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michael'sbride
07-01-2005, 07:58 AM
I say....GOOD FOR HER!

July 1, 2005
War of Words
By BROOKE SHIELDS
London

I WAS hoping it wouldn't come to this, but after Tom Cruise's interview with Matt Lauer on the NBC show "Today" last week, I feel compelled to speak not just for myself but also for the hundreds of thousands of women who have suffered from postpartum depression. While Mr. Cruise says that Mr. Lauer and I do not "understand the history of psychiatry," I'm going to take a wild guess and say that Mr. Cruise has never suffered from postpartum depression.

Postpartum depression is caused by the hormonal shifts that occur after childbirth. During pregnancy, a woman's level of estrogen and progesterone greatly increases; then, in the first 24 hours after childbirth, the amount of these hormones rapidly drops to normal, nonpregnant levels. This change in hormone levels can lead to reactions that range from restlessness and irritability to feelings of sadness and hopelessness.

I never thought I would have postpartum depression. After two years of trying to conceive and several attempts at in vitro fertilization, I thought I would be overjoyed when my daughter, Rowan Francis, was born in the spring of 2003. But instead I felt completely overwhelmed. This baby was a stranger to me. I didn't know what to do with her. I didn't feel at all joyful. I attributed feelings of doom to simple fatigue and figured that they would eventually go away. But they didn't; in fact, they got worse.

I couldn't bear the sound of Rowan crying, and I dreaded the moments my husband would bring her to me. I wanted her to disappear. I wanted to disappear. At my lowest points, I thought of swallowing a bottle of pills or jumping out the window of my apartment.

I couldn't believe it when my doctor told me that I was suffering from postpartum depression and gave me a prescription for the antidepressant Paxil. I wasn't thrilled to be taking drugs. In fact, I prematurely stopped taking them and had a relapse that almost led me to drive my car into a wall with Rowan in the backseat. But the drugs, along with weekly therapy sessions, are what saved me - and my family.

Since writing about my experiences with the disease, I have been approached by many women who have told me their stories and thanked me for opening up about a topic that is often not discussed because of fear, shame or lack of support and information. Experts estimate that one in 10 women suffer, usually in silence, with this treatable disease. We are living in an era of so-called family values, yet because almost all of the postnatal focus is on the baby, mothers are overlooked and left behind to endure what can be very dark times.

And comments like those made by Tom Cruise are a disservice to mothers everywhere. To suggest that I was wrong to take drugs to deal with my depression, and that instead I should have taken vitamins and exercised shows an utter lack of understanding about postpartum depression and childbirth in general.

If any good can come of Mr. Cruise's ridiculous rant, let's hope that it gives much-needed attention to a serious disease. Perhaps now is the time to call on doctors, particularly obstetricians and pediatricians, to screen for postpartum depression. After all, during the first three months after childbirth, you see a pediatrician at least three times. While pediatricians are trained to take care of children, it would make sense for them to talk with new mothers, ask questions and inform them of the symptoms and treatment should they show signs of postpartum depression.

In a strange way, it was comforting to me when my obstetrician told me that my feelings of extreme despair and my suicidal thoughts were directly tied to a biochemical shift in my body. Once we admit that postpartum is a serious medical condition, then the treatment becomes more available and socially acceptable. With a doctor's care, I have since tapered off the medication, but without it, I wouldn't have become the loving parent I am today.

So, there you have it. It's not the history of psychiatry, but it is my history, personal and real.

Brooke Shields, the author of "Down Came the Rain: My Journey Through Postpartum Depression," isstarring in the musical "Chicago" in London.

LeslieR
07-01-2005, 08:24 AM
Wow, good for her. Thanks for posting that Melissa!

Franni
07-01-2005, 08:26 AM
BRAVO!!!!

katzmeow671
07-01-2005, 08:29 AM
BRAVO!!!!

I second that Franni!!!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE Brooke Shields and the more he speaks the more I'm hating Tom Cruise.

ButterflyJen
07-01-2005, 08:54 AM
Good for her!

Franni
07-01-2005, 09:00 AM
Tom Cruise was one of those people that didn't inspire an opinion in me. I neither liked nor disliked him till now. Now the more he talks, the more apparent the stupid.

I wanted to walk into a Scientology center and ask them to put a stop to him. He does the group a huge disservice by his crazy rantings.

DallasLady
07-01-2005, 09:25 AM
What a wonderful reply! Very clear, intellegent and level headed. I applaud her!

I studied neuro-biology in college and wrote my thesis on the hormones of reproduction and childbirth. Tom Cruises rant made me sick. I hate it when celebrities get high and mighty and think that simply because they are celebrities, they know what they are talking about.

Franni
07-01-2005, 09:27 AM
Tom Cruise was one of those people that didn't inspire an opinion in me. I neither liked nor disliked him till now. Now the more he talks, the more apparent the stupid.

I wanted to walk into a Scientology center and ask them to put a stop to him. He does the group a huge disservice by his crazy rantings.

AusMarchBride
07-03-2005, 10:14 PM
Very eloquent and heartfelt response by Brooke. Good for her, and I really wish someone would slap Tom Cruise around and get him to understand vitamins will not cure everything :rolleyes:

carolc
07-04-2005, 10:03 AM
That kicks butt!

diedra1027
07-04-2005, 10:28 AM
Good for her!

While pediatricians are trained to take care of children, it would make sense for them to talk with new mothers, ask questions and inform them of the symptoms and treatment should they show signs of postpartum depression.

I'm super thankful for my pediatrians office! They went over what I could expect to be feeling. At every appointment, they make sure that I'm OK with how things are progressing.

devil_kitty_1
07-04-2005, 06:28 PM
AWESOME reply!

I recently bought her book and plan to read it at the beach next week, before my daughter is born in Sept.

Kristeen
07-05-2005, 09:24 PM
Good for her. Tom Cruise's comment was extremely unfortunate on many levels. For whatever reason, women already feel bad enough about pp emotional shifts. I had mild baby blues after DS was born, but I was so ashamed of it that I never said anything to anyone. It makes me glad that some doctors obviously do mention the potential for sad feelings/ppd, and I think more should consider it. Even though I felt relatively educated about what to expect, in the heat of the moment I felt so bad about it that I couldn't even bring myself to start a thread on WC to get some support when I discovered the old one had disappeared. (and that's saying something!)

michael'sbride
07-06-2005, 09:53 AM
Bridget I read her book also and I'm really glad I did. I think you'll really like it. It brought back a lot of feelings and emotions that I forgot I had after my Son was born.

devil_kitty_1
07-06-2005, 09:56 AM
Good to know! I think many of us push those feelings back into the cobweb covered corners of our brains. I am hoping for a much more positive experience this time around. MANY things have changed since Hank was born, all for the better, and I'm hoping that makes me better "equipped" to handle everything.

Hedwig
07-07-2005, 06:01 PM
Although I think Tom Cruise was way over board and Brooke Shield's reply was indeed classy, I guess I just have a problem with a "celebrity" who has made a bit of money in her life, writing a book about something that happens to so many "regular" women yearly. Are we all to believe that knowing that even a "celebrity" can suffer from PPD, makes us feel better. I would rather read that other women who are like me, feel like that. Now she gets to make more money off of her "condition" and I like millions of others, who could not afford the care (doctors and meds...and help with the baby!) have to still figure out how to get through it.

michael'sbride
07-07-2005, 07:21 PM
Hedwig, I get what your saying I just take a different stance.

I don't necessarily have a problem with her profiting off of her PPD, mostly because celebrities write books about their lives every day. On principal and using that logic I should have to have a problem with entire non-fiction section of the book store.

I read Brooke's book and I really feel like her calling attention to this problem is going to do a lot for Mom's out there who are scared that people will see them as weak or as having mental problems. All I have ever seen publicized about PPD is the Susan Smith and Andrea Yates stories. Those types of stories do nothing to address the problems faced by every day women. I think Brooke's story actually forces people to pay attention and addresses the problem in a positive light. If somehow, the medical community (i.e. OB/GYN's or Pediatrician's) take's a minute to really talk to a new Mom about how she is dealing with her feelings and emotions then in the end someone may get help before they go to extremes.

polkadot
07-07-2005, 09:32 PM
All I have ever seen publicized about PPD is the Susan Smith and Andrea Yates stories. Those types of stories do nothing to address the problems faced by every day women. I think Brooke's story actually forces people to pay attention and addresses the problem in a positive light. If somehow, the medical community (i.e. OB/GYN's or Pediatrician's) take's a minute to really talk to a new Mom about how she is dealing with her feelings and emotions then in the end someone may get help before they go to extremes.

i was just thinking that...i have never had a baby but i have family member who suffered with PPD and it isnt fun and no one like to talk about it...if she makes money off of the book so be it and if she can make TC look like the idiot he is even better...at least someone out there will get the message to talk to your dr if you have these feeling or at least make the medical comm. open their eyes to the situation...jsut my non baby-making 2 cents.. :rolleyes:

michael'sbride
07-08-2005, 07:21 AM
I just wanted to add that I specifically read the book to prepare myself for what I *could* experience after the birth of my 2nd baby. I wanted to know that I would have frame of reference on which to ask for help. I won't lie and say i'm not scared to death about going through this when I only have a three month maternity leave and a two year old to deal with.

Hedwig
07-09-2005, 09:18 PM
Michael'sbride:

I can definately see your point as well, thanks for not lynching me because of my opinion!

michael'sbride
07-11-2005, 10:35 AM
;) I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion, even if it's not in line with mine.