Would you still use your top of the list name if your mother didn't like it?

[crazycaro]

I just found out Mum doesn't like the name that is at the top of our list for baby 2.

Would this sway your decision or would you stick with it?

I think I am leaning towards sticking with it, but it's not nice knowing someone so important doesn't like it!

[onomatopoeia]

I wouldn't care if my mom or anyone else didn't like the name. I think, no matter what the name is, you could probably find someone in your family or group of friends who don't like it.

During my 1st pregnancy, I made the mistake of telling people my name choices. Every name was vetoed by someone in our lives.

So, my best piece of advice is not to tell anyone the name until you 2 give birth. Once the baby is born, people are less likely to be negative about the name.

[Jen1098]

I would still use it. I've already gotten comments aobut possible name choices from people.
When my mom told my dad we were tossing around Braden he said "I hope they teach him how to fight":rolleyes:
Once the baby is here it won't matter what the name is.

[jh124]

We didn't tell anyone our name choices for this reason.

I would use whatever name you love. Your mom will love her grandchild no matter what!

[lml41981]

So, my best piece of advice is not to tell anyone the name until you 2 give birth. Once the baby is born, people are less likely to be negative about the name.
I agree with this. I would caution you not to refer to the baby by name between yourselves, though. Otherwise, you may slip and say the name to others. That happened with us. My parents respected the fact that we wanted one thing to announce when DD was here other than, "Well...she's here." MIL, on the other hand, was a f-ing bitch and told everybody the name. Even when we told her it was important that we have a surprise to announce since we caved to her pressure and shared the gender. That really hurts because we feel that she stole that joy and that parental right from us for the sake of her sick control game.

Next time, we will not share the name. That means keeping it from DD, too, because I know MIL will try to get DD to tell her the name. We might even keep the gender a secret next time around, too.

To answer your question, I absolutely would still use the name. It is amazing how a name can sound so sweet when you love the person it is attached to so much.

[vancouvergirl]

yes, use the name!!! trust yourself or you will have doubts. you will never worry 5 years down the line if your mom is unhappy about the name. the name will become your child and she will be fine. it's YOUR time.

[skittltoes]

When we were PG, we told everyone the final name- Braedan... NO ONE liked it in my family or his. It stung a little, but finally I came to be okay with it. They got their chance to name their kids, they don't get to name mine.

[1_mommy]

there is always going to be someone who doesn't like the name your picked. they will just have to get used to the name!
even your mom ;)

[betsyboop]

Not a mom, but this exact thing happened to my parents when I was born. They ended up switching my first and middle names- I was supposed to be Briana Elizabeth, but I am actually Elizabeth Briana. My grandmother thought Briana was too "weird". Funny that it's such a common name nowadays!

[dana b]

my mom didn't like our name. i threw it out there as a possibility early on and she didn't really respond to it. from then on, we told everyone that we hadn't decided yet and didn't share the name until she was born. we knew everyone would have something negative to say about our name and we didn't want that to influence our decision, so we kept it to ourselves ;)

[EJH]

MIL especially didn't like the name -- we still used it. We loved it and figured she'd get used to it. We actually took a lot of slack from family members about the name ... but hey, she's our kid! :D

Erin

[catmom]

I don't think I can answer without knowing what the name is ;).

[jengen]

When we first told my family that we liked the name Cole for our son, they ALL disliked it, made fun of it and begged me not to name him that. I even posted a thread similar to this in the pregnancy section, which I will try and find and bump up for you. In the end, we decided that was the name we liked and that was what we were going with and I let my family know it was upsetting to me that they were so vocal and critical about the name. That was about halfway through my pregnancy.
When I was about 32 weeks pregnant, we decided that was his name for sure and they never made fun of it again and admitted it grew on them. Now that he's here, they are so excited, they can care less what his name is. So, short story long :) , go with what you and your DH want and your Mom will likely get over it pretty quickly! :D

[Kanga]

No one liked our name either, except for our friends. Some people here on CC even voiced their opinion.:rolleyes: We still named her Daytona anyways. We got comments like "You'll change your mind." , "Are you sure that's your final pick", "I thought you would have chosen a girl's name." Once she was here, no one said a word. Now it's just become baby's name and no one thinks twice about it. Name your baby what you like. Your mom had a chance to name her kids, now it's your turn. To get her off your back, just tell them you haven't decided or that it will be a surprise. If I had gone with our second pick, I think I would have always regretted it and felt a little cheated.

[IUAlum]

:D Another one who isn't telling ANYONE the name for that exact reason!

[December27JJB]

I would use it. Its YOUR baby. :) I agree with some of the above posts, dont tell anyone the name until the baby is born. That way you can introduce them to the baby, "This is ......" because they will be oohhing and aaahhhing over the baby.

[Kates]

My Mom disliked the name we chose for DS, now she loves it. I made the mistake of telling people our choice of names way too early, I'll know better next time ;)

[maggieb]

We didn't share the names of our girls before they were born with anyone. It was hard for me b/c I have a hard time keeping things I'm excited about secret, but I did it.

Use the name...once that baby comes, your mom won't care about the name.

I don't think my mom was thrilled with our choice of name for Helena, but she loves it now and freely admits that she is definitely suited to the name Helena. We can't imagine her with any other name.

[BTB]

We didn't know the gender ahead of time, so we shared four names: the top two for a boy and for a girl. We chose to share because we wanted input; we didn't want to find out the name we bestowed happens to also be the name of an infamous serial murderer, or a mean old great-great-aunt no one ever liked, AFTER we'd stuck our kid with it.

Whether we'd have changed our minds based on that input depends on how attached we were to the name (if nothing else would make us both equally happy, I'd keep it) who objected to it (for my mom, I'd pay a lot more attention than to, say, my second cousin's dog's opinion) and how strongly and why they objected (might be a reason I didn't consider, and would want to.)

[kat]

As much as I like to think I'd be strong-willed enough to stick to my guns, I don't know whether I could do that if I knew my mother really hated the name.....which is why we decided to keep the names a secret until the babies are born. It is driving my 75-year-old-but-has-the-patience-of-a-2-year-old mother absolutely NUTS. Which is kinda fun. :D

I do agree that once your baby is born, your mom won't care about the name anymore. But we didn't want to live the nightmare my parents went through when they named me, where EVERY relative had a very strong opinion on what my name should be (and drove my parents nuts).

[DisneyGirl]

As much as I like to think I'd be strong-willed enough to stick to my guns, I don't know whether I could do that if I knew my mother really hated the name.....

Yeah there would be NOWAY I would name my baby a name my mom hated. ANyone else I would tell them to go pund salt casue i could careless what they thought but my mom...I truly think I would think of a different name.

However, i don't think you should change your name because your mom doesn't like it..Too bad for her.

[jen71]

I am going thru the same thing. I told my mom we liked Liam, & she went "oh no!" Gee thanks.

Told DH, & the other day he said "what about Aiden? Would your mom approve?":rolleyes:

I told him it is not up to her, but I do feel funny about it. DH really loves Liam, & I have told people, some like it, some don't. I have decided to just tell people we don't have one yet, which is not a lie!

[Alanna]

my mom didnt like the name my sister picked out for my nephew... she even threatened to call him baby X (lastname) instead of using it.. it took about 3 days for her to get over it... hes 11 now and i dont think she would ever admit to all the trouble she gave over the name.... because it suits him.

[alienhost]

We didn't tell anyone our name choices for this reason.

This is one reason why we choose not to tell people in advance. I figured once you have the baby and name it people won't make rude comments on how they don't like the name.