28 days to 31 there have been some occationaly 35-40 day cycles though too. but for the most part I had no change

[Julss05]

I wasn't on the pill but something similar. My first cycle was surprisenly normal, 28-30 day cycle and I ovulated which I wouldn't have known but I was charting. My cycles were the same for the first 3 months and then I ovulated late one month and since then have stuck to that cycle until recently for the past year and a half.

Speaking of that...my last period was July 1st and I'm usually very regular (30day cycles) so I was expecting it August 1st but nothing:confused:. I've had cramps and other normal pms type symptoms but no period. I've taken two HPT's which were negative. I might not have ovulated but it's hard to say because I was not tracking my temps. (on vacation). My temps. flucuate every day but nothing beyond low 98's.

For those who don't or haven't ovulated before...do you still get period like symptoms around the time you'd usually have your period?

[SQ2]

First three cycles off the pill were about 30 days. Then I had a 55 day cycle and then a 93 day cycle. :eek: Although, I attribute the long cycles somewhat to stress & overseas travel. I'm hoping this cycle will be more normal. I'd been on the pill for 7 years before I went off it last fall. I honestly don't remember what my cycles were like before.

[elissa]

All of my cycles after going off BCP in March have been 28-31 days, with oculation during each one. I'm hoping that is a good thing when we TTC in seven weeks!

[katiems118]

I was on birth control pills for 10 years due to painful ovarian cysts, Im 26...I stopped them 6/1/06, first cycle off was 31 days, 2nd cycle was 32 days...Im hoping it doesnt get longer...

I have been ovulating on CD 20, with a 11-12 day leutal phase

[kanga1622]

My cycles were in the neighborhood of 30-35 days after stopping BCP. I've had a few longer cycles but for the most part they have stayed there over the past 3 years.

[LynzeyAHL]

HOLY CRAP I Oed on CD 15 instead of 19 and I amost missed it... I guess my current status is 2ww

[la_Mer]

Hello again everyone.

It's been a few months since I've posted in here. We went through a few months of TTC confusion, we felt ready but then life threw us a few curveballs that we had to deal with first. Things seem to be back on track and I am officially out of BCPs (!) so here we go. Tomorrow I have an appt with a new OB/GYN so I am hoping I like her, as my DH put it "She could be THE doctor!"

As for the QOTD, I have no idea what my cycles will be like since I've been on the pill for ten years. I have to say I am very curious to see what happens.

And if a few of my stats could be updated please
I am now 30 and our ttc date is September 2006.

[Julss05]

Officially 8 days late with no sign of period or pregnancy:(. I had cramping and bloating over the weekend but it went away. Monday I felt tired and like I could get sick but I get that feeling sometimes so it is not abnormal. Temps. usually in the low 97's day of and during AF, 98 and above after ovulating, temp. has been in the low 98's. I've had creamy and snotty looking CM, sorry if TMI and cervix is soft, not high or low but midrange. I haven't told DH because I'm really not sure what is going on with my darn body. I'd rather wait until I can tell him something. I figure if my temps. don't drop in the next few days I'll do a few more HPTs and then go to a doctor next Monday which would be 2 weeks late. Thanks for listening/reading:).

[L&D Nurse]

Julss05 ~ I can relate...I am 5 days late with no signs/symptoms of pregnancy or AF (plus two negative hpt's). It is so nerve-wracking! I hope everything is ok with you.

[Julss05]

L&D Nurse-Same with you! I'm waiting to see what tomorrow's temp is like and then I'll test some more. Are you having any cramping? I am a little on and off but not bad.

[Annette]

Question for all of you who were on bcp's and then went off: How long was your first cycle off bcp's? How long did it take your cycle to regulate back to the length they were pre-bcp's?

I went off the pill back in January to see if my sex drive would come back. My cycle did not regulate at all. Then again, I never really had a regular cycle from the get go, so it didn't surprise me. My cycle days ended up being 30 days for the first 2 months, then 20, 36, 17, 24. The PMS was awful and I was such an emotional roller coaster. Then we decided we weren't ready to TTC till the fall, so I went back on the pill. I'll go off of it after I get back from our Europe trip. I hope I get PG right away cause I don't want to deal with my irregular cycles.

[honeygirl]

Question for all of you who were on bcp's and then went off: How long was your first cycle off bcp's? How long did it take your cycle to regulate back to the length they were pre-bcp's?

I'm having my 1 year off BCP/starting charting anniversary tomorrow! My first cycle off was annov and 39 days. I had longer cycles after that where I O'd (44 days was the longest I think, although my current cycle might break that record as I'm currently on CD41). I didn't get to a more normal cycle length till about 4 months in. I'm not sure what I was pre-bcp's as I'd been taking them (for "regulating" purposes, don't get me started on that) since I was 18!

Julss05 & L&D Nurse - Sending good thoughts your way for a BFP or AF soon!

la_Mer - Welcome back and congrats on finishing BCP's! How did your dr visit go?

[irish74]

Question for all of you who were on bcp's and then went off: How long was your first cycle off bcp's? How long did it take your cycle to regulate back to the length they were pre-bcp's?

I had never had a regular cycle before bcp, after getting off after 10 years, my cycles have been quite regular, between 28 and 35 days. My doc said that a lot of things can change in 10 years and it probably wasn't the pills that caused the change.

I haven't been around much the past couple of months, sorry. Just trying to take a relaxed approach to why I'm not staying pg.

Threadmistress, can you please update me with a second chemical pg/early miscarriage, today's date. Thanks.

ETA first m/c was on 2/19.

[honeygirl]

Irish, I'm so sorry.

[MaybeMamas]

Updated to here.

[Julss05]

Honeygirl- I'm on CD41 too.

Irish74- Sorry to hear about the MC.

10 days late, temp. was 98.0. I'll probably test only because it is considered a post-o temp. for me but my temps. aren't rising. I started reading up on PCOS and hope that is not the reason.

*edited to add I took another HPT and it was negative:(. I dread going to the doctors for the wait and being told something is wrong with me, but I'm going to go get it over with...

On the bright side I have a job interview and may get a job offer tomorrow from another place:).

[kanga1622]

Irish - I'm so sorry to hear that.

Onto cycle #6 TTC for me (although it's already been 6 months). I am just so sick of TTC with my longish cycles. I feel like going to a psychic type person because I just need to know if I am ever going to have a biological child. My family has a lot of fertility issues and I'm terrified that I have undiagnosed issues.

[Sami]

{{hugs}} to you, Irish. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Good luck with the job interview, Julss!

[Julss05]

Thanks Sami:).

I went for a blood test and it was negative. The doctor kind of gave me crap about overreacting only being 10 days late (one of those blunt and insensitive types). He told me I should be happy that I missed a period but am not pregnant:rolleyes:. What an a-hole:mad:. That's when I told him that my husband and I will be TTC in December and if there are any problems I'd like to try to fix them now which shut him up. If I haven't gotten my period in another month he said to come in for a second blood test and if that is negative then they will refer me to another doctor for treatment. Thank god he is not my regular doctor! I could go on about some other comments he made generalizing women who are TTC but I don't want to upset anyone. Maybe it's men in general because I told DH about it all and he seemed like it was no big deal.

[la_Mer]

irish:I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like you are taking good care of yourself, which is so important.

Jules:Insensitive doctors are so annoying. I can' t understand why anyone would choose to be a doctor, ob/gyn especially, that couldn't be at least a little bit compassionate.

honeygirl:Thanks for the welcome!

My doctor appointment was awesome! I picked the doctor at random (close to home, good educational background, on my insurance plan) and I got lucky. She was very interested in finding out about my TTC goals, and offered to help me figure out my cycle after a few months of being off BCP if I had any questions. I am so excited to be off of BCP. I feel like I am going to get to know my body so much better. The only thing I'll miss is knowing exactly when AF is going to show, that is just so convenient!

[Julss05]

la Mer- That is great you found a wonderful doctor! I think you'll enjoy being off BC. I know I have, noticed an immediate change, will never go back on anything hormonal.

Still no sign of AF. I'll shut up now and just accept my wacky cycle:rolleyes:. I decided to monitor things through FF though. Interview went better than expected! It's hard when you only have a day to prepare for one, should know something by next week.

[L&D Nurse]

Julss05 Sorry about the doc. I have only ever seen women doctors, and I think that is why... I am worried about getting responses like the one you got. I will be officially one week late tomorrow. I have been having slight cramping on and off (but nothing like pre-AF cramps). I don't think I'm pg, but when I have gone off the pill before, I have always bounced right back with 27-28 day cycles, so I hope everything is ok. I hope all is well with you and you get answers soon. ({({(hugs)})})

[LynzeyAHL]

julss05 - DITCH your doc - mine was great but his office staff sucked - I mean do you really wan't someone so insensive treating you like what if you gain 10 pounds between appointments - you aren't going to want to be told you're fat...


well 2ww is crawling by - but I'm tired and my nips are KILLING me so hopefully I'll be graduating soon :o

[raven077]

Question for all of you who were on bcp's and then went off: How long was your first cycle off bcp's? How long did it take your cycle to regulate back to the length they were pre-bcp's?

I was on BCP for about 12 years.. I went off in March. My first cycle off was 22 days, but since then I'm right around 28. Chart in sig. I just started taking PNV with about 50 mg B6 and zinc to help lengthen my LP and I think it definitely helped last cycle. But anyway, my cycles are pretty normal now and I honestly don't remember what they were like pre-BCP.

[L&D Nurse]

AF arrived today. 1st cycle off bcp's was 36 days... on to cycle 2! Thanks for all of your replies to my question about your first cycle off bcp's. Hope everyone had a great weekend!

[Julss05]

I had a big temp. drop today and a little spotting so (keeping fingers crossed) that AF shows up today or tomorrow! I never thought I'd be so happy to have it but it means I did ovulate and I don't have to see that stupid doctor;).

LynzeyAHL- Haha, he did mention something about my weight, I almost said why? Do you think I'm fat?:p It's a family practice with multiple doctors, my doctor wasn't there and I was in such a daze that I didn't bother asking specifically for him but will next time!

L&D Nurse-Good news. Lets hope our cycles are a bit shorter this month!:)

[sea74]

Question for all of you who were on bcp's and then went off: How long was your first cycle off bcp's? How long did it take your cycle to regulate back to the length they were pre-bcp's?

I was on the pill for about 7 years and my first cycle off was only 25 days. I think that was what it was too before I started the pill. But who knows what cycle #2 will bring.

Is is bad that my cycle is only 25 days? Is this something that will bring problems when we TTC?

[eli1126]

sea: I'm not an expert but I think a 25 day cycle is ok as long as you have a long enough Luteal Phase: the length of time between Ovulation and CD1 :confused: I think that on the family planning section flygirl answered something like this on a charting thread. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.

QOTD: I wasn't on BCP, I was on Depo and then I went on the patch to regulate my AF so that I didn't just randomly bleed for three months and ever since last September I have had a somewhat normal cycle length between 25-28 days. Now the amount and length of AF OTOH! I get it maybe three days 1-2 may be heavy and 1 tease day where I am still wearing a mini pad just in case and then it's gone.

Beth

[raven077]

sea74, wait and see what happens. It's usually recommended that you go three cycles after BCP to let your body "return to normal". If, after three cycles or so, you're still at around 25 days, it could mean that you're ovulating right in the middle, with short Luteal Phases, or you're ovulating early, with average LP, or you're ovulating later with very short LP. Do you chart at all? That would be the best way to determine what is going on without having to go to a doctor right away. If you knew that it was short LP, then you could start some B6 and/or zinc/magnesium supplements. It's the short LP that could be a potential problem as the egg wouldn't have time for implantation before the lining of the uterus began to shed again.

Dunno if you're a lurker in either of these threads, but we've got the Charting to Avoid (http://www.constantchatter.com/forum/showthread.php?t=22136) and the Charting to Conceive (http://www.constantchatter.com/forum/showthread.php?t=23044&highlight=charting+conceive) threads. I know the ladies in the CTA thread are super knowledgable and always have answers on hand. :) But definitely don't stress until you get thru a couple more cycles. Every body is different. Good luck!

[LadyD088]

irish - Very sorry to hear about your loss!!! I have gone through the same thing. If you need to talk, you can always PM me!! Thinking about you.

Juls - UGh, what an a-hole. Not sure I could have kept my composure. Good for you!
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Well, AF has come and gone so now I'm just looking forward to TTCing again. We have NOT done a very good job since the chem pg earlier this year. However, DH and I have talked and hopefully we will be able to focus this month.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Deb

[Julss05]

LadyD088-Good luck TTC this month!

AF finally came 15 days late. I didn't realize how much going on vacation would affect my cycle. I was supposed to ovulate right before leaving but my body decided to wait until after I got back into town. I'm going to chart now until we are TTC and continue until we get a +:).

Did anyone see Strictly Dr. Drew on Discovery Health last night? They were talking about TTC, multiples, and had Jenny McCartney on, she is so funny! I didn't realize Dr. Drew had triplets! One of the questions answered was,"How often should you have sex to TTC?" Of course DH said every day:rolleyes:, but it is actually every other day. Most of the stuff I knew already but they discussed some things I didn't so it was informative. Maybe they'll air it again.

[Sami]

I want a baby NOW! I just finished AF and woke up this morning thinking, 'this is the month I want to get pregnant!' and this feeling was way stronger than any feeling I've ever had. I know we should wait until November to TTC - and we probably will - but maybe I am just feeling so overwhelmed with life and work that I feel like having a baby/being pregnant would be a nice distraction from the suckiness that is my job? I know this is TERRIBLE to admit, and normally I'm a career-focused gal, so what is wrong with me??? Maybe I just need to quit my job and try to find something less time-consuming, less stresful, etc. I just feel like getting pregnant gives me a legitimate reaason to quit my job (the stress level is insane and would be unhealthy for me and hte baby, etc.)...but unless I get PG, it doesn't seem fair to just quit. I'm just having a bad day, ladies. Thanks for listening...

Does anyone else EVER feel like this or I am a total freak? :rolleyes:

[brenda]

Maybe I just need to quit my job and try to find something less time-consuming, less stresful, etc. I just feel like getting pregnant gives me a legitimate reaason to quit my job (the stress level is insane and would be unhealthy for me and hte baby, etc.)...but unless I get PG, it doesn't seem fair to just quit. I'm just having a bad day, ladies. Thanks for listening...


Then again... how are you going to get knocked up if your under so much stress. All that tension can have a negative effect on your general health, and certainly on your reproductive health. Just a thought. If you don't want to/can't just up and quit, I'd definitely start looking for a less stressful job. It maybe something lower profile/mommy track, but you'd be happier and healthier, and have less guilt than flat out quitting.

[Sami]

You are SO right, Brenda. I never considered it from that angle. Stress isn't good in general and could interfer with TTC plans. I just hate the fact that I WOKE UP in a bad mood. How is that possible? I'm usually a cheery person but have become so moody due to stress. In fact, and this is horrible to admit, I haven't even felt up for "pretend" TTC in forever due to being so grumpy. Must start looking for other work ASAP...

[Julss05]

Sami-You are not a freak;). Not anymore than the rest of us:). I get like that too (wanting a baby, not wanting to wait to get pregnant) especially at AF or O time. Sorry to hear about your job. No harm in looking elsewhere while you're still there. I left a stressful job a few months ago, it was physically and mentally making me sick. If I stayed there we were supposed to TTC this summer but since I left we decided to wait until December at least so I'll have time in at another job. May have a new job soon in a small office which I think will be better even though it doesn't have nice benefits like the other place. Hope your day turns around, good luck at de-stressing. What about a massage? I just went to a spa for one and it was worth every penny!

[la_Mer]

Jules: I am glad AF finally found you so you can move on thinking about more fun things! Good luck with the job.

LadyD: I'll think good thoughts for you this cycle. I hope you are able to "focus" on the task at hand.

Sami: Of course you're not crazy, I think we have all had those moments of just wanting things RIGHT NOW, even when we know it's not best. Looking for a job takes a lot of energy, but it also might help you focus on all of the opportunities out there instead of feeling stuck in one place. This is the time to make yourself as healthy and happy as you can.

As for me we have really stepped up the TTC planning ever since I went off the pill. We talk about it more often, and are starting to make more plans around it. It's really nice to see DH getting more excited about it, however last night while he was talking to his mom I heard him mention our TTC plans to her:eek:. I wasn't even planning on talking to my mom about it, let alone my MIL. Luckily she isn't the type to press for more information and she seemed excited about the idea. I just figured the TTC part would be between me and my DH. I guess there are a few more things we need to talk about.

[eli1126]

Sami: I wanted to chime in with what many other posters have already said, it's definitely not just you! I go back and forth. We were supposed to start in earnest in May/June, but then I thought 9 months from May/ June would put me square in the second semester of grad school, I have a wedding I'm in in January, etc, etc :) Right now I go back and forth between wanting to get pg in Sept/Oct/Nov for a summer baby, but even then I will still be in grad school without a full time teaching position and I'm sure I posted this before but a larger local district recently had a lawsuit filed on behalf of several teachers that were let go after they got pg and took maternity before getting tenure :( What's worse is that the case was dismissed! So this definitely has affected my desire to TTC and run the risk of having to go to interviews pg.

Beth

[Julss05]

I got a job! I've been applying and interviewing like a mad woman, ended up with 3 offers and picked the one I liked the best. I start tomorrow! I guess no more daytime CC:rolleyes:. Hopefully this will be a place I want to stay long term so we can focus on TTC in 5 months and buying a house in a better neighborhood. My priority in the next 3 months is going to be replacing my 16-year-old piece of crap car with something safer and family friendly. After that I'll be saving most of the money I earn towards baby stuff and a new home to hopefully move into by next summer.

la_Mer-That's great DH is finally on board with TTC. My DH not so much but I think a lot of that had to do with me not having a job.

[Sami]

YAY! Congrats, so which one did you pick?

[MrsWilson]

Congrats, Julss05!

We are on our first cycle of TTC! I should O sometime next week, so I guess we'll have to wait and see how things go! We also will start house hunting next week. We have spent the past 2 years paying off debt and saving for a house. It seems surreal that everything is happening now. We are both *so* ready to get started with both projects!

[LynzeyAHL]

well my doc called today with my blood test... not good - my progesterone is majorly low - :(

I might have to start taking clomid and going through some infertility type stuff for a while BOOOO

Where's the '07 thread? I might be a while

[Julss05]

Sami- I picked the last one I talked about that was a permanent position in the field I majored in. I figure when it comes time to take maternity leave it will only be a short while and I'll have a job to go back to verses having to looking for another one after having the baby.

Mrs.Wilson-Good luck with TTC!

LynzeyAHL-Sorry to hear about the low progesterone, hopefully they'll get it fixed.

[brenda]

LynzeyAHL - I am sorry that you got such difficult news. I don't want to be Miss Mary Sunshine while you're still dealing with the information, but I feel compelled to offer some hope.

Low progesterone has more to do with maintaining a pregnancy rather than actually getting pregnant. So, unless there are additional complications, the use of supplements post-O may make it so you're not TTC that long after all!

[eli1126]

LynzeyAHL I'm sorry :(

Julss05 Congratulations!

MrsWilson Congrats on everything coming together! Keeping fingers crossed that you're back soon with a BFP :)

I think that I am going to give DH my chart and show him approx times I will be most fertile in Sept, Oct, and Nov. I am in a wedding in January and if I were to get pg during these months I probably wouldn't be too big or showing. Plus after speaking to the Bride To Be this week, I am wondering if the wedding will still be going on as planned! Even though I'll feel sad for my friend if it doesn't happen, it helped me I decided I won't put off TTC completely because of the wedding.

Beth

[LynzeyAHL]

LynzeyAHL - I am sorry that you got such difficult news. I don't want to be Miss Mary Sunshine while you're still dealing with the information, but I feel compelled to offer some hope.

Low progesterone has more to do with maintaining a pregnancy rather than actually getting pregnant. So, unless there are additional complications, the use of supplements post-O may make it so you're not TTC that long after all!

thanks - I know - I learned the hard way... twice (M/C & Chem Pgcy) so before I have to start taking clomid and suplimentation. I think I'm going to take a break b/c this has been a hard 10 months. Working at BRU doesn't help haha I'll be lurking ladies... :o

[honeygirl]

thanks - I know - I learned the hard way... twice (M/C & Chem Pgcy) so before I have to start taking clomid and suplimentation. I think I'm going to take a break b/c this has been a hard 10 months. Working at BRU doesn't help haha I'll be lurking ladies... :o

Sorry LynzeyAHL! I hear you on being bummed about going through "infertility stuff". I get down sometimes that something is wrong with me, that I'm "defected" (I have a LPD). Anyway, taking a break is a good idea, I imagine it is REALLY hard to be TTC with complications if you work at BRU!

[Annette]

Lynzey - Sorry to hear about your low progesterone.

I finally got my TCOYF book and wow, I am amazed at all the info that's in there. I am just hoping that when I get off the pill my cycles aren't anovulatory. My history of irregular periods and what the book says about them points to this. I will start charting once I go off the pill.

Where do I buy a Basal Digital thermometer from?

[honeygirl]

Where do I buy a Basal Digital thermometer from?

Welcome to the world of TCOYF Annette! I bought my thermometer at Walmart but I've seen them at Walgreens also.

[LadyD088]

Question...I think I have a head cold. Should this effect my ability to O? I can't remember and I thought I had read something on here about it possibly delaying O. TY!!

D

[raven077]

Annette, you can also get one at drugstore.com (http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=40512&catid=1332&trx=PLST-0-CLOSE-MATCHES&trxp1=1332&trxp2=40512&trxp3=1&trxp4=0&btrx=BUY-PLST-0-CLOSE-MATCHES)

[Reenie]

LadyD, being sick can put off O, but I don't know if a cold classifies. Having a cold can throw off temps, too.

[eli1126]

Hi All!

Lady D: I'm sure you got your answer by now, but flylady has a thread in family planning section that is really informative about all the bits nad pieces of charting and TTC. I think it's called TTC for rookies.

Beth

[Julss05]

Cycle stuff...I think I'll be ovulating soon. I asked DH when we are going to TTC and he said anytime from December 15th on. If my cycle stays the same we'll be able to start TTC right around Christmas!!

What a week! I ended up taking the first job offer (temporary year long contract) and have been working there all week getting trained. The other day my alternator quit on me but luckily DH was able to fix it. Oh and we looked at a house this week also. They wanted too much for it, the kitchen needed remodeled, and road noise was prevelant from the backyard so I don't think we'll get it. It would be nice if our next house was "move-in" ready aside from a few changes in fixtures and paint. Hope everyone has a great weekend!:)

[MaybeMamas]

Ladies we're well past the 1000 post mark (oops), so here's our new thread!
New Maybe Mamas Thread (http://www.constantchatter.com/forum/showthread.php?p=944752&posted=1#post944752)

[flygirl]

Thread closed :).