Ladies in Waiting, Volume 2

[stevesbabygirl]

Who are the ladies in waiting? We are a group of ladies who want a baby, but for one reason or another, can't at this time. Our other thread was so popular, I ran out of room, so here we are in volume 2!

When adding information, please do so in the following format, and in the color red:
CC name
Me: name and age
DH: name and age
Married: date
TTC: future date

THE GRADUATES

Aletheia
Me: Aletheia, 28
DH: Mr. Ramsey, 28
Engaged: 3/26/04
Married: 8/7/04
TTC: graduated!

betsyboop
Betsy, 27
Dave, 29
Married: 10/18/03
TTC date: graduated!

Camdynlyn
Me: Summer, 22
DH: Steffie, 25
Engaged: 10/19/02
Married: 7/17/04
TTC: graduated!

Dansgirl
Me: Autumn, 26
DH: Dan, 31
Engaged: December, 2000
Married: September, 2001
TTC: graduated!

eli1126
Me: Beth
DH: Ed
Married: 6/12/04
TTC: graduated!

honeygirl
Me: Anne, late 20's
DH: Late 20's
Met, Engaged and Married in 2003 (busy year )
TTC: May 2006

kdotp
Me: Kari, 26
DH: Nate, 29
TTC: graduated!

Kristibell
Me: Kristine, age 27
DH: Brett, age 30
Engaged: December 21, 2001
Married: September 27, 2003
TTC: graduated!

LadyD088
Me: Deb, 29
DH: Ryan, 28
Dating Since: 10/24/92
Engaged: 10/24/02
Married: 5/8/05
TTC: graduated!

lawgirl4
Me: Ericka, 30
DH: Rob, 36
Engaged: 9/4/02
Married: 7/6/03 (almost 2 years!) - together since the mid 90s
TTC: graduated!

lilo
Me: Natasha, 30
DH: Jared, 33
Married: 10/15/02
TTC: graduated!

Magrat
Me: 26
DH: 25
Married: 3/1/2003
TTC: graduated!

MamaBear
Me: Sara, 32
DH: David, 34
Married: 5/31/03
DS: 2/6/04
TTC# 2: graduated!

maplekitty
Me: Sarah, 24, Inside technical sales
FH: Curt, 27, Network Admin
Engaged: November 12, 2204
Married: August 27, 2005 (sooooooon!)
TTC: graduated!

miaclear
Me: Amy 29
DF: Dirk 30
Engaged: Feb 19 2003
Married: Sept 18 2005
TTC: graduated!

mimieliza
Me: Michelle, 27
DH: Reid, 28
Married: August 9, 2003
TTC: graduated!

MrsHill
Me: MrsHill, age 32, SAHW
DH: B, age 40, Architect
Engaged: December 23, 2004
Married: September 24, 2005
TTC: June 2006

mrstim
Me: Amy - 20
DH: Tim - 24
Engaged - October 28, 2004
Married - February 4, 2005
TTC - graduated!

Sabriel
Me: Cherish, 24
DH: Jon, 23
Engaged: 12/24/03
Married: 5/22/05
TTC: graduated!

Sare79
Me: Sarah, age 25
FH: Joel, age 25
Engaged: September 29, 2004
Married: October 15, 2005
TTC: graduated!

SlvSpring
Me: Oona, 25
DH: Josh, 27
Engaged: June 20, 2004
Married: July 30, 2005
TTC: graduated!

Smittenk
Me: Alison (28)
DH: Mike (36)
Married: April 3rd, 2004
TTC #1: Spring/Summer 2006
Pets: Barley, born August 29th, 2005

Squee
Me: Steph 19
DF: John 21
Engaged: 29 Oct 04
Will beMarried: 7 Jan 06
TTC: graduated!

Sunshine
Me: Tamara, 26
DH: 29
Married: Aug 27,2005
TTC: graduated!

Tonysweetie
Me:Leslie, 21
DH: Tony, 22
Engaged: 12/31/03
Married: 3/26/05
TTC: BFP, happy graduation!

Twylla
Me: Twylla, 24
DH: Gordon, 27
Married: July 3, 2004
TTC: graduated!

THE LADIES

aam64
Me:Alicia, 24
DH: Mike, 27
Engaged: 11/23/03
Married: 6/4/04
TTC: Late 2006/Early 2007

abbylynn
Me: Abby (27)
DH: Darren (41)
DS: Brandon Ryan (7/22/03)
Married: 8/4/01
TTC #2: Late 2006?

adamseve
Me: Ivette, 27
DH: Adam, 28
Married: 06.19.04
TTC: Spring '07

allison
Me: Allison, 31
DH: Geoff, 30
Engaged: 11/1/4/02
Married: 5/24/03
TTC: I dunno, we like things the way they are right now

Al'sgirl
Me: Andrea, 33
DH: Al, 35
Engaged: December 12, 2003
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: 2007-2008

amyloo
Me: Amy
DH: Kyle
Married: 3/12/05
TTC: When we get outta this tiny one-seater duplex!

Annette
Me: Annette, 28
DH: Mike, 28
Married: 11/10/2001
TTC: Probably next summer.

artist
Me: Kristin, 25
DH: Allan, 27
Engaged: 12/01/02
Married: 07/05/03
TTC: No idea when. Perhaps not until 2008 or later.

Belm
Me: Brenna 27
DH: Chris 28
Married: April 26, 2003
TTC tenative date: Fall 2007

BerBer
Me: Karly 25
DH: Scot 29
Married: March 25, 2006!!!!(I know I Know...)
TTC tenative date... November 2006

bethnjim
Me: Beth-27
DH: Jim-25
Engaged-June 2001
Married-July 12, 2003
TTC-hopefully summer 2006

BlackMagicRose
Me: Christy (26)
FH: Elmar (30)
Met: April 24, 2005
Engaged: October 28, 2005
Moved in together: November 20, 2005
TTC: If all goes well...September 2008

BrownEyedGirl
Me: Bree 26
DH: Chad 30
Married: 11/29/03 (dating since 1996)
TTC: Me: Mid 2006, Dh: Late 2006

BryantRN
Me: Renee 32
DH: prefers to stay annon. 27
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: ASAP!! Just waiting on a job for him

buccm
Me: Mel
DH: Jared
Married: 09-06-03
TTC: fall 2006

candy corn
Me: Diane (26)
DH: TJ (26)
Married: 10/22/05
TTC: 2011

Can't_Wait
Me: Leslie
DH: Mike
Married: 05/24/03
TTC: 08/05

cat_loverpq
Me: Cortney
DH: Glenn
Engaged: 6/14/03
Married: 6/5/04
TTC: September 2005

Cinderz
Me: 33
DH: 32
Married: 6/7/03
TTC: Hopefully by the end of 2005

CindyM
Me: Cindy - 26
DH: Louis - 31
Married: January 17, 2004
TTC: Hopefully August 2006 - or when I get a new job!

Cohl
Me:Nicole-26
DH:Matt-28
Engaged-September 25, 1999
Married-October 19, 2002
DD-Bryelle Morgan-July 19, 2004
TTC-not soon enough for me-probably beginning of 2006

Constance
Me: 36
DH: 31
Engaged: 2002
Married: 2003
TTC: late 2006/2007

CuckooCat (rachelh on WC)
Rachel, 26
K, 27
Married: 6/23/01
TTC date: we agreed on Jan '06, but not soon enough at all!!!

curlyjr
Me:Jillian 27
DH: John 26
Married: 6/11/2005
TTC:October 2008

December27JJB
Me: Jessica 27
DH: Josh 28
DD: Parker 9 1/2 months
Married: 12/2003
TTC#2: Sept/Oct 2007

DelSol
Me: Dana, 31
DH: Scott, 37
Engaged: 5/10/03
Married: 11/19/04
TTC: August 2006

doublej
Me: J, 27, self-employed
DH: A, 25, self-employed
Married: Dec., 2002
TTC: No earthly idea!

dpangel33
Me: Danea, 22
DH: Patrick, 25
Married: 10-16-05
TTC: 2010

elissa
Me: Elissa, 29
DH: Chris, 31
Engaged: 2/19/04
Married: 10/01/05
TTC: Going off BCP March 2006, then probably joining the seeing what happens ladies!

filmgirl7
ME: Carrie, 27
FH: Jeremy, 32
Engaged: 5/31/03
Married: 1/7/06*
TTC: July, 2006 at the absolute latest!

flygirl
Me: Jen, 30
DH: Jeff, 35
Engaged: 5/23/01
Married: 2/22/03
TTC: This fall (hopefully!)

fsb2005
Me: 28
DH: 29
Engaged: November 2001
Married: June 14, 2003
TTC: April 2006

giry76
Me: Colleen, 29, A/R assistant for a plastics company
DH: Troy, 29, Survey Department manager
Married: September 25 2004
TTC: Fall 2006

Goddess Tiff
Me: Tiffany, 26
DH: Ted, 28
engaged: September 23, 2000
married: September 21, 2002
TTC: very late 2007 or sometime in 2008

granada
Me: 29
DH: 34
Married: 8/5/04
TTC: Possibly as early as Feb. 2006, but we'll see...

guinevere
Me: 28
DH: 32
Married: 3/27/04
TTC: April 2006

Harmony96
Me: Andrea 27
DH: Timothy 25
Married: married in April of '04
TTC: TTA until late January '06

j2478
Me: Jen, 27
DH: 27
TTC: Spring/summer 2006

j.d.l.102205
Me: 27
DH: 27
Married: 10/22/05
TTC: Late 2006 or early 2006

jellybeany
Me: Jolene, 23
DH: Larry, 25
Married: May 14, 2005
TTC: hopefully early 2007

Jen&Dan
Me: Jen, 26
DH: Dan, 26
Engaged: 12/20/98
Married: 3/30/02
TTC: In about 1 1/2 years

Jeneca128
Me: Karen, 23
DH: Dan, 23
Engaged: December 21, 2003
Married: March 26, 2005
TTC: 2010-2011. (wish it was now!)

jenjunum
Me: Jennifer, 25
DH: Scott, 25
engaged: September, 2002
married: July 27, 2003
TTC: 2008 or later

jessied1025
Me: Jessie, 27
DH: Jim, 28
Engaged: July 13, 2002
Married October 25, 2003
TTC: October 2005

JLRenheos
Me: 29
DH: 33
Engaged: December 3, 1999
Married: April 21, 2001
TTC: This Fall 2006

jnettie
Me: Jeanette - 27
DH: Cory - 27
Married: June 25, 2005
TTC: 2007ish

Julss05
Me: Julie (28)
DH: Mike (30)
Married: 6/15/02
TTC #1: 2006

Katyanne
Me: Katie, 27, auth coordinator for insurance company
DH: David, 29, Managing Editor for a sports marketing firm
Married: May 21, 2004
TTC: Hopefully sometime this winter.

KKay
Me: Kris (33)
DH: E (33)
DD: Alexis (3/3/04)
Married: 8/31/02
TTC #2: Fall 2005

kris97
Me: Kristin, 30
DH: Ryan, 30
Married: 5/2/4
TTC: sometime in '06

KRM&TPS
Me - Kim -26
DH- Patrick- 23
Engaged- May 28, 2004
Married- January 22, 2005
TTC- This is going to sound very far off but late 2006 or even 2007

Lanapoo
Me(Lana):28
DH(Dean):32
Married: 7/15/05
TTC: Summer 2006

laurenc
me: Lauren, 26
DH: Tom, 27
Engaged: 6/23/01
Married: 6/14/03
TTC: Late 2006/Early 2007

lawyerlee
Me: Diana, 27, attorney for Kansas Legislature
DH: Cliff, 29, college student
Married: November 30, 2002
TTC or adopt: with next 2-3 years (hopefully)

Leigh0918
Me: Leigh, 29
DH: Michael, 33
Married: 9/18/03
TTC: whenever the mood strikes - no official plans

LeslieandPaul
Me:Leslie, 21, receptionist
DH:Paul, 28, technologist/commissioner
Engaged:June 22, 2004
married:August 20, 2005
TTC: June 2006 hopefully (after my sister's wedding). TTA until then

Lil_Mrs_0702
Me: April, 21
DH: Shannon, 24
Married: July 2005
TTC: ???

Little Angel '77
Me: Alicia (29)
DH: Seth (28)
Married: 8/21/04
TTC: ?

[stevesbabygirl]

mamatallcott
me: Holly 29 (30 in December)
dh : J 31
dd#1 Sophia 7/10/02
dd#2 Megan 1/27/05
ttc#3 around 7/08 or 7/09
and #4 2 years after number 3 then that's it finito no more babies..

melody
Me: Melody, 27
DH: David, 27
Married: April 24, 2004
TTC: early 2008

MES in Chicago
Me: Melissa, 30 but 31 in June
DH: Paul, 38
Married: 10/23/04
TTC: March '07

mierin
Me: Meg (26)
DH: Allastair (25)
Married: 10/4/03
TTC: Probably late 2007

MoTray36
Me:Tracy, 25
DH: Keith, 26
Engaged: 7/4/03
Married: 6/25/04
TTC: July 2006

MrsSmith
Me:25
DH: 25
Married: 3/15/03
TTC: Nov/Dec 2005

MrsWilson
Me: Jan, 26
DH: Michael, 28
Married: October 10, 2004
TTC: September 2006

numberlady
me:Kelby, 31, CPA
FH: Steven, 43, Network Admin
Married: May 19, 2002
TTC: May 2006

Peaches
Me: Pearl, age 26, 27 in two weeks
DH: Matt, age 25
Engaged: July 19, 2002
Married: December 29, 2003
TTC: Late 2006?

PG-rated
Me: Angela (29)
DH: Matt (28)
Married: 04/02/05
TTC: Probably late 2006

polkadot
Me: Lauren, 26
DH: Brian, 26
married: nov. 20, 2004
TTC: hopefully Aug/Sept. '05 more likely Aug/Sept 06

PookiePrincess
Me: Kristi - 26
DH: Sean - 29
Married: Oct. 29, 2005
TTC: 2007?

portinastorm
Me: 31
DH:30
Married: Fall 2003
TTC: February 2007

Purplevega
Me: Kim 25
DH: Bill 31
DS: Ashton 9/04
Married: 11/2003
TTC: 12/06

raven077
Me: Karen – 28
DH: Kyle – 29
Married: October 29, 2005
TTC: November 2006

Reebs
Me: Rebecca (or Becky), 27
DH: Ken, 28
Dating Since: 1/24/98
Engaged: 12/24/01
Married: 10/4/03
TTC: Mid-2008

Reenie
Me: Maureen, mid-twenties, Chicago Public Schools high school English teacher
DH: Eric, mid-twenties, mathematics education major (college student)
Officially a couple: November 13, 1999
Engaged: January 9, 2004
Married: November 13, 2004
TTC: spring-summer 2008 (so, so long!)

risa00
Me:Lisa-27
DH:Sean-33
Engaged-August 4, 2002
Married-July 12, 2003
TTC-May 2006

RobynScott
Me: Robyn, 28
DH: Scott, 30
Engaged: 2/28/03
Married: 8/29/04 (10 months today ) - together since 7/2000
TTC: Possibly / probably next spring/summer (so mid-2006) - unless I get a new job - in which case, possibly waiting until 2007.

Rosa727
ME: Rose-Anne, 27
DH: Eric, 27
together since: November 6, 1998
Engaged: November 5, 2000
Married: July 27, 2002
TTC: November 2005 or a bit after - we are not totally sure, but we want to have our first baby when we are 28

Ryansgirl
Me: Beej, almost 25
DH: Ryan, 28
Married: Oct. 6, 2006
TTC: Oct 2008

Sab
Me: Sabrina, 20
DH: Nate, 25
Married: August 6, 2005
TTC: who knows... sigh

sarahh
Me: Sarah (28)
DH: Jeff (27)
Engaged: 7/21/00
Married: 9/1/02
TTC: September/October 2005

sfaugustbride
Me: C, age 30, Accounting
DH: B, age 34, Plumber
Engaged: sometime October 2002
Married: June 19, 2004
TTC: Dec 2005/Jan 2006

Sha259
Me: Shamena, 23
DH: Avi, 22
Engaged: 06/19/02
Married: 7/20/04
TTC: not until 2008 at the earliest

Silverdecember
Me:Amanda-25
DH:Ryan-21
Engaged-February 21, 2002
Married-May 24, 2003
TTC-mid/late 2006

southerner
Name: I, 29
Husband: M, 31
Engaged: 11-11-01
Married: 8-16-03
TTC: Early-mid 2006

SQ2
Me: Rachel, 27
DH: Nathan, 26 (27 in August)
Engaged: 2/9/03
Married: 8/15/04
TTC: Fall 2006, Spring 2007, or Spring 2008???

stevesbabygirl
Me: Heather, age 26
DH: Steve, age 28
Engaged: October 17, 2002
Married: August 31, 2003
TTC: July 2006

sublime311
Me: Kelli, 36
DH: James, 32
Engaged: March 13, 2004
Married: October 16, 2004
TTC: Since January 2004!!! I'm ready already!!

sunchaser26
Me: Carrie
DH: Tom
Married: June 14, 2003
TTC: August 2005

SwiftyOWB
Name: Kelly, 27
DH: Joe, 31
Married: 11/6/04
TTC? 11/07ish

tashaw6
Me: Natasha, 27
DH: Neil, 26
Married: 25th of September 2004
TTC: When we settle somewhere!

tbell
Name: Tacy, 30
Husband: Tim, 34
Engaged: 1/1/04
Married: 5/21/05
TTC: hopefully around Aug 2006

tippy
Me: Tiffany, 24
DH: Dennis, 23
Engaged: 08.15.02
Married: 06.26.04
TTC: Maybe 2008ish, but who really knows

TracieB
Me: Tracie, 24
DH: Token, 31
Married: May 15, 2005
TTC: No specific one... we're targeting 2/3 years, so 2008/2009

TriSigmaNC
Name: Tracie, 31
DH: Eric, 27 almost 28
Married: 10/4/03
TTC? Hmmm...maybe anywhere around 5/06-5/07 , he's in school full time, so we'll see

[Sunshine]

Subscribing :D

~Also, my updated info!~

Sunshine
Me: Tamara, 26
DH: 29
Married: Aug 27,2005
TTC: June 2006

[SQ2]

Hi, Heather! Here's my updated info:

SQ2
Me: Rachel, 27
DH: 27
Engaged: 2/9/03
Married: 8/15/04
TTC: Fall 2006

[LeslieandPaul]

Threadmistress can you please update my info?

Me:Leslie, 21, receptionist
DH:Paul, 28, technologist/commissioner
Engaged:June 22, 2004
married:August 20, 2005
TTC: June 2006 hopefully (after my sister's wedding). TTA until then

Thanks

[MrsWilson]

I've been lurking and since we've finally decided when we want to TTC, I guess it's a good time to join!

CC name: MrsWilson
Me: Jan, 26
DH: Michael, 28
Married: October 10, 2004
TTC: September 2006

[southerner]

subscribing. thanks for being a great thread mistress, heather :D

[MrsWilson]

Catching up...
QOTD: What are your top names right now?
I love Brennan for a boy, but we haven't really discussed any names.
QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Buy a house (which will happen after his truck is paid)
QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Yes! Both of our families are wonderful and we know they will just be so happy for us.
QOTD: What is some of your favorite baby gear right now?
I try to stay away from the baby stuff so I don't get more excited and it take over my life.
QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind?
He says he is ready to be a father, but our finances are not. We both agree it is best for us to wait.
QOTD: What do you dread most about being a parent?
I don't dread anything right now.
QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?
We got our beagle with having kids in mind. We wanted to be sure we got a dog that loves kids. He is around them all the time, so we know mainly how he will react. He has never been around an infant, so that will be new. And he will have to adjust to less attention.
QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
2--we have both always agreed to this
QOTD: do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?
Public school. DH teaches in the public school, so he can watch after them.
QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
I hope to! I went to camp for 2-3 weeks every summer and loved it!
QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can!
How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
I don't have a favorite drink. My DH has no problem showing affection. It is common in his family and I love that.
QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?
We do this mainly when a parent is letting their kid scream in a resturant or something. Usually we just say, "I hope our kid doesn't do that!"
QOTD: Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?
I don't know who will be the bad guy out of the two of us. I'm not worried about it. We have always worked together and supported each other. I don't expect that to change.
QOTD: Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?
Nope. We agree that we need to be in our own house and out of our 1 bedroom apartment before having a child.
QOTD: why are you waiting?
To get a house.
QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
If everything had been tried that I felt I wanted to try, we'd probably adopt.
QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby?
No!
QOTD: How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?
He wants to tell right away, but I'd like to wait until the 1st trimester is over. Neither of us a good at holding secrets from our parents, so we'll probably tell them soon after we find out.
QOTD: Even though you are not yet trying, do you secretly (or not so secretly) fear that you will have fertility problems?
Yes, but I try to keep thinking positively
QOTD: When you TTC, will you just see what happens for awhile, or will you start charting right away? Anyone charting now?
We will be seeing what happens.
QOTD: What will you do work-wise when you have a baby? Stay at home? Continue to work? Telecommute? Etc.?
We will both continue to work. My mom is a nanny, so hopefully she will be able to take care of our little one during the day. My schedule is flexable right now, but I don't know what it will be like at that time.
QOTD: Do you think talking about waiting, TTC, etc makes you more anxious/ready to have a child? If so, is this a good or a bad thing?
I'm trying not to be anxious, but it is hard to wait on TTC when you know you are ready and just waiting for finances.
QOTD: What's the most recent purchase you've made?
Christmas Cards today
QQTD: Who is more ready for TTC in your household you or DH? Are you concerned/worried about being able to balance your work and family?
I think we are equally ready. I'm not worried about balancing work and family. It will all work out, somehow.
QOTD: Does anyone else feel like they don't fit in anywhere?
Not really. My older sister has been married 5 years and has no kids. My twin isn't married. My best friend has been married 18 months and is expecting her first child in May. So, I fell like I am where I belong.
QOTD: Does anyone have a job that either encourages or hinders your desire to have children? Or if not hinder, perhaps gives you new concerns/fears?
My boss was aware when he hired me that I was a newlywed and would one day have kids. He has no problem with that.
QOTD: What do you do for a living?
I am an RN working in an physician office giving infusion therapy to mostly migraine patients. I love it!
QOTD: Are you "planning" what gender you will have first/Do you prefer a certain gender first?
No plans, just healty, please.
QOTD: Anyone get annoying comments on waiting to have kids recently?
Luckily, no. Our families are very supportive in knowing we want some "us" time before the kids come.
QOTD: Are you avoiding fish that is known to be high in mercury levels??? Like tuna, shark, swordfish...
I don't eat this much anyway.
QOTD: Are you taking any vitamins. prenatals, etc.?
A daily multivitamin
QOTD: Do you worry your parents/in-laws won't be supportive of your birth/childcare choices?
Nope
QOTD: What do you all think about the diaperfreebaby business? Check out: http://diaperfreebaby.org/
Are they crazy?
QOTD: How do you think your parents/inlaws will react to the pregnancy news?
If I get pregnant before my older sister, it will be the first grandchild for my parents. They already completely spoil our dog, so I can only imagine what they will do with a human child! Plus, both my sisters live nealy 3 hours away, so our children will be the ones they see the most. My IL's are amazing and will be thrilled. I know my SIL is really looking forward to it. It will be her first niece/nephew by blood.
QOTD: what vehicle do you plan to use when you become a mommy?
I would love a Toyota Avalon!
QOTD: What have you already purchased for your future child/ren?
Nothing really.
QOTD: Do you plan on delivering natural/with pain meds or via C-section? What influences your choice?
Medication, please! I won't plan a C-section, but if it has to happen, I won't say no.
QOTD: Who do you want in the delivery room with you, if you don't want to have a C-section?
My DH only! I have told him this for years!
QOTD: What form of birth control do you use? Do you like it?
I am on the Ortho Evra patch and love it. I've been on it 3 years and had no problems!
QOTD: What age do you consider to be too young to parent a child? Why?
Anyone who isn't mature enough to take care of themselves, much less another person! Age doesn't really matter, unless they are extremely young (early-mid teens) There are pleanty of people in the world who are "old" enough but not mature enough.
QOTD: For those of you who are waiting because of "external" issues (money, travel, house, etc.), what did it mean for you to feel "ready"? And for those of you who don't feel "ready" yet, how do you think it will feel when you are?
We dated for 6 years before getting married. We knew we wanted at least one year together before kids. Around our first anniversary we realized it wasn't scary or weird anymore to think of having kids of our own. That's when we made more concrete goals for what we want to happen before we TTC. (We new we wanted a house first, but we set goals as to when we want that to happen.)
QOTD: How prepared financially will you really be when you start TTC? Whether you are going to use daycare or have a stay at home parent, you're looking at bringing in $1000+ less a month (or significantly more). Do you have so much surplus in your budgets now that you can afford that hit?
We will only have DH's student loan left when we TTC. My FIL works for a furniture company, so that will help us. My mom is a nanny, and expects to help us with childcare. We are comfortable now and with less debt, we should be fine with the added expense. Oh, and my dad is a CPA so he is great for us to ask about money stuff.
QOTD: If you were to have a kick-off TTC place (or time/holiday) where/when would it be?
Actually, we will TTC when school starts. We would love a summer baby, if it works out. But the worst time to have a child for us would be at the begining of the school year when football season starts. (DH is a band director, so that starts marching season as well.)
QOTD: What will you do for maternity clothes and how much are you willing to spend on them?
I don't spend a lot on my clothes now, so I don't expect to change for maternity clothes.
QOTD: Do you have any friends who will be TTC when you are?
My older sister wants to start TTC in spring 2007 and my cousin is talking about TTCing her 4th child around the same time as us.


Wow! That's a lot of writing! Hope I got them all!

[Tonysweetie]

Updated Info

Tonysweetie
Me:Leslie, 21
DH: Tony, 22
Engaged: 12/31/03
Married: 3/26/05
TTC: 2006-2008

[honeygirl]

Checking into the new thread.

Welcome new ladies!

[Harmony96]

Subscribing. :)

Only 2-ish more months before DH and I TTC. :D

Andrea

[artist]

Hello! Just wanted to update as before I was 24 and I turned 25 in July! Thanks for the new thread though!


artist
Me: Kristin, 25
DH: Allan, 27
Engaged: 12/01/02
Married: 07/05/03
TTC: No idea when. Perhaps not until 2008 or later.

[tashaw6]

Subbing!

LOL at Your Majesty for unusual name on thread before!

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

We plan on our first child being a surprise, but finding out with the second. I think it is one of the great surprises in life. But, it all depends on how we feel when they ask us if we want to know!

[SQ2]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

Definitely! I could go either way, but DH doesn't like the idea of keeping information from us if there's a way to find it out. I tend to agree. We both feel it will be just as exciting to have a baby whether we know the sex or not. Plus it will just be easier in terms of gifts and stuff.

[Harmony96]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

Hard to believe that there is a QOTD that hasn't been asked in that loooooooong list. LOL. We are not going to find out. We would rather be surprised at the birth and I want DH to be the one to "announce" it maybe. :P

Andrea

[Sunshine]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

This will be something we finalize when we have to chance to find out. We have talked about it quite a bit, but we are always changing our mind.
The latest decision, for our first~YES....for the rest~No.

[SwiftyOWB]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth? Nope we have made a decision that we will not find out. I like yellow and green and I have always planned on having an all white nursery. Some day!!

[Janey]

Catching up as well!

QOTD: What are your top names right now?
If we have a boy, we'll be using B's name. It's a good name, and I think it's nice to keep good names in the family. :)

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
I'd love to go on a trip, but I don't see it happening. Too many out-of-town friends are getting married this year!

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Yep - my mom is a ferry-ride away and I'm sure will be over as much as I need her to be. His mom is 3 hours away so she won't be immediate support, but she'll help as much as she can.

QOTD: What is some of your favorite baby gear right now?
I haven't looked at baby gear yet. I do like those 3-in-one cribs though.

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind?
I think B is ready to be a father. He's nervous only to the extent that everybody's nervous to become a parent.

QOTD: What do you dread most about being a parent?
Going up and down the steep stairs with a baby in my arms.

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?
We have 2 cats, and I think they're going to be jealous. Whenever they crawl all over me while I'm watching TV I say to them, "What are you going to do when we have a baby??" But I don't think they'll be mean to the baby. I think they'll be put off by him and not want to be where he is.

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
We've always said two but then I tease: "What if we have three babies? What if we have four babies?" Then B gets an eyes-glazed-over look thinking about how our family would be with 4 babies (we'd probably have to move!).

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
I went to camp, and I can't imagine reasons why I wouldn't want to send them to camp. Camp is Fun! (And will probably be fun for B & Me, too!)

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can!
Cosmopolitan! I only drink about 3-4x/year though.

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
I actually asked him this last week after I'd copied/pasted all the questions. He said, "Well, I hope to..." whatever that means. :p

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?
We aren't really armchair parents, but when we see kids screaming, or begging for M&Ms or something, I'll turn to B and say, "You realize that's going to be our world very shortly, right?"

QOTD: Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?
I don't think either of us is going to be the bad guy.

QOTD: Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?
Nope. He's always very good about reaching for the Trojans. Better than I am.

QOTD: why are you waiting?
We just got married, and we need flooring on the 2nd floor (that's where the baby goes).

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
I'm not sure. I suppose I'd try acupuncture & such, and if it still didn't work, I'd look into adoption. B's brother was adopted, and B's brother & SIL adopted a baby, so this is nothing new with their family.

QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby?
No way! I got mine done on my 10th birthday, I think that's a good year to do it.

QOTD: How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?
B would like to wait until the 1st trimester is over. I don't think I could wait twelve weeks to tell my mother anything... but I can't tell my mother and expect her not to run right out and tell everybody out of excitement. So, we'll see.

QOTD: When you TTC, will you just see what happens for awhile, or will you start charting right away? Anyone charting now?
My answer has changed to this one. I used to think charting was a little "Type A" for me... until my obgyn visit last month. I was looking for a non-hormonal type of birth control, and she suggested I read TCOYF. I read it all in one day, and the book made me realize it's not Type A at all... it's actually natural & organic, and I like that. I decided to chart starting this month. I had PCOS when I was heavy, and I'm wondering if it will be an issue when we TTC, and I think/hope charting will also help me figure that out as well.

And today's QOTD...
Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
I don't know. I go back and forth about this one. It seems like the sex of their child one of the last surprises people get in life, and I think it would be a little disappointing to not have the surprise. On the other hand... I'm not sure I could stand 9 months of anticipation when I know I could, if I wanted to, find out the answer!

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

I would like to find out. I HATE surprises! But I wouldn't tell anyone (which made my mom upset when I informed of this). I will paint the nursery gender neutral and then have the gender specific bedding/accessories put away, ready to go out when baby is born.

[honeygirl]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Yes. I'd go crazy not knowing!

We have had SO MANY QOTD, I think we'll have to either be really creative or recycle some of them. Otherwise we'll run out of things to discuss. :)

[DelSol]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?


We plan to find out. I think I'd go crazy not knowing for 9 months. I also think of this a way to bond with your baby, you can have a name picked out and start calling him/her by it.

[DelSol]

Heather,

Can you please update my information:

BeachBride19426 ~ change to DelSol
Me: Dana, 31
DH: Scott, 37
Engaged: 5/10/03
Married: 11/19/04
TTC: December 2005 - March 2006


Thanks!!!

[mimieliza]

Just checking in with the new thread. DH and I are going to start TTC right after Thanksgiving. I'm getting nervous. We're not ready in a lot of ways, but we're beyond ready emotionally. I think since we both want this so much, we'll make it work. :)

[MrsWilson]

My doctor mentioned testing for Cystic Fibrosis before TTC to see if one or both of us are carriers. It has brought up a lot of interesting discussions between us as to what we would do if we found out our unborn child had a problem.
QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)
No genetic testing, and no amniocentisis, unless the doctor deems it necessary.

[laurenc]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

yes, if possible! i don't do surprises or secrets very well, so it'd be a tough 9 months if i didn't at least try to find out!!!

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)

we've not talked about it, but if there was a need to test, i'd go for it. but, as far as i know, there's no need.

[tashaw6]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

Yes! This is something DH and I were 100% agreeable on! Finding out in advance enables you to do so much before precious baby is born! You are able to personalise your baby's room, choose colours without having to go neutral, cut the name decision making in half, get gifts that are specific for the sex. Also, I still think even though you know the sex doesn't mean seeing the baby when first born isn't a surprise!

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)

We haven't spoken about this. I would only consider testing if my doctor strongly recommends it!

[Sunshine]

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)
We have talked about this a little bit, I am only going to test what my doctor suggests. My family doctor used to deliver babies aswell, so I really trust his opinion!

[eli1126]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth? This is something I may be on the fence about! Both my sisters found out before and they told people. I may find out and not tell because I want everyone else to be surprised. As for not being able to "plan" my one sister who told people it was a girl ended up having to return so many pink and white outfits because everyone went crazy buying cute girly outfits! They didn't get diapers, onsies, or the safety items on the registry! They ended up having to run around return many of the outfits and buy the items that all babies need instead.
QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)
I would talk to my Doctor and see what they say. My Doctor or I would have to have a soild concern to go for an amnio because I think that for me the risks outway the benefits.

Beth

[LeslieandPaul]

[B]QOTD: .As for not being able to "plan" my one sister who told people it was a girl ended up having to return so many pink and white outfits because everyone went crazy buying cute girly outfits! They didn't get diapers, onsies, or the safety items on the registry! They ended up having to run around return many of the outfits and buy the items that all babies need instead.


Exactly why I wouldn't tell other people!

[stevesbabygirl]

Welcome ladies, I'm so glad that you've all joined me over here :D! Forgive me for making this a fly-by post, but I promise to update all of your information in the next couple of days!

[MrsWilson]

I seem to be full of questions. Hope you don't mind!

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? Here (http://www.constantchatter.com/showthread.php?t=567) are a list for grandparents.

[MrsWilson]

My parents are already thinking about what they want their grandkids to call them. My mom has so many siblings and they all want to be called something different by their grandchildren. It is harder and harder to come up with something that hasn't been "taken." I've always called aunts and uncles by Aunt Firstname and Uncle Firstname. My kids will probably do the same.

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
My parents will be Grandma and Grandpa, but I'm not sure about Paul's parents. Aunts and uncles will be Aunty [name] and Uncle [name]. I think our cousins (we're very close with a lot of Paul's cousins) and close friends will also be aunty and uncle.

[tashaw6]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? Here are a list for grandparents.

...I suppose granny and grandpa for grandparents and aunty or uncle so and so for uncles and aunts...

[DelSol]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? Here are a list for grandparents.

My mom is called Nanny (even our animals know her as that :rolleyes: ). My dad is called Pop Pop and Step Mom is Grandmom/Granny, which ever she prefers.

MIL will probably be called Grandma and FIL will probably be called Grandpa.


Happy Thanksgiving!

[Sunshine]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
My Dad will be called Grampa, and DH's mom will prob be called Gramma. Only b/c that is what I call my Grandparents, so they will prob copy what I call them?
ALso, There will only be 1 Aunt and Uncle, and they of course will be Auntie name and Uncle name. We also have a few close friends who will also be called Auntie and Uncle. My best friend just had a baby and I am her Auntie:D

[mrstim]

Threadmistress - can you graduate me?? ;)

We're actively TTC'ing! My last pill was Nov. 13th, and so I'm CD10 today and not preventing at all! It's so exciting, I forgot to come back here and say adios. :( I'll still be back to check in with you all - but for now I'm moving over to the Seeing What Happens thread!

Good Luck to everyone!!!
a

[Sunshine]

CONGRATS MrsTim:D

[Julss05]

QOTD: What are your top names right now?Christopher if it's a boy, no girl names yet.

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Get the house completely remodeled and go on a romantic getaway.

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives? I suppose. I have no family here so that will be interesting!

QOTD: What is some of your favorite baby gear right now?
none, haven't looked.

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind?He's glad we're waiting but maybe hoping for a surprise like me:)

QOTD: What do you dread most about being a parent?Lack of sleep!

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?
We just adopted 2 kittens! If they are anything like my last cat they won't want anything to do with the baby and will be scarce until they get used to the little one. I have no concerns, I think our two little girls we just adopted will get along well with a baby.

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having? Two at the most, 3 would be a BIG oops!

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp? Sure unless they didn't want to go. Camp was always fun for me as a kid but I wouldn't force it.

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Pina colada with malibu and coconut rum.

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
I think he would be affectionate but know where to draw the line to avoid embarrasement. He's a big hugger and we always say, "I love you."

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent? Sometimes but we try not to judge other people's parenting skills just acknowledge that we would respond differently.

QOTD: Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you? I know I will be. I grew up in a strict household and will probably be that way with my kids, more so than DH.

QOTD: Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?"Nope. He's always very good about reaching for the Trojans. Better than I am." Same here:D, but he's coming around. One of these days he'll be brave enough to skip them.

QOTD: why are you waiting? We are both in the process of career changes. We need time to get health insurance set up in new jobs.

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids? Look into adoption of the human and furry kind and travel a lot!

QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby? I don't think so. I got my ears pierced at 4 and although it was my idea I didn't know what I was asking for, it hurt! My first year in school I ripped my ear while playing and messed up the hole so I wouldn't recommend for babies or young kids.

QOTD: How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?
Probably right away:D.

QOTD: When you TTC, will you just see what happens for awhile, or will you start charting right away? Anyone charting now?
Not sure. I was charting for about a year and then stopped when husband got stationed overseas for 6 months. I know my body pretty well especially after charting so I think I would follow my own body signals and what I've learned to "just see what happens" and if that doesn't work I'll go back to charting. Honestly the charting online didn't always predict my ovulation day accurately so I wouldn't strictly go by that anyway.

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth? I really want to know but DH doesn't want to know so I'm not sure what kind of compromise we'll reach. Regardless I'd like to keep things nongender since we plan to have another one.

Genetic testing before TTC I didn't even know they did that before! Probably not, I figure they'll catch anything during the pregnancy and no need to be worried about something when I'm not even pregnant yet.

Hope everyone has a HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Good luck with TTC Mrs.Tim!

[honeygirl]

Best wishes MrsTim. Babydust to you! Come back and tell us when you're pregnant!

-Anne

[artist]

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

No. I want to be surprised!

Genetic testing before TTC?

Heck no! That creeps me out. Though I will probably try to find out if the baby is healthy.

What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?

Probably just "Grandma/Grandpa [first name]".
And "Aunt/Uncle [first name]"

Our kids will actually have SIX grandparents (as their are step-parents), plus a great grandma! Yep, our kids will be quite spoiled!

[magrat]

My life has kind of turned upside down since I last posted. My 55 year old FIL unexpectedly collapsed from a massive brain hemorrhage last Friday and died early Monday morning. Luckily we were able to get back to England in time to be there when he died. It is just so shocking, he was so full of life and vitality and I was so looking forward to having my children know him and now they never will. It just really goes to show that however you try to plan things, you just can't.

QOTD: What are your top names right now?
Still Miles for a first name for a boy, but we're going to have to really consider Derek as a middle name, after FIL, even though I've always disliked it. I suggested to DH (who brought up the subject) that we could use FIL's bardic name (he was made a Cornish Bard for his work in music and education) - Ylewyth Essa, pronounced elloowith, and I'm probably spelling it wrong, I'll edit it later when I check. I've never been a fan of giving kids unpronounceable Celtic names, but in this case I feel more than justified :) It means musician of Saltash, and we'd leave out the Essa (Saltash).

What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?

Since DH's parents are English, they'll be gran or granny and granddad. Mine can pick something else if they want, but will probably just go for the standard grandma and grandpa.

The expense of having to fly to England unexpectedly and miss 3 weeks of work will really put us behind on our debt repayment schedule that was so vital for our TTC date. However, we may postpone paying back MIL the money we owe her indefinitely since 1) I'm not sure what her plans are now in terms of going on vacations and doing home improvements and 2) she's going to be doing very well financially as far as we can tell because of life insurance and generous pensions and grants for widows. Even my college-age SIL is going to get a reduction in her tuition and a pension. Plus MIL would probably prefer a grandchild to the money.

The only other change I can think of now is that originally the thought of having MIL and FIL over right away when I had a baby, potentially to stay in our house for weeks, was very daunting and possibly unavoidable. But now that it would just be MIL, I think an extended stay would be a lot more feasible, and she's really not the type to interfere.

[MrsWilson]

magrat--My condolences to you and your family! I am so sorry for your loss!

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?

[DelSol]

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentesis?)
We've never talked about it. I would look into if it was something the doctor said to do.

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?
I think it really depends on when it happens. If it's close to Father's Day. I would tell DH on Father's Day that we are expecting with a card signed from your little due around (date). As for grandparents to be, I'll probably buy a tiny baby photo album and have either of these things in it 1) a note in it saying your grandchild is due around (date), we hope you are excite about his/her arrival as we are and 2) if I can get an ultrasound picture I'd put that in as the 1st picture.

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?
I bought a bib that says I love my daddy (there's a heart for love). I'll give that to him.
For our parents, i'm going to paint picture frames and stamp baby footprints on it. In the frame will be a piece of paper that says "Reserved for Baby [our last name] Due [date]" or something along those lines. For everyone else we'll just tell them (hopefully we can gather all our family and tell them and then gather all our friends and tell them).

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?

Here are some good possibilities for me:

Keeping the Baby Alive till Your Wife Gets Home
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0970793707.01._BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-dp-500-arrow,TopRight,45,-64_AA240_SH20_SCLZZZZZZZ_.jpg
(Or something similar)


"I found out that I was expecting again just a couple of days before our first daughters' 4th birthday. I went and bought one last gift for our daughter. At the party(all of our family and friends were there) I had our daughter open that gift last. It was a bib with "I Love My Big Sister" written on it. It took my husband(and everyone else) about 5 seconds to figure it out. It was great!"
-- Lynn

"Tabitha... my husband and i are working on our 3rd child. I always told myself that i would tell him in a fun way. Him and i are always giving eachother gifts just because, so i thought when i found out i was pregnant that i would go to the store and buy a pack of newborn diapers and wrap them up and give them to him as a gift. That way is a sure way for them to catch on quick. Good luck!!"
-- momof2ncali

"Make a diner with baby carrats,baby corn, baby back ribs, and a pickle and ice cream sunday for dessert... (don't expect him to catch on until the pickle part..)"
-- Jnewton

"My brother and his wife just anounced that they were having there first and they told us by giving each of us a baby picture frame with a note as the picture saying Picture coming June 23, 2004. It was really cute."
-- Tammy

"I made my husband cry with this one: It was our fourth wedding anniversary and we were out for romantic dinner. I had even sneakily put tampons in the trash in plain site so he wouldn't be suspicious that day. Then, at dinner we exchanged anniversary cards. His, of course, was a sweet romantic one. Mine however, was an invitation. It said you are invited to attend the birth of your second child, on the due date, at our hospital.... He jumped up from the table when it finally sunk in, with tears pouring down and wrapped me up in his arms. People sure were staring!! It was so neat."
-- Annie

"The day I discovered I was pregnant, I made an appointment with my doctor. And the next day I told my husband that I am going to see the doctor for a routine check up. Like always he accompanied me but to his supprise I drove the other direction he is not used to and asked me about it. I told him I just discoverd a special doctor and when we arrived to his suprise, it was a gynecology. And he just figured it out and he was so happy."
-- South Africa

"The grocery store by our house has a few specific parking spots for expecting Moms. So late one night I told my husband that I was craving some ice cream lets run to the store. I was sure to grab the keys and jump into the drivers seat. When we got to the the store I pulled into that "specific spot". He immediatly said honey you can't park here - I responded with a big smile, OOHH but I can!! It took him a minute but he figured it out. Good Luck!"
-- Pgarrigan

"i'm not pregnant yet but we are trying i hope to be before march 10th that is my husbands birthday i want to get a card that says happy birthday daddy and on the inside i'm gonna write happy birthday daddy you don't know me yet but i'm on the way and i can't wait to met you. mom has told me what a wonderful husband you are and i'm looking forward to you being my daddy so get ready i'll be here before you know it.. i love you both..."
-- iluvujay

"my brother in law and sister in law bought mini goodie bags that were palm size and filled them with jelly bellies. on the bag it said to a great grandma and great grandpa. Mom in law noticed right away. took father in law 5 minutes to relize the gift wasn't about the candy and theat's all they have talked about since"
-- kristy

[tashaw6]

Ooooo, thanks MrsWilson for that!!! I am saving that for ideas for later! I was just going to phone mine up and tell them...how boring!!! :D

[tashaw6]

Good luck MrsTim. Tons and tons of babydust! Don't forget to let us know all about it if you have a chance!!!

magrat, so sorry to hear that! My thoughts are with you!

[numberlady]

It has been a while since I posted in the last thread, so I know that I missed several of the QOTD's. I will start with just the ones that have been posted so far in the new thread

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Yes, I am a major planner and don't think I could stand the surprise. Plus I don't want to dress my baby & decorate the nursery in all green & yellow.

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentesis?) We watch all these shows on Discovery Health Channel about rare gene mutations or diseases, so we get thoroughly freaked out by some of the possibilities of problems with a baby. That being said, I don't think that I will do any testing, unless it is recommended or something is seen on the basic tests. If something is found, I suppose that we will continue testing to see what is going on.

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? I always called my grandparents Grandma & Grandpa, so I imagine that our parents will be called the same, unless they have a preference for something different.

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant? I always imagined that DH would be with me when I tested, so he would find out with me. For my mother & sister who live in the same city, I would probably have some fun and give them a "grandma/aunt" picture frame. All our other family is out of town and we don't get to see them very often, so we will probably just tell them on the phone. If we can think of a cute way to tell them we probably will.

[laurenc]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?

well, i think we're going to call DH's parents "gammy" and "poppy" a la seinfeld because it's funny and unusual, and they get a kick out of it. my parents will probably be plain-vanilla "grandma" and "grandpa".

[PookiePrincess]

Hello all. I got married a month ago and figure now is the time to join this thread.

PookiePrincess
Me: Kristi - 26
DH: Sean - 29
Married: Oct. 29, 2005
TTC: 2007?

We are waiting for many reasons, one being that we just got married. I do have to say though, from the time we got engaged I got the baby question. Tons of people asked me ON THE WEDDING DAY when we would have a baby. Jeez, people, we JUST got married! But aside from that, I'm just not that ready. I have twin nieces who are 5 months old and just can't picture me doing that quite yet. I'd love to, but I value my sleep!

Also, realistically, we want to get into our own home, hopefully this summer. I would like to be there a little while and get it set up and settled in before we have a baby.

We are also paying off some of our debt so that we are in a better financial position.

Thanks for letting me join y'all!

[stevesbabygirl]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Absolutely! I want to be able to refer to my baby by sex, and if possible, by name before s/he is born. Plus, I'm way too impatient to wait to find out :p.

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis)?
We haven't talked about this yet. I would like to, but only if it's covered by insurance. I don't think we could afford it otherwise.

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
I guess we were rude, because we've never addressed our aunts and uncles as Aunt X and Uncle Y; we would just refer to them by their first names. As far as grandparents, I'm not sure. Grandma and grandpa will probably be pretty standard. I thought doing oma and opa would be cool though.

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?
I think I might buy some little baby onesies of DH's favorite sports teams (Angels, Ducks, Clippers) and give them to him. As for parents, I was planning to do a save-the-date card for the due date.

Congrats MrsTim! Here's wishing you much luck, and I will update your stats!

[jnettie]

Hi! I'd like to join.

jnettie
Me: Jeanette - 27
DH: Cory - 27
Married: June 25, 2005
TTC: 2007ish

QOTD: What are your top names right now? DH likes Abby, I don't have any clue.

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC? I want to establish my career. I'm just about done with Grad school now. I'd like at least a year working first.

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives? DH has a large extended family that just loves kids. I have no worries about that. I also have a good friend who has a little guy who I can talk to.

QOTD: What is some of your favorite baby gear right now? I love baby shoes! Just love them!

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind? I know DH is more excited about kids than me. He'd like to start now, but understands my possition. Also, we don't have enough money or time to devote to a kid and it just wouldn't be fair.

QOTD: What do you dread most about being a parent? Everything!

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house? We have 2 cats. I'm not too concerned with them. DH was worried about toxicplasmosis, but we've done some research and I'll be tested to see if I've already been exposed before TCC.

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having? No more than 2, but DH wants a dozen!

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp? Yes. I went to Girl Scout camp for a week for 3 summers and had so much fun.

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? That would be a tie between champaign and margaritas!

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons? All kids need hugs and kisses from their parents! I would be upset if DH didn't show affection to his future son(s)!

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent? Certainly do. DH usually talk about how the parents handle a situation and what we might do. Or talk about our observations. I think it's important to learn from both the good parents and the bad parents.

QOTD: Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you? Well, DH is sure I won't be the bad guy, and he's not affraid to be the bad guy.

QOTD: Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait? ALL THE TIME!

QOTD: why are you waiting? Career, no money, not enough room, just plain not ready!

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids? I would adopt. Actually, we've talked about adopting even if we can. There's so many kids that need a loving home. If we could provide that for even one, we should.

QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby? No.

QOTD: How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant? After the 1st trimester for everyone. I just couldn't tell my mom right away (she wants me to have a baby more than I do!) and would therfore have to wait for everyone.

QOTD: When you TTC, will you just see what happens for awhile, or will you start charting right away? Anyone charting now? Well, before BC, I had the world's most irregular periods. Charting would be a nightmare. I may even need some fertility help. But I'd rather not stress about it or fixate on getting pregnant, KWIM?

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth? NO!

Genetic testing before TTC Only if I knew that either DH or I were possible carriers. I don't think it's fair to your future kids to go ahead and have a baby even if you know that there is a 90% probablitity that he or she will have some sort of debilitating condition or a dramatically shortened life. Of course, I say that with the knowledge that neither of us has a family history like that.

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? Hmmm. Well, Mom will be Grandma, Dad Grandpa, and Step-mom probably Grandma K. DH is Chinese, so I think that the kids should call his mom and dad A-yen and A-yeah (I think those are the Cantonese words!). He didn't seem so thrilled, not sure why, but it solves the problem of differentiating. Otherwise, Auntie Soandso, Uncle Whatshisface, etc.

[jnettie]

Even though I just joined, I'd like to add a QOTD:

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

I love kids, I want kids, but I hate doctors and tests and medical things and am totally freaked out about having a baby. The whole process just freaks me out. Everyone talks about how amazing and beautiful it is, but I just don't see it that way. I think of all the things that could go wrong. I'm totally freaked that I might need a c-section (I was breach). Anyone else?

[stevesbabygirl]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
I'm not petrified of being pregnant, or even really giving birth. I am most afraid of the recovery afterwards. It's the stuff that no one tells you, and when you start to hear about it, it's no good. All of the pain, bleeding, not being able to sit down, etc.

[LeslieandPaul]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
I'm not scared of being pregnant, but I'm freaked out about giving birth (I have a very low pain threshold). I'm also worried about what the delivery will do to my body and the recovery that it will require.

[guinevere]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

Not afraid of being pregnant, but of giving birth! I'm not afraid of the pain as much as other things going wrong after.

[MrsWilson]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

You ladies make me feel better! I am also not really afraid of being pregnant, but the giving birth and recovery part worries me. What is probably a little odd is that I'm a nurse, so I've been in the room when babies were born. I have seen how everything goes first hand. But, all the deliveries I have seen were your typical ones, Mom pushes and baby comes out. I'm more concerned about complications, such as, cord around baby's neck, or me going into HELLP syndrome! I had to learn about all the problems that can occur when in school, so I feel like I know all the bad stuff that could happen.

[Julss05]

"I made my husband cry with this one: It was our fourth wedding anniversary and we were out for romantic dinner. I had even sneakily put tampons in the trash in plain site so he wouldn't be suspicious that day. Then, at dinner we exchanged anniversary cards. His, of course, was a sweet romantic one. Mine however, was an invitation. It said you are invited to attend the birth of your second child, on the due date, at our hospital.... He jumped up from the table when it finally sunk in, with tears pouring down and wrapped me up in his arms. People sure were staring!! It was so neat."
-- Annie

I love this one!

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Yes! None of the women in my family have had problems getting pregnant but all have had miscarriages before sustaining a pregnancy so I worry that it will happen to me. I worry about complications at birth. I was born 2 months premature at 4 lbs., lungs weren't developed at birth so I was in the hopsital for a while, parents weren't sure if I was going to make it. Other than that I'm petrified of the pain. I've been with friends through labor and it looks pretty miserable even with the drugs.

Welcome newbies!

[PookiePrincess]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

No, not really. I can't wait to be pregnant and hope I have a good experience. My SIL was really wussy about it, and I'm gonna try not to be that way at all. I just can't imagine laying around for 9 months complaining about being pregnant. It's all part of the experience. And I'm not scared of giving birth, but I'm one of those people who thinks things like that are cool. It will be amazing to see what my body is supposed to do.

What I am afraid of is being pregnant and having a baby and never getting my shape back. I'm afraid of gaining weight and not losing it. Of never having a flat tummy again. Of having bbs that sag to my waist...things like that. But, I'm hoping I'm lucky in that department, too!

[artist]

How will I tell DH (and others) that I am pregnant?

A lot of people have these really cute clever ways to tell their DH's. I am guessing I won't be so clever. For one thing, DH would probably suspect it anyway because either we were planning it or the birth control got screwed up or something. He tends to pay attention to my cycle. It would be hard to surprise him. So, I'll probably just pee on the stick when he's home! As for others, I am guessing we'll just tell them when the time seems right, but not in a clever way.

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

I am not scared of simply being pregnant. Well, but I will be frustrated that I won't be able to paint with oil paints or do other things I like to do. I am petrified of giving birth! Maybe I wouldn't be so afraid of that if women would keep their mouths shut and stop sharing their birth stories. Those stories make me never want to have kids. Actually, I don't know which is worse, the women with the horror stories, or the ones who proudly brag, "Oh, it was so easy! He/she just popped right out and I barely felt it! In fact, it was a great moment and almost felt GOOD!" I do know that my mom and sister seemed to have these difficult labor stories though, so I am probably doomed. But, I WILL be taking the drugs. I know others are seriously opposed to that, but I don't feel the need to be in pain. I do hope that I won't have to have a C-section though. That sounds just awful!

[honeygirl]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
I'm not scared of being pregnant, but I'm freaked out about giving birth (I have a very low pain threshold). I'm also worried about what the delivery will do to my body and the recovery that it will require.

I feel the same way. I'm excited about being pregnant, growing a belly (and BB's hopefully), etc. However, I'm not looking forward to birth and all the pain, lack of modesty and recovery. Sadly, DH is afraid also. He's told me he won't be in the delivery room with me b/c he'd pass out! He is a bit squeemish so I'll probably be delivering alone.

[kris97]

Hello to everyone - I've been a huge lurker of this thread for a long time, and figured the new thread was the perfect time to join. :)

Me: Kristin, 30
DH: Ryan, 30
Married: 5/2/4
TTC: sometime in '06

QOTD What are your top names right now?
For a boy, Matthew James; for a girl, Adrianna or Isabella

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Take one more major trip- maybe to California or the Caribbean. Otherwise, I'm ready. :)

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Definitely - my family will be *so* excited.

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC?
I think he's increasingly excited, but scared, at the same time. He wants to be in better financial shape, which I understand, but is probably unnecessary, given how well he's doing in his career.

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
Two.

QOTD: why are you waiting?
We've waited this long because we wanted to enjoy being married, to set up our house, and to put away some money. I think we'll be ready in the next three to six months, but I"m really just waiting for DH.

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
Adopt. No question about it.

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Yes

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
No, not really. Right now, I think it would be really cool to be pregnant. :)

[tashaw6]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

I wouldn't say I am completely petrified...I have to go with what honeygirl said! I'm excited about being pregnant, growing a belly, etc. However, I'm not looking forward to birth and all the pain, lack of modesty and recovery!

[Sunshine]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Well, I know they wont let you go that far along anymore.....but my mom had a Terrible birth with me, she was in labor for over 50 hours....so for that reason, I am terrified.
BUT, I have seen enough women give birth to know after it is all over, it was so worth it, and the pain is hardly as bad as it seemed.

I can not WAIT to be pregnant:D

[SQ2]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

Not of being pregnant, but definitely scared ****less about giving birth. I am NOT looking forward to that pain. I also really don't want to have a C-section for some reason and just the anticipation of not knowing how things will go, makes me anxious.

[eli1126]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

Strangely No, I think though that having two sisters go through it and a few friends who were very candid about the experience helped me. I'll definitely be medicated though :p

How will I tell DH (and others) that I am pregnant?

I'll probably have him with me when I take the test because I want him to share the moment together. I haven't thought about everyone else though. We won't tell anyone though until at least 10-12 weeks just to make sure everything is progressing well.

Beth

[jnettie]

You ladies make me feel better! :) I'm glad I joined this thread.

How will I tell DH?
Hmm, don't know. I'm not one for cleaver reveals. My cousin and his wife put their ultrasound for their first baby in a photo album for my aunt...and she didn't even notice! They made her flip back to the page and had to point at the ultrasound! :D

[honeygirl]

Now that I've started charting I'm noticing a interesting pattern, and I don't mean temps. Does anyone else have fleeting "let's just forget the condoms" thoughts on certain days of the month? The days I've felt that way (and fortunately ignored the instinct) when looking back at my charts are when I was fertile (pre-o). It must be some sort of biological drive or something.

Anyone else?

[filmgirl7]

Now that I've started charting I'm noticing a interesting pattern, and I don't mean temps. Does anyone else have fleeting "let's just forget the condoms" thoughts on certain days of the month? The days I've felt that way (and fortunately ignored the instinct) when looking back at my charts are when I was fertile (pre-o). It must be some sort of biological drive or something.

Anyone else?

Yeah, I know this one well. It happened to me the other night and actually kind of caused some consternation between me and FH. A casual "Well, I wouldn't mind..." was NOT what J wanted to hear. Oops. I guess I'll know better next month. He just doesn't understand that my biological clock is going TICK TICK TICK in my ear right now, especially since a friend of the family is pregnant with her third at age thirty-five and informed me that hers is considered a "high risk pregnancy" due to her age. SAY WHAT?!?! You mean in just 7 years I will be in the high risk category?? AHHHH!!!! :confused: :eek:

[Janey]

Now that I've started charting I'm noticing a interesting pattern, and I don't mean temps. Does anyone else have fleeting "let's just forget the condoms" thoughts on certain days of the month?

Yeeep. I'm there right now. Every time we start, I think, "Maybe he'll forget about the condoms this time." So far he hasn't, and there is a twinge of disappointment every time he reaches for them.

I found out last night that my best friend is unexpectedly pregnant, which made us talk about us being pregnant. He said we're not ready, and I said, "Yeah, we don't have a floor." He said Right. Then we talked about painting the nursery. In that, he's thinking that it would be easier to paint the nursery before we put the floor in rather than after. Which, that'd be great, except for the fact that I want a theme for the nursery and I want to coordinate the bedding with the walls and what-not, and I can't come up with a theme with bedding that might be out of stock by the time we get pregnant. I'd be so disappointed!

He said, "Well, how early is too early to buy bedding?" I said, "I don't know, but before we get pregnant is too early. I think buying bedding for a baby that isn't conceived yet might jinx the process."

[PG-rated]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Well, I want to, but DH doesn't want to, and he doesn't want me to know if he doesn't know. :rolleyes: So we'll have to figure this out. We may just have to agree that I won't tell him.

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentesis?)
I plan to ask my dr. about it at my next appointment; if she has any recommendations, we'll follow them. I'm not sure what we would do if we were at risk for having a baby with CF or something similar.

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
Not sure about the ILs; my mom wants to be "Mindy," which is a sort of nickname that a couple of my younger cousins call her.

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?
For our first, I plan to ask DH how much he wants to know beforehand, since I expect he'll still be kind of nervous when we start to TTC. So if he wants to know every time I test, fine. If he'd rather I surprise him, that's fine too. It might be fun to do something cute for the ILs, but I imagine I'll just blurt it out over the phone to my mom, since I can't imagine keeping it a secret for any length of time.

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Pregnancy, not so much. Birth and recovery, absolutely. My mom had a very difficult labor with me and ended up unable to deliver vaginally, so I'm scared of a c-section. But I'm also scared of a natural birth. And I'm very scared of the recovery process. I'm ashamed to admit it, but part of it is vanity - I'm working like hell to get to a normal weight so that I can reduce the risk of complications during pregnancy, but it does bother me a little to think of spending years overweight, then finally getting back to a healthy weight, only to start the whole process over again by getting pregnant. :(

[lilo]

I have lurked around this thread for a while and am finally ready to join!


lilo
Me: Natasha, 30
DH: Jared, 33
Married: 10/15/02
TTC: March 2005

QOTD What are your top names right now?
not sure yet

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
buy a house!

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Absolutely.

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC?
He's excited but also a little nervous I think

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
three, maybe four but we'll see.

QOTD: why are you waiting?
We haven't been ready. I have really enjoyed being married without kids but now I'm now ready for the next phase of my life.

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
Not sure. Get more dogs?

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
yes, I couldn't wait that long.

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
yes and yes. :)

[laurenc]

for those of you who dont know, i'm in a clinical psychology phd program at a very competitive university. in order to get my degree i have to complete a one-year clinical internship. i've sent in 10 applications, and i can't apply for any more as the deadlines have all passed.

so far, i have been rejected from 2 internships, and have not gotten interview offers from any of the remaining 8 yet. as time goes on, i become more and more convinced that i won't get an internship this time around. i'm upset, naturally. (and it doesn't help that my socially inept advisor says things like, "oh well, rejection builds resiliency!" ughh.)

at the same time, my one glimmer of "hope" (if you can call it hope) is that if i don't get an internship, we'll probably start TTC right away. why waste another year? in that scenario, i'd have to decide whether i wanted to bunt and take an experimental psychopathology degree (which i'd be overqualified for, in a way, given that i've gone above and beyond the requirements and did all this extra clinical work), or whether i want to try and re-apply for internship next year. option A means i could potentially graduate this upcoming spring; option B means i'm a student at least two more years (the year i am waiting and the year i go on internship). of course, my career path and job options will vary depending on the degree, so i'd have to start scouting out jobs right away if i go for option A.

as attractive as the TTC-right-away option is, i would *much* rather keep things "according to plan" and actually GET an internship so i can finish with the degree i intended to get in the first place.

anyhow. i just thought i'd put that out there, as i can't really talk to anyone else about these things. you girls understand. :) now, onto the QOTDs.

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

yes. about the whole thing. but i'm also petrified of public speaking, and i do that regularly anyhow...

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?

for telling DH, i'll probably just call him up and start screaming into the phone. ;) for telling family, i would ideally like to wait until i have an ultrasound pic to send them, but in lieu of that... probably we'll go out to dinner with both my parents and DH's parents (and hopefully my brother and my BIL/SIL) and break the news then...

[Tonysweetie]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

Not to be pregnant but giving birth HECK YA! Who wouldn't? I'm afraid of the pain, embarrassment of being totally exposed, medications etc. But I keep hearing when your pregnant and abotu to give birth you don't think about those things so hopefully my fear will be put at ease once I get pregnant :)

What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?

I'll probably just tell DH and far as family goes I'm not real sure. I kinda dread that day to be honest. I dont' think my Mom is that excited for me to get pregnant. Now DH side of the family will be THRILLED!

[MrsWilson]

laurenc--I hope things work out and you get one of the internships! As exciting as it would be to start TTC, I know you would rather go through your plans as expected. There are still 8 more chances for you! You're in my thoughts!

[laurenc]

laurenc--I hope things work out and you get one of the internships! As exciting as it would be to start TTC, I know you would rather go through your plans as expected. There are still 8 more chances for you! You're in my thoughts!

thank you MrsWilson -- i do appreciate the good thoughts. and yes, there are still 8 more places to hear from... it's just waiting to hear from them that is driving me nuts!!!

DH and i talked about TTC'ing sooner than expected in the event that plans go astray. he had his practical reservations, but otherwise he was excited -- he said, "well, if you don't get ANY interviews, we can start trying at christmas and we might have a baby by september!!!" :eek: he's usually not very good with things going off-track, he's a more "we MUST follow the plan OR ELSE" sort of guy, so it felt good to get a flexible, laid-back, happy response instead of a massive freak-out. gotta count your blessings, y'know? :)

[Annette]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Not so much being pregnant but the birth part scares me. I don't want a c-section. I also hope I don't get stretch marks or a pouch afterwards. Becoming a parent is also scary too.

What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?

I will probably test while DH is around and then jump up and down and scream with joy. Since I am bad at keeping things to myself, I am sure I will end up calling my friends the same day. At work, it might be more difficult to not blurt anything out until 12 weeks.

[Janey]

it felt good to get a flexible, laid-back, happy response instead of a massive freak-out. gotta count your blessings, y'know? :)
Hooray for your DH! :D (and shame on your advisor :rolleyes: )

Lauren, I hope everything works out for you. You may yet get an internship; don't give up hope yet! But you know, it sounds like there's lots to look forward to even if the internship doesn't work out.

[lilo]

I realized yesterday that I posted our TTC date as March 2005 when I meant March 2006. oops! could someone please update my information? thanks. :)

he's usually not very good with things going off-track, he's a more "we MUST follow the plan OR ELSE" sort of guy, so it felt good to get a flexible, laid-back, happy response instead of a massive freak-out.

sounds very much like my DH! too funny.

What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?

I really like the card idea, if it happens around a holiday/birthday or maybe a cute baby top that says "Daddy's girl" (of course now that I say that, I'm sure we'll have a boy first. :D )

[DelSol]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
I not petrified of being pregnant. I am of giving birth. I hear the stories, watch the TV shows but I have a low tolerance for pain. I plan to have as many drugs as I possibly can. :D :o For all I know, I may not be able to go naturally, my mom couldn't go naturally with me so she ended up having a c-section, she was too small to squeeze me out.

[Julss05]

Does anyone else have fleeting "let's just forget the condoms" thoughts on certain days of the month?
Yes! I know I'll be ovulating in a few days. DH does 24 hr. shift work and mentioned having sex tomorrow. So in my silly head I'm thinking "if" by some chance I got pregnant it might be a girl because of the date and then I think of the possible due date and my mind starts to wander off....(sigh):rolleyes:. He's probably just looking forward to the sex:D. Lately we've been risky with when and how we use protection and still nada which makes me wonder whether getting pregnant isn't going to be as easy as I thought but we haven't actually gone all the way without anything either.

laurenc
Good luck with the internship. I'll be graduating this month and although an internship is not apart of my degree I might be doing that as well to get a foot in the door. I know how you feel about staying on course until school is done. With school almost done a big part of me wants to TTC by spring but then I think I should give myself time to get settled in my new career first. It sure is frustrating but I know waiting will pay off in the end!:)

[Annette]

To add to the previous question : Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

I'll probably freak out at first especially if I couldn't get a hold of DH.

[MrsWilson]

To add to the previous question : Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

Right now, this isn't a big concern to me. We work about 10 minutes from each other. My office is about 5 minutes from the hospital, so unless it was something extremely major, I could make it to the hospital and he would be there shortly afterwards. Plus, I work at a doctor's office.

[Janey]

To add to the previous question : Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
Hmm. I hadn't thought of that. I'm a SAHW so going into labor at work isn't an issue... but B is designing a high school right now in a place that is between 45 minutes to 1.5 hours away depending on traffic. I could probably get him to leave his cell phone on even during meetings up there, but man, the thought of him taking 1.5 hours to get to me... :eek:

I'm thinking I'm a C-section candidate, though... so maybe I'll be scheduled for a C-section and be able to choose the baby's birthday/time myself, and skirt the whole labor thing altogether. :)

[eli1126]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
I would actually prefer DH be at work because then he's easier to get a hold of! My biggest fear would be that he was at his parents, who I want no where near me when I give birth, and they would of course come along for the ride. I haven't thought much about being at the mall and having my water break or anything like that. I know when my sister went into labor she tried to drive somewhere just to get out (she went 2 weeks early and thought it was Braxton-Hicks) and had to turn back becasue the contractions were too intense. She then went home and vaccuumend her house :D

Beth

[BryantRN]

Hello ladies:)
I never knew this thread existed, how could that have happened when I have friends in here?? Anyway here's a little background on me and DH. We have been married since May 2004 and have been together total for 10 years. I am a labor and delivery nurse so you can just imagine how my bad my baby fever must be! We are just waiting until DH gets a job, he is just finishing his master's degree this month. He has two job offers lined up, so maybe it will be soon. Keep your fingers crossed for me. I will try to catch up on the previous postings so that I know everyone a little better. I am so excited to be here :).

Here's my info to post. Hope I am doing this correctly.
BryantRN
Me: Renee 32
DH: prefers to stay annon. 27
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: ASAP!! Just waiting on a job for him :)

[miaclear]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

Absolutly not. DH works just 15 min away from me and my work is litteraly a parking lot away from the hospital. Likely not the hospital I'll choose to have a baby at but if an emergency happens it's right there. Plus I work in a health insurance company and there are multiple nurses on staff and one of my coworkers was a paramedic before joining the company.

Ideally I would like to go into labor while with DH, the tv version middle of the night get up and go would be perfect.

[stevesbabygirl]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
I would just be concerned about my water breaking in public, and having everyone stare at me while I'm gushing all over the place. Other than that, I'm not too terribly worried. But I will make damn sure that DH starts carrying his cell phone around everywhere!

Welcome BryantRN!

[PookiePrincess]

To add to the previous question : Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

I would be afraid of going into labor at work, since I'm a teacher. The last thing I would need is to freak out my first graders!

Also, I work about 30 minutes from home and an hour from the hospital we'll go to. If I am at work, it will be complicated getting to the hospital. But my DH would just leave work and meet me there. I would probably get my mom to drive me to the hospital, if at all possible.

[honeygirl]

Welcome BryantRN, I'd guess that you're not afraid to go into labor at work. ;)

As for me, I hadn't really thought of going into labor without him. DH works from home, so odds are it wouldn't be an issue. We'll be in a different state when we TTC, so I'm not sure what my working situation will be.

[LeslieandPaul]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

I'm not afraid of going into labour at work, or out somewhere. It would also be okay if DH wasn't around (if I need to I can call my mom!), but I am afraid that if Paul continues with his current job that he'll be out of town. I would hate that.

[Julss05]

I wouldn't be afraid of going into labor at work just a little embarrased:o. I work with 4 other women, 3 of which have kids so actually it is comforting to know I'd be with women who have already been through it. DH used to be in the Navy where he was gone over half the time, I'm used to handling anything by myself and have been through emergency situations before without him. Currently he works as a fire fighter so it might be hard to contact him if he's on a call but much easier than if he was overseas!

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically? I worry because both my sister and I had epilepsy and we have breast cancer on both sides of our family. Not even sure if I want a girl because I'd feel horrible if she had to go through either of those two.

[PookiePrincess]

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

I'm not worried about this too much from my side of the family, except for alcoholism being an issue. But my DH's family has diabetes, cancer, and some heart problems. So, that's a little scary. I just think we'd handle it and try to live a healthy lifestyle with our kids. Not much else we can do!

[stevesbabygirl]

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
Not too terribly worried. Cancer does run in my dad's family, but most of it is self-inflicted due to smoking, drinking, etc. The only concern I might have is cystic fibrosis, because it is more common in people of North American descent. I'm German, and DH is Scandinavian, so our chances are pretty high of being a carrier.

[magrat]

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

No. I do worry that they will have problems with their weight though. I don't, but DH does and I'm really afraid he'll pass it on to them. At least we'll be able to start them off eating healthy and practicing a healthy lifestyle.

I took my last BCP last night. I think DH and I are really ready to start trying, maybe right away in the new year if my cycle returns to normal quickly. I dunno...it's all been an extremely stressful two weeks and things like money seem less important now, at least less important than family. Since FIL will never get to see his grandkids, it seems even more important that DH's granny is able to, and she's not exactly in the best of health. We probably won't get pregnant right away anyway.

[BryantRN]

Thanks for all of the warm welcomes!! No, I guess that I can honestly say that I feel the safest if I went into labor at work, LOL. It is funny how many women say that their worst fear was having their water break in public. I can honestly say that in the hundreds of deliveries that I have been in, only maybe a couple have said that their water broke in public. The most common place.........in bed while sleeping. I think that TV has made us all afraid of the water breaking in public thing!

~Renee~

[Tonysweetie]

Well girls I am leaving this thread I became a grad earlier than expected. I got a BFP this morning. So excited! I'm a proven fact that withdrawl isnt'a form of birth control, lol :rolleyes: EDD August 2, 2005. God Bless!!!

[honeygirl]

Well girls I am leaving this thread I became a grad earlier than expected. I got a BFP this morning. So excited! I'm a proven fact that withdrawl isnt'a form of birth control, lol :rolleyes: EDD August 2, 2005. God Bless!!!

We'll miss you, but I knew early on that you didn't belong here. :) LOL

Happy and healthy 9 months to you, I'll keep following along in your journal.

[Tonysweetie]

Thank you Honeygirl! Nope, I never did "fit in" here, lol YAY!

[MrsWilson]

Congradulations, Tonysweetie! I'm thinking of you and your family today!

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

We would like our kids to be about 3 years apart for a few reasons. It is easier to take care of a newborn with the older child being around three. By that time, hopefully, the oldest will be out of diapers and will be a little more independent. You can tell a 3 year old to bring you something and they understand. Also, when the oldest is a senior in high school, he/she can drive the younger one to school and basically look after his/her younger sibling that first year in high school. (This worked out great for my parents!)

[DelSol]

Congratulations Tonysweetie! Good Luck with everything.


Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
Yes! I'm afraid I won't be able to get in touch with DH. He never answers the phone when he is home and if I leave a message and say call me back, 9 out of 10 times he won't call me back. :rolleyes: Currently, I work really close to my hospital but I am looking for a new job because I hate this job so who knows where I'll end up.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
Not really.

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
I'd like to have my children 3 years apart. I think it gives your body a chance to recover, I heard pregnancy takes a huge toll on your body by depleting all the vitamins and nutrition so your baby can grow. I have a friend who has two older children and after both her sons, need to have major dental work done. The older one is able to help you and be more dependent to entertain themselves (hopefully).

[Janey]

Congrats Tonyssweetie! Good luck!

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
I suppose not -- everybody seems to have a propensity toward some disease or another. I don't want to not have kids because they might have a heart attack somewhere down the road. :) That said, though, I'm a little concerned that there will be obesity on both sides of my child's family, as there was in mine... and I know first-hand how horrible weight struggles are. To combat that, I don't keep non-nutritious food in the house, I'll encourage them to sign up for a sport, and my kids will just have to learn about nutrition, exercise, & calories early and from me, cause the schools certainly don't do a good job of that.

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
I'd have liked 3 years, but I'm thinking it's going to be more like 2 years. I'm getting old. :p

[DelSol]

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
I'd have liked 3 years, but I'm thinking it's going to be more like 2 years. I'm getting old. :p

I have to agree with you MrsHill, I am getting old too so my wish for 3 years apart probably won't happen.

[honeygirl]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
If we have 2 children I'd like them to be 2-3 years apart.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

Not exactly. I'm not worried about major illnesses, but I hope that our DD or DS inherits DH's teeth, no-allergies, good sinuses, better vision, etc.

Speaking of, new QOTD: What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I'd like our child to have DH's intelligence, my creativity/talent, my hair and DH's eyes.

[SwiftyOWB]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?We would like to have 2 children close together in age ex 16-18 months. My brothers and I are so far apart in age that I want my children to be close.
Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
I am concerned with some genetic issues in my husbands family but, we are prepared to handle any illness.
What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I would hope our children would have my husbands work ethic, musical talent, and amazing intelligence.

[SwiftyOWB]

Also please add me to the list
SwiftyOWB
Name: Kelly, 27
DH: Joe, 31
Married: 11/6/04
TTC? 11/07ish

[Smittenk]

Subscribing! DH and I moved up our TTC timeframe form 2007 to 2006!! Now just trying to gather info and prepare my body.

Here is my info

Smittenk
Me: Alison (28)
DH: Mike (36)
Married: April 3rd, 2004
TTC #1: Spring/Summer 2006
Pets: Barley, born August 29th, 2005

Looking forward to getting to know you all!

[Smittenk]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

I would like there to be 2-3 years between. I just want the first to be potty trained and able to play semi independantly.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

Not really...we do have Chron's and cancer on my side but I cannot worry about that. I worry enough about other things I cannot control :rolleyes:

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?

I would like them to have DH's intelligence, hard working ethic, patience, morals, eyes, and metabolism!! I would like them to have my teeth, hair, compassion and love for the environment and animals (I guess that last one would actually be from us both).

[Janey]

Welcome SwiftyOWB and Smittenk!

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
Physical Traits: I hope they inherit B's smile, and my ears... only because I have my Nana's ears and it'd be nice to pass them down... not because they're especially great ears. I hope they get B's height -- being short is a PITA.
Personality Traits: I hope they get my language/spelling skills, and B's patience.

[LeslieandPaul]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
2-3 years. My sister and I are almost two years apart, and it was nice having some so close in age, but sometimes it was not enough of an age gap. More than 3 years is too much and makes it harder for siblings to be close.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
If ADHD is genetic, that's the only thing I would be worried about because I know how hard it was for Paul to deal with.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
Physically, any traits from either of us-we were both very cute kids so I know they'll be cute. Also we're both short, so there's no getting away from that.
Personality: I want my kids to be social, spontaneous and generous like Paul, and organized, with excellent spelling/grammar like me.

[eli1126]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
Right now no more than 1 1/2 to 2 years. If we even decide to have two. I will be 30 next November and I think if I were to go any longer than 2 years we may just have one child.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
I'm not concerned in the sense that I keep myself up at night or hopefully when the time comes won't keep myself up at night worrying! But we do have some genetic illness in my family and I have let my Doctor know so that when the time comes I will be taking measures to prevent it.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I hope that our child will inherit DH'S more outgoing personality and his finger shape! I have the weirdest looking pinkie fingers :p

Congrats to Tonysweetie!!

Beth

[PG-rated]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
Not really; the only thing I would be afraid of would be him being out of town, but if he keeps his current schedule it would be hard for him to travel anyway.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
I worry a little about heart disease, since that's prevalent on my father's side of the family, and also obesity, since DH and I are both overweight. But I hope we can prevent that by losing weight and sticking to a healthy lifestyle as a good example.

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
Well, 2-3 years, ideally, but I also would prefer not to have children after I'm 35. We're talking about 3 children, and I'm about to turn 30, so the math doesn't work unless I have kids into my late 30's or space them closer together.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I hope they have his creativity and my affinity for languages. He doesn't want them to have his hair, but I hope they do - he has such beautiful curly hair! I hope they have my laugh.
Beth - I have really weird pinkies, too. They're crooked, so gloves never fit properly. :)

[PookiePrincess]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
I would say at least 3 years, if not 4. I just can't imagine having a newborn with a 1-2 year old running around! I'd like the first to be a little older, out of diapers, and getting ready for school. Plus, I always think about things like, having two teenagers on our insurance, paying for 2 college educations at the same time, and paying for weddings that are close together. I just don't think having kids close together guarantees that they are close. My brother and I are 2 years apart and fought constantly. And we aren't that close now. I'd much rather have my sanity! ;)

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
Well, I hope they get DH's personality and outgoing-ness, and mouth. I was a really shy child and still tend to be shy, and I feel like I missed out on things because of it. I hope they get my metabolism, my eyes, my hair, and intelligence. Though I'd like one of our kids to have DH's hair because he has some natural curl. I've always had stick straight hair. I'm not worried about height...we're both pretty tall, so we'll take what we can get!

[tippy]

I am sure I have missed a bunch more questions but I am just going to answer the latest...

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
Yep. I really hope I go into labor at night at home. And I am really glad that I don't have to worry about this now, b/c DH and I only have 1 car which I use during the day when I go to work, so it would be awful if I went into labor at work b/c he would have no quick way of getting to me.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
Yep. There is a history of illness in my family, and I am really afraid that I might pass something on to my child.

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
Ideally, 2 yrs. My sis and I are 5 yrs apart, and I personally wouldn't want to wait that long b/w children.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I hope they get DH's nose and eye color. I hope they get a combination of our hair types.

[stevesbabygirl]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
Around 2-3 years. I'd like them to be relatively close in age, but I don't know if I could handle two in diapers.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I hope s/he gets my music ability, my language/English ability, and DH's math ability and athleticism.

[TriSigmaNC]

OMG it's been forever, but at least I'm here at the new thread! So, looks like our new updated date for TTC will be either so that I'm due around 05/07 or that we start in 05/07.

I did have my first pre-natal visit though :)

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
Not sure if we'll have more than one. But if we do, doesn't matter to me at all, esp. since my brother and I are 10 year apart.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit? His eyes, his hair, his calves if a boy, his height not mine, his health.

[LadyD088]

Gosh have I missed SO much in the last month!!

Heather - Can you please update me to TTC'ing in April 2006? The reason is DH's busiest time of the year is Xmas so we want to avoid having to deal with a delivery and retail sales in Dec...we've decided to go ahead and wait 2 more months.

Congrats to MrsTim for starting!!! Good luck!!!

And WOO HOO on the BFP Tonysweetie!! Have a happy and healthy 9 months!!!

Magrat, so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are on your family and friends during this difficult time, especially with these holidays upon us.

OH, Welcome Renee!!! So glad you have joined this thread!! WOO HOO!!!

Ok, here are my answers to the most recent QOTD!!

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentesis?)
*We honestly have not talked about it. Guess we will have to handle that when the time comes. Of course, I would take every precaution to protect my child.

What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
*My mom will be: Grandma
*MIL will be: Abuelita (grandma in spanish)
*FIL will be: Abuelito (granpa in spanish)
*BIL will be: Tio (uncle in spanish)
*My very close friends will be Aunties/Uncles

What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?
*Oh I've started gathering ideas on this one as well. I plan on purchasing a few books for DH that involve being a daddy (so he can start reading to the baby ASAP). I will also purchase a Lullaby CD just for Dad's - so we can play that ASAP for the baby. And there is a "I <heart> Daddy" onesie that I found online that I really want to get DH. I will put all of that in a bag and have it ready and waiting for when I get that BFP. If I find out while he is at work, trust me, I will be heading down to his work!! LOL

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
*Not of being pregnant. I am a bit scared of giving birth...mainly of the pain. I have a pretty strong resistance to pain and hope to go without any medication...but so many things can go wrong, that's what worries me.

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
*Well, I work from home, so I guess I would say No. The only part is I would hope that my work flow is caught up and I am not caugh off guard because there is no one here to follow up on my work.
As for being somewhere, yeah sure, I'm a bit worried about that but I know that I will not be alone...I have my mom here.

Anyone concerned about illness your future children may aquire genetically?
*So far, no. I have talked in depthly with my doctor and they've stated no concerns for any part of our families histories.

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
*I am thinking about 2-3 years. I want my children to be able to be out of diapers so they can be a bit more independent.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
*Gosh this is hard! I guess DH's lips, nose, his great teeth, his ability to be outspoken and say what he wants to say, and his understanding of people - being able to read them, etc... As for me, my smile, my niceness, my feet (DH is flat footed), and my appreciation of others and wanting to only do for others - not being concerned for what its in it for me idea. Ugh, that was hard, I am sure there is more.

That's It!!!

Deb

[laurenc]

congrats to tonysweetie and mrstim, and welcome to the newbies!

thanks, everyone, for the support about the internship/TTC stuff. it seems that whenever you start making up your plan B's, plan A decides to start cooperating. i now have three interviews lined up -- mclean hospital, university of wisconsin, and medical university of south carolina. in my field, these three places are great places to be so i am hopeful that things will work out according to our original plan (which would lead us to TTC just around christmas of next year). as tempting as TTC right away is, i've worked too hard on this degree to not get what i set out for. i still have to get matched somewhere, which will be a harrowing wait until feb 27, but at least i've made the "first cut" at three sites... keep your fingers crossed that all goes well!!! my first interview is next friday, eek!!!

ok. let's move on to the QOTDs...

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

heh... i never thought about this until now. thanks a lot, gals! ;)

i guess as the day drew closer, i would want him accessible by cell 24-7 no matter what, so hopefully, i won't have to fear...

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

yes -- genetic risks for cancer, hypertension, and depression.

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

ideally, 3 years. i think i need more than 2 years between kids, i think i'd like #1 to be out of diapers before #2 goes in them...

[stevesbabygirl]

Done Deb, and I got your card today, thank you :D!

[Janey]

Laurenc, Congrats and Good Luck! I'm pullin' for ya. Where is McLean Hospital? Wisconsin & SC are so different but I bet both are great places to live... SC has so much history to it.

[laurenc]

Laurenc, Congrats and Good Luck! I'm pullin' for ya. Where is McLean Hospital? Wisconsin & SC are so different but I bet both are great places to live... SC has so much history to it.

MrsHill -- McLean is in a suburb of Boston, about 15 minutes by car from where I currently live. It's "famous" for being the hospital that treated James Taylor, Sylvia Plath, and Susanna Kaysen (Girl, Interrupted). :)

And yes, Wisconsin, SC, Boston... very different, but I figure I'll be working like 15 hours a day indoors anyhow, so I won't have much time to really enjoy/complain about the city. Living in the south or midwest would be a new adventure for us, though, a chance away from the high costs and fast paced northeast life we've grown up with!

[lilo]

Congrats Tonysweetie!

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
1 or 2 years apart.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
None that I know of.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
His metabolism (ha!), His overall lanky physique, His lips, My eyes, My nose. :)

[DelSol]

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
DH's eyes (mine are darker than mud brown), DH's skinny gene (I've always had to battle with my weight, don't want my children to have to do the same), DH & my dad are very smart so I hope they inherit some intelligence.

[eli1126]

Angela Thanks for the pinkie support! Mine are crooked too :)

Can I pose a new QOTD?

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

Beth

P.S. Let me know if we already had this one here, I know I asked in parenting once after MIL made one of her "innocent" remarks!

[eli1126]

Oops! I forgot to answer my own question!

I really don't know :( My In-laws and Father are famous for the "We know because we had kids" comments and I know that DH is supposed to handle his family and I am suposed to handle my family, but I know it has the possibility to become a sore subject around here. Hopefully others will have some good tips and ideas.

Beth

[tbell]

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

I think at first I might welcome any advice since I'm sure I will be clueless. But after a while, it might get a little annoying, especially from MIL who, as much as I love her, is kind of a control freak.

[LadyD088]

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?
*Gosh, I don't really know. I will probably welcome any and all in the beginning but knowing me, I will just let it roll off my shoulders if I don't want it...that's how I am. DH, on the other hand, will say what he wants and will let those know that its our child and we will raise it as we see fit. LOL

Deb

[stevesbabygirl]

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?
I honestly don't think I'm going to handle it well at all, especially from DH's mom. I know she's going to shove her nose in our business, and I don't have the ovaries to tell her to bug off. I would probably say something to my own parents though. My mom was bugging me when I was planning our wedding, saying that I had to do this and that, and I'm not going to deal with her doing that with my child.

[Julss05]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why? About 3-4 years apart at least but not much more than that if we have two. Main reason, don't want two in diapers at the same time, and I think siblings are closer when closer in age.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit? I hope they inherit my husband's beautiful blue eyes and caring, affectionate, and layed back personality. I would like to pass on my creative side and determination. Lord help us if they are as stubborn as we both are!

Tonysweetie Congrats on graduating out of this thread!

I'm not sure when we are going to take the plunge into TTC. We talked about next year but when exactly to start TTC is up in the air.

[PookiePrincess]

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

I honestly think I won't have too much problem with this. My parents are great and will offer to help as little or as often as I want. They aren't really the type to offer tons of advice, but my mom will give me bits of advice, I'm sure (much of which I'm sure I'll need/use). As far as my IL's, they aren't too nosy. They are actually great and leave us to our life, without butting in too much.

The only relative I would have a problem with giving me advice is my paternal grandmother, who I don't ever intend on seeing again. She sticks her nose in where it doesn't belong and offers the stupidest, most annoying advice. But I would SO say something to her...I won't put up with her crap.

[tashaw6]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

DH and I work at the same place so if I am still at work at that time that I go in labour then he will be a floor away. Also home is only 10 minutes away so if I am home that's ok too! :) Yuck at the thought of waters breaking in public...:p

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

Not concerned. Both DH and I suffer from hayfever so poor baby will have to deal with that too and I have asthma so probably that too...just a life thing so we'll have to deal with it! We're ok so I'm sure bebe will be ok too!

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

Probably 2-3 cause I want to have kids before I am too old.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?

DH's : Eyes, hands, legs, athletism, kindness, humbleness
Mine: Ears, hair, skin, intelligence, outgoingness,

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

With my parents it will be easy cause they are pretty cool and don't really take offence when we tell them to back off but are still there when we need them (evidence was obtained in wedding preparations). DH's parents we'll just have to nod and agree and then just do our own thing. Good thing though is we are so far from them so they won't be around to give us the 'you aren't doing it right' advice! :D

[numberlady]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Yes and No. I am because the pain and recovery terrify me. I am also very concerned about getting my body back at least to what it is. I have battled my weight all my life and I am very concerned that getting pregnant will make it even harder. I am not afraid because millions and millions of women every year get pregnant and give birth, so I know I can do it.

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
No because I work in a medical office right down the street from the hospital. I know that the people there will know what to do with me. Pretty much all of my friends have had babies too, so if I were with them they would be able to help too.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
I am not concerned about anything right now, as neither of out families has anything terrible in their pasts that we are worried about.

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
Right now we have only decided to have 1, if we decided to have more than 1, it would have to be only 2-3 years apart.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I want them to have DH's creativity, passion and sense of humor. I also want them to have DH's hair, eyes, and strong chiseled chin. I want them to have my work ethic. DH and I are both short, and I don't want our child to have to worry about that.

How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?
I don't normally take advise very well, but hopefully I will be willing to learn from others mistakes and use the information in the manner it is intended.

[LeslieandPaul]

How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

I have no idea. If it sounds reasonable, I may follow it. If I don't like it, I'll just smile and nod :)

[kris97]

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

This worries me alot, actually, because I generally bristle whenever anyone, particularly my parents, tries to tell me what to do. What I *hope* will happen: I'll patiently listen, thank them, and, if pressed, calmly explain why we want to try something different than what they're recommending. (I anticipate that this kind of exchange would happen most with the aspects of parenting we feel most strongly about -- i.e., the choice to breastfeed, rather than the best way to burp a baby.)

[kris97]

a new QOTD, sort of a spin-off of the last one: Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle? I know it can be a really sensitive subject, which people hold very different views on, but I wondered whether you thought that your choice would be accepted, and respected, by those around you.

For us: I would like to stay home as long as my job will let me, which will probably be 6 months, and then go back to work. We're very fortunate that both of our mothers have expressed interest in watching our child(ren), so I don't think we'll face any resistance from them. Friends? I don't know - I'm hopeful that they're accepting, but in the past some of them have spoken derisively of leaving a child in day care at a young age, so I just don't know.

[miaclear]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

I'm 30 right now and will hopefully get pregnant next year before I turn 31 in November (starting in May). And I'm not having kids after I'm 35 so as many as i can squeeze out by then. I want two or three so they will be close in age if everything works as planned. Even if I did have the extra time though I'd want my kids no more than 2 years apart. I think growing up together at a similar age is great. My brother and I were 18 months apart and had a very good relationship growing up (with some tough times) but in our adulthood I think we would have been extrememly close.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?

From me: humor, skin tone, creativity

From DH: outgoing personality, athletic, body build (his family doesn't have to work so hard at being skinny)

[Harmony96]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?

I don't forsee any criticism, really, but my parents might be "disappointed" that I'm not using my good brain to pursue a degree or a career or anything. I'd always made good grades in school and they don't come out and say it but they used to think that being a stay at home mom was a waste of a brain. I don't know if they still feel that way, but both of my sisters work and mom watches my nephews.

And here is yet another new QOTD prompted by a situation that happened to me this morning (details below): When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?

So since DH and I were married, I've been on the pill, until this past August when I got off the pill and we started charting and using condoms. My post-pill cycles have been very long with late ovulations and short (but getting longer) luteal phases. Today is day 31 of cycle 3 and I think I might O pretty soon since I've had an increase in CM today. (It has otherwise been VERY scant the past week or so). But I was talking to DH, and saying that since my cycles are so long, that even though we are going to start TTCing in January I might not have another O until February.

So this morning, I get up and do my fertility signs check, then go back to bed for a little snooze... and DH and I are cuddling, and doing a little more than cuddling, ... and we "did it" w/o any protection whatsoever. No condom, no withdrawal, no nothing. Afterwards I was SO nervous saying like "AAAAAAHHH what did we just do???? AAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!!!" LOL. DH has wanted this for months so he was all smiles and saying that it's too late now. LOL. I kept having brief mini-freakouts all day when I would suddenly realize again what we did this morning and what it could mean in a few weeks. We're not really TTC... just obviously not TTA anymore either. LOL. So there is the QOTD. As for me, I freaked out and got nervous and am still nervous. LOL

Andrea

[Smittenk]

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?


Very worried about this cuz I will not react well. I am a youngest child and do not do well when people tell me what to do or how to do things!! I won't be diplomatic about it after the first time of telling them to butt out. I am not worried about my family because they know this about me...my MIL on the other hand...she is already giving her opinion on how things should be and we aren't even pregnant yet! For instance she will not let go of pushing the BFing topic...I already told her how I feel and that I believe it is a personal decision...she thinks that is all wrong and how it is the most important thing to BF your kids. I think my "girls" my decision...totally personal. It will be a very sticky situation when the time eventually rolls around. I have already discussed it with DH how we need to be a team and he will eventually need to stand up to his mother. we'll see but I have no problem telling her to stay out of our business!!

[PookiePrincess]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?

I don't think I'd have much criticism, regardless of what we do. My mom would really like me to be able to stay home with my kids, but I don't know if that will be possible. If I can't, it's not like she'd be against daycare. My SIL might be a little vocal about choosing an actual daycare center vs. home daycare. She uses home daycare for my nieces, and I have personal opinions about the safety of home daycares. (Not to knock it or anything, I had some issues when I was in a home daycare as a child and it's really affected me. I'd hope to never put my child in that position.) My IL's will go along with whatever we want. I lucked out with good IL's.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?
Honestly, I think I'd be excited about the possibility. I know I'm not ready right now, but I can't wait until we have a baby. I'd know that the unprotected BDing would possibly get us pregnant, which at that time I should be completely ready and excited for!

[LeslieandPaul]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
I plan on staying at my current job until I have a baby (very easy job to do pregnant!). I will then take my one year maternity leave (yeah for Canada!!) and may return after that, until baby #2 (it's a part time job, so I'd only be away about 16 hours a week). After baby #2 is born, I will stay at home full time). I don't think our decision will get any criticism from our friends

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?
I don't think I'll be nervous. I'll be excited to be trying to get pregnant.

[Julss05]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
I don't foresee any criticism from family and friends except maybe MIL. She never went back to work after her kids were born and I'm not sure what she'd think about me returning to work after we have our kids. I'm not too concerned though even if she doesn't agree, DH and I decided long ago that I would return to work after each child was born for a couple reasons. One of the reasons is that I'm just getting my career started and would like to stay in the game so to speak, and we want certain things in our life and for our kids that won't be possible unless I'm working as well. DH has a job where he works a few days and then is off for like a week so our kids wouldn't be spending much time in daycare unless he got a second job. If he did I'd probably work part time that way the kids aren't in daycare all day, 5 days a week.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all? Cute story by the way;). Well hopefully I won't be nervous, maybe a weird feeling of having unprotected sex from having protected sex for the last 12 years! I'm sure the feeling of "What did I just do?:eek:," enters the minds of many but you wouldn't have done it unless you wanted it right?!:D I've noticed with us we are taking more chances when we have sex because we aren't as concerned as we use to be if I accidentally got pregnant. It's like you get to the point where you say, "what the hell, let's go for it!," "What are we waiting for?," "It may not happen right away anyway and even if it does we'd be okay with it":).

[purplevega]

CC name: Purplevega
Me: Kim 25
DH: Bill 31
DS: Ashton 9/04
Married: 11/2003
TTC: 12/06

[stevesbabygirl]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
I sincerely hope not. I'm sure there will always be criticism from someone, and I wouldn't doubt if it came from a family member.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?
I think I will be pretty excited, but a tad bit nervous. The only BC we use is BCPs, so it won't feel any different physically.

[Smittenk]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
I will stay home but I think I will want to continue volunteering or work part time a couple of days a week after about 6 months or so. I can't foresee any criticism...I am a SAOW right now and if people don't like that I either curb it before they say anything or they just don't!

[Harmony96]

Quick update from me... this morning my temp is still only 97.4 and my CP is medium and soft... but my CM is sticky/dry. FF called an O on Friday but it is a dotted line and I don't believe it. I am not sure if I've O'd or not yet but was hoping that my temp would be up today. Oh well, tomorrow is another day.

Andrea

[Julss05]

Speaking of temps...I haven't been charting but I took my temp. today and it was 100.6! When I was charting it was never that high. I feel fine, just a few cramps yesterday that have gone away. I should be getting AF in about 6 days. I'm going to take my temp. for the next couple of mornings just to keep an eye on the temp. and make sure it drops. Maybe I'll go back to charting since we are thinking of TTC by summer/fall.

Harmony96-Sounds like you haven't O'd yet. FF was always giving me a dotted line when it turned out I hadn't O'd yet, it would replace the dotted line with solid about 3-4 days after O.

[purplevega]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?


Well I am a SAHM now, so I will stay a SAHM with all my kiddos. If for some reason I need to work I will, but other than that I will be a SAHM till all the kiddos are grown.

Kim

[LadyD088]

Welcome Kim - PurpleVega!!!

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
*I work at home now and plan to do so after giving birth. Perhaps when we are ready for our 2nd child, I will be leaving work and become a SAHM until the kids can come home by themselves after school.
My mom lives with us ( UGH :rolleyes: ) and she will be here while I work to take care of the baby when I can't - very nice to have! I know we won't get any grief from any friends or family.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?
*I will probably freak but in a good way - thinking FINALLY we get started. LOL DH has pulled out for the last 13 years of our relationship so it will be totally weird for both of us - as this will be the first time for us (TMI?)

Deb

[laurenc]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?

oh, i'm sure there will be tension on either side -- family members who think that a working mom is poison for society will give me grief, and colleagues who think that a week of maternity leave is plenty will give me grief. i'm resigned to the fact that i can't win, so i might as well just do whatever makes me happy.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?

i don't think "nervous" will describe it... more like "somewhat grossed out at the amount of clean-up necessary to get the desired embyronic results." ;)

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

i wish i could say, "with a baseball bat."

i guess it'll depend on what the "advice" is. if it's "baby girls should always wear dresses!" or some other superficial sort of thing, then i'll smile and bite my tongue and pretend i care. there are some things not worth fighting over. but if it's more serious -- such as "your child will go to hell if he/she is not raised in X religion" or "i can't believe you'd think to send your child to public school!" or something that puts my values into question or labels my child unfairly, then i will have more to say.

[Harmony96]

more like "somewhat grossed out at the amount of clean-up necessary to get the desired embyronic results."

ROFL!!!

[eli1126]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
The only criticism I think we may get is for our childcare choice. DH'S mother watches 2 nephews, but we would use a licensed daycare closer to our home/work.

Beth

[PG-rated]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
Well, I expect increased pressure from my mom to move closer to her (we think we'll stay where we are for the sake of our careers until it's time for the kids to go to school, and then we'll move closer to family), but that's it.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?
I dunno - for DH's sake I hope I'm not nervous, because I imagine he'll be nervous enough for the both of us. ;)

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?
I don't mind advice unless it's really heavy-handed, and nobody in my family is like that - well, except me. :o So I'm lucky not to have this problem.

[magrat]

I don't mind advice unless it's really heavy-handed, and nobody in my family is like that - well, except me. So I'm lucky not to have this problem.

Haha, that's me :) I guess that's my answer - any well meaning advice will end up being a sermon to the contrary from me :)

[miaclear]

TODAY.... I ordered my last prescription for birth control. Ack!!! I get it through mail order so it is a three month supply but I only need...OMG:eek: TWO MORE MONTHS of 'em. How crazy!!!

[BryantRN]

Well, DH was offered a job so we could be TTC next month!!! No definite plans yet, but it looks promising. I can't wait to take off this damn patch and go buck wild!!! It will probably feel wierd because I have been on BC for soooooo long.

~Renee~

[LadyD088]

WOO HOO Congrats Renee!!! I am SO happy to hear that for you and DH...hmmm, guess I MUST visit your journal to see what's going on.

Deb

[tashaw6]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?

mmm, never thought about this before. In our family everyone has had to go straight back to work after maturnity as they have needed the money so I don't forsee any criticism if I go back to work cause none was shown to them...I would love to stay at home for at least the first three years of my kiddos life so hopefully by the time we TTC we will be in a position for me to take that time off. So I don't think I'll get critcism for that either.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?

As Stevesbabygirl said, I think I will be pretty excited, but a tad bit nervous. The only BC we use is BCPs, so it won't feel any different physically

[stevesbabygirl]

Copying and pasting from my LJ:

This afternoon, I mentioned that I had lofty goals for 2006, one of which was getting pregnant. When I mentioned this to Steve (minus the pregnancy part), he already knew what I was talking about. But then he said it wasn't going to happen. When I asked why, he said it was because I haven't found a full-time job yet. Apparently, he fails to remember saying that getting a part-time job doesn't necessarily rule out the chance of trying.

Damn it! I hate how I am the one who is putting my goals on hold. He gets to do whatever the hell he wants, and I don't. Wanna play soccer? Sure you can. Wanna play basketball? Sure you can. It costs how much to play? Oh no problem. As long as it's for him, it seems acceptable. I want to have kids, and I want to be done by the time I'm 30. There's no way that's going to happen now. It just pisses me off, and there's no point venting to him about it, because he doesn't get it, and he doesn't listen. Argh!

[Little Angel '77]

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
I don't forsee any criticism. I plan on being a SAHM and I know mysister is already planning on ways to utilize me to run her errands...


When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all? Not nervous at all.

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child? I don't forsee anyone being a problem. Everyone has an opinion on having kids, raising kids and planning a wedding.


I also have a live journal, that if you want to read, please PM and I will friend you.
I have loads to say on the kids topic, but don't want to post in a public forum :)

[mimieliza]

Just checking in with the new thread to let you know that I've graduated! I'm now in the TTC w/charting thread. :)

Yay! So nervous, though. :)

Good luck, everyone! I hope time flies!

Threadmistress, do we have a grads section? Can I be added to it? Thank you!

[Julss05]

Good luck Mimieliza!

Well, I was supposed to get AF by today and so far just some spotting. I've had cramping and feel like it will be here soon but my LP and cycle lengths are usually very regular. I think the stress from graduation and traveling might be delaying it. Keep you posted! If I don't get back before Christmas, hope you all have a Merry Christmas!

[honeygirl]

Just checking in with the new thread to let you know that I've graduated! I'm now in the TTC w/charting thread. :)

Yay! So nervous, though. :)

Good luck, everyone! I hope time flies!


Congrats on graduating mimieliza, good luck with TTC. Here's some ***babydust*** for you.

[stevesbabygirl]

I will start a graduates section for you at the top of the first post!

[Janey]

Congrats mimieliza! So many of us are so close to graduating... BryantRN & miaclear tops among us! Will I be the only one left, come June? ;)

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?
Nope. My friends/family/social circle are all pretty aware that I've decided to quit my job once we were married... I can't imagine they think I'd get a job once we had kids. :p I did get a bit of criticism from my father for quitting my job once we were married but once he got used to it, he was fine.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?
I don't think I'll be nervous... I think I will feel relief.

QOTD: How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?
It depends on the advice... and my mood at the time of the advice. They may get a sarcastic "Hey - Thanks For The Tip!" or perhaps I'll nod and smile, or perhaps I'll say, "Well, that's not how it's going to be; it's going to be this way instead," or if it's really bad, they might get a "STFU."


And now I have a little something to admit... B and I were at Half Price Books today... and got him a book: The Expectant Father. hee! :o

[DelSol]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

I took Citracal Prenatals (prescription) for a few days and they made me sick. I'm looking to see what others are taking and if they made your stomach upset. I need to get on the bandwagon and call the doctor but I know there are OTC prenatals but not sure what is good brand.

[eli1126]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

I'm not taking any prenatals per say, but I am currently taking Folgard a combo folic acid/calcium thing that my Doctor put me on when I told her TTC was around the corner. I also do a Flinstone's vitamin :o just because it doesn't make me sick or feel nauseated. I figured it was better than nothing, but will see what my Doctor says at my annual next month.

Congrats mimieliza!

stevesbabygirl Men can be so frustrating! Hang in there!

Beth

[Harmony96]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

I'm not taking "prenatals"... but I am taking calcium and folic acid and a kids' multivitamin. I don't want to OD on vitamins so that's why I'm taking the kids' version. I also have an iron supplement but I'm holding off on that one until I would be 8-10 weeks along b/c it's a somewhat high dose and I don't want to OD on that one either.

I'm in my 2WW right now. I am going to try and hold off on testing until January 2nd.

Andrea

[lilo]

wow, we already have graduates! how exciting. good luck to all the graduates who are now TTCing. :)

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?

Probably. My mother is very opinionated so I'm sure she will offer it, even when not asked. :rolleyes: From my friends, I don't think I'll get any criticism but who knows. I said the same thing when I got married and people were offering unsolicited advice left and right. I haven't decided what I will do once we have kids (work part-time or not at all) nor do I plan on telling anyone until I've made the decision since I just don't need the stress.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?

Yes, I think so. Just knowing that we're not having sex but actually working towards a goal will be much different but very exciting too.

How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

ignore them? :D j/k. I will try to just smile back and nod and not say anything because I"m sure it won't help having an argument like that.

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

Not specific prenatals but I am taking a Women's multi-vitamin (bought it from Trader Joe's) with high folic acid. I really like it and haven't had any problems with it.

[Janey]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

I just went to Costco and got whatever they had there, which was "Nature Made" brand. They don't make me sick... but I can't say anything like, "These are the best vitamins I've ever had!!" Cause I'm not sure they're any better than any others.

http://store1.yimg.com/I/mypatienteducation_1868_3777963

If you can't find some that don't make you sick, definitely talk to your doctor. Mine told me that they'd prescribe some for me if I couldn't find some that didn't upset my tummy. They're probably at least marginally more expensive (not more than your copay, I'd imagine), but geez, to not be sick every time you took a vitamin... that'd be worth it, I'd think! :)

[laurenc]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

nope... just a regular multivitamin.

[tashaw6]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

Nope, I just take a regular multivitamin and folic acid tablets. Would be interested to hear if that is enough...

<mental note to self> ask doctor at next check up if that is enough...lol!

[Little Angel '77]

Nope- No PN here.

Ok, girls, if you want to be added to the LJ - My username is Littleangel821

:)

[PookiePrincess]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

I don't take one either.

[TriSigmaNC]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

Not yet, but Dr. suggested I start even though I'm not TTC yet. She just said a regular multi-vitamin would be fine for me.

[artist]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

Not really. If I were pregnant, we’d make damn sure that DH was easily reached by phone, and he’d insist that his employer not make him work in the field for about 2 weeks or so before the due date! Also, depending on where I’d be working while pregnant, perhaps I would just not work a few days before the due date just in case.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

Well, sure. Our kids could end up with a number of things, such as anxiety, ADD, depression, a bad back for example. And, sadly, our kids have a 50% chance of being alcoholics which is just lovely. That won’t stop me from having kids though. I’ll love them so much even if they are nervous little children!

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

Definitely far apart enough so there aren’t two of them in diapers at the same time. Personally I’d say at least 4-5 years apart would be great. However, if I end up not having the first until age 30, maybe they’d be closer together in age.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?

artistic/creative, musician, idealistic, good at fixing or making things, writing, reading, interest in the world, being inquisitive

***Oh, and it would be so cool if we gave birth to a child who was organized and good at math and then our kid can balance the checkbook and do our taxes!!! (Just kidding, but we secretly hope for that miracle!)***

How will you handle parents/in-laws well meaning "advice" when it comes to your child?

It depends. I am sure some of their advice will be good. However, it seems with anything, there are ALWAYS annoying people who push their advice at you. I know my parents won’t be like that. I hope my in-laws won’t be. It’s the other people in the world I worry about.

When you do start TTC... how nervous will you be right after BD-ing for the first time w/o any protection at all?

I don’t think I’ll be nervous.

Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle?

Sure, but probably not from our parents or my sister. Any of the women in our families (as in my mom, MIL, DH’s step-mom, my sister) all were SAHMs or WAHMs. That is my goal too and I am sure they’d all support that decision.

However, I am sure we’ll have judgemental friends. If/When that happens, I guess I’ll know who my real friends are though! I guess my whole thing is, I’d really prefer to be at home, whether I work at home or not. I don’t like daycares. That’s fine for other parents, and obviously some people don’t even have much of a choice, but I would consider it to be extremely rude for anyone to criticize whatever my decision would be, and I’d probably want to avoid hanging out with people that judgemental.

Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?

No. I probably should take regular vitamins though. Dr. wanted me to take calcium, not for TTC, but because I am a young woman.

[numberlady]

I need to update our stats. We will begin TTC in May :( Its all for the best though...I'm just ready to start trying...now!
On to the QOTD's:
Whether you hope to work outside the home, work from home, or stay at home full time once you have children, do you foresee any criticism (overt or otherwise) from your family, friends, or social circle? DH will be a WOHD and I will continue to work outside the house. I imagine that there will be some criticism and/ or surprise. DH and I have been working this out for several years, but not really talked about it much with anyone else. We both agree it is best for us, although I am a little sad that I don't get that opportunity to WOH.

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?
I am just taking One A Day multivitamins (when I remember:o ). I think they have enough folic acid which is the main concern.

[purplevega]

QOTD: Is anyone taking prenatals? If so, what kind? Are they prescription or OTC? Do you like them?


Yes, I take the Target Brand. I also take omega 3, 6, 9. I was told by DR that Prenatals are great for women in general and I am still nursing, and feel better when I take them.

Kim

[eli1126]

Along the lines of prenatals: QOTD Is anyone taking medications that may need to be stopped (besides BC :p ) before TTC?

I have Crohn's Disease and, due to a very overactive inflammation, I am currently taking Enticort a steroid medication and Pentasa a commonly used medication for Crohn's. I also take Claritin-D becasue I have allergies and cats :( I don't know how I am goingto go 9 months without it though because I get the most terrible headaches due to sinus pressure if I skip even a day!! Hopefully, I will find something that will be of some relief while pg.

Beth

[lilo]

Well ladies, I am very happy and excited to tell you that I will be 'graduating' a bit early from this thread! DH and I decided to 'officially' start TTC in January 2006! yay!

Good luck to everyone!

Threadmistress, can you please be add to the graduate section? :D

[Julss05]

Good luck Lilo!

QOTD-No prenatals just a multi-vitamin for now.

Turns out I was late with AF and not pregnant. I'm glad though, truth is I don't want to be pregnant right now but eventually, maybe later next year. My mom came to visit recently and saw this baby/momma animal picture in the guest room and I told her it was for our future baby's room that it was going to be a jungle theme and she thought that was the coolest. I think once I get settled in another job I'll feel better about TTC. Hope everyone has a happy holidays! I'm having a blast spending time with family in California.

[LeslieandPaul]

I posted part of this in my journal, and thought I'd post in here too. We have friends who got married a week after us (which I was annoyed about), and yesterday they announced that they're having a baby. They just found out last Friday and haven't even told family yet (and his brother came over later and we couldn't say anything!). I couldn't muster up any excitement for them. All i could say was congratulations and turn back to the computer and try not to cry. I guess it's because I'm jealous. I always thought Paul and I would be the first ones out of all our friends to start a family, and they're taking that away from us. I know that sounds stupid and petty.
The worse part for me was that Paul didn't even realize that my foul mood got worse after their announcement. How hard would it be to put two and two together: Last week I said I had the baby bug + friends pregnancy announcement= GRUMPY!!! I know when I want to have kids, but I don't want to talk to him about it because I know he'd just brush it off and say "Let's talk about it later." I really have no idea when HE wants to start a family, and it's just so frustrating!
ok, rant over.

[PookiePrincess]

Leslie: I'm sorry you're feeling so crappy, but I completely understand how you feel. My younger brother met this woman and was married to her in less than 6 months (and she already had a kid, but that's a whole other story!). 3 months later they were pregnant. He's 24 years old and has 3 kids! But I was jealous and thought it was crappy of them. I'm the oldest, so I figured I'd be the first one to have babies. It still bugs me, but not so much that they did it, but how they did it, I guess.

Give it some time and hopefully the emotions won't be as raw.

[Julss05]

I'm the oldest, so I figured I'd be the first one to have babies.
Same here. My younger brother has had two already and my DH's younger brother is having the first grandchild on his side in June. I thought we were in perfect position to be having the next child:(. But you know after much thought I'd rather us wait and be totally ready to have a baby then have one too early just because we want to be the next in line. I was jealous and hurt at first when I learned that my unmarried BIL was having a baby after only being with a girl for a few months and my stepsister who was having relationship troubles was also pregnant but now I feel kind of sorry for them because I don't think either of them planned this so it must be especially difficult. If anything I feel a great need to help them in anyway I can because those babies will be apart of the family soon. Plus it gives me an excuse to go baby shopping:D.

Merry Christmas Everyone!

[laurenc]

Leslie-- i totally understand. i had a friend who met guy, got engaged, got married, and then got pregnant, all in one year. i found it unsettling that she'd move so fast, and i was definitely jealous of her skating-pond-sized diamond ring, but it wasn't until she got pregnant that the jealousy-to-the-point-of-crying really hit me. at that point i'd been with DH (well, then FH) for 6 years and we were in the middle of a 2-year engagement (with no plans to TTC for awhile even after getting married). i was angry because i sort of felt like DH and i had been together way longer than she and her DH, so we had first dibs on baby-making. i knew it was totally irrational and i felt petty and shallow, but nonetheless, everytime i saw her i wanted to break down crying and screaming.

i think this is just one part of being a lady-in-waiting. you know you want to have kids but you are waiting, and it feels like people who cut in on your waiting time in any way are violating a sacred rule. but when i think a little more about these "sacred rules" i realize that there are times when i feel like i'm trying to justify our waiting beyond the practical circumstances -- i know that the bottom line is, if i wasn't in school, we'd probably be TTC'ing right now. but i sometimes feel like that reason is so flimsy, so i try to convince myself and everyone around me of the "other" reasons. it's not because of circumstances, its' because we want to "be married" for awhile (how long did we really need after living together 3 years before marriage?) and get more mature (like that's going to happen ;)) and maybe travel (we've never really been into the traveling thing) and save a little more money (sure we could save, but we have plenty to live on right now) and live our lives freely (i don't even know what this means, really) before having kids... but it's BS. and it's the people who violate the BS reasons i set for myself are the ones i react most to.

i don't know if this makes any sense to anyone else... but it seems to help me understand my own reactions to things.

[Janey]

laurenc, you sound so reasonable and rational. I can really tell you've worked through it for yourself.

leslie, I totally understand what you're going through. My best friend started dating a guy, and six weeks later they were engaged. Three weeks after that, I got married... and 8 weeks after that she got pregnant. She's now planning a wedding for February 18 (she'd previously been thinking Summer... but now that won't work) and I'm kind of having a hard time with it, too. Both because of the very short whirlwind courtship/engagement, and now she's pregnant and she's only known this guy since... August or so? Statistically speaking, it's a recipe for disaster but I still hold hope that everything will work out great and she and he will stand by each other & love each other for the next 60 years. I'm trying to divide my excitement between her being a bride and being a mommy and not only that but I'm 2,000 miles away from her and it's tough.

[eli1126]

I can relate to your feelings completely! It seems that everyone, even those people who haven't even known each other as long as DH and I have been together, have been married then pg at light speed and here we are still waiting. The worst is that DH will one day say things that make me think he's ready and then the next day talk about holding off TTC due to money, school, and my graduation in May, but I'm 29 and not getting any younger! It doesn't help that other women in my class are pg and while they admit it can be difficult at times, they manage. In fact a woman in my class was saying that no matter what stage someone is in they still have to find ways to manage babies, children, and childcare. If she were working as opposed to going to school full time, she would be just as busy trying to get babies to the sitter or to the Doctor. So it seems that putting off TTC until were millionaires or we are at the "perfect" time isn't realistic :mad: Sorry for the vent, I guess I was a little more ticked than I thought :o

Beth

[motray36]

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Me:Tracy, 25
DH: Keith, 26
Engaged: 7/4/03
Married: 6/25/04
TTC: July 2006

[motray36]

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[DelSol]

Leslie ~ I think we all can understand where you are coming from.

My mom knows I really want to have children but she doesn't know that it pisses me off to hear of others who are pregnant. She'll call me up and say, "I don't know if I told you but so and so was pregnant but had a miscarriage and she & her DH can start trying after her next cycle." What I say is “oh that's a shame about the miscarriage.” What I really feel like saying is “why can't it be my turn to have a baby, so and so already has one, why can't I be the person having the baby?!?!?!”

We all have reasons as to why it isn't our time, mine is mainly because of DH. He has major anxiety issues and has been out of work because of this for many many months so we have little money saved. I am hoping he goes back to work soon so we can save some money and then we'll TTC but knowing my DH that won't happen for a while. Unfortunately, I will have to tell him if we aren't TTC in x months, I will be pissed off at him forever because I am not getting any younger, I am 31 years old and the only thing I want is a baby. :o

Sorry about my little rant but my DH really gets under my skin when it comes to TTC and his reason why we can't.

[melnv]

Leslie- I so know how you feel, and it totally sucks. I have this SIL that was single at our wedding in Sept of 03. Since then she met someone, got engaged, married, bought a house, got pregnant and had a baby. The baby is already 5 months old! I will seriously construct a voodoo doll if they start talking about how close they are to making their first million. Like Laurenc I want to finish school first, but feel silly sometimes for waiting. It will be best for us, but sometimes I feel like just going for it. Usually those days end with chocolate ice cream dribbling down my chin while I sob over Father of the bride II. ;)

[Julss05]

Well put laurenc. My cousin proposed to his girlfriend over Christmas and we also learned his fiance is 2 months pregnant. So far there are 3 babies coming into the family next year. Like all of you I try to be happy for them but it's hard sometimes when we've been married for a while and aren't getting any younger. I try to keep my spirits up like telling myself when we finally get to that point everyone else will be finished having their babies so it will then be our special time. I told DH about the latest pregnancy and I think he's feeling the same way because he said he would like to actually have a baby by next spring which means TTC by this spring/summer! He even went so far as to say if he gets this job he applied to we can start right away:eek:. I want to make sure it's not just because we are feeling left out though but seriously want to take this next step. Something to look forward to in the new year:).

[honeygirl]

julss05 Great news, hopefully your DH gets the job!

I haven't been adding to this particular issue b/c I don't relate. We're the youngest in our families, and so most siblings are older with children. Also, we're the couple that rushed into marriage/house, etc, and are now taking it slow with the babies. My friends TTC are older and I am routing for them as a result.

Anyway, I feel for you ladies though. In the situations you posted I'd feel the same way.

On a different note we've been talking about TTC and babies A LOT! We looked at cribs while at Ikea, talked about waiting on sperm after BD (LOL) and even told our friends last night about our plans to TTC next year (2006). Very exciting!

Hopefully our plans will work. I see the gyno tomorrow for some tests. I'm hoping that she'll say everything is normal and that I've just had some weird cycles.

[laurenc]

feels like it's time for a new QOTD!!!

this is a bit corny but, what do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

for me, it's figuring out where my career is going so that i can get on with the rest of my life... if i get an internship for next year, then great, if i don't, that's ok too, but i won't know until the end of february. and i want to know if i'll need to move or not, i want to know if i'll need to file for my degree or not, i want to know if i have to start applying for jobs or not... ack.

i'm also looking forward to buying myself a car!

[Smittenk]

Great question!!

what do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?
I am definitely looking forward to travelling. We have a couple of great trips planned for 2006 and I cannot wait for that. I also can't wait to start shopping for a new wardrobe if I do end up preggos in 2006 :p

[filmgirl7]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

This is a really hard question for me because we had planned to have a baby this year and since we won't even attempt until the summer, i'm feeling pretty down. But that defeats the purpose of this question, so I'll try harder....

Let's see....

*Next weekend J and I are FINALLY getting married, so that's huge. We're having a very small wedding in Vermont, and then we'll go skiing. We've been planning it since last summer....so woohoo!

In February, we will have our traditional fondue Olympics party on the 10th, and on the 11th we're going to a broadway show.

In April, my little brother's college graduation concert will take place in Geneseo, and that should be enjoyable.

May is a big month for us, since we are due to have a neice join the family. My SIL is due May 13th. YAY!

By the end of June I hope to have a new job, and I'm kind of looking forward to the job search because wherever I end up teaching will most likely be the district I stay in for the next 30 years, and the place DH and I will move closer to...so a lot will be decided by that.

We are also seriously looking forward to paying down our credit cards and getting rid of a lot of my student loans, all while saving up for a house. It should be a very exciting year for us!

[motray36]

QOTD - DH and I just bought a house, so we will be moving in mid-January. I can't wait to decorate!

[SwiftyOWB]

We have decided to wait until Fall 2007 to TTC so next year is all about getting settled in the condo we bought in February and getting DH started with grad school. Also we are going to be very focused of trying our hardest for get out of debt in 2006!!!

[PookiePrincess]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

Getting out of this apartment and buying a new house! I can't wait to have a house of my own! Plus, that is one of the big things we are doing before we decide to TTC, so I'm all for a house!

[LeslieandPaul]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

-Going to Europe
-My sister getting married
-buying a house (hopefully!)
-having DH change jobs and not have to travel so much!

[dpangel33]

Well I figured I'd go ahead and join you ladies as we won't be TTC in the near future...
We both want kids really bad, but have decided to enjoy our time together and get our lives grounded before joining parenthood.

dpangel33
Me: Danea, 22
DH: Patrick, 25
Married: 10-16-05
TTC: 2010

QOTD - What do you look forward to in 2006?
I'm looking forward to going back to school to get my BA (already have my AA) while either working part time at my current job or finding a new one in my degree field.

We are also in the midst of planning a summer trip to CA to visit one of DH's friends before I go back to school.

[eli1126]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

My graduation on May 13, 2006!!!
My 30th birthday on November 26...Actually, I'm not sure how I feel about this one :eek:

Beth

[Janey]

Oooh - good question! You ladies have lots to look forward to this year!

- I look forward to getting better at my new career (SAHW).
- I look forward to re-hiring our contractor to building the deck on top of our garage, and work on the exterior of our house so we can hire a painter to paint it RED.
- I look forward to our first anniversary. We have tickets to Wicked that by chance are near enough to our anniversary to count as an anniversay date. Then we can, ya know, stay home :p on our actual anniversary.

[allison]

I'm so bad, I haven't been around at all in so long. I didn't even know there was a volume 2!!!!!

I'm going to try my best to keep up. This thread moves so fast!!!

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

A possible trip to China!

[Julss05]

what do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)? I look forward to getting a job in the field I majored in. I can't wait to learn new job skills and meet new people! I will also be purchasing a new car to replace my 15-year-old heap of junk. I look forward to working on my bachelors to further my educational goals. I look forward to just spending as much time with my husband as I can because he was gone for about 6 months last year on a military deployment. It will be nice to go to the beach, go camping in the mountians, and catch a few outdoor concerts this coming summer together. Oh and paying off what little bit of credit debt we have left.

[Annette]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?


-Our 5 year anniversary in Nov. I still can't believe we've been married that long. Time flies. I feel like I'm the only one out there who's been married this long and doesn't have kids yet.
-Our friends weddings - we have 2 possibly 3 this year, one of which I'm a BM.
- One more trip before we have kids. I want it to be exotic and adventurous.
-Paying off the car.
- I hope my job gets better now that we have a new boss.

[magrat]

DH and I have decided to go ahead and start TTC, so I'm no longer a lady in waiting (although certainly still waiting in other respects!)

[Janey]

Congratulations, Magrat! I hope you will come back here and announce your BFP before too long!! :D

[honeygirl]

Congrats on your wedding Filmgirl, and on TTC magrat!

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

Looking forward to (and dreading) moving to Arizona!
Taking a trip to either Hawaii, Australia or somewhere else warm/tropical. :)

[stevesbabygirl]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?
Working in my field as a surgical tech :).

Congrats magrat and filmgirl! Welcome dpangel!

[MrsWilson]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

* Paying off DH's truck--our last debt!!
* Becoming home owners
* Celebrating our 2nd anniversary
* The band trip to San Antonio in April
* Hopefully getting pregnant in September

[numberlady]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?
- Going back to St. Augustine where we were married for our 4th anniversary.
- Planning and hopefully starting our house expansion/remodel
- Getting a new car (not looking forward to the debt though:rolleyes: )
- Paying off all debt except for new car above

[PG-rated]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?
- Being debt-free after years of living beyond our means
- Trips to San Diego, Las Vegas, and the Grand Canyon
- Buying a house!!!! I'm so house-hungry you can't even imagine
- Getting off BCP and getting the hormones out of my system finally

So I'm having a bout of cold feet when it comes to TTCing - we saw friends last week who've just had a baby (he's 10 weeks) and their life just seemed sort of out of control. Of course, that's to be expected with a newborn, but seeing it sort of freaked me out. We can barely handle our lives as is, and I'm worried having children would take more organization than we're capable of.
I'm probably overreacting, as usual. I think part of the problem is that I feel a lot of pressure to be the one who's "ready" to have kids, since DH has a lot of anxiety about it, and if I left the timetable up to him, we'd never have them because we wouldn't get around to it until it was too late. So whenever I feel worried or scared, I feel like I can't talk to DH about it, because I'll just be confirming all his fears, and then things build up until I'm convinced that I'll never be a capable parent. Those of you with a reluctant DH - do you ever feel like you can't show ambivalence about having kids, or am I the only one?

[PookiePrincess]

PG rated: Don't feel bad at all about how you are feeling. There will always be fears about whether you are ready or not. For me, some of those fears tell me that it's not my time yet, and that I am justified in waiting. My situation is similar to yours in that I am the one with the baby bug and my DH has no need for a baby anytime soon. But, also, we've only been married 2 months and I want us to have at least a year together before we have a baby.

The best thing for me though, was seeing people with new babies. Before we even got married, I wanted a baby soon. My brother and SIL had twins in June and that was the biggest thing to fuel the baby bug fire, but it also curbed my appetite and made me realize that I'm not ready. Just being around them when they came home from the hospital, being around them when the babies are sick and cranky and you can't really do anything to help, and being around my brother and SIL when they haven't had any sleep, it was the best thing for me. It made me realize that I'm not ready to sacrifice all of those things that I like about my life yet.

With my DH though, I do show my ambivalence. We came home Thanksgiving day from my mom's and I told him that I so was not ready to have a baby yet. It makes him feel better because then he knows we're not just waiting on him to be ready. It's okay to have second thoughts, but you might talk to your DH...he might surprise you!

[aam64]

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Me:Alicia, 24
DH: Mike, 27
Engaged: 11/23/03
Married: 6/4/04
TTC: Late 2006/Early 2007

[eli1126]

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!


With the new year here, I just wanted to wish those who are moving on to graduation the best of luck for BFP's!

Beth

[DelSol]

Happy New Year Ladies!!!!

[DelSol]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

~ Starting my new job
~ DH gets healthy and is able to go back to work (or find a new job)
~ Celebrating our 2nd anniversary
~ Going on vacation with friends to the Caribbean (place to be decided)
~ Doing some remodeling on our townhouse: tile floors in foyer, kitchen and all bathrooms; getting new counter top in kitchen and new sink areas in all bathrooms; and painting. (DH is finally getting motivated to get the townhouse looking like a home and not his warehouse of tools.)
~ Losing weight so I can get pregnant without any complications.

[Julss05]

Congrats Magrat on moving on! DH was telling me that a good amount of babies are conceived on New Year's Eve;).

Hope everyone has a happy new year! Before we did the deed last night somehow we were discussing TTC, what month we would prefer to have a baby, he actually brought it up I think. I can't believe we've actually gotten to this point, how time moves fast, we'll be celebrating our 4th anniversary in June. I'm glad we didn't have a baby right after getting married, the 4 years has given us plenty of "us" time that we needed before adding kids. We've decided to start TTC in June/July 2006 to hopefully have a baby in March 2007. Of course I know it may not happen that way but it's a start. For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

[eli1126]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

In a perfect life I would get pg in Sept/Oct 06 and that way I would be due around June/July. However, I'll take what I can get! Graduation is May 13th and according to storknet.com it is one of my "fertile" days so we'll see what happens then!

Beth

[Janey]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

90% of the people in our combined families have birthdays between October - February. We'd like to spread our celebrations out a bit, so we've decided that we'd like our baby to be born sometime between March - September of 2007. Not that I put too much stock in this sort of thing... but Ovusoft predicts that I will ovulate on June 27, which if we conceived on that cycle would give me a due date around March 20, 2007. I'm counting the days, and excited every month when I get to enter ovulation data into Ovusoft to see if/how it changes. :)

[honeygirl]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

May :) I'm already counting down, I wish we could start NOW! But with the move (in April across country) it doesn't make sense.

[MrsWilson]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

In a perfect life I would get pg in Sept/Oct 06 and that way I would be due around June/July. However, I'll take what I can get!
This is us, too! Our reasoning is very odd to most people, but not to those who are in "the know." My DH marched Drum and Bugle Corps during his summers from age 18-21. At age 21 you age out and can't do it anymore. The only exception is if your birthday is during the summer. He would like our children to have the opprotunity to march the extra year if they decide to do it. I agree it is a great experience for young musicians and think Sept/Oct will be a great time financially for us to start TTC.

[DelSol]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

Our timeframe is dependent upon when DH goes back to work. For some reason, I'd like to have a May/June baby, this way I could have the summer off and take walks and play outside. I was laid off in July and truly loved being off for 2 months in the summer. That would mean I'd have to wait longer to TTC and I'm just not digging that idea, I know once DH gets back to work, it will be a short wait and then we'll TTC. Until then I'm just waiting and waiting to hear those words of "My return date to work is...." :D

[stevesbabygirl]

MrsWilson,
I think I might've asked you this before, but what Drum and Bugle Corps did your DH march with? I used to love watching the DCI championships. I was in marching band in high school, so I love that stuff!

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
I'm not really sure. I've finally landed a job working as a surgical tech, but it's only per diem, so I'm not getting full time hours. The original plan was to wait three months after I started working, but since I'm not full time, or even part time for that matter, DH doesn't want to commit to that yet. However, I did tell him last night that I didn't want to take BCP anymore, and he said that we could talk about that after I took my certification exam in two weeks! He's not comfortable with the idea of charting, so it should be an interesting conversation :p.

[MrsWilson]

MrsWilson,
I think I might've asked you this before, but what Drum and Bugle Corps did your DH march with? I used to love watching the DCI championships. I was in marching band in high school, so I love that stuff!

He marched Soutwind '95-'97 and Phantom Regiment in '98. In fact, he proposed to me with Regiment playing a song we had played together in college when they came to town in 2002. People still recognize us from being on the DCI website! I guess you understand why he wants to have a baby in the summer!

[stevesbabygirl]

That is so cool! I can totally understand :).

[eli1126]

I got AF today and even though we are "waiting" until May to officially TTC, I was upset this morning :confused: Maybe because my twin sister is pg with #2 I thought it would be cool to be pg with someone and have someone to comiserate with! So I guess now I really have the baby bug!! Counting down the days until May!!

Beth

[Smittenk]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

May-July and then not again until october...I am picky about what month the baby would be born. I know..strange but true :rolleyes:

[LeslieandPaul]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

I would like to start trying in June, after my sister's wedding. If I'm not pregnant by November, we'll take a break for a couple months so I'm not huge when our friends get married (I'm going to be a bridesmaid).

[Janey]

It's nice to hear that so many of you will be TTC during the same months I am... I feel like I already have a leg-up, knowing you all. :)

[elissa]

Subscribing!

elissa
Me: Elissa, 29
DH: Chris, 31
Engaged: 2/19/04
Married: 10/01/05
TTC: Going off BCP March 2006, then probably joining the seeing what happens ladies!

[tashaw6]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?


Unfortunately 2006 is not our TTC year...unless we settle this year which seems highly unlikely! :(

[PG-rated]

Kristi, thanks for the support. :) You're right that these fears do help me have patience, because they remind me that I have good reasons of my own to wait. And I did end up talking to DH about it, especially since I would like our life to be more organized before kids enter the picture, and obviously I need his help on that front. He was very supportive, so good call. I guess I do need to worry less about being the "strong" one.

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
I'd like to start in November or so, with the goal of being pregnant by early 2007. I don't really care about due dates. This could change if we're having a hard time finding a house (we plan to start looking in the fall, if possible), since we won't actively TTC without more living space on the horizon.

[JLRenheos]

JLRenheos

Me: 29
DH: 33
Engaged: December 3, 1999
Married: April 21, 2001
TTC: This Fall 2006

I thought that I'd re-join again. I think that I'm one of the remaining last originals, who's still around & waiting to start TTC. I used to belong in the LIW thread #3 over at the WC a *long* time ago. I don't know how much I'll get to post, but I'll try to keep up with the reading.

HAPPY NEW YEAR Everyone!!

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe? Probably after our trip to Las Vegas which will be anytime from October on.

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you will TTC next year)?

- Celebrating our '5' Year Wedding Anniversary
-Hopefully taking a trip to see my brother & SIL in N.Carolina
-Vacationing w/friends in Las Vegas for a week
-Celebrating my '30th' Birthday
-Going somewhere on a fun/short weekend with my husband somewhere
-Investing in our home/home repairs & changes

[LadyD088]

Gosh, I've been MIA for So long!!!

HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone!! WOO HOO for 2006 Finally getting here.

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
*We are starting in February!! I can't WAIT. We are heading on a Cruise and its Perfect Timing. If we don't get PG in Feb, we will take March off (no Dec baby for us - DH's job, he couldn't take it) and then back at it in April until we get a baby.

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you will TTC next year)?
*Looking forward to the Following:

*1 week Cruise in Feb
*Celebrating our 2nd Year Wedding Anniversary
*Celebrating my 30th Bday in June (Woo Hoo JLRenheos!!! When is yours?)
*Visiting my Cousin and her new baby in August
*Celebrating my BF's 30th Bday in Sept - flying to Florida for that one
*Moving to a new, cheaper apartment!! LOL No this will NOT be fun but it must be done so I might as well look forward to it.
*Hopefully going away for a long weekend with my DH - just the 2 of us (if a baby is due this year)

Also, want to say WELCOME to all the newbies!!!!

Deb

[j.d.l.102205]

Subscribing here...


Me: 27
DH: 27
Married: 10/22/05
TTC: Late 2006 or early 2006


I thought I would subscribe because in mid Dec I really got the baby itch. I had never really had it before (even with my sister, cousin, and a couple friends of the family all pregnant.) Everyone asked and I had no problem saying we were waiting at least 2 years. Well the week of my birthday it hit me really hard (birthday related I don't know.) My sister is only 24 and is due with her 2nd child in Mar. I guess I was just feeling behind. Then a good friend of mine told me I wasn't behind I was just taking a different road (well that makes a whole lot of sense since my sister and I have never taken the same road.) I guess i was alittle jealous because I thought I would be first. At any rate we moved into our new house (that's has me really excited and keeping me busy.) I also got DH a German Shepherd puppy for christmas so she's really keeping me busy. I think now I'm pretty content. DH and I said we would sit down and re-evaluate at our 1 yr anniversary (Oct 2006) so we'll see at that time.
Here's to a great and eventful 2006!

[miaclear]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
Off the pill in March, hopefully TTC in May


What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you will TTC next year)?
* The birth of our good friend's first baby
* The wedding of my best friend
* Our trip to Hawaii in Feb
* My annual 4th of July trip home
* Going back home for the 5th annual Dart Tournament in Nov held in honor of my brother
* Christmas in Texas with my parents and hopefully....
* Decorating a nursery!!!

[jnettie]

I have been more of a lurker as of late, but I think I'll be around more in the new year.

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
We won't be TTC in 2006, but I feel it's coming soon. We've been talking to young couples with kids and asking lots of questions about what they went through and when they felt they were ready or not. My friend H was the last person in the world who was ready for kids and looked like a deer in headlights whenever she entered a baby store, even while pregnant, yet she's one of the most natural moms I've ever met. We talked to my cousin in law at Christmas, too, because she is a working mom but works from home, and we wanted to know how that works for her.

I also got to watch DH convince my cousins' kids that they saw Santa fly away from the house and I knew he'll be a great dad. :)

So, depending on the job situation, I'm thinking 2007. I'll be 29 then. That's how old my mom was when I was born. And a second is possible after that.

Going way back... vitimins
Anything with iron makes me throw up, so I look very carefully, and most pills don't sit right, aside from my complete inability to swollow anything larger than an Advil. My MIL gets us this stuff that comes in powder form and you add water. It is fizzy and has a citrus taste. I'm going to find out if they make a prenatal.

[Sunshine]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
Off the pill in May and seeing what happens from there:D YAY!

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you will TTC next year)?
~Vegas in May!
~First anniversary in August!
~Anniversary Vacation
~First bday celebration of my best friends first baby:D

[Annette]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
Sometime between June & Sept.

[motray36]

July - I am a big nerd and put a countdown in FF. :D

[miaclear]

I had to go to Babies R Us to day to get a present for my friends shower. OMG....I can't wait till I get to register. And seeing all those glowing pregnant ladies. This is the first time I'm really feeling it. Till now it's just been ok, in the future. But now I can't wait for May to get here and to start trying.

[Kristibell]

I've been a horrible member of the LIW group. Anyway, You can remove me from the group. We started TTC in Nov, and just found out I'm pregnant, so definately not waiting anymore.

Good Luck to all of you.