The Maybe Mamas: TTC #1 in 2006 [Archive] - Page 3

bex

03-13-2006, 10:00 AM

Is there anyone in your family/circle of friends who isn't so crazy for you to TTC?

Um.. probably everyone :p Just kidding. Initially, I don't think my mom will be thrilled if we get PG. We certainly won't be suprising her with any cute props when we tell her - it'll be pretty low key. I'll probably tell her over the phone so she has time to digest it and (hopefully) won't say anything dumb. She says if she could do it again she wouldn't have kids, so she's not a big proponent of anyone having kids (I don't think we were bad kids, I think she never really wanted them but my dad did). She'll probably think it's an oops. I'm sure that'll be the first thing out of her mouth. I think my MIL and my sister will be thrilled though.

We haven't told anyone IRL that we are going to start TTC this summer so I think more than anything people will be really really surprised. I'm sure no one would never have expected that we would try and get PG while I was still in school (I'm hopefully finishing up in Dec).

I think if my school friends knew we were planning to TTC they would probably try and discourage it. I know that finishing up my thesis while PG is gonna be tough but I'm OK with it.

jen

03-13-2006, 10:32 AM

Cograts Bijouparvin!

QOTD: Is there anyone in your family/circle of friends who isn't so crazy for you to TTC?
Besides me? Hehehe.... No, I think everyone is excited. Although I never get the "where are my grandkids" thing from my dad.... which makes me wonder... but I'm sure he's just minding his own business!

Lanapoo

03-13-2006, 11:03 AM

Yay Bijouparvin! :D So exciting!

QOTD: Is there anyone in your family/circle of friends who isn't so crazy for you to TTC?
Everyone is on pins and needles waiting for us to ttc except for a couple people. My BFF, who is single, just thinks the idea of one of us being pg is really bizarre but she isn't discouraging about it. My dad wouldn't care one way or the other if I ever had children as long as I'm happy. So while he'll be happy for me, he hasn't got a great desire to be a grandpa.

I'm getting really anxious for our trip to Aruba(only a month away!). Not so much for the vacation (although I'm really going to enjoy it ;) ) but more for the fact that afterwards I get to ditch the BCPs.

One thing I'm wondering about though... Should I finish out the rest of the month of BCP's (there will only be about a week of pills left after vaca)or should I just toss them as soon as I get back and bring on AF a week early?

TazLuv

03-13-2006, 11:13 AM

Congratulations Bijouparvin!

pewee9196

03-13-2006, 11:19 AM

CC Name:Pewee9196
Me: elizabeth 32
DH: David 31
Married: 2002
TTC start date: AUG/SEP
Any other children:the love of our world- seamus 2 year old welshie
Miscellaneous Info: My job is VERY physically demanding so we are waiting until summer. Off the pill since January.

QOTD: Is there anyone in your family/circle of friends who isn't so crazy for you to TTC? I don't think my sister will be too thrilled. She knows we have had some problems in the past. She is in the middle of a divorce so she is preaching a bit to me. His mom - I just don't get the feeling that she is too keen on the idea but I can't read her. She has told us in the past to wait. DH wanted kids immediately I did not. She said to wait.

Felicity

03-13-2006, 11:43 AM

Congratulations Bijouparvin! That is wonderful news!

QOTD: Is there anyone in your family/circle of friends who isn't so crazy for you to TTC?
Not that I know of! MIL is crazy (almost annoyingly) excited, so I try not to say much to her. My immediate family doesn't really know a date when we are going to start TTC - I think they just know it will be soon.

Threadmistress - please move my TTC date up to June. Now that I've started charting my cycles and they are so long we are going to start sooner :)

MaybeMamas

03-13-2006, 11:56 AM

Updated to here
Congrats to Bijouparvin!!!!
Welcome to Peewee9196!

Sherb

03-13-2006, 12:01 PM

Congrats to Bijouparvin! Glad to have another BFP around here.

Welcome to Peewee - always good to have another MaybeMama find us.

Not much going on here. We're starting TTC next month. I think that DH would like to go ahead this month but the baby would be due Dec. 22-25 or so and I just can't bring another almost Christmas baby into the world. I was one and so was my aunt.

honeygirl

03-13-2006, 12:56 PM

Congratulations bijouparvin! Glad that you took our POAS advice! :)

Tell your DH tonight, you'll go crazy if you don't. Do you have a cute idea picked out yet? I know there are lots of threads on and off in the pregnancy section on telling.

Here's hoping we ALL get BFP's in 2006!!!!!!!!

brenda

03-13-2006, 01:12 PM

Congrats bijouparvin! Definitely tell tonight. You're not going to have a positive stick and a negative blood test.

Then again, when I got pregnant the first time, I woke my husband up. So, perhaps I'm just a little more... crazy?

kanga1622

03-14-2006, 06:36 AM

Congrats bijouparvin!

I'm hoping for good news on Thursday because by then I'll be 13 DPO and I've only had one other cycle go that long. I've told DH that I'm going shopping Wednesday night for his birthday present but really I'm going to pick up some HPTs if my chart is still looking good.

Welcome peewee. I think you'll have a good time waiting here for your TTC date and time goes faster when you have someone you can talk about the baby obsession with. :)

irish74

03-14-2006, 08:11 AM

Congrats Bijouparvin! Happy & healthy nine months to you!:D

QOTD - I think my mom would prefer we wait a bit longer before TTC, but I'm sure she would come around if I was pg. The rest of my family and friends, they can't wait based on the amount of times they ask if we are pg yet.

raven077

03-14-2006, 09:03 AM

Everyone we know wanted us to start having babies before we were even married! Including my very Catholic FIL. That's how badly he wants grandchildren. He has told us that he'll put in for retirement the day he finds out I'm pregnant. So funny!

And our friends are putting bets down for when we announce so I'm trying to be careful about what we say to anyone about our future plans.

Janey

03-14-2006, 10:46 AM

Well, the baby bedding just arrived via the UPS man. It's pretty cute. I'm scared to take it out of the package in case i can't get it back in the package. :o

clammyinsf

03-14-2006, 02:34 PM

jumping in!

CC Name: clammyinsf
Me: carol, 29
DH: dave, 32
Married: 5/29/04
TTC start date: looking at oct'06
Any other children: no
Miscellaneous Info: finally, the baby fever has tipped the scales for me from being scared sh*tless of motherhood to actually being excited about the prospec. i'm currently reading TCOYF, bought my basal thermometer and we're planning to use the time between now and the end of this year to figure out some things (finances, etc).

la_Mer

03-14-2006, 10:56 PM

Hello Maybe Mamas, may I join you?

CC Name:la Mer
Me: Meredith, 29
DH: Dominic, 32
Married: August 23 2003
TTC start date: late August 2006
Any other children: just our pup MacGyver

D and I have been talking about thinking about starting the TTC journey but last week we had a "omg we're ready!" moment, so here I am, joining my first TTC group! We were headed out for a weekend get away when I realized 10 mins down the road that I forgot to pack my BCP. When I told my DH we had to go back he said "Let's just keep on driving." It took me a second to realize what he was saying, and another few moments to realize how excited I was to hear him say it. I did end up turning around because I didn't want to stop in the middle of the pack, however I am looking forward to this weekend and my very last pill! We will be waiting to officially start until the summer, but it's exciting to be starting the first step.

Congrats to the recent grads!

pewee9196

03-15-2006, 03:33 AM

Thanks to everyone for the warm welcome. I am more along carol's line of thinking- For a long time I was petrified of having kids. DH has wanted them for years! There are a couple of factors that made me move it up- Age, my insurance, and the thought why does my job always rule my life so here we are.

Meredith-Is that your Boston in your avtar? I grew up with one. So cute!

Congrats to all the grads!

LynzeyAHL

03-15-2006, 08:08 AM

Cycle 3 was a bust. This is getting old pretty quick. I'm frustrated with my husband for making me wait so long when I knew in my heart it wasn't going to be easy. :(

Congrats to the new BFPs

welcome new ladies!

honeygirl

03-15-2006, 09:01 AM

LynzeyAHL - I'm sorry that things aren't going smoothly with TTC. Hugs for this cycle and best wishes for the next one!

-Anne

kanga1622

03-15-2006, 10:23 AM

I'm so sorry Lynzey. It does seem unreal that we wait so long to have kids and then things don't go ahead as planned when we are ready. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the next cycle is the one for you.

honeygirl

03-16-2006, 11:45 AM

Hello ladies. Hope that everyone has some fun plans for the weekend. Does anyone want to share? :) I'll be packing and meeting a friend for a goodbye lunch. We move in only 23 days.

Here's a crosspost from the charting to avoid thread:

Update: I took the blood test (for progesterone) on tuesday afternoon. I would have been 6-7DPO at that time. I'm waiting for the DR to call with the results, I'll call her tomorrow if I don't hear anything. I'm not sure what a decent result is, I read somewhere that it should be between 5-10. Does anyone know?

I'm UNHAPPY with my current pre AF symptoms. I'm breaking out like CRAZY about 5x worse than usual. I've also been nauseous and TIRED. I'm guessing that the stress of moving is making my symptoms worse. Darn hormones. Oh, and of course I'm still spotting, this time I started at 4DPO I think.

MaybeMamas

03-16-2006, 11:59 AM

Updated to here.

Welcome la_Mer and clammyinsf!!!

eli1126

03-16-2006, 12:51 PM

Congratulations Bijouparvin! How Exciting!
Sending good vibes to those in the 2WW!!

I went to the ob/gyn for my annual and talked about TTC coming up and having Crohn's. Due to this and that spina bifida (sp?) runs in my family she is putting me in touch with the high risk practice. She wanted to assure me that I am certainly not a "high risk" per say, but that I am a little elevated due to these factors. I am also having bloodwork to check my immunizations and see if I will need to have boosters before TTC. She was really positive about my cycle being back to a 28 day one because I had been on Depo for so long. I am also really excited because when I told DH about her saying I could get pg anytime, he got a big goofy smile and didn't go through the speil about me having my PhD before we TTC :D

Beth

Janey

03-17-2006, 11:31 AM

Hello ladies. Hope that everyone has some fun plans for the weekend. Does anyone want to share? :) I'll be packing and meeting a friend for a goodbye lunch. We move in only 23 days.
How exciting! 23 days! Are you moving far from where you are now? Or just a short distance? I don't envy you your packing!

Weekend plans: Tomorrow, I am doing The Big Climb. It is an event at The Columbia Tower where you climb the sixty-nine flights of stairs in the tallest building in Seattle to benefit the Leukemia & Lymphoma society. I'm a little nervous about it. :p We did a practice run in B's building two weekends ago and climbed 42 flights, and I was pretty pooped. My calves were sore for 3 days afterward, too. I got a tip from my step instructor how not to make that happen this time, so hopefully I can avoid the three-day DOMS this time.

Sunday, I am going to try to talk my husband into going with me to Ultimate Workout (1 hr. step aerobics; 30 mins weights) if we're not too sore from The Big Climb. We'll see how that goes.

kanga1622

03-17-2006, 02:31 PM

I got a BFN yesterday and AF started today so we are out this cycle. We're waiting now until May 1 for more TTC so that we don't have a holiday baby. That gives us a little more time to save up some money and I can focus my attention on Spring Cleaning.

We're shopping this weekend for a dishwasher and spending a little time with DH's mom and stepdad. Hopefully we'll find a dishwasher somewhere that will deliver unless we can borrow SFIL's truck to go pick it up.

honeygirl

03-17-2006, 03:51 PM

Wow MrsHill, you are so athletic. I'm in awe. Good luck with your stair climbing tomorrow.

Yes, I am moving FAR away, about 1700-2000 miles to be exact (depending on which route we take). I have a friend coming over tonight to keep my company while I pack. :) That will help some.

Beth - Sounds like you had a great PreTTC appt. Does the "high risk" practice mean you get extra ultrasounds once you're pregnant? The special treatment will probably be great for a first pregnancy.

kanga1622 - Sorry about the BFN. We'll be starting TTC May 1st also!! I'll be right there with ya (well as "right there" as a online thread buddie can be).

Update crossposted in TTA charting thread:

I heard back from my doctor's office today. My 6/7DPO progesterone level was 15.1. This means that I ovulated (which I already know thanks to charting). From what I've heard (thanks Clattercotte) that is a fine, maybe even high score. Which would make me think it wasn't a progesterone problem, but I'm not sure. The doctor went ahead and gave me a perscription for progesterone supposetories (sp?) to use on my next cycle (after O until AF, or BFP if we're TTC). I'll have to do some research on them, hopefully they aren't too uncomfortable.

eli1126

03-18-2006, 07:13 AM

honeygirl I'm not sure exactly what "hig risk" entails, but when my sister was pg last year she had three or four ultra sounds because Rhiley wasn't cooperating! They needed to see the entire spine and she just kept putting her behind to the wand :D
Good Luck with your move!

Weekend Plans: Last night we went out for St. Patrick's Day. It was so crowded, we had one drink and went home. DH is on duty all weekend so I have some things for school I have to do tomorrow, but today I am going to hit Target and get some items. I also want to go to Ann Taylor and look at some dresses I think are cute.

Beth

polarama

03-19-2006, 03:52 PM

Well, we are officially ditching the chart. I think I worked myself up so much re: temping, charting, analyzing, that it was stressing me out. I've had 4 or 5 dreams in the last few days about charting (in one dream, I dreamt that my BBT poked a hole in my mouth!).

So, we're going to SWH in the next month and a half, I have an annual scheduled for May 1st. I wanted to get in sooner, but can't due to scheduling--my doc left the practice, which is causing all kinds of scheduling snafus. I am slighty worried that I am annovulatory, so I called the practice and the nurse midwife suggested that I focus on getting back into a regular exercise and a healthy eating plan between now and my check-up.

QOTD--I think my MIL is not ready for us to TTC, she's flat out said that WE aren't ready, which I think is funny. I think in her head, my SIL should have kids first (she is 7 years older than DH). However, SIL is not even in a serious relationship!

Weekend--We picked out our granite! whoo hoo! :) Seriously though, not that exciting, though it was kind of cool.

LynzeyAHL

03-19-2006, 04:39 PM

I got a BFP Saturday (well 3 actually who can stop when there's tests in the house) but I've been spotting since Saturday as well so I'm not sure what's going on just yet. :(

Janey

03-19-2006, 05:42 PM

Lynzey, cautious congrats to you!! There have been a bunch of threads on spotting... I think Aletheia gathered them altogether at one point. Most of them have turned out to be good news, so keep your chin up... we're rootin' for ya. Let us know what the Dr. says!

Polarama, congrats on your granite! I want to see a picture... :D We almost went granite but ended up going quartz instead.

The Big Climb was today, not tomorrow. It went okay. I felt like a big wimp, but I did it. B was so great -- he stayed with me every step of the way when the rest of our group climbed on ahead. Yesterday I did step aerobics in the AM and then we did part of the couch-to-5k (20 mins walk, 30 mins run, 20 mins walk). I found out I run a 15 minute mile, which is oh so slow. But it's okay - I get 'er done, and that's what counts. I will have Big Climb photos up later - the view from the top of the Columbia Tower was awesome. :D

honeygirl

03-19-2006, 06:00 PM

LynzeyAHL - Congrats on your BFP. Are you going to call the DR on monday for a test/consult re: spotting? It may make you feel better to hear from her that everything is ok.

MrsHill - Way to go on the climb! Is there any particular reason that you worked out all weekend? ;) Don't mind my asking, I'm just lazy and jealous of your dedication.

polarama - I second MrsHill's request to see a picture. We're going to remodel the kitchen in our new house, and are considering granite (well DH is considering granite, I'd like quartz or faux granite, I'm cheap!).

I am so itching to TTC. I only have 1 more cycle to wait, but it seems SO FAR away. I hope the next month goes QUICKLY. I've been spending some time on the ovusoft message boards and they are scary. I saw TONS of belly pictures and a few were frightening. Seriously. This one lady was super skinny and her belly looked like a torpedo. Very weird/unnatural looking (no offense to the lady). I DON'T want to look like that. I also read that some women (TMI WARNING) eat the placenta after birth. How sick is that? I need to STAY away from those message boards.

Now a QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

Whew that was long. It will be interesting to see later if we were right.

I think it will take me at least 3 cycles to get a BFP.

miaclear

03-19-2006, 06:29 PM

Honeygirl..... Now I've heard of cats eating placentas but women....like you and me :eek: :eek: :eek: Seriously :confused: Wowza!

QOTD: We've been TTC for just once cycle now....I'm hoping that we get a BFP by June (so four cycles) but am prepared to wait longer since we're both thirty and I know it just gets harder the older you are. If we didn't have a BFP by the end of Summer I would start to get worried I think. Of course if I get a BFP this first cycle that would be a great surprise :D

stevesbabygirl

03-19-2006, 09:30 PM

CC Name: Stevesbabygirl
Me: Heather, 26
DH: Steve, 28
Married: August 31, 2003
TTC start date: March/April 2006
Any other children: 3 furbabies - Tracker, Minnie, Zero; one scalebaby - Bogey
Miscellaneous Info: Endometriosis, waiting for CD1 to start TTC

MaybeMamas

03-20-2006, 07:30 AM

Updated to here.

Welcome Stevesbabygirl

j*east

03-20-2006, 07:31 AM

I have two weeks of pills left and I'm freaking out! (I have had endometriosis and my dr. told me to stay on the pill until we're ready to start trying--no condoms or other BC methods meanwhile. I guess the goal is to get me PG before the endo can come back.)

Me: j*east, 31
DH: T, 31
Married: July 2004
This will be our first!
Last BCP: Will be April 2, 2006

Not sure yet of any issues. My mom had 7 kids, but it took 3 years to have the first and 4.5 between first and second. My sister has three kids and conceived each within a few months of going off BCP, sometimes within one month. I had surgery for the endo and hopefully I am clear. We're not charting or anything in the beginning b/c I tend to be obsessive and I'm hoping that not charting will help me not obsess. So...I hope all goes well, but not too fast. I wouldn't mind a month or two just to see what my cycle is like. I'm excited, scared, thrilled, worried, you name it.

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

Well...sometimes I think it will happen really fast, as with a friend and my sister who conceived the first cycle after stopping BCP. Sometimes I think it will take longer due to me and my endo. I hope it takes about 2-3 months. I'm a teacher and it would be great to have the baby in late spring, but anytime in the 2nd semester is workable. Conceiving right as school ends this year would be perfect timing for my 12 weeks off to go right into summer next year. Oh, but it's scary to think about! :eek:

Good luck to everyone!

jen

03-20-2006, 08:11 AM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

Oy... I can honestly say I have NO idea. I have always had a deep seeded fear that I will have trouble getting pregnant. In a perfect world (here's the "wishing" guess), I'd like to get pregnant in September/October so I can have a baby in June/July..... for the sole purpose of having outdoor b'day parties! ha! :) So that would be 3-4 months of trying (we remove the goalie in June). I think anything under 6 months would be great. After 6 months, I'll probably be completely stressed out.

...who am I kidding... after 2 months I'll be losing my mind! :rolleyes:

LynzeyAHL

03-20-2006, 08:20 AM

I had my IUD removed in December and my cycles run middle of the month to middle of the month. I got BFP on 3rd cycle trying. Pretty sure this one isn't going to stick, but at least I know I can get pregnant. So now let the testing fun begin :rolleyes:

Janey

03-20-2006, 08:44 AM

MrsHill - Way to go on the climb! Is there any particular reason that you worked out all weekend? ;) Don't mind my asking, I'm just lazy and jealous of your dedication.
I don't know if you know this about me, but I've lost a significant amount of weight (photos in this thread (http://www.constantchatter.com/showthread.php?t=12162)). I've been slowly gaining it back, and it's scaring the crap out of me. I am 5'1", and in the Summer of 2003, I weighed 246.5 pounds. In fall of 2004, I weighed 131 lbs. My goal is to bounce between 135-140. After we got back from my friend's wedding in Alaska a couple of weeks ago, I was 172 :eek: lbs. I was 168 this morning.

I'm down to 1 pair of jeans and about 3 shirts that fit. I'm feeling lucky to be a SAHW, and be able to hang out in my Yoga pants, in order to leave the clothes that fit in my closet for when I actually have to go somewhere that yoga pants wouldn't be appropriate. :rolleyes: I'm going to be a bridesmaid in my friend's Florida wedding in May. I just received the ($200, silk, and size sixteen!) bridesmaid's dress, and it is about 2" from being able to close over my superhero-sized rib cage.

The other thing is... 170 lbs. is about where I started ovulating again on my way down the scale. I'm hitting it again, going the other way... and I'm scared that I'm going to stop ovulating again because of the excess weight.

And then I think: Holy Crap, we're going to TTC in June, and I won't be able to diet, and I will be gaining more weight because of the baby...!? Weight gain, not labor and delivery, is my biggest fear about pregnancy.

I'm very, very scared and depressed about my body right now. I look at myself in the mirror and want to cry. :( Every effort I've made in the 6 months to lose weight has been for naught -- whatever I do, I can't pull the weight off. I have 30 lbs to lose, and they won't freaking move. So, I'm kicking it up a notch in the exercise department and down a notch in the food department, and hoping like hell I see the #'s on the scale move in a direction I want to see. I had an average of 1300 net calories/day last week -- that should get me a loss on the scale tonight at class.

... thanks for letting me vent.

Now a QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?
Honestly? (and probably more than a little naively?) I think it will take 1 month to get the BFP. We've had soooo many one-month BFP's in my family (and a lot of oopsie BFP's as well) that I think my eggs are probably screaming to be fertilized.

I have a factor that nobody else in my family had, however: PCOS. I've been having clear ovulations the last 4 cycles I've been charting, so that gives me hope that everything is working the way it should be. Because of the PCOS, I will not be shattered if it doesn't happen on the 1st cycle. If it takes longer than 3 cycles, I will be surprised & disappointed, however.

Smittenk

03-20-2006, 09:01 AM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

I have absolutely no clue how long it will take. I have been off the pill for almost 6 months and we have not been careful and no BFP. We aren't really paying attention to my CF or temp (I am charting) to make sure we are BDing on the premium days but we aren't avoidng them either. Sooo I guess you could say that it has already been almost 6 months and nothing. Whether this will change once we do atart BDing on the "right" days or not we'll just have to wait and see. I am not stressing about it at all at the moment.

Welcome Stevesbabygirl!!!

brenda

03-20-2006, 09:32 AM

raven077

03-20-2006, 10:55 AM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP?

jen I'm a little scared too that I won't be able to right away. I kind of feel like since I'd been on BCP for so long, and a lot of people still have "oopsies" while on BCP, that maybe there's something wrong with me. Not that I've just been really good at taking the Pill. Is that weird? :confused: But I have a feeling it will take several cycles and at that point, we will probably have to take a break b/c I don't necessarily want to have a holiday baby if we can help it. (I wish it would take one, but I'm sure DH wants as many cycles as possible.. Heh.)

Felicity

03-20-2006, 10:57 AM

Welcome clammyinsf, la_Mer, stevesbabygirl & j*east!!!!!

polarama - I'm wondering if I may need to drop the charting as well once we TTC too. I'm such a type A personality, I think I'm already obssessing over it too much!

LynzeyAHL - Congrats on the BFP! I'll be thinking sticky thoughts for you!

MrsHill - I checked out your pictures - your weight loss is fab! You must have tremendous will power when you put your mind to it! Though not as many, I'd like to lose a few pounds I get pregnant too. I'm working on it now, but it's tough. Don't be depressed - you seem like such an amazing woman - you can do it! :)

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?
Oy... I can honestly say I have NO idea. I have always had a deep seeded fear that I will have trouble getting pregnant. In a perfect world (here's the "wishing" guess), I'd like to get pregnant in September/October so I can have a baby in June/July..... for the sole purpose of having outdoor b'day parties! ha! So that would be 3-4 months of trying (we remove the goalie in June). I think anything under 6 months would be great. After 6 months, I'll probably be completely stressed out.

...who am I kidding... after 2 months I'll be losing my mind!

jen - I could have written this statement myself!!! This is exactly how I feel about it all :D And I'll add to it that I'd like to have a spring/summer baby so I have warmer months to be outside to lose the baby weight!

LadyD088

03-20-2006, 11:01 AM

Heather - WELCOME!!! SO happy you are over here now!! WOO HOO!!!

As for me, I am not sure what's up. I am 14DPO and have had some spotting last night and some this morning. I am HOPING this is not a showing of AF and that its implantation. I will not test until Wed to see what's going on with my body right now.

Deb

stevesbabygirl

03-20-2006, 11:30 AM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

Like a PP, I have endometriosis as well, so I worry it may take a while. The absolute latest I'm willing to accept :p is August. DH's aunt is coming out next year with her granddaughter and taking her to Disneyland, and I volunteered to go on rides with her, which I obviously can't do if I'm pregnant!

stevesbabygirl

03-20-2006, 11:30 AM

Thanks for the welcome ladies :D!

Sherb

03-20-2006, 11:36 AM

Lynzey - You're in my thoughts. I hope the baby sticks.

QOTD: I would be very disappointed if I couldn't get preggers within the first four months of TTC. My mom had my baby brother when she was 39 - and using BC. Hopefully, the fertile myrtle syndrome has been passed down to me.

elissa

03-20-2006, 11:40 AM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

Not really sure honestly, I had fibroids and had them removed in 2002. We'll see how much damage there was done to the uterine lining when that surgery happened. I'm thinking that it will either be pretty short-right away, or pretty long- a year or longer.

rosa727

03-20-2006, 11:40 AM

QOTD: Well I am coming to the end of TTC cycle #1, so I am really hoping this will be it, but I doubt I will be that lucky. I think next month will be my month, just because my family is very fertile, I am pretty young, and I have always had very regular cycles. I am not charting, but I am pretty sure I am ovulating because I get pain right at the time I should be ovulating every month (since I have been off BCPs).

polarama

03-20-2006, 11:51 AM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

We're on cycle 2, which is turning into month 4. I used to think it would tkae 3 months, but now I'm guessing that it will take 6 cycles, whatever that means in months. Everything I *thought* I wanted--a baby not born around the holidays, to have the baby this year, not be pregnant in the summer--is just being tossed out the window.

MrsHill--thank you for sharing your story about your weight--much of what you said is how I feel too. I am on sort of a plateau/upward trend weight-wise, and for me, it's the heaviest I've been. In a way, I'm glad that I'm not preggers yet because it gives me time to get into better shape.

MrsHill and Honeygirl--I'm trying to set up a flickr set with my home improvement pics--no actual pics of the granite we are using yet, but it's Impala Black, a sort of charcoal grey/black color. In our area, granite is actually cheaper than Corian!

eli1126

03-20-2006, 01:03 PM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

I hope it doesn't take long, but who knows. I always felt that TTC would be a problem for me because DH and I had times where we weren't so careful and nothing happened, not even a pg scare. My twin sister had difficulty getting pg for DN, it took over a year and a half, but is now expecting again and it was not planned. My older sister got pg for DN within three cycles of TTC and got pg with other DN in 2 cycles. So who knows, hopefully it will happen quickly.

Beth

LynzeyAHL

03-20-2006, 01:44 PM

Thanks Girls!!!

I just got back from the Dr. Basically he said not to freak out that (and I didn't know the number was this high) 50% of women have some kind of spotting or bleeding early in pgcy. Cramping and PINK/bright red blood are not normal. So given that I only had some cramps on Saturday night after running non stop all day and not since and (TMI) the bleeding isn't profuse (defined as needing a tampon or frequent pad changes) that I'm to think and act like I am pregnant and take care of myself accordingly.

I had my betas drawn today and I should know something by tomorrow or Wednesday at the latest if my numbers are in the appropriate range.

Thanks for your continued thoughts and prayers! :o

Lanapoo

03-20-2006, 01:55 PM

Welcome stevesbabygirl and j*east!

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

For some reason I think that it will take only about 3-5 months or so. I try to talk myself down from thinking that it will happen the first month (even though I hope it does :o ) But, I do have concerns similar to Elissa's because I had surgery last May to have a fibroid removed so there is some scar tissue to contend with and it doesn't make a nice surface for a baby to attach to.

ETA:Congrats on your BFP Lynzey! I'm glad your doctor had some better news for you and I'll be praying for you that the baby is just fine.

eli1126

03-20-2006, 02:29 PM

Congrats LynzeyAHL! That's Great News! Sending Sticky Vibes Your Way!

Beth

Julss05

03-20-2006, 06:14 PM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP?
5 months? Not sure. Don't they say the average time to conceive is between 6-12 months? Hmmm wonder what they base that on. My mom got pregnant the first try unprotected with all of us but she had us younger than when I'll be starting to have kids so who knows if I'll be THAT fertile;).

LynzeyAHL-Good luck!:)

Sorry I haven't been posting lately. I've been batteling depressed feelings from my new job I don't like and realizing a change of jobs could mean a later TTC time:(. I know everything will work out the way it is supposed to but right now it sure doesn't feel that way. DH has been seeing a therapist for his depression and she suggested we take a vacation. I don't have enough leave to go some place far so we decided to do a weekend trip:).

stevesbabygirl

03-20-2006, 06:45 PM

I'll be lurking until the end of April, as DH has pushed TTCing back one cycle. Poo :p.

honeygirl

03-20-2006, 07:11 PM

I'll be lurking until the end of April, as DH has pushed TTCing back one cycle. Poo :p.

Heather you don't have to lurk here, we're all starting TTC at different times. We have some pregnant mammas, some TTC and some waiting for a few more months. So you're in the right place!!!!

I love that this thread was hopping today. Helps make my work day go faster when I have CC things to read. :) I shouldn't complain though, only 9 more days of work!!

I vented in the charting to avoid thread, but I'm bummed with my cycle right now. I started AF early (yesterday), or so I thought. My temps are still high though and I barely even spotted today. I'm not sure what is going on. Can stress put off AF? It's just weird. I wish my cycles could be regular and predictable. Is that so much to ask?

SQ2

03-20-2006, 07:14 PM

Heather you don't have to lurk here, we're all starting TTC at different times. Agreed! :D This thread is for anyone who may be TTC sometime in 2006.

stevesbabygirl

03-20-2006, 07:19 PM

Oh yeah, thanks :p!

MaybeMamas

03-20-2006, 07:26 PM

Updated to here.

Welcome j*east!!

j*east

03-21-2006, 04:49 AM

Thanks for the welcomes! :)

Here's a new question:
Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I'm off from work this week because I teach school and it's spring break, and between TLC and Discovery Health, there are baby shows on almost all day. Yesterday was the first time I watched more than a minute of any; I watched about 3 shows. Some are scary, and some are reassuring--I like the way the husband coached his wife in one episode, but not the way he reminded her of a fight they had the week before. On another show, I liked the midwife a lot better. But I'm afraid of getting too neurotic or obsessive if I watch too much! What do the rest of you do?

Smittenk

03-21-2006, 06:11 AM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

Sometimes. I used to watch them alot and just got bored of them. When I do, DH doesn't mind at all. He says that he has his shows that he likes to watch (that I don't find so interesting!)

kanga1622

03-21-2006, 06:49 AM

Baby Shows - I watch a number of them. I DVR episodes of Yummy Mummy and Kids Healthworks occassionally. My favorite show is Maternity Ward but that hasn't been on much lately. I do a lot of research before just about any decision in my life so I sorta feel like maybe this will help me prepare for a few of the possibilities and I won't be so scared because I've at least heard about these things before.

Sticky Vibes~~~~to Lynzey.

eli1126

03-21-2006, 07:14 AM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I used to watch A Baby Story every once in a while when I was on break or whatever, but then it seems like they always run the same episodes! So even though I don't watch for months at a time, it's always one I already saw. Sometimes I get annoyed by women who decide to have a natural birth and then scream in agony through the entire thing because it makes me a little frightened and think I wouldn't ever want to go through childbirth. I would much rather have some medication and have a relaxed atmosphere.

Beth

jen

03-21-2006, 07:36 AM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I used to watch these shows alllll the time. I only watch occassionally now, and DH has sat through a couple. He gets completely freaked out and grossed out. I can be fine or completely horrified, depending on the situation. Another good show is Bringing Home Baby----it chronicles the first week or so of being home with the baby---THAT one really freaks me out because it really shows how freaking exhausted everyone is! I recently made DH sit through a really cool show, I think it was called In The Womb, where they showed the development of the fetus, with 4D imaging and stuff---it was very informative! Then the birth happened and DH was moaning in a ball--haha!

raven077

03-21-2006, 08:36 AM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I watched a lot of them back in college, and periodically I'll still catch a few if I'm home sick, or waiting for a repair person. Sometimes I'm a little freaked out by them, but really, it just makes me more aware of what really happens in the delivery room and it also actively makes me NOT want to be like some of the women on there. :p DH is amused. Sometimes I'll make him sit down and watch portions of it, if the family is exceptionally cool, or if they're an inter-racial family. But usually he just laughs at the fact that I periodically watch them.

He's really great with kids and can't wait until we have our own, it's just waiting until my back is on the mend and we're a bit more stable financially.. but when he DOES watch with me, sometimes he gets mushy and lovey and thinking about our future family. It's cute.

Janey

03-21-2006, 09:38 AM

We created a Flickr Set for The Big Climb (http://www.flickr.com/photos/seahills/sets/72057594086464917/). It was such a beautiful day -- we got some great shots of the city below. :D

Jen - I bet if you were my neighbor, we'd be the best of friends. :p Between Clearance Sales & scheduling TTC around Outdoor Birthday Parties, you are a woman after my own heart!

Felicity & Polarama, Thank you both for the support & encouragement. :) It seems I did a good job last week, because I lost 2.1 lbs on the scale last night at class (AKA "diet cult"). I think half of that was last week and half the week before, and just didn't show up until last night cause of AF... but whatever, I love me a good two-pound loss!! Let's hope I can keep it up for the next 10 weeks at least. I just keep telling myself: 10 weeks. I can do anything for 10 weeks! I'm ON BOARD.

Lynzey - I'm soooo glad you got some good news from the doctor! Let us know about your betas as soon as you do!

Julss05 - Is your weekend trip this weekend? I hope you go somewhere sweet, relaxing, and romantic, and smootch a lot!!

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I don't watch baby shows, but not because I don't want to... we just don't get those channels. We have the $10/month cable that gets us network TV, and about 4 other channels (we refuse to pay $80/month for something that will entice us to be inactive :p). We hardly watch TV, and when we do, it's either PBS or NetFlix... and of course, no Baby Story on NetFlix.

jen

03-21-2006, 10:18 AM

Jen - I bet if you were my neighbor, we'd be the best of friends. :p Between Clearance Sales & scheduling TTC around Outdoor Birthday Parties, you are a woman after my own heart!

Well then it's too bad we are clear across the country---I could use some fun neighbors like you! :D

Lanapoo

03-21-2006, 10:28 AM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I love those shows! I like Special Delivery and Maternity Ward. I watch them to see the babies being born and they get me all mushy :o . DH calls it the "Hurt Baby Channel" :p , even if the babies are perfectly healthy in the show. He covers his eyes and runs as soon as he sees anything.

I don't watch the shows so I can prepare myself since I already know what my birth experience will be like. It'll be a c-section due to my previous uterine surgery and the location of my scar from that. So I've already had my "practice c-section" and I already know what recovery will be like.

stevesbabygirl

03-21-2006, 10:54 AM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I used to watch these shows all the time, but then when I started working full time days, I never got the chance. Nowadays, I'm at home a lot, so I should start watching again. They don't reassure me or scare me really, except when I see the moms who don't get epidurals screaming their heads off. That part scares me :p. DH won't go anywhere near them, because he can't handle seeing blood and guts.

LadyD088

03-21-2006, 12:49 PM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?
*I used to watch them...never really have time for them anymore. However, I just watched one of them the other night and OMG scared the crap out of me. 3 of hte women featured all had problems. One couldn't get the baby about and it was stuck down there for way too long (all was ok in the end). One woman just couldn't push anymore. And the 3rd had the baby come out not breathing...took a few seconds but then it was ok. I swear that just scared me to death. I think we all KNOW those things can happen but to see them really happen, very scary.

***So I'm on CD3 now...this month is over. Looking forward to April and a possible holiday baby. DH is excited to keep trying again too.

Deb

eli1126

03-21-2006, 02:32 PM

Glad I'm not the only one who is a little freaked out by the non medicated births. I think it's great that they choose to go that route, but I like the births where the mom is actually relaxed and gets some sleep and is able enjoy the process a little more. I don't want to offend anyone who is planning a natural birth, it's just not for me.

Today when I got home my Doctor's office called with my information for the high risk practice and she said "test results" as well. Now I am nervous because the only "test" I had last week was a pap, so that's the only test result she could mean. I didn't get the message until after 5:00 and I won't be able to call until tomorrow. So now I'm a little nervous. I have been going to this practice for a long time and they normally just send pap results in the mail if they are normal.

Beth

irish74

03-21-2006, 03:27 PM

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

I don't expect it to take long since we got pg so easy in February. I had expected it to take longer. Next time I only hope it is that easy again.

Lynzey- I'm sending you a million sticky thoughts.

Byrd's Boogie

03-21-2006, 03:54 PM

CC Name: Byrd's Boogie
Me: Boogie, 32
DH: Byrd, 33
Married: May 5, 2005
TTC start date: May/June 2006
Any other children: 1 step son and 1 furbaby
Miscellaneous Info: Myomectomy 2/24, just waiting for the green light

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

Since I had the surgery I'm hoping within 3 months. We got pregnant in July05 after 1 month of trying, but they think the fibroids are what caused me to miscarry. Hopefully that problem has been taken care of!

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

Yes...and I think it's somewhat of a combination. Because of my surgery I have to have a scheduled c-section and after watching birth day live this weekend it helped to see how often they happen but still...:eek:

Julss05

03-21-2006, 05:19 PM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?
Yes. Some combination. I love watching them because it reaffirms my desire to have kids, even the show where they follow the parents around the first week the baby's home and neither get hardly any sleep or there are breast feeding problems. What scares me is watching the natural childbirths, NOT for me! You can tell they are in so much pain. DH watches on occasion, I think it's cute when he accidentally flips to a channel where a woman is having a baby but won't change the channel and will watch with me:).

Last night I dreamed I had a girl, kind of weird but lately I always dream its a girl when I use to dream our first was a boy. Maybe it's because a coworker is having a girl, she just left today to go on maternity leave, her due date is Thurs.! Just proves you can work right up to giving birth:). The only time you could tell she was pregnant was when she got sick at her desk which is right next to mine:p.

Mrs.hill -We're actually planning a trip next weekend to DC. We've lived in Virginia for years but have never visited! Good luck on the weight loss! It's a struggle for me too. I know it feels good to lose even a few pounds, I like to visualize it as a package of hamburger;).

Lanapoo

03-21-2006, 05:36 PM

Welcome Byrd's Boogie! I think it's interesting that there are a few of us in this thread who have had Myomectomy's. Looks like you'll be TTCing around the same time DH and I will. Hopefully we'll get our BFP's real quick now that we are fibroid free :)

eli1126 - Sending good thoughts your way for your test results...

MrsWilson

03-21-2006, 06:55 PM

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I don't watch any of these shows. Just not something I'm interested in. I spent a whole semester in nursing school in L&D, so I have personal experience with real people. Most of my questions about giving birth were answered by the nurse I was working with, the woman in labor (so nice to have real answers by someone experiencing it right then) or what I saw with my own two eyes. All of which were better to me than a show on tv.

j*east

03-22-2006, 05:36 AM

eli1126 I hope your "test results" turn out okay today. :)

Welcome, Byrd's Boogie! This thread moves fast...a lot to read! Enjoy!

MrsHill Congratulations on your progress, and good luck with continuing your weight loss! You can do anything for 10 weeks!

The birth shows..Dh watched one with me last night, House of Babies. I like that one b/c it's a midwifery practice, and we're hoping to have our baby (you know, the one that we haven't even started trying to conceive yet) in a birth center with midwives. I think the natural birth thing really depends on the woman and the practice. The women on House of Babies are not medicated, and there's not much screaming. There seems to be more screaming on A Baby Story, both medicated and non-medicated. Of course, all the births on TV last about 3 minutes, so you know they're cutting out a lot of footage...probably of screaming and peaceful moments both. I appreciate the wide range of families and birth experiences shown on TV...makes it all seem a little more normal.

kanga1622, I can totally relate to this: "I do a lot of research before just about any decision in my life so I sorta feel like maybe this will help me prepare for a few of the possibilities and I won't be so scared because I've at least heard about these things before." :)

eli1126

03-22-2006, 06:35 AM

Whew! Just heard from the Doctor's office and everything was fine. They were calling me to give me the appointment time for the high risk practice and to tell me the pap results were normal. She said they figured since they had me on the phone it was easier than sending a card out.

Beth

honeygirl

03-22-2006, 08:51 AM

Good news eli1126. Silly nurses, they should say "and to tell you about your normal test results", on the message.

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

Back when I didn't want children (after I first got married) I would watch the shows sometimes and they would re-enforce my child-free thoughts. ;) I haven't seen one in a while, maybe when I'm unemployed I'll have some more time. DH would NEVER watch one.

la_Mer

03-22-2006, 10:08 AM

I've been using a new browser and it caused me to lose several posts yesterday so I'm going to go back in time to a previous QOTD:

For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be? And if you have the BFP, how long did it take?

This is actually on my mind alot these days. I have a feeling that it will take us 6 months to a year. I have been preparing DH for the possibility of it taking a few tries since he seems to believe that it always works on the first try. I will have a better idea when I see how my body reacts to not getting it's daily dose of hormones, it's been 10 years so anything is possible.

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I have watched them occasionally when I have been home sick or taken a rare work at home day. I find that I get very tense during the labor scenes, sometimes I have to remember to breathe too ;). DH hasn't seen them, and I don't think he would want to. We did have a discussion about labor with some friends of ours who recently given birth. Afterwards he came over and rubbed my belly and gave me a big hug. It was sweet.

So I thought that this was going to be my last month of BCPs but I just ordered my new refill. I accepted a job offer this week and I will be starting in May. We decided it will make more sense to wait another month or so and see how it goes and I get my new insurance figured out. It's a little disappointing, but I think it will cause less stress in the long run.

Felicity

03-22-2006, 12:36 PM

Welcome Byrd's Boogie!!!

Julss05 - Sorry to hear that you've been feeling down lately. Hope things look up soon and that you can plan a nice little getaway for you and your DH.

MrsHill - Congrats on the 2.1 pounds! And your pics from the stairclimb are beautiful! I just weighed in this morning and I'm down 3.6! Part of that is I took my starting weight in the middle of the day last week, but I'll take it. This was my first week of tracking my weight to get serious about losing it.

eli1126 - Glad to hear all is normal! Shame on them for freaking you out!

kanga1622 & j*east - I totally agree re: "I do a lot of research before just about any decision in my life so I sorta feel like maybe this will help me prepare for a few of the possibilities and I won't be so scared because I've at least heard about these things before." When I talked to my ob/gyn today I rattled off the list of things I've done in preparation (taking vitamins, getting shots, giving DH vitamins, etc) to TTC and she was like - sounds great! You're ready to go!

QOTD: Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them? - Not really. I have occasionally watched them. I would definitely say some of the scare me, others excitement - depends on the story and how I'm feeling that day. DH would probably leave the room or ask me to change the channel. He is not good around blood!

Had my annual check up today with my ob/gyn. All went well. Got a prescription for prenatals to starting taking ASAP. She also gave me samples of Expecta, a DHA supplement to start taking as well. Also asked her a few questions about my workouts and things to see if they would be okay once I get pregnant. Left the Dr. office singing and realized I had a goofy grin on my face :D Pulling the goalie is coming soon (well, June, but I'm excited)!

rosa727

03-23-2006, 05:15 AM

Just dropping in to give everyone my good news - I guess I was wrong about it taking 2 months for me. I got a BFP this morning!! I was so not expecting this on my first cycle TTC, so I am really freaked out! I was not even sceduled to get AF for 2 more days, but something told me to test. It was somewhat light, but definitely there. I guess it was just light because it is still 2 days before AF? I am stuck at work and want to go test 100 more times! I also need to decide how to tell DH!!

j*east

03-23-2006, 06:10 AM

Wow, Rosa! Congratulations!! That's great news! :) :) :) :) :)

SQ2

03-23-2006, 06:11 AM

How exciting, Rosa! Congratulations! :D

rosa727

03-23-2006, 06:18 AM

Thanks for your congrats guys! Lets hope the next test I take is darker! I am testing again tomorrow morning (to ensure the highest levels) and will give an update then. I look forward to being PG with all of you!

Smittenk

03-23-2006, 06:19 AM

Congratulations Rosa!!!! So exciting!!! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!

eli1126

03-23-2006, 07:16 AM

Congrats Rosa!
Beth

honeygirl

03-23-2006, 08:59 AM

Congratulations Rosa!! Happy and Healthy 9 months to you. Let us know how your DH reacted. :)

Janey

03-23-2006, 09:17 AM

Congratulations, Rosa! Very exciting news! :D Can't wait to hear what your DH has to say about it!

Welcome, j*east, and thanks for the encouragement!

julss05 - DC is on my "must go there before I'm too old to walk around and see the sights" list. :) I hear it can be a romantic place, especially in the spring with all of the cherry blossoms. There was just a thing on the Today show yesterday about doing DC on the cheap. I tried to find it for you just now and can't ... :mad: Anyway, cute little B&B, and it was like $75/night or something. 'Course now that it was on the Today show, it's probably booked through 2007 anyway.

Felicity - Good to hear your appointment went well. What is "DHA Supplement"?

brenda

03-23-2006, 09:58 AM

Congratulations, Rosa!

Felicity

03-23-2006, 10:45 AM

Congratulations rosa727!!! What great news!!!

MrsHill - I haven't done any reading on it yet, but that is on my to do list. Here's a link to the product she gave me samples of - she wants me taking this in addition to my prenatal vitamins for the next three months before we start TTC. FYI, she also said it was okay to continue eating my Viactiv chews - I eat 2 a day - they have 500 mg of Calcium.
http://store.enfamil.com/expecta_lipil.html

Lanapoo

03-23-2006, 10:52 AM

How exciting! Congratulations rosa727!!!

filmgirl7

03-23-2006, 01:57 PM

Congratulations, Rosa! All the best to you for a happy and healthy 9 months!:)

QOTD: For those of you that haven't started TTC yet, how many months do you think (not wish) it will take to get the BFP? If you've already started, how long did you expect it would be?

I think it will happen for us within the first few months. I only say this because my cycle is extremely regular and when we try we have to really TRY, so that we can work this thing around my teaching schedule a little (like, I don't want to be due in August or September.) Trust me, though, there will be a LOT of praying going on until it happens.

Do you watch baby shows on TV, like A Baby Story? Do they help reassure you, scare you, or some combination? How does your DH feel about them?

I love A Baby Story. I've been watching it on and off for years, and I find it kind of reassuring. I used to be petrified of labor, and think "there is no way I could ever do that!" Now I feel calm about it. No matter how bad the labor is, the woman always makes it through, epidural or not. Sometimes I see the ones where the woman does it without drugs, and I'm thinking NO WAY! But knowing I don't HAVE to do that helps alot.

kanga1622

03-23-2006, 02:33 PM

CONGRATS ROSA! ~~~~~~Happy & Healthy 9 months vibes~~~~~~

No news here. I had a bit of a panic attack last night about the duplex we rent but I'm over it now. Of course, my boss freaked me out this morning by talking about buying a house before having a baby. I told him that we'd probably better pay off DH's student loans before buying a house and ignored the house before baby comment. He doesn't know that we're TTC. Housing is really overpriced for us here (we don't make that much money). I'm sure we could do it if we REALLY wanted to but that would mean cutting out all the fun things we have worked into our budget along with cutting our savings. I think I'd rather work on paying off the loans (2 more years) and hopefully by then DH will have a 12 month paying job rather than his 9 month paying job. Do you have any idea how hard it is to even think about buying a house when you've got one income for 9 months a year and then just over half that income for the summer months? I have no idea how we'd pay a house payment, utilities, car payment, along with all our other bills with our summer paychecks.

la_Mer

03-23-2006, 03:16 PM

Congratulations ROSA!

stevesbabygirl

03-23-2006, 04:55 PM

Congrats Rosa :D!

rosa727

03-24-2006, 03:37 AM

Thanks again everyone! I told DH last night and he was in total shock. He was just like "really? wow!" but he seemed really happy. He just did not seem to believe it. I bought him a book on becoming a dad and gave him a nice card too. But I realized that I just wanted to tell him myself, rather than give him anything first. So I just said "we're going to have a little teeny Schmidty" :) Our last name is Schmidt and everyone used to call him "Little Schmidty" since he has an older brother, so I thought that was cute. I am testing again today. We'll see if it sinks in for him any more!

bex

03-24-2006, 03:08 PM

Chiming in late to say Congrats Rosa!

Sherb

03-24-2006, 05:35 PM

Congrats Rosa!

MaybeMamas

03-24-2006, 06:25 PM

Updated to here

filmgirl7

03-26-2006, 06:57 AM

Hi Ladies. I really need an outlet for my frustration at the moment. First I should say I LOVE this thread. It's just what I need right now, and helps me feel less out of control about my family planning issues.

Everything is going so well in my life at the moment, I have no right to complain. DH and I have been married for less than three months, though it feels like we've already been married for years, since we've lived together since 2001. If things had gone the way we originally planned, we would have been pregnant already and due in the next few months.

Don't get me wrong, I know you can't really "control" these things, and sometimes it can take years to get pg. But I was hoping to be due in May 2006 (working it around my teaching schedule) and now it's almost April and we can't even TRY for awhile.

I have such mixed emotions and I need to get them out. There is a limit to how much DH wants to talk about this. On the one hand, I know that each month we wait to TTC, we will be more and more prepared, (mentally, emotionally, physcially, financially) but that doesn't make it any less difficult.

Since i'm planning to switch jobs before next school year, it REALLY doesn't make sense to get pg right now. However, I can't help feeling like...well, an "oops" wouldn't be the worst thing in the world. But then I feel like I'm not being a "team player" in my marriage. I just feel really conflicted.

Sometimes when I think about it, I realize how much of a physical strain being pg will put on me, and so I don't feel bad about putting it off. Also, when I consider how recently we actually got married, and how much effort we've been putting into making a good marriage (and it's working!) then I feel like "a little more time focused on us would be good!"

At the same time, though, my SIL is due to have a baby girl in about six weeks and i'm totally and completely jealous. I know it's ridiculous and I'm very happy with my life, I'm just frustrated. I thought for sure we'd be pg by the time SIL gave birth, but it just keeps getting pushed into the future more and more.

I'm nervous that DH will decide August/September is too soon to try, and then we'd have to wait another six months in order to avoid being due too close to the start of the new school year. ACK!!!

Ok, i'm done now. If you read this whole post, thanks for listening. I just have to remember that if having babies is the most important job i'm going to do, I owe it to them to spend enough time preparing for their arrival, right? Right. I just hear my biological clock going TICK TICK TICK in my ear!

Is anybody else feeling this way?

Sherb

03-26-2006, 08:41 AM

filmgirl - I'm not quite there but I definitely know a little of how you feel. I've panicked a couple of times when we thought that my DH would be temporarily out of work.

(((HUGS)))

I guess all I can say is it will all work out how it is suppossed to happen. If you are meant to get your little one before your DH is ready, there will be an oops and if you are meant to wait to make sure that you are really really ready- that's what will happen. However frustrating that will be. And if you are anything like me, patience is not a long suit.

My only suggestion is that you should tell your DH your fears about him moving your TTC date in a non-confrontational nice way. Then request that IF he is having 2nd thoughts and will not be willing to start TTC in August that he tell you by the 1st of July so that you will have time to mourn the temporary delay in a dream. I did this to my DH in February and he really appreciated the chance to back out with ground rules. I appreciated the fact that I would have some time to talk myself down before the start date. (But if he had backed out I think I would have been very upset and pouted (very mature I know) for a while.)

Please use this group to vent though. We can understand and support each other so well because we are going through the same thing.

honeygirl

03-26-2006, 09:38 AM

filmgirl7 - I hear your vent also. Although right now DH and I appear to be on the same page (crossing fingers since we're set to TTC in 1 more cycle), we haven't always been. For a while there I was secretly hoping for a "oops BFP" even though the timing would have been HORRIBLE (moving across the country, looking for a job while pregnant, not qualifying for FMLA, etc). I think what happens is that our hearts (ie biological clock) are ready before our minds (reality) are. And I think that b/c women in general tend to follow our hearts more, we're able to suspend the "reality" part longer than men are. ;)

Update: DH and I went shopping for a baby gift yesterday (a friend just had a baby boy). I discovered that my DH is incredibly PICKY. He didn't like most of the baby boy clothes, thought they were "girly", "ugly", etc. I knew that my DH was picky, but I was surprised that it extended to children's clothing. I asked if it was going to be this way when we have a baby and he said yes. Looks like we'll be doing ALL of the baby shopping together to make sure we get things we both like. Anyone else have a involved DH? :rolleyes:

We ended up getting 2 things for the baby (that I didn't like BTW, but it's not my baby so I don't care). We were shopping at Kohls, maybe other stores will have more stuff that we both like when it's for our child.

rosa727

03-26-2006, 02:05 PM

filmgirl: I'm not in your situation, but I just wanted to say that I read your post and I can somewhat understand you frustration. There were times when I thought we were going to start TTC and then something pushed it off. It happened about 3 times. But now that I am PG, I feel like it came so quickly! I think you have such a good attitude about just looking at the positive aspects of waiting, like how prepared you will be when it does happen. I think another positive will be just having more time to enjoy with your new DH. Good luck with everything - we are all here supporting you. Feel free to vent away!

pewee9196

03-27-2006, 04:29 AM

Congrats Rosa!

Flimgirl
Your post brought some clarity for me. I am the one that always changes the date for various reasons. If it helps you it never has anything to do with my DH or wanting children it is just wanting to get things done before our life changes so much.

QOTD- I wish I knew how long it would take us to conceive. I want a late Aug/Sep Baby but we said we would TTC in Aug of this year. It is all very silly but I am an instructor at the military academy. My summers are busy but also a lot of time off esp if I was pregnant. I want that time to get ready for the baby. I only get 6 weeks maternity leave and I don't want to have it over the summer and then wham right back into a the start of the semester. I also really want to run a race in October. I know all of this is so silly/trivial but running is very important to me. I know I will run after I have kids but I want to go out with a great race under my belt.

Wow that was a lot of babble.

Hope everyone had a great weekend.

kanga1622

03-27-2006, 05:51 AM

Filmgirl - I completely understand how you are feeling. This is the third TTC date that DH & I have set. The first one was January 2004 and was pushed back due to DH's lack of a job. Then we decided on January 2005; again it was pushed back due to DH's lack of a job. Finally in September of 2005 we began planning our delayed honeymoon and DH okayed TTC starting with that trip (March 2006). He is so much more sure this time that we can handle whatever happens. As hard as it was for me to keep putting things off, we are so much better financially now and DH is much more ready and less freaked this time around.

I understand trying to plan around the school calendar. I work for a state university but I work 12 months a year. I don't really want to miss the beginning of a semester because there is so much to do but the fall is SOOOOO busy in my department that it wouldn't make much sense for me to be out on maternity leave until at least the end of October. With that in mind, we started TTC so that we'd end up with a November due date and we're just continuing hoping that things end up well. DH works with the public school system so he gets the summers off. I keep thinking how great it would be to have an April baby so that I could stretch my leave to cover until DH is off for the summer and we wouldn't need daycare until August. But it would be so great also to have a May baby so that I have a little time to be home alone with the little one and then we could have a few weeks off as a family before I have to head back to work. I'm just trying to learn to let go because God will give us the right baby at the right time.

sea74

03-27-2006, 01:32 PM

honeygirlLooks like we'll be doing ALL of the baby shopping together to make sure we get things we both like. Anyone else have a involved DH?

HA! My DH is SO FREAKING PICKY! For our wedding, we had HUGE blowouts over the exact shades of red for the bridesmaid dresses. And when building our house, forget it. We disagreed on almost everything. Decorating/painting rooms is SO TOUGH for us. My DH is an art director/designer and to his defense, it schooled in color, detail, design, etc, but come on!

I told him that when it comes to the nursery, I’m NOT compromising. He can help when *I* ask him, but he doesn’t get a vote. He’s surprisingly okay with this but we’ll see what happens when the time comes.

LynzeyAHL

03-27-2006, 07:11 PM

I GRADUATED:
BFP: 3/18/06
Confirmed:3/22/06
Confirmed Doubled: 3/27/06
EDD: 11/20/2006 A little something to be thankful for.

:eek:

Good luck to the rest of you!
~*~babydust~*~

Sherb

03-27-2006, 07:52 PM

Congrats Lynzey!!!! I'll update your stats in just a sec.

stevesbabygirl

03-27-2006, 07:53 PM

Congrats Lynzey :D!

LynzeyAHL

03-27-2006, 07:55 PM

Congrats Lynzey :D!

Thanks its been a WILD emotional roller coaster week and a half but I couldn't be happier. :o

MaybeMamas

03-27-2006, 08:06 PM

Our newest Probably Mama is LynzeyAHL.
Congratulations!

We've had FOUR BFP's so far this month. :eek:

honeygirl

03-27-2006, 08:25 PM

Sherb - You are on it!! Thanks for being such a great threadmistress. :)

LynzeyAHL - Congratulations!!!

I can't believe that we've had 4 BFP's already. How exciting. Keep coming back in probably mamas to tell us how the 9 mo is going.

sea74 - So glad that I am not the only one with a picky DH. It was a bit of an adjustment for me when we first got our house also. I distinctly recall a arguement over placemats early in our marriage. Seriously. Placemats. At this point I've come to terms with his interest and appreciate having a shopping-buddy.

Sherb

03-27-2006, 08:54 PM

Sherb - You are on it!! Thanks for being such a great threadmistress. :)

honeygirl*blush* Why, thank you. but the real reason is that I've brought work home to do and am now avoiding it. :o You're not bad yourself! :D

So D-day is almost upon me. I have o'd this month and am waiting for AF to show up...then Operation Baby commences. Although the whole operation was almost scrapped today when I learned that my favorite college professor is planning an alumni trip to Vietnam next January. I went there on a trip with him in college. I can't wait to go back. If I get preggers next month, I would be due in January ~ so no trip for me. DH did say if I wasn't pregnant by Sept. we should just start trying again in Jan '07 so that we could go. That will be my silver lining if I'm having trouble.

Smittenk

03-27-2006, 10:38 PM

Congratulations Lynzey!!!!!!!!!!!

rosa727

03-28-2006, 05:34 AM

CONGRATULATIONS LYNZEY!!!! Have a happy, healthy 9 months :D

eli1126

03-28-2006, 08:48 AM

Congrats LynzeyAHL

Beth

Lanapoo

03-28-2006, 11:06 AM

Congratulations Lynzey!!!!!!!!!!!

How wonderful! All these BFP's are getting me so excited. I have only one more pack of BCP's left and just can't believe that ttc time came so soon.

Janey

03-28-2006, 11:30 AM

HOORAY for Lynzey! That's fantastic news. :D

filmgirl7

03-28-2006, 02:34 PM

Congratulations, Lynzey! I've been following your story, and I'm SO happy for you. All the best for an easy pregnancy!! Keep us posted!

LynzeyAHL

03-28-2006, 02:41 PM

Thanks everyone I'll be happy once I get the U.S. out of the way and I *SEE* everything looks ok.

You girls are great! I can't wait until you all get your turn :D

SQ2

03-28-2006, 05:43 PM

Congratulations, LynzeyAHL! What wonderful news! :D

j*east

03-29-2006, 05:12 AM

LynzeyAHL Congratulations! Best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy! :) :) :)

filmgirl7 I completely sympathize, b/c I'm a teacher too. Timing is a pain! Feel free to vent away, as others have said. We're all in the same boat...it's great that we can time our pregnancies, to some extent anyway, but it's hard that we have some control but not total control. At least it's hard for me to accept that! :)

DHA supplements Someone asked about these. I take fish oil and DHA supplements (combined, from Trader Joe's). 3 grams of fish oil or essential fatty acids (I forget what DHA stands for, but it's along those lines) daily has a ton of benefits for pretty much anyone, let alone PG/TTC women. From what I;ve read, it's good for your heart and arteries, cholesterol, eye health, allergies, headaches, joint lubrication, depression, etc. etc. For pregnancy, it helps brain and spine development in the fetus. It's especially important when PG because we can't eat as much fish due to mercury concerns, so DHA or fish oil or essential fatty acid supplements are key. Just another of the 9000 things we can do for better health. Oh, and here's a tip--mine are made from fish oil, and have a little fish aftertaste. Bleah. So...I take them at night, before bed, and thus no fish aftertaste. :)

Felicity

03-29-2006, 10:55 AM

Congrats LynzeyAHL!!!

Just stopping in to say hello. I'm on my second month of charting and things are looking MUCH better this month. Last month's cycle was super long and from some things I've read, might have been triphasic. Which could be good - might mean FF interpreted my O date wrong. I did a bad job recording CM so it was going on temps only. Recorded CM this month and it says I O'd on day 18! Whew! Much better than the day 35 it said last time. Now I just wait to see how long my LP is :)

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/db809

Janey

03-29-2006, 11:39 AM

DHA supplements Someone asked about these. I take fish oil and DHA supplements (combined, from Trader Joe's). 3 grams of fish oil or essential fatty acids (I forget what DHA stands for, but it's along those lines) daily has a ton of benefits for pretty much anyone, let alone PG/TTC women. From what I;ve read, it's good for your heart and arteries, cholesterol, eye health, allergies, headaches, joint lubrication, depression, etc. etc. For pregnancy, it helps brain and spine development in the fetus. It's especially important when PG because we can't eat as much fish due to mercury concerns, so DHA or fish oil or essential fatty acid supplements are key. Just another of the 9000 things we can do for better health. Oh, and here's a tip--mine are made from fish oil, and have a little fish aftertaste. Bleah. So...I take them at night, before bed, and thus no fish aftertaste. :)
That was me, who asked. This DHA Supplement sounds like some great stuff! I'll have to get some next time I'm at TJ's. For now, I'm off to make some salmon for lunch. ;)

Threadmistress, maybe add this information under "Nutritional Tricks" on the first page?

Felicity, I think FF is off a day in determining your O date. I think you Ovulated on March 27. Time will tell what are normal Pre-O temperatures for you, but 97.5 is definitely in the normal range of Pre-O.

Byrd's Boogie

03-29-2006, 01:10 PM

Hi Everyone!

Been awhile since I was in here. Congratulations to Rosa and Lynzey and H&H 9 months. It's so exciting to hear about all these BFP's!:D

LynzeyAHL

03-29-2006, 05:21 PM

Hi Everyone!

Been awhile since I was in here. Congratulations to Rosa and Lynzey and H&H 9 months. It's so exciting to hear about all these BFP's!:D

Is that your Yorkie? what a cutie!

ETA I meant to say THANK YOU for your well wishes. Seems I've been struck with being to tired to think today. haha Sorry. :-)

LadyD088

03-29-2006, 10:24 PM

Congrats Lynzey!! A H & H 9 months to you!!!

So nice to see a few BFP trickeling in!!! Let's hope it starts spreading around soon.

Update: We are on CD11 and just waiting to start BD'ing again soon.

Hope all is well. Oh, thanks for the Info on the DHA Suppliment, J*East. I don't eat fish at ALL so I think I need these. Heck, I can't even stand the smell of fish so...this sounds like a great option. TY!

Deb

rosa727

03-30-2006, 05:20 AM

Byrd's Boogie: Thanks! Feeling great so far!!

Byrd's Boogie

03-30-2006, 05:47 AM

Is that your Yorkie? what a cutie!

Yes, that is my Yorkie, and thank you, her name is Zoe.

ETA: Glad to hear it Rosa, I think we Xposted.

Felicity

03-30-2006, 06:38 AM

Thanks MrsHill! I think you're right - I O'd a bit earlier in that first cycle than FF is showing. Total sigh of relief from me, because that means my LP is much longer than the 7 days it showed for my first cycle. I think I just learned my first lesson about a) not stressing over charting and b) not relying completely on FF to interpret my cycle :)

I finally did my research on the DHA Expecta supplements my Doctor suggested. j*east has it all correct! I used to take 1000 mg of fish oil each day because omega–3 fatty acid is so important. From what I have gathered these DHA Expecta suppliments are basically the pregnancy safe way of getting the additional omega–3 fatty acid that is needed. So I'm just exchanging my 1000 mg fish oil for this Expecta suppliment.

Janey

03-30-2006, 07:25 AM

Thanks MrsHill! I think you're right - I O'd a bit earlier in that first cycle than FF is showing. Total sigh of relief from me, because that means my LP is much longer than the 7 days it showed for my first cycle. I think I just learned my first lesson about a) not stressing over charting and b) not relying completely on FF to interpret my cycle :)
You're welcome! :) Yes, definitely do not rely on FF to interpret your chart. In almost every chart I've peeked at over in the Charting-to-avoid thread, I think, "I wonder why FF chose that date for Ovulation??" and usually I disagree with whatever it is -- mostly giving an O when there shouldn't really be one according to FAM rules. I don't know if that's part of the software, or just that the charts I peek at tend to be wonky. :confused: But, better safe than sorry.

j*east

03-30-2006, 08:41 AM

From what I have gathered these DHA Expecta supplements are basically the pregnancy safe way of getting the additional omega–3 fatty acid that is needed. So I'm just exchanging my 1000 mg fish oil for this Expecta suppliment.

Now, I've wondered about this...one book I read, The Whole Pregnancy Handbook (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1592401112/ref=wl_it_dp/002-4527927-2119259?%5Fencoding=UTF8&colid=2P47EHLDTY1KF&coliid=I2H1FCB5UUIMZE&v=glance&n=283155), said to be sure Omega-3 supplements come from a source guaranteed to be free of mercury. But I don't know how to guarantee that? There's nothing on the bottle. Maybe I should switch to Expecta too? Felicity, what do you think?

honeygirl

03-30-2006, 08:46 AM

I have a baby-sighting story to tell. :)

Last night we had dinner with a old co-worker of my DH. His wife and new baby boy (2 months old next week) came as well. Now I barely know this woman, the last time I saw her was at our wedding (a few years back)! But, by the end of the dinner we were talking about her labor, epidurals, breastfeeding, etc. I found it funny. I guess new moms and wanna-be moms like to talk about these things.

DH was so good with the baby and freely told them that we're going to try to get one soon. :) He even told them in only 1 more month we'd be trying. So far he hasn't changed is mind about our starting date, even though I think he's a little freaked out at times.

The baby was so sweet, he slept most of the time and when he was awake he was making funny faces and cooing. Two months must be a great age for taking kids out to dinner. :)

Felicity

03-30-2006, 12:13 PM

j*east - Everything I could find also said to be certain your DHA source is guaranteed to be free of mercury. With those fish oil caplets you can buy at drugstores and health food stores, I also could not find anything guaranteeing they are free of mercury. I think switching to Expecta couldn't be a bad idea - especially if you are actively TTC. DH & I are starting in June, but my OB/GYN suggested I start taking pre-natals and this 3 months before we TTC so I can get used to them. I guess a lot of women get sick when they start taking pre-natals (which I could kind of see - I've felt a bit naseous a couple of times after taking them). But, now all of that being said - Expecta is only 200mg. I was taking 1000mg of fish oil. I wonder if it would be okay to take more than one a day?

honeygirl - Very sweet story about the baby and your DH! Good to know he is on board. My DH is kind of quiet about his feelings about things, but I have mentioned pulling the goalie in June and he just grins :D

Feeling some nursery lust today and receiving this email from babystyle! Aren't these fishes the cutest?
http://www.babystyle.com/images/site/nursery/ico_dreamNursery_032906.jpg

So, in a related topic...
QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?
I never used to, but I love to decorate and have been thinking about it more and more lately. I have had it in my head that a bright green room would be adorable - regardless of boy or girl. I'm not into pastels though - I like bright and fun!

Smittenk

03-30-2006, 12:42 PM

I love the fish theme Felicity!!

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

We do...actually we just purchased baby bedding. :) We found it for a great price so DH said we should get it now while it was cheap! Anyhoo we want to be surprised so we need a gender neutral nursery. I want it to be calm and peaceful. The bedding we bought is sage green french toile with accents of gingham. The colour "theme" will probably be sage green and cream.

kanga1622

03-30-2006, 12:49 PM

QoTD - We are doing a teddy bear theme since I've already got two teddy bear baby quilts cross-stitched and just waiting for the baby. Although we won't have a whole lot of space to decorate. We live in a rental unit and if we are blessed with a baby while we live here we will be sharing a bedroom. I've already rearranged the furniture in the room and have the basinet sitting in the spot where a baby will sleep and where the crib will eventually go (I wanted to be sure that it would fit and still leave room for the dog's crate). We're going to take the frugal/simple route and just share our sleeping space so DH can still have his den. Plus, it gives me an excuse to not go overboard with cutsy but not so practical stuff as we just won't have the space.

LadyD088

03-30-2006, 01:24 PM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?
*Yeah I have pretty much the theme and colors picked out. Blue and tan room with white accents with a Teddy Bear theme. Anyone who knows me knows I am NOT a pinky girl so if we are blessed with a girl, she will have a blue room!! LOL

Deb

Lanapoo

03-30-2006, 03:02 PM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

I also have never been a pinky type of gal and will be going with a blue room as well :)

stevesbabygirl

03-30-2006, 03:27 PM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

I sure do! I bought the Classic Pooh line from Target about a year ago :).
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B000CQECTC.16._SCLZZZZZZZ_SS384_.jpg

j*east

03-30-2006, 07:07 PM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC? No, haven't even thought about this! Except in a vague, "where would we put a crib?" kind of way. We have three bedrooms, which sounds like a lot, but one is too small for anything but a child's room or den (it's our "study" right now) and the other is our guest room with no space for anything but a bed. I don't want to give that up because we'll have visitors after the baby comes...but obviously the kid will need to sleep somewhere. DH is more into getting rid of the guest room. I'm hoping that when we do have a baby, or before actually, we'll be in a slightly bigger place. For some reason, those details (furnishings and clothes) aren't nearly as interesting to me right now as my health.

Felicity, I have a feeling we read all the same stuff! I actually ordered some Expecta online today b/c I'm almost out of fish oil anyway. I wondered that too, about taking more than one per day, but then I saw an ad in a baby magazine that claimed it was the equivalent of eating a large amount of tuna daily. Maybe since it's not fish oil, it's more concentrated? I'll let you know if I have any insights. :) The Whole Pregnancy handbook said that you can take even more fish oil than the supplement dose for particular conditions...I don't think it's something you can overdose on.

About prenatals...I felt a little queasy and backed up the first few weeks, but then I adjusted. No problem now (after 3+ months). Oh, and I love your fish nursery theme also! :)

SQ2

03-30-2006, 07:20 PM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

Nope. I wish. Seeing as how we live in a tiny apartment, I'm more concerned with if we can even fit a crib in our place, much less how we'll decorate the nonexistent nursery. (I've even considered JUST getting a Pack n' Play that would serve many functions.) I have had thoughts like "I wonder how we could decorate the baby's "corner" of the apartment?" LOL. Maybe our second baby will have its own room.

rosa727

03-31-2006, 05:06 AM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

Since I found out I was PG (a whole week ago), I have been thinking about this a lot. I don't think we are going to find out the gender ahead of time, so it will need to be gender-neutral. We are lucky that we have 4 big bedrooms in our house, and the baby will be getting the second biggest (after the master, which is ours). He/she will even have her own walk-in closet. So there is plenty of room to do a lot of fun things. I have some Curious George pictures I would like to frame and use in there, but I don't like things to be too "matchy", so I was thinking of a jungle theme with the Curious George prints incorporated. I may even paint a jungle mural on one wall. So I guess the colors would be tan and green, probably. My DH does some carpentry, and he really wants to build a few things for the baby's room, so maybe he can do a toy chest or shelves that I can paint to go with the theme.

Janey

03-31-2006, 08:29 AM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?
Yes, I do, but mostly that's due to home remodel stuff than baby stuff. The room the baby is going in is kind of a cool room - it has a lot of angles and nooks and crannies. The thing is - there's no flooring in that room, and the 80 year old window needs to be replaced. Because there's no flooring, we want to paint the room before we put the flooring in to avoid getting paint on the new floor, which led us to: "What are we going to paint the baby's room?" Which led us to our Farm Animal theme, and the bedding I bought & posted earlier in this thread. :)

Byrd's Boogie

03-31-2006, 01:25 PM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

I have an idea, and I've even gone so far as to request samples of the bedding that I'm interested in, just to check the colors out in person. They vary greatly depending on if we're having a boy or a girl, therefor I have not purchased anything yet. As far as the room goes, we have 3 bedrooms and the other 2 are taken, so that leaves 1 for baby.

pewee9196

04-01-2006, 03:22 AM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

Nope. I do know how I will lay out the furniture. I have a couple of ideas ie- I love polar bears so I thought it might be cute to do a polar bear room.

eli1126

04-01-2006, 07:22 AM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

I do have an Amazon Wish List and I did pick out a nursery set, but I may change my mind when the time actually comes. I have a lot of work to do in the room I want to be the nursery and I am hoping to get it started this summer, because with all the projects we have going on this summer, I don't think getting pg is likely. Or it may happen simply because we are focused on other things.

Beth

Sherb

04-01-2006, 07:50 AM

QOTD: Nursery decor Haven't picked anything out but I think we probably won't go that route. We're just not into the cutesy package stuff. Maybe we'll change our minds later.

AF showed up today. We're on to the TTC cycle now. I have longer cycles so it will be towards the end of the month before I O. I'm in a state of nervous excitement. We could get pregnant this month. :eek: I could be a mom in 9 months. :eek: :eek: It could take me a long time to get preggers. I could never get preggers. :eek:

Add this on top of us waiting for the phone to ring about the possibility of DH getting a new job and the whole house is in an heightened state of anxiety today.

stevesbabygirl

04-01-2006, 07:34 PM

How exciting! I'm entering my fertile phase right now, and at this time next month, we'll be TTC :D!

elissa

04-01-2006, 09:07 PM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC? We don't have nursery bedding picked out yet b/c we're going to wait and see if we can find out the sex of the baby and then decorate. I want the room to be very girly or boyish if possible. I do know where I'll probably buy the bedding from though!

stevesbabygirl

04-03-2006, 11:00 AM

brenda

04-03-2006, 12:00 PM

I had my pre-conception appointment today ! Got some prenatals, which have 1mg of folic acid, rather than the standard 400mcg that regular vitamins have. It's also a smaller pill, and has something in it to prevent me from getting sick off of them. They thought of everything!

Is it the blue pill - Vitafol-OB? Love these. I didn't gag on them when I was nauseated, they have a ton of folic acid so I didn't feel bad when I couldn't handle veggies, and they have no sweeteners, or common allergens.

Byrd's Boogie

04-03-2006, 12:15 PM

Vitofol-OB, Love them! I've been taking them for about 6 months now and I havent had any problems at all.

stevesbabygirl

04-03-2006, 03:00 PM

I have PreCare. They were super easy to swallow, though I do have this bit of a burning feeling at the bottom of my esophagus.

pugzy

04-03-2006, 03:35 PM

CC Name Pugzy
My age: 28, 29 on the 26th
DH age: 28
Married 5/22/04
TTC start date: August or September 2006
Other kids: Our little pug

I'm so excited there is actually a group I can join! I've been obsessing over this ttc thing for 2 months!

Felicity

04-03-2006, 03:39 PM

Oh my - brenda & Byrd's Boogie - Do you take your Vitofol-OB without food? My directions said to take them 1 hour before eating, or two hours before. I've been taking them for about 2 weeks now and have felt a bit naseous, but not too bad. Then this morning! Holy crap - I was SO close to throwing up (gagging like crazy) it wasn't even funny. Then, not to be gross, but I burped and the feeling went away. What time of day and with or without food are you taking these?

Thanks!

MaybeMamas

04-03-2006, 04:26 PM

Updated to here.

LadyD088

04-03-2006, 05:47 PM

Sherb - I just had to say Congrats!!! I felt the Same way you did last month, my first TTC month. I still feel a little like that thinking..OMG this month could be it. Right now I'm at THIS week could be it!! Its quite exciting, isn't it? So enjoy the excitement - keep living the high because once that 2WW hits, it will ALL go down hill. It was the WORST experience ever. I am a pretty patient person, I think and I just couldn't handle it!! LOL

Question: What is the difference between 1MG and 400MCG? The pill I currently am taking (which I take right after my lunch daily) has 800MCG. I am a person that does NOT eat ANY veggies and am hoping this will take care of that. Anyways, just wanted to see if I was not getting enough.

Deb

PS Welcome Pugzy!!

stevesbabygirl

04-03-2006, 06:01 PM

Deb, 1mg = 1000mcg. So the vitamin I'm taking has 2 1/2 times the amount of folic acid than a regular multivitamin. You're definitely getting more than enough, as the RDA is only 400mcg.

LadyD088

04-03-2006, 07:52 PM

TY Heather!!

D

stevesbabygirl

04-03-2006, 07:55 PM

No problem :D!

eli1126

04-04-2006, 07:52 AM

Good to know that there are easy to swallow pre-nats with the bigger dosage of folic acid! My ob/gyn wants me to be on at least 4 mg of folic acid due to a family history of spina bifida and I was hesitating because I didn't want to take pills that made me gag/sick everyday.

Beth

brenda

04-04-2006, 08:16 AM

Felicity - I take my vitamins with food. I'm not good about taking them at the same time every day, but I have an erratic schedule. I can't take regular vitamins on an empty stomach, so I have to take the PNVs with food - or at least a big honkin' glass of milk at the very least.

Smittenk

04-04-2006, 08:42 AM

My doctor just started me on pre natal vitamins today! I was so excited I actually bought a FitPregnancy Magazine.

OK ladies...tell me I'm not a crazy woman :rolleyes:

Janey

04-04-2006, 09:04 AM

I need to vent for a moment, and I know (or at least hope) you all will understand. :) But in case you don't want to read my whole vent, If someone could suggest a weight management program for pregnant and/or nursing mothers, that'd be great.

For the last two months, I have had long periods of EWCM. Like 8 days, which is about 2.5x the norm at my age. Unfortunately it is not because I am super duper fertile. Instead, it is because I have too much fat in my body, which produces too much estrogen, which produces EWCM, delays ovulation, and does all sorts of other fun stuff. It's really frustrating to me because I lost the weight in the first place so that I could conceive a child (I wasn't even married or had a boyfriend at the time -- I just knew in my heart it was coming). And that I cannot keep my weight under control so close to the time we are to TTC, is extraordinarily frustrating to me.

To lose the weight I did a program called HMR Weight Management (I talked about it in this thread (http://www.constantchatter.com/showthread.php?t=14516&)). Basically the Core Program is as follows. Eat at least: 3 shakes, 2 entrees, 5 cups of fruits/veggies a day... but no other food. Do 2,000 calories worth of Physical Activity, and Come To Class weekly. Lately I have been on the Maintenance program which is basically: eat at least 2 shakes or entrees & 5 cups fruits/veggies daily, do 2,000 calories of PA weekly, and Come to Class weekly. There are no restrictions on 'other food.' I have to keep records of everything I eat, and all exercise I do, whichever program I'm on.

HMR has been a good program. The weekly classes are a good reminder of what it is I'm doing with regards to my weight. They're on Mondays, and help me get through the week. I check in with my health educator again via email on Thursdays, and report my mid-week data to her. If I have some event or something, she gives me suggestions on how to manage that event with regards to my weight.

Every so often, they offer a thing called a "Blitz" class to their maintenance patients (or people who have been out of the program for a while and want to come back) who want a little weight loss kickstart. The Blitz class basically follows the Core program, but it's short-term. This blitz class will be six weeks. B and I decided to sign up for it a while back. We're both creeping up on the scale and want to get a handle on it. They require that you go to an Orientation before the class starts, and that's what we did last night.

Before the orientation, I asked Lisa the health educator, "So I'm not... yet... but I was wondering. What happens when I get pregnant? Are you going to kick me out?" She said, "Well, essentially, yes. They advise you not have the shakes because of the artificial sweeteners. What would happen is that we would just put your account on hold, and when you were finished nursing, etc., you could come back and pick up your classes where you left off."

Part of me is thinking: "Hooray! I don't have to do the HMR class when I'm pregnant! I don't have to go to those stupid classes and sit through discussions about why so-and-so didn't get their mid-week contact in, and how they are going to plan to do that this week! Fantastic!"

Then of course there's the other half of me that thinks: "Holy Crap - She's counting Breastfeeding, as well. I won't be able to go back for another five years!! I'm going to be without that support system for five years!!"

We signed up for the six-week Blitz class but not the three-month 'maintenance' package they offer for after the Blitz, because I might be pregnant before those three months are over. Let me tell you how strange it was to be making decisions for the next 4 months based on the idea that I might be pregnant in that time. :eek:

In any case. I thought, "Well, Weight Watchers doesn't have meal replacements. Maybe I could do Weight Watchers." But I did a little googling, and found that WW also kicks you out once you get pregnant.

So I thought, "Well, maybe I could go see a Nutritionist. Maybe I don't need to go weekly, but perhaps twice monthly. I just basically need someone to 'check in' and get suggestions and make sure I don't fall off the wagon." I looked up a few in my area and found that they all charge over $900 for a ten-session package. Yikes. I'm planning to find out if my insurance covers Nutritionists.

I realize you shouldn't be trying to lose weight once you get pregnant. And that's not what I want to do. But crimany, to pull that support out from under the pregnant woman during a time she will gain the most weight she'll gain in any nine months of her life, seems a little cruel and unusual to me.

I haven't really decided what to do yet. I'm not sure what my options are... but I know I'm going to need more support than just B. B's great, and he can be part of my support system, but he's not strong enough to be my whole support system. I need someone to be there for me who doesn't like looking at my pregnant glowing face across a table at a restaurant where someone cooks us high calorie food in large portions. :p

QueenofCA

04-04-2006, 09:48 AM

Hi all!

I'd love to join this thread! DH and I are kind of on the fence about TTC. I'll give more info but first here are our stats:

Me: Melinda, 25
DH: A., almost 31
Married: July 23, 2005
TTC Start Date: Who knows? :confused:
No other children

We both know that we definitely want kids. DH is in the music industry, and his career is far from stable. I want to be a SAHM, so we're waiting until we have a more secure income coming in on his end.

I find myself fantasizing about having a baby, but then I start envisioning the realities of it: no sleep, stress, no time to ourselves, it may be harder for DH to achieve the level of success that I know he can achieve, etc. That snaps me back into reality and when I think of those things, I do *not* want a baby.

Sigh. DH doesn't really think it is the right time. I know that if we were to have an "oops", we would embrace it 100% though. In some ways I feel too young and in other ways I feel as though we should have a baby soon if we want to have more than one.

So I guess the bottom line is that I'm pretty confused! That's why this thread caught my eye...I can't wait to go on this journey with other ladies who have been there or are currently in the same position as me :)

raven077

04-04-2006, 01:06 PM

Mrs. Hill, I can't give you much advice, unfortunately, but I do have a suggestion. Basically, yes, see if you can find a nutritionist that's covered under your insurance. If not, I would still bite the bullet and go to at least two sessions. One, to get a normal eating program for maintenance and perhaps the second one, once pregnant, for a woman who has the possibility of gestational diabetes (they have to watch their sugar intake and weight a lot more closely).

I would think your doctor can also help monitor your weight and make sure you're getting all of the nutrients you need as well.

This is what I plan on doing since my back is so bad and I cannot gain a ton of weight. I noticed that the pain was definitely worse when I was 20 lbs heavier, so I hope to lose a little more prior to becoming pregnant so that any weight I gain will still keep me slightly under where I was before, and not over. I had seen a nutritionist twice last summer and discussed this with her and she didn't think it was a bad idea.

Queen, welcome!

miaclear

04-04-2006, 04:02 PM

MrsHill....I don't have too much advise but just wanted to chime in that WW is a great program and they'll let you come back as a nursing mother, they have a seperate system for those ladies. Good luck!

Lanapoo

04-04-2006, 04:27 PM

Welcome Pugzy and QueenofCA!! :)

MrsHill - I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you :( If I couldn't find the motivation to lose 20 pounds in time for my Aruban vacation next week then I KNOW I wouldn't be any help to any one else :p Good for you for being determined to stick with your healthy habits during pregnancy though!

Smittenk - Congrats on the prenatals! Isn't each step you take towards TTC exciting?

So, DH and I leave for Aruba on Saturday night. What this means to me is that all I have to do is finish my pack of pills (two and a half more weeks of pills!) and then we'll be on our first cycle of TTC/Seeing What Happens. ACK:eek: So exciting and yet surreal at the same time...

mandersald

04-05-2006, 06:57 AM

hi ladies-
i know i haven't been around much, but i wanted to come by and say
i got a bpf on april 1!! due 12-12-06!!

no, it wasn't an april fool's day joke, but dh thought it was for a minute or so. :)

now just gotta figure out graduating from grad school and training for a marathon and we'll be all set. :)

good luck to all of you!!

rosa727

04-05-2006, 08:39 AM

Congratulations mandersald! I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

Now we just need to get someone to start up the December mommies thread so we can join!

pugzy

04-05-2006, 10:03 AM

Congratulations Mandersald! How exciting! Are you running a marathon while you are pregnant?! Oh my goodness! I thought running one not pregnant was hard enough! When is the marathon?

Lanapoo

04-05-2006, 11:13 AM

Congratulations Mandersald!! How exciting for you :)

mandersald

04-05-2006, 12:04 PM

rosa congrats to you too a little late. i was thinking the same thing about the december mommies thread. ;)

pugzy thanks! i was training for a marathon before getting my bfp. so the question really is will i keep training or run the half marathon or not run at all. its in june, so i would be 14 w by then. not sure, but it depends on how i feel.

lanapoo thanks! we're thrilled!!

kanga1622

04-05-2006, 12:19 PM

Congrats Mandersald!

Wow - we're quite a fast group when it comes to graduates.

Apparently DH has forgotten that we were talking about TTA this cycle to avoid a holiday baby. Guess that means I don't have to wait for May 1st to start thinking about baby stuff again. :p I just hope I do ovulate during my usual time frame and get pg so we'd at least have an early January baby and not a Christmas baby. I'd hate to spend Christmas Eve/Day in the hospital.

Felicity

04-05-2006, 12:24 PM

Congrats mandersald!!!

Welcome pugzy & QueenofCA!

brenda - Thanks for the response. After posting this question, Tuesday night I came down with a nasty stomach bug that entailed many a trip to the toilet and vomting. Now I'm thinking that was my problem - not the vitamin! I think I will start taking them with my breakfast though.

MrsHill - That is a huge bummer! I totally agree that it really sucks that they will just hang you out to dry with no support during the time you would need them most! I wonder if you could try to find a community support group somewhere that didn't have as many legal rules as the program you're involved in? Sounds like you know what you need to do, so you just need some support to keep you going. Or I do think the Nutritionist could be a good route. Any which way - good luck!

Lanapoo - Have fun on your trip!

kanga1622 - We are holding out to avoid a holiday baby too! I am one and have always hated it!

Nothing new and exciting going on here. Got back my results from my annual OB/Gyn visit and everything was normal. Trying to lose a few pounds before our June TTC date and am doing pretty well at it so far. That's all! Hope everyone is having a lovely day!

honeygirl

04-05-2006, 12:45 PM

Hello ladies, I'm in the middle of moving-land and thought I'd take a break to check in. I ended my job last friday and have been packing ever since! :( We load up the truck on friday and leave on saturday am (hopefully). It will take us a few days to get to Arizona (2000 miles), so I'll be without CC for a while. What will I do??? :D

Congrats Mandersald! Happy and Healthy 9 months to you! Remember to check back and let us know how things are going.

With all the BFP's flying around here I'd say this is the right thread for us that want to TTC this year!!! :) I'm hoping the baby dust doesn't settle before we start trying next month.

kanga1622 - Since you're TTC this cycle good luck to you!! We have been trying extra hard to TTA for the same holiday baby reason. But hey, a baby is a baby no matter when it arrives, right? :)

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC? - Great question and no, we don't have anything picked out. I did spend some time looking through a pottery barn kids catalogue the other day, cute things! I have NO IDEA what I want, I guess I'll have to start looking around. I have visted the nursery threads a couple times.

MrsHill - I'm sorry to hear about your PCOS and weight loss difficulties. It doesn't seem fair that you are working so hard without seeing results. Darn bodies, why do they fail on us sometimes? I hope that you find some good pregnancy-weight loss/exercise information.

Welcome QueenofCA - I'll add a new "who knows" catagory for your TTC start time. If there is a special month that you'd like to aim for let me/Sherb know.

Felicity - Glad your tests came out "normal". Good luck with the weight loss, wow only 2 months to go!!

pugzy

04-05-2006, 12:52 PM

We will be TTC for our first child around August or September, and ever since we set a timeframe, I've been obsessed with all things prenancy/ baby. It seems I will read anything I can get my hands on. I was thrilled when I found this thread, I couldn't believe there is actually a ttc group I can join. I hope I don't sound obnoxious, I was just wondering if you guys are just as crazy as I've become? :eek:

MaybeMamas

04-05-2006, 12:55 PM

Updated to here

Welcome Pugzy and QueenofCA!!!! Congrats mandersald!!! Happy and Heathy 9 months to you!

honeygirl

04-05-2006, 12:58 PM

pugzy - My TTC obsession comes and goes. When we first picked a TTC date I was very obsessed and looked at every "All Things Family" section and thread. I still do that, but now as the TTC date gets closer I'm not AS obsessed. I think researching and talking about it helps me to be prepared, and these threads tide me over till we actually start. KWIM? I was the same way with wedding planning, moving planning, trip planning, etc. So welcome and obsess away!!!! ;)

pugzy

04-05-2006, 01:08 PM

Thanks honeygirl, that makes me feel better. How exciting to start ttc next month! How long ago did you guys set that date?
I actually wasn't too bad obsessing about the wedding, and you would never know that we are planning to buy a house in July, it's the baby bug that has bitten me hard. I ordered the book about 90 days preparing for pregnancy (I forgot the exact title), so hopefully that will keep me distracted with actually giving me something do.

L&D Nurse

04-05-2006, 03:15 PM

Hi All,

I am finishing my second to last bcp pack this week (Seasonale, so I still have 3 more months) but it is very exciting to know it will be my last pack for a while! I have also been taking prenatal vites since January.

Mrs Hill, have you checked with the hospital where you will be delivering? They may have a weight mgt/nutrition program for pg moms. Most hospitals have a program for diabetics (gestational and Types 1 and 2) that helps with balanced meal planning and support. The one around here that I know about is called "Sweet Success," I'm not sure if that is just local or if other hospitals have the program as well. You might also check with a perinatologist in your area. They deal with high-risk pregnancies (including diabetics) more often that regular OBs. Good luck.

Hope everyone is well,
L&D Nurse

LynzeyAHL

04-05-2006, 04:15 PM

I'm back :(

I'll put my stats up later. Congrats to the recent grads.

QueenofCA

04-05-2006, 05:15 PM

QOTD: Do you have a nursery decor picked out for future DC?

Not really. I love to look though...the problem is that there are too many choices! DH and I both love the ocean, so maybe it will be an aquatic theme. I always spend time lingering over the boy decor--for some reason I have it in my head that we'll have a boy first.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AF was due for me today, but so far she's not here. I've been feeling weird--shooting pains in my left ovary region, really sore BB's, extremely emotional responses to everyday annoyances, etc. I took a test today though and it was BFN. I don't know whether to be relieved or sad. For a few minutes before I tested I thought about how cool it would be to tell all of DH's extended family at Easter dinner. Oh well. I suppose that only time will tell what is meant for us! :)

Janey

04-05-2006, 05:58 PM

Oh, dear Lynzey. I'm so sorry. I am glad to see you back in Maybe Mamas however -- as much support as you need, we're here to listen.

I'm so glad you all are here! You make me feel a lot stronger. :D

raven077 & miaclear, - After having a little time to digest and plan (oh boy do i seem to need that a lot when thinking about the process of becoming a mom!), I think I'm going to do a combination of your suggestions. Perhaps nutritionist during pregnancy, and WW after pregnancy. Miaclear, I didn't know that WW had a program for nursing mothers - I appreciate you saying so! That's good to know I have some support to look forward to. :)

Lanapoo & Felicity - thanks to you too. You all listening & empathizing helps more than you'd think. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one trying to lose weight before i gain it back during pregnancy. ;)

Honeygirl, thanks for your support, too. I was just wondering if you'd moved or not yet. GOOD LUCK, and we will see you on the other side! We'll keep the light on for ya. ;)

L&D Nurse, I have not checked with my hospital. I hadn't considered it because of my lack of familiarity with the hospital (My OB/GYN is not at the hospital I will deliver at -- he's at an affiliated clinic), but that's a great idea!! I did a little search on their website, and it seems that they do have nutritionists available to help during pregnancy (http://www.swedish.org/body.cfm?id=20&oTopID=20). Who knows if this is covered by insurance, but it's definitely something I'm going to press for when the time comes. Thank you for thinking of that!

Congratulations to Mandersald! Such happy news -- and on April Fools Day, too. That will be a story you'll remember forever. :D

Welcome Pugzy and QueenofCA! Hope you enjoy our big thread of craziness. :) Pugzy, no fair holding out on us -- post an amazon link to the book! Maybe the Threadmistresses will add it to the big list of info on the front page for future Maybe Mamas to check out.

Question: Does anybody know how often you have Dr's appointments when you're pregnant? Of course every pregnancy is different, but are appointments usually monthly, or semi-monthly or...?

honeygirl

04-05-2006, 08:01 PM

LynzeyAHL - I am so sorry. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way during this difficult time.

MrsHill- Thanks for the well wishes. DH just told me that the internet will be turned off tomorrow! So unless I can steal someone's signal I'll be off till next week.

pugzy- We chose the May timeframe (post move) about 6 months ago I think. There was a time when we first got married that neither one of us wanted children at all, so this has been a big change for both of us!! I decided that I wanted to TTC before DH, so had to wait for him to catch up. :) To be honest one of the main reasons we changed our minds is b/c I was having some gynocological issues and found out that TTC may be difficult for us. That reality showed both of us that we really do want children. It's funny how things work out sometimes.

kanga1622

04-06-2006, 05:56 AM

Pg Appts - My maternity coverage (one single copay and the rest covered 100% by insurance) pays for appts on the following schedule: 1 visit a month for the first 28 weeks, 2 visits a month from weeks 29-36, and one visit a week from 37 weeks to delivery. From what I've read and heard from moms, that seems to be about right for an average pregnancy. Of course, for high-risk or multiples moms they will go more often.

pugzy

04-06-2006, 06:51 AM

Here is the link for the book I ordered. It hasn't arrived yet, I hope it's good!

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/034544096X/ref=pd_kar_gw_2/102-7820347-1700155?%5Fencoding=UTF8&v=glance&n=283155

risa00

04-07-2006, 12:01 AM

I can't remember if I ever posted in this thread or not.. Too many entries to go back through and look. :)

Me: Lisa, 27
DH: Sean, Almost 34
Married: July 12, 2003
TTC Start Date: end of May (on cruise) or June
No other children

I went off of the BCP in February and still haven't had a period yet. It's been 39 days now. I know everyone is different their first cycle off of it, but I would like to have an idea when it's coming. I was hoping that 3 months off of it would regulate it, but I guess not. I also started taking Target prenatal vitamins at that time as well.

I just keep hearing from my parents 'When are you going to have a baby?' Not because they would be proud that we're parents but because they want a baby to love and play with. I tell them that there's plenty of babies that they know and they can play with those. :)

teacher_jessica

04-07-2006, 02:01 PM

Well, I just recently started looking on this website. I was kind of "directed" here through an LJ friend and am super excited that this site isn't blocked by my work (like every other site under the sun). :p

Anyways, this thread should be a perfect one for me to follow so I've subscribed!

Me: Jessica, 29
DH: Brad, 32
Married: July 23, 2005
TTC Start Date: Summer/Fall of this year
No other little ones. ;)

LadyD088

04-07-2006, 02:06 PM

Welcome Lisa and Jessica!!!

Lisa - We started our TTC on a Cruise. It was SO much fun. It was our first Cruise and hopefully not our last.

Jessica - My best friend's name is Jessica. However, she's not a teacher and she's not married to a Brad. LOL Enjoy the site as well!!

Good luck to both of you on your TTC journey!!

Deb

teacher_jessica

04-07-2006, 02:10 PM

OK, so I started my prenatals about a month or so ago. I've been taking the Target brand. Does anyone have experience with these? From looking at the label they seem to be just dandy but I wanted to be sure. I'm not planning on going in for a preconception visit at a doctor's office until late Spring.

Thanks!

kanga1622

04-07-2006, 02:28 PM

Jessica - just about any prenatals are fine. In fact, some of us just take our regular multivitamins with an extra folic acid supplement. That's what I've been doing for the past 2+ years and my doctor thinks that is just fine.

teacher_jessica

04-07-2006, 02:34 PM

Thanks Kanga! :D That makes me feel better about taking over the counter vitamins.

Sherb

04-07-2006, 07:58 PM

Updated to here

Welcome to Risa00 and teacher_jessica!

Sorry guys. Forgot to post this before logging out of the thread persona. Oops! :o

Sherb

04-07-2006, 07:59 PM

BTW - teacher_jessica - My gyno actually encouraged me to take the Target pre-natals.

elissa

04-07-2006, 09:45 PM

teacher_jessica, I did not know you were going to TTC so soon! This is one of the threads that I follow! Our little newly formed "wives club" is going to be all trying at the same time I think :D

risa00 Are you in the Seattle area? I think I remember trading emails with you during wedding planning, and then I recently just saw an evite for Junior League with the same name. Don't worry, I'm not stalking you, it is just I remember your unusual screen name and thinking that was your name :)

climberchic

04-08-2006, 01:24 PM

Me: Nat
Him: John
Married: 06.27.03
TTC: August
Babies: Choco lab

I've been lurking for a while, trying to psych myself up for this. I'm in medical school and my DH (I almost typed "husband"... been a while since I've been on the boards) is a PhD. We've got a great house, great dog, great life and we're trying to inject some more love into it! :D
Pleased to meet and chat with you all! :)

Smittenk

04-08-2006, 01:46 PM

Welcome Climberchic! Have you posted a pic of your choco lab in the Lab thread (in Pets)? Join us! I also have a chocolate lab named Barley.

climberchic

04-08-2006, 02:12 PM

Welcome Climberchic! Have you posted a pic of your choco lab in the Lab thread (in Pets)? Join us! I also have a chocolate lab named Barley.

Yes I have... and I remember you from my journal on WC! :D Thanks for the welcome sweetie. Barley is a cutie!

Let me add something to the group! I am sure that you all know these things, but it never hurts to reinforce preconception health with some hard evidence:
The Journal of Family Practice: An ounce of prevention: The evidence supporting periconception health care (http://www.jfponline.com/Pages.asp?AID=1636&UID=)

Annette

04-08-2006, 07:55 PM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?

We are planning to TTC this summer, but the other day I kinda freaked out a bit and told DH that I wasn't sure I was ready anymore. I'm kinda scared about becoming a parent because it's this whole unknown world and way out of my comfort zone. I'm also afraid of losing my identity and giving up things I enjoy. We have several outdoor hobbies (like rock climbing)that really aren't suitable for babies/toddlers and I am not ready to give those up yet. I still don't know what will happen with my job. Part of me wants to keep working, the other part wants to stay at home. I mentioned these things to DH, but he doesn't seem nearly as worried about becoming a parent as me nor is he grappling with the same issues that I am. I don't know if I want advice or more of a "Yeah, the same thing happened to me sort of thing." Thanks for listening.

LynzeyAHL

04-09-2006, 05:16 AM

risa00

04-09-2006, 04:32 PM

risa00 Are you in the Seattle area? I think I remember trading emails with you during wedding planning, and then I recently just saw an evite for Junior League with the same name. Don't worry, I'm not stalking you, it is just I remember your unusual screen name and thinking that was your name :)

Yes, that is me! :) I'm not in the Junior League invite, but I did plan my wedding in Seattle and was on the Knot and WC. How funny that you remember. So how is everything going with you since that was a few years ago? :)

elissa

04-09-2006, 09:00 PM

Risa--Things are great, we got married in October 2005 and are on our way TTC! We live in greater Seattle and I think from your wedding we ended up using Edit 1 Media (still don't have our video yet though!). I'm on LJ as elissab if you are ever over there. So weird too, someone in the Junior League, which I joined this year has the screen name risa on one of the evites I have for a volunteer event. Anyway, would love to keep in touch and good luck TTC!

kanga1622

04-10-2006, 05:49 AM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?

I haven't really gotten cold feet but I do keep second guessing myself. My latest freak outs (I am pretty anal retentive and OCDish) include rearranging the furniture to see if there would be room for a baby where we currently live, having DH do a major spring cleaning to help make room for a baby, and then continually asking DH if we are really meant to be parents. I mean, are we really the kind of people that will make good parents? Some days I don't have enough patience for our dog, how I am going to handle a child? DH just looks at me like I'm nuts and reminds me that we've wanted kids for years and I've read so many books and gathered a lot of information about parenting, discipline, etc. And really, I think the people in this world that realize how much work it takes to have a child and sometimes wonder if they can handle that are the people that make the best parents. So many of the parents that DH works with (he works with a preschool program for low income families) never thought about if they would be good parents or how to raise well adjusted kids; they just had kids and have been flying by the seat of their pants ever since.

Julss05

04-10-2006, 02:27 PM

(A little copy/paste, hope you don't mind but I didn't want to retype from LIW:o)
It's been forever since I stopped by here too because life has been crazy. We are 65% done with our kitchen remodel, just waiting on the countertop installers so we can start on the floor. DH got the job he wanted! If you remember he said we could TTC this summer if he got the job so I'm happy about that:). It's a big pay increase which will help a lot. Unfortuently I'm thinking of leaving my job soon, it's not what I thought it was. I've interviewed for other jobs but I don't have a lot of work experience in the field I'm trying to get into so it's hard. I've decided to use an employment agency because they've worked in the past to help get my foot in the door. We were hoping my new job would help financially especially since I'd have my own health insurance but I'm going to just get back on DH's. Basically our goal before TTC was to get the kitchen done, credit debt paid off, and gain stability in our careers. It's slowly coming along but not quite there. I just hope we can still start TTC this summer or at least sometime this year!

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached? Well with the way things have been going I'd be happy to just be able to start trying, cold feet hasn't set in yet;). I think the only thing that has me freaking is the fact that we have SO much crap we need to get rid of to make room for a baby like Kanga said. That and baby proofing everything.

LadyD088

04-10-2006, 02:37 PM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?
*I guess the only thing I've really questioned is are we financially ready. I know I am but my DH just spends like we've got nothing else going on. Makes it hard to save but I think once we're PG, he will start changing his tone. You know, its not real until its REAL type thing? That's him. I am just anxious to get a BFP this month!! LOL

Jazz

04-10-2006, 07:19 PM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?
Annette, I know exactly what you mean! For me, we both plan to keep working, and I'm worried about how we're going to adjust our schedules, etc. We definitely won't be able to keep going as we are just now with a little one thrown into the mix. I'm the type who likes everything figured out in advance, and DH just says "oh, it will all work out." Thanks, dear. I mean, on some level, I know it will work out somehow, but I'd like to have a better picture of how!

I know what you mean about giving up activities, too. My favorites are mnt. biking and snowboarding ... haven't really researched those, but I have a hunch they are out once I'm pregnant! ;)

E'sprincess

04-10-2006, 07:52 PM

New Lurker here...

CC Name: E's Princess
Me: Name, Jennifer, 28
DH: Name, Eric, 34
Married: December 30, 05
TTC start date: Sometime in July
Any other children: 2 Furbabies...
Miscellaneous Info: I can't wait to be a mommy.

stevesbabygirl

04-10-2006, 09:39 PM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?

I'm just nervous about giving up sleeping in every day, and having to deal with a screaming kid when I'm really not up for it.

Felicity

04-11-2006, 09:23 AM

LynzeyAHL - I'm so sorry about your news. I hope you are holding up okay.

Welcome risa00, teacher_jessica, climberchic, & E'sprincess!

pugzy - I've been a little pregnancy/baby obsessed lately too. I didn't used to be, but as our TTC date draws near I'm very into reading everything I can find, trying to interpret my chart, thinking about nursery furniture, nesting and lots of other things related to babies!

Julss05 - Sounds like you've been really busy - congrats on your DH's new job!

QOTD: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?
Not yet, but my TTC date is not here yet! Ask me that in June. So far though, if anything - we've moved the date to be sooner! I'm just very nervous that it won't be easy so I'm anxious to get started. Although stevesbabygirl - I totally agree with this!
I'm just nervous about giving up sleeping in every day, and having to deal with a screaming kid when I'm really not up for it.

Janey

04-11-2006, 09:41 AM

QOTD: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?
I don't think I'm getting cold feet... but I sort of stress about, "How would we do X with the baby." For example ... we went to a Mariner's game on Saturday night, and we had a discussion if/how we'd do Mariner's Game type activities after the baby comes. The idea of our lives changing SO MUCH sort of freaks me out... not enough to make me not want to TTC though. :)

Welcomes to risa00, teacher_jessica, climberchic, & E'sprincess! teacher_jessica, I think I remember you from the WC Washington section... you were the one to get married in Mount Vernon, right? I was kjh924 there, but didn't post too much.

Annette

04-11-2006, 04:34 PM

I'm just nervous about giving up sleeping in every day, and having to deal with a screaming kid when I'm really not up for it.

I love sleeping in on weekends. I will probably be so grumpy from being woken up at night.

la_Mer

04-11-2006, 06:48 PM

Re: Cold Feet

I haven't gotten cold feet per se but now that we have decided to go a little slower with the getting ready to TTC (ie staying in BCP for a few more months) I am a little just a little relieved when I start a new pack.

I am more concerned with how my DH will adjust to the changes, especially the sleeping in. I have learned not to disturb him before noon on Saturdays...so it should be interesting to see how he adjusts. I know he can get up early if he wants too, it's amazing how quickly he jumps out of bed early if it means he gets to go snowboarding :p.

Smittenk

04-11-2006, 11:10 PM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?

A little. As it has gotten closer I have questioned myself a little..Am I ready? Do I want to give up my life as I know it now? It is really about me being selfish :rolleyes: I am not always so sure I am ready to give up myself...my body...my husband to a little alien!!

Byrd's Boogie

04-12-2006, 04:00 AM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?

A little, but it's more the financial aspect of it. Daycare is soooo expensive in our area we're going to have to make some major adjustments. The getting less sleep I think I can handle, it's the money part that scares me.

raven077

04-12-2006, 05:45 AM

A little, but it's more the financial aspect of it. Daycare is soooo expensive in our area we're going to have to make some major adjustments. The getting less sleep I think I can handle, it's the money part that scares me.

Totally! Virginia daycare is outrageous! I have a friend with a toddler and a 1 year old in daycare in Tyson's and they're paying around 20k +! That's college money!

I'm hoping my FIL is really serious about retirement and watching our kids when they're born. Even if he would do it twice a week, that's two less days I have to pay for.

pride&prejudice

04-12-2006, 05:59 AM

OMG, I've been lurking since I posted, and come back today to see all the "cold feet" posts. I'm so glad that I'm not the only one that feels this way. Right now I feel like I was buggin and bugging DH to get off his medication so that we could start TTC, and now that he did, I'm kind of like "Do I really want to start now?" I feel like I'm going to miss out on something if I become a parent, and there are certain things (like sleeping in and lounging around) that I feel like I'm just going to completely loose. /rattle on.

Janey

04-12-2006, 10:19 AM

Good News: I have a friend named Jeanne who is a Nurse. She's agreed to be my nutrition nurse/support person during pregnancy. :) She said that meeting w/ the nutritionist at the Hospital is a good idea (thanks L&D Nurse!) to come up with a plan... and then she will help me stick to whatever plan we come up with throughout pregnancy. Yay! I feel much more confident, now!

filmgirl7

04-12-2006, 12:06 PM

Hey Ladies,
DH and I haven't started TTC yet, but I think something may have happened this month. I've been having cramping for about five days, my bb's have KILLED for the past three. I've been headachy, and despite sleeping 9+ hours each night on the weekend, I took a nap on sunday (unheard of, for me!) Because of all my symptoms I really expected AF Monday or Tuesday. Today is Wednesday and she hasn't come. If she DOES come today, that would make a 30 day cycle, which is long even for me. If she doesn't come today, well, I don't think she's coming.

I have ONE test.....I could wait and take it in the morning, which would pretty much assure that it's accurate (I think) or I could hold off as long as I can for now and take it in a couple of hours. If I'm more than 14 DPO, would it be right? I'd really rather know tonight, but I don't want to get a false reading.

We are definitely NOT ready, but whatever happens happens. We're scared!

When should I take it?

Sherb

04-12-2006, 12:12 PM

I would either hold off and test tomorrow morning or I would go ahead and test today and be prepared to test tomorrow if it is negative.

kanga1622

04-12-2006, 02:10 PM

/\ Yeah that!

Janey

04-12-2006, 04:59 PM

Yep, I would wait until first thing tomorrow morning. Your urine will be the most 'potent' then... so if you're positive, you'll have the best shot with testing at that time.

Good Luck, FilmGirl! I hope you get the answer you want! :D

filmgirl7

04-12-2006, 05:22 PM

So, I couldn't wait, and I did a test. I was able to "hold it" for two hours, so I figure it should have been accurate at 14 DPO. Anyway, it was negative.

I just can't figure out why i'm having such intense cramps for SO LONG, and not seeing AF. I know I'm not dehydrated, not particularly stressed, just feeling like I'm in PMS hell! I can't remember when it was EVER this bad in my LIFE!

If it doesn't come in the next 24 hours, I'll have to buy another test. :rolleyes: Will update soon....thanks for the feedback!

MaybeMamas

04-12-2006, 07:05 PM

Updated to here

Welcome Climberchic and E's princess

Please remember to put all updates in Red. It makes it easier to find them.

pewee9196

04-13-2006, 03:19 AM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?

Heck yes!! I am a big time runner and silly as it is that is what is bumming me out. Missing races for a least a year. Combine that with loss of sleep and flexibility scares the crap out of me! I go in phases so I just wait for the panic to subside!

I too am concerned about DH being ready. He spends his entire weekends either sleeping on playing guild wars. He has no idea that life as he knows it will be over. Although we talk I really think he is going to shoulder me with all the responsibility. His mother raised him and his sister w/o one bit of help from her husband. We talk about it but I still have that fear. He is great with my nieces and nephews but that is temporary.

I am really glad I am not the only one that is nervous. Makes me feel more normal! Thanks Ladies!

Annette

04-13-2006, 04:46 AM

Thanks all. I am really glad I am not the only one who's nervous about this life changing event.

SQ2

04-13-2006, 06:06 AM

Heck yes!! I am a big time runner and silly as it is that is what is bumming me out. Missing races for a least a year. Combine that with loss of sleep and flexibility scares the crap out of me! Me too, pewee! I run regularly and go nuts if I can't (i.e. I get very very bitchy). Running just makes me feel normal. It's a regular part of my day, like brushing my teeth. I will miss racing and speed workouts, although I know you can run when pregnant if you have been active before. I'm hoping to run as far into my pregnancy as I can. I've heard stories of runners who have done so right up until the day before they give birth! :eek: Although that probably won't be me. ;) I'm also scared of losing sleep too. I don't function well at all without a good night's sleep. I guess your body must learn to cope when you have a baby. You have to.

j*east

04-13-2006, 07:03 AM

Qotd: Has anyone gotten or had cold feet about TTC as your date approached?

YES. That's why I'm back in this thread. I dropped out b/c I thought I was getting too obsessed with TTC, but now I'm back b/c I stopped taking BCP and now I'm just really scared of getting PG! Really scared! Really!! SCARED!! :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :)

So...we are not really actively TTC this month, b/c it's just too soon, but I am definitely getting in touch with my fears. And this is after months of waiting, planning, prenatals, etc., the whole deal. I have to remember that I felt the same way before getting married, even though I loved my DH and knew that we should get married. This is probably the biggest change we will ever go through in life, so it's natural to be scared. At least that's what I tell myself. :)

LynzeyAHL

04-13-2006, 06:52 PM

Dr said to wait two full cycles after I stop bleeding from the m/c to start again. <snot> People obviously don't understand the power of the ticking clock it drowns out all other things..(I'm thinking captain hook and the croc here - tick tock tick tock) Two cycles. I'll be lucky if I make it one. hehehe :rolleyes:

LynzeyAHL

04-13-2006, 06:54 PM

I too am concerned about DH being ready. He spends his entire weekends either sleeping on playing guild wars. He has no idea that life as he knows it will be over. Although we talk I really think he is going to shoulder me with all the responsibility. His mother raised him and his sister w/o one bit of help from her husband. We talk about it but I still have that fear. He is great with my nieces and nephews but that is temporary.

Yes or when I have to nag him 50 times to take out the cat litter and feed the cats. Are you going to ignore the baby's needs b/c you're on the computer?!? I mean cats depend on him too. I swear it will be the rudest awakening for him. :eek:

Julss05

04-13-2006, 07:02 PM

Yeah daycare costs kind of scare me, we don't have any family in the area to help out only a few friends but I don't want to assume they will watch our kids just because they are sahm's. Luckily DH's schedule will have him home a few days during the week so we'll only need to budget for 2-3 days a week instead of 5. I guess I lied, I am scared, I started freaking out about pushing out another human out of my body. How huge is that! The new Dairy Queen commercial is great:), too bad it can't be like that in real life. DH and I had a magical moment the other night and I'm pretty sure he would have gone all the way without anything but I'm the one who actually pulled away to run for protection:(. I know what is wrong with me? We want this, I thought I would be ready in 2 months but I don't know...

Speaking of cats and kids, we let our two kittens out in the backyard because it was nice out and one of them jumped the fence. Our neighbors came to our door to tell us she escaped and all I could think of was how the hell are we supposed to be good parents if we can't even keep two cats in the backyard!

Good luck Lynzey!