Ladies in Waiting, Volume 2

[stevesbabygirl]

Who are the ladies in waiting? We are a group of ladies who want a baby, but for one reason or another, can't at this time. Our other thread was so popular, I ran out of room, so here we are in volume 2!

When adding information, please do so in the following format, and in the color red:
CC name
Me: name and age
DH: name and age
Married: date
TTC: future date

THE GRADUATES

Aletheia
Me: Aletheia, 28
DH: Mr. Ramsey, 28
Engaged: 3/26/04
Married: 8/7/04
TTC: graduated!

betsyboop
Betsy, 27
Dave, 29
Married: 10/18/03
TTC date: graduated!

Camdynlyn
Me: Summer, 22
DH: Steffie, 25
Engaged: 10/19/02
Married: 7/17/04
TTC: graduated!

Dansgirl
Me: Autumn, 26
DH: Dan, 31
Engaged: December, 2000
Married: September, 2001
TTC: graduated!

eli1126
Me: Beth
DH: Ed
Married: 6/12/04
TTC: graduated!

honeygirl
Me: Anne, late 20's
DH: Late 20's
Met, Engaged and Married in 2003 (busy year )
TTC: May 2006

kdotp
Me: Kari, 26
DH: Nate, 29
TTC: graduated!

Kristibell
Me: Kristine, age 27
DH: Brett, age 30
Engaged: December 21, 2001
Married: September 27, 2003
TTC: graduated!

LadyD088
Me: Deb, 29
DH: Ryan, 28
Dating Since: 10/24/92
Engaged: 10/24/02
Married: 5/8/05
TTC: graduated!

lawgirl4
Me: Ericka, 30
DH: Rob, 36
Engaged: 9/4/02
Married: 7/6/03 (almost 2 years!) - together since the mid 90s
TTC: graduated!

lilo
Me: Natasha, 30
DH: Jared, 33
Married: 10/15/02
TTC: graduated!

Magrat
Me: 26
DH: 25
Married: 3/1/2003
TTC: graduated!

MamaBear
Me: Sara, 32
DH: David, 34
Married: 5/31/03
DS: 2/6/04
TTC# 2: graduated!

maplekitty
Me: Sarah, 24, Inside technical sales
FH: Curt, 27, Network Admin
Engaged: November 12, 2204
Married: August 27, 2005 (sooooooon!)
TTC: graduated!

miaclear
Me: Amy 29
DF: Dirk 30
Engaged: Feb 19 2003
Married: Sept 18 2005
TTC: graduated!

mimieliza
Me: Michelle, 27
DH: Reid, 28
Married: August 9, 2003
TTC: graduated!

MrsHill
Me: MrsHill, age 32, SAHW
DH: B, age 40, Architect
Engaged: December 23, 2004
Married: September 24, 2005
TTC: June 2006

mrstim
Me: Amy - 20
DH: Tim - 24
Engaged - October 28, 2004
Married - February 4, 2005
TTC - graduated!

Sabriel
Me: Cherish, 24
DH: Jon, 23
Engaged: 12/24/03
Married: 5/22/05
TTC: graduated!

Sare79
Me: Sarah, age 25
FH: Joel, age 25
Engaged: September 29, 2004
Married: October 15, 2005
TTC: graduated!

SlvSpring
Me: Oona, 25
DH: Josh, 27
Engaged: June 20, 2004
Married: July 30, 2005
TTC: graduated!

Smittenk
Me: Alison (28)
DH: Mike (36)
Married: April 3rd, 2004
TTC #1: Spring/Summer 2006
Pets: Barley, born August 29th, 2005

Squee
Me: Steph 19
DF: John 21
Engaged: 29 Oct 04
Will beMarried: 7 Jan 06
TTC: graduated!

Sunshine
Me: Tamara, 26
DH: 29
Married: Aug 27,2005
TTC: graduated!

Tonysweetie
Me:Leslie, 21
DH: Tony, 22
Engaged: 12/31/03
Married: 3/26/05
TTC: BFP, happy graduation!

Twylla
Me: Twylla, 24
DH: Gordon, 27
Married: July 3, 2004
TTC: graduated!

THE LADIES

aam64
Me:Alicia, 24
DH: Mike, 27
Engaged: 11/23/03
Married: 6/4/04
TTC: Late 2006/Early 2007

abbylynn
Me: Abby (27)
DH: Darren (41)
DS: Brandon Ryan (7/22/03)
Married: 8/4/01
TTC #2: Late 2006?

adamseve
Me: Ivette, 27
DH: Adam, 28
Married: 06.19.04
TTC: Spring '07

allison
Me: Allison, 31
DH: Geoff, 30
Engaged: 11/1/4/02
Married: 5/24/03
TTC: I dunno, we like things the way they are right now

Al'sgirl
Me: Andrea, 33
DH: Al, 35
Engaged: December 12, 2003
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: 2007-2008

amyloo
Me: Amy
DH: Kyle
Married: 3/12/05
TTC: When we get outta this tiny one-seater duplex!

Annette
Me: Annette, 28
DH: Mike, 28
Married: 11/10/2001
TTC: Probably next summer.

artist
Me: Kristin, 25
DH: Allan, 27
Engaged: 12/01/02
Married: 07/05/03
TTC: No idea when. Perhaps not until 2008 or later.

Belm
Me: Brenna 27
DH: Chris 28
Married: April 26, 2003
TTC tenative date: Fall 2007

BerBer
Me: Karly 25
DH: Scot 29
Married: March 25, 2006!!!!(I know I Know...)
TTC tenative date... November 2006

bethnjim
Me: Beth-27
DH: Jim-25
Engaged-June 2001
Married-July 12, 2003
TTC-hopefully summer 2006

BlackMagicRose
Me: Christy (26)
FH: Elmar (30)
Met: April 24, 2005
Engaged: October 28, 2005
Moved in together: November 20, 2005
TTC: If all goes well...September 2008

BrownEyedGirl
Me: Bree 26
DH: Chad 30
Married: 11/29/03 (dating since 1996)
TTC: Me: Mid 2006, Dh: Late 2006

BryantRN
Me: Renee 32
DH: prefers to stay annon. 27
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: ASAP!! Just waiting on a job for him

buccm
Me: Mel
DH: Jared
Married: 09-06-03
TTC: fall 2006

candy corn
Me: Diane (26)
DH: TJ (26)
Married: 10/22/05
TTC: 2011

Can't_Wait
Me: Leslie
DH: Mike
Married: 05/24/03
TTC: 08/05

cat_loverpq
Me: Cortney
DH: Glenn
Engaged: 6/14/03
Married: 6/5/04
TTC: September 2005

Cinderz
Me: 33
DH: 32
Married: 6/7/03
TTC: Hopefully by the end of 2005

CindyM
Me: Cindy - 26
DH: Louis - 31
Married: January 17, 2004
TTC: Hopefully August 2006 - or when I get a new job!

Cohl
Me:Nicole-26
DH:Matt-28
Engaged-September 25, 1999
Married-October 19, 2002
DD-Bryelle Morgan-July 19, 2004
TTC-not soon enough for me-probably beginning of 2006

Constance
Me: 36
DH: 31
Engaged: 2002
Married: 2003
TTC: late 2006/2007

CuckooCat (rachelh on WC)
Rachel, 26
K, 27
Married: 6/23/01
TTC date: we agreed on Jan '06, but not soon enough at all!!!

curlyjr
Me:Jillian 27
DH: John 26
Married: 6/11/2005
TTC:October 2008

December27JJB
Me: Jessica 27
DH: Josh 28
DD: Parker 9 1/2 months
Married: 12/2003
TTC#2: Sept/Oct 2007

DelSol
Me: Dana, 31
DH: Scott, 37
Engaged: 5/10/03
Married: 11/19/04
TTC: August 2006

doublej
Me: J, 27, self-employed
DH: A, 25, self-employed
Married: Dec., 2002
TTC: No earthly idea!

dpangel33
Me: Danea, 22
DH: Patrick, 25
Married: 10-16-05
TTC: 2010

elissa
Me: Elissa, 29
DH: Chris, 31
Engaged: 2/19/04
Married: 10/01/05
TTC: Going off BCP March 2006, then probably joining the seeing what happens ladies!

filmgirl7
ME: Carrie, 27
FH: Jeremy, 32
Engaged: 5/31/03
Married: 1/7/06*
TTC: July, 2006 at the absolute latest!

flygirl
Me: Jen, 30
DH: Jeff, 35
Engaged: 5/23/01
Married: 2/22/03
TTC: This fall (hopefully!)

fsb2005
Me: 28
DH: 29
Engaged: November 2001
Married: June 14, 2003
TTC: April 2006

giry76
Me: Colleen, 29, A/R assistant for a plastics company
DH: Troy, 29, Survey Department manager
Married: September 25 2004
TTC: Fall 2006

Goddess Tiff
Me: Tiffany, 26
DH: Ted, 28
engaged: September 23, 2000
married: September 21, 2002
TTC: very late 2007 or sometime in 2008

granada
Me: 29
DH: 34
Married: 8/5/04
TTC: Possibly as early as Feb. 2006, but we'll see...

guinevere
Me: 28
DH: 32
Married: 3/27/04
TTC: April 2006

Harmony96
Me: Andrea 27
DH: Timothy 25
Married: married in April of '04
TTC: TTA until late January '06

j2478
Me: Jen, 27
DH: 27
TTC: Spring/summer 2006

j.d.l.102205
Me: 27
DH: 27
Married: 10/22/05
TTC: Late 2006 or early 2006

jellybeany
Me: Jolene, 23
DH: Larry, 25
Married: May 14, 2005
TTC: hopefully early 2007

Jen&Dan
Me: Jen, 26
DH: Dan, 26
Engaged: 12/20/98
Married: 3/30/02
TTC: In about 1 1/2 years

Jeneca128
Me: Karen, 23
DH: Dan, 23
Engaged: December 21, 2003
Married: March 26, 2005
TTC: 2010-2011. (wish it was now!)

jenjunum
Me: Jennifer, 25
DH: Scott, 25
engaged: September, 2002
married: July 27, 2003
TTC: 2008 or later

jessied1025
Me: Jessie, 27
DH: Jim, 28
Engaged: July 13, 2002
Married October 25, 2003
TTC: October 2005

JLRenheos
Me: 29
DH: 33
Engaged: December 3, 1999
Married: April 21, 2001
TTC: This Fall 2006

jnettie
Me: Jeanette - 27
DH: Cory - 27
Married: June 25, 2005
TTC: 2007ish

Julss05
Me: Julie (28)
DH: Mike (30)
Married: 6/15/02
TTC #1: 2006

Katyanne
Me: Katie, 27, auth coordinator for insurance company
DH: David, 29, Managing Editor for a sports marketing firm
Married: May 21, 2004
TTC: Hopefully sometime this winter.

KKay
Me: Kris (33)
DH: E (33)
DD: Alexis (3/3/04)
Married: 8/31/02
TTC #2: Fall 2005

kris97
Me: Kristin, 30
DH: Ryan, 30
Married: 5/2/4
TTC: sometime in '06

KRM&TPS
Me - Kim -26
DH- Patrick- 23
Engaged- May 28, 2004
Married- January 22, 2005
TTC- This is going to sound very far off but late 2006 or even 2007

Lanapoo
Me(Lana):28
DH(Dean):32
Married: 7/15/05
TTC: Summer 2006

laurenc
me: Lauren, 26
DH: Tom, 27
Engaged: 6/23/01
Married: 6/14/03
TTC: Late 2006/Early 2007

lawyerlee
Me: Diana, 27, attorney for Kansas Legislature
DH: Cliff, 29, college student
Married: November 30, 2002
TTC or adopt: with next 2-3 years (hopefully)

Leigh0918
Me: Leigh, 29
DH: Michael, 33
Married: 9/18/03
TTC: whenever the mood strikes - no official plans

LeslieandPaul
Me:Leslie, 21, receptionist
DH:Paul, 28, technologist/commissioner
Engaged:June 22, 2004
married:August 20, 2005
TTC: June 2006 hopefully (after my sister's wedding). TTA until then

Lil_Mrs_0702
Me: April, 21
DH: Shannon, 24
Married: July 2005
TTC: ???

Little Angel '77
Me: Alicia (29)
DH: Seth (28)
Married: 8/21/04
TTC: ?

[stevesbabygirl]

mamatallcott
me: Holly 29 (30 in December)
dh : J 31
dd#1 Sophia 7/10/02
dd#2 Megan 1/27/05
ttc#3 around 7/08 or 7/09
and #4 2 years after number 3 then that's it finito no more babies..

melody
Me: Melody, 27
DH: David, 27
Married: April 24, 2004
TTC: early 2008

MES in Chicago
Me: Melissa, 30 but 31 in June
DH: Paul, 38
Married: 10/23/04
TTC: March '07

mierin
Me: Meg (26)
DH: Allastair (25)
Married: 10/4/03
TTC: Probably late 2007

MoTray36
Me:Tracy, 25
DH: Keith, 26
Engaged: 7/4/03
Married: 6/25/04
TTC: July 2006

MrsSmith
Me:25
DH: 25
Married: 3/15/03
TTC: Nov/Dec 2005

MrsWilson
Me: Jan, 26
DH: Michael, 28
Married: October 10, 2004
TTC: September 2006

numberlady
me:Kelby, 31, CPA
FH: Steven, 43, Network Admin
Married: May 19, 2002
TTC: May 2006

Peaches
Me: Pearl, age 26, 27 in two weeks
DH: Matt, age 25
Engaged: July 19, 2002
Married: December 29, 2003
TTC: Late 2006?

PG-rated
Me: Angela (29)
DH: Matt (28)
Married: 04/02/05
TTC: Probably late 2006

polkadot
Me: Lauren, 26
DH: Brian, 26
married: nov. 20, 2004
TTC: hopefully Aug/Sept. '05 more likely Aug/Sept 06

PookiePrincess
Me: Kristi - 26
DH: Sean - 29
Married: Oct. 29, 2005
TTC: 2007?

portinastorm
Me: 31
DH:30
Married: Fall 2003
TTC: February 2007

Purplevega
Me: Kim 25
DH: Bill 31
DS: Ashton 9/04
Married: 11/2003
TTC: 12/06

raven077
Me: Karen – 28
DH: Kyle – 29
Married: October 29, 2005
TTC: November 2006

Reebs
Me: Rebecca (or Becky), 27
DH: Ken, 28
Dating Since: 1/24/98
Engaged: 12/24/01
Married: 10/4/03
TTC: Mid-2008

Reenie
Me: Maureen, mid-twenties, Chicago Public Schools high school English teacher
DH: Eric, mid-twenties, mathematics education major (college student)
Officially a couple: November 13, 1999
Engaged: January 9, 2004
Married: November 13, 2004
TTC: spring-summer 2008 (so, so long!)

risa00
Me:Lisa-27
DH:Sean-33
Engaged-August 4, 2002
Married-July 12, 2003
TTC-May 2006

RobynScott
Me: Robyn, 28
DH: Scott, 30
Engaged: 2/28/03
Married: 8/29/04 (10 months today ) - together since 7/2000
TTC: Possibly / probably next spring/summer (so mid-2006) - unless I get a new job - in which case, possibly waiting until 2007.

Rosa727
ME: Rose-Anne, 27
DH: Eric, 27
together since: November 6, 1998
Engaged: November 5, 2000
Married: July 27, 2002
TTC: November 2005 or a bit after - we are not totally sure, but we want to have our first baby when we are 28

Ryansgirl
Me: Beej, almost 25
DH: Ryan, 28
Married: Oct. 6, 2006
TTC: Oct 2008

Sab
Me: Sabrina, 20
DH: Nate, 25
Married: August 6, 2005
TTC: who knows... sigh

sarahh
Me: Sarah (28)
DH: Jeff (27)
Engaged: 7/21/00
Married: 9/1/02
TTC: September/October 2005

sfaugustbride
Me: C, age 30, Accounting
DH: B, age 34, Plumber
Engaged: sometime October 2002
Married: June 19, 2004
TTC: Dec 2005/Jan 2006

Sha259
Me: Shamena, 23
DH: Avi, 22
Engaged: 06/19/02
Married: 7/20/04
TTC: not until 2008 at the earliest

Silverdecember
Me:Amanda-25
DH:Ryan-21
Engaged-February 21, 2002
Married-May 24, 2003
TTC-mid/late 2006

southerner
Name: I, 29
Husband: M, 31
Engaged: 11-11-01
Married: 8-16-03
TTC: Early-mid 2006

SQ2
Me: Rachel, 27
DH: Nathan, 26 (27 in August)
Engaged: 2/9/03
Married: 8/15/04
TTC: Fall 2006, Spring 2007, or Spring 2008???

stevesbabygirl
Me: Heather, age 26
DH: Steve, age 28
Engaged: October 17, 2002
Married: August 31, 2003
TTC: July 2006

sublime311
Me: Kelli, 36
DH: James, 32
Engaged: March 13, 2004
Married: October 16, 2004
TTC: Since January 2004!!! I'm ready already!!

sunchaser26
Me: Carrie
DH: Tom
Married: June 14, 2003
TTC: August 2005

SwiftyOWB
Name: Kelly, 27
DH: Joe, 31
Married: 11/6/04
TTC? 11/07ish

tashaw6
Me: Natasha, 27
DH: Neil, 26
Married: 25th of September 2004
TTC: When we settle somewhere!

tbell
Name: Tacy, 30
Husband: Tim, 34
Engaged: 1/1/04
Married: 5/21/05
TTC: hopefully around Aug 2006

tippy
Me: Tiffany, 24
DH: Dennis, 23
Engaged: 08.15.02
Married: 06.26.04
TTC: Maybe 2008ish, but who really knows

TracieB
Me: Tracie, 24
DH: Token, 31
Married: May 15, 2005
TTC: No specific one... we're targeting 2/3 years, so 2008/2009

TriSigmaNC
Name: Tracie, 31
DH: Eric, 27 almost 28
Married: 10/4/03
TTC? Hmmm...maybe anywhere around 5/06-5/07 , he's in school full time, so we'll see

[Sunshine]

Subscribing :D

~Also, my updated info!~

Sunshine
Me: Tamara, 26
DH: 29
Married: Aug 27,2005
TTC: June 2006

[SQ2]

Hi, Heather! Here's my updated info:

SQ2
Me: Rachel, 27
DH: 27
Engaged: 2/9/03
Married: 8/15/04
TTC: Fall 2006

[LeslieandPaul]

Threadmistress can you please update my info?

Me:Leslie, 21, receptionist
DH:Paul, 28, technologist/commissioner
Engaged:June 22, 2004
married:August 20, 2005
TTC: June 2006 hopefully (after my sister's wedding). TTA until then

Thanks

[MrsWilson]

I've been lurking and since we've finally decided when we want to TTC, I guess it's a good time to join!

CC name: MrsWilson
Me: Jan, 26
DH: Michael, 28
Married: October 10, 2004
TTC: September 2006

[southerner]

subscribing. thanks for being a great thread mistress, heather :D

[MrsWilson]

Catching up...
QOTD: What are your top names right now?
I love Brennan for a boy, but we haven't really discussed any names.
QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Buy a house (which will happen after his truck is paid)
QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Yes! Both of our families are wonderful and we know they will just be so happy for us.
QOTD: What is some of your favorite baby gear right now?
I try to stay away from the baby stuff so I don't get more excited and it take over my life.
QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind?
He says he is ready to be a father, but our finances are not. We both agree it is best for us to wait.
QOTD: What do you dread most about being a parent?
I don't dread anything right now.
QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?
We got our beagle with having kids in mind. We wanted to be sure we got a dog that loves kids. He is around them all the time, so we know mainly how he will react. He has never been around an infant, so that will be new. And he will have to adjust to less attention.
QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
2--we have both always agreed to this
QOTD: do you plan to send your children to public school? private school? homeschool?
Public school. DH teaches in the public school, so he can watch after them.
QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
I hope to! I went to camp for 2-3 weeks every summer and loved it!
QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can!
How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
I don't have a favorite drink. My DH has no problem showing affection. It is common in his family and I love that.
QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?
We do this mainly when a parent is letting their kid scream in a resturant or something. Usually we just say, "I hope our kid doesn't do that!"
QOTD: Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?
I don't know who will be the bad guy out of the two of us. I'm not worried about it. We have always worked together and supported each other. I don't expect that to change.
QOTD: Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?
Nope. We agree that we need to be in our own house and out of our 1 bedroom apartment before having a child.
QOTD: why are you waiting?
To get a house.
QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
If everything had been tried that I felt I wanted to try, we'd probably adopt.
QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby?
No!
QOTD: How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?
He wants to tell right away, but I'd like to wait until the 1st trimester is over. Neither of us a good at holding secrets from our parents, so we'll probably tell them soon after we find out.
QOTD: Even though you are not yet trying, do you secretly (or not so secretly) fear that you will have fertility problems?
Yes, but I try to keep thinking positively
QOTD: When you TTC, will you just see what happens for awhile, or will you start charting right away? Anyone charting now?
We will be seeing what happens.
QOTD: What will you do work-wise when you have a baby? Stay at home? Continue to work? Telecommute? Etc.?
We will both continue to work. My mom is a nanny, so hopefully she will be able to take care of our little one during the day. My schedule is flexable right now, but I don't know what it will be like at that time.
QOTD: Do you think talking about waiting, TTC, etc makes you more anxious/ready to have a child? If so, is this a good or a bad thing?
I'm trying not to be anxious, but it is hard to wait on TTC when you know you are ready and just waiting for finances.
QOTD: What's the most recent purchase you've made?
Christmas Cards today
QQTD: Who is more ready for TTC in your household you or DH? Are you concerned/worried about being able to balance your work and family?
I think we are equally ready. I'm not worried about balancing work and family. It will all work out, somehow.
QOTD: Does anyone else feel like they don't fit in anywhere?
Not really. My older sister has been married 5 years and has no kids. My twin isn't married. My best friend has been married 18 months and is expecting her first child in May. So, I fell like I am where I belong.
QOTD: Does anyone have a job that either encourages or hinders your desire to have children? Or if not hinder, perhaps gives you new concerns/fears?
My boss was aware when he hired me that I was a newlywed and would one day have kids. He has no problem with that.
QOTD: What do you do for a living?
I am an RN working in an physician office giving infusion therapy to mostly migraine patients. I love it!
QOTD: Are you "planning" what gender you will have first/Do you prefer a certain gender first?
No plans, just healty, please.
QOTD: Anyone get annoying comments on waiting to have kids recently?
Luckily, no. Our families are very supportive in knowing we want some "us" time before the kids come.
QOTD: Are you avoiding fish that is known to be high in mercury levels??? Like tuna, shark, swordfish...
I don't eat this much anyway.
QOTD: Are you taking any vitamins. prenatals, etc.?
A daily multivitamin
QOTD: Do you worry your parents/in-laws won't be supportive of your birth/childcare choices?
Nope
QOTD: What do you all think about the diaperfreebaby business? Check out: http://diaperfreebaby.org/
Are they crazy?
QOTD: How do you think your parents/inlaws will react to the pregnancy news?
If I get pregnant before my older sister, it will be the first grandchild for my parents. They already completely spoil our dog, so I can only imagine what they will do with a human child! Plus, both my sisters live nealy 3 hours away, so our children will be the ones they see the most. My IL's are amazing and will be thrilled. I know my SIL is really looking forward to it. It will be her first niece/nephew by blood.
QOTD: what vehicle do you plan to use when you become a mommy?
I would love a Toyota Avalon!
QOTD: What have you already purchased for your future child/ren?
Nothing really.
QOTD: Do you plan on delivering natural/with pain meds or via C-section? What influences your choice?
Medication, please! I won't plan a C-section, but if it has to happen, I won't say no.
QOTD: Who do you want in the delivery room with you, if you don't want to have a C-section?
My DH only! I have told him this for years!
QOTD: What form of birth control do you use? Do you like it?
I am on the Ortho Evra patch and love it. I've been on it 3 years and had no problems!
QOTD: What age do you consider to be too young to parent a child? Why?
Anyone who isn't mature enough to take care of themselves, much less another person! Age doesn't really matter, unless they are extremely young (early-mid teens) There are pleanty of people in the world who are "old" enough but not mature enough.
QOTD: For those of you who are waiting because of "external" issues (money, travel, house, etc.), what did it mean for you to feel "ready"? And for those of you who don't feel "ready" yet, how do you think it will feel when you are?
We dated for 6 years before getting married. We knew we wanted at least one year together before kids. Around our first anniversary we realized it wasn't scary or weird anymore to think of having kids of our own. That's when we made more concrete goals for what we want to happen before we TTC. (We new we wanted a house first, but we set goals as to when we want that to happen.)
QOTD: How prepared financially will you really be when you start TTC? Whether you are going to use daycare or have a stay at home parent, you're looking at bringing in $1000+ less a month (or significantly more). Do you have so much surplus in your budgets now that you can afford that hit?
We will only have DH's student loan left when we TTC. My FIL works for a furniture company, so that will help us. My mom is a nanny, and expects to help us with childcare. We are comfortable now and with less debt, we should be fine with the added expense. Oh, and my dad is a CPA so he is great for us to ask about money stuff.
QOTD: If you were to have a kick-off TTC place (or time/holiday) where/when would it be?
Actually, we will TTC when school starts. We would love a summer baby, if it works out. But the worst time to have a child for us would be at the begining of the school year when football season starts. (DH is a band director, so that starts marching season as well.)
QOTD: What will you do for maternity clothes and how much are you willing to spend on them?
I don't spend a lot on my clothes now, so I don't expect to change for maternity clothes.
QOTD: Do you have any friends who will be TTC when you are?
My older sister wants to start TTC in spring 2007 and my cousin is talking about TTCing her 4th child around the same time as us.


Wow! That's a lot of writing! Hope I got them all!

[Tonysweetie]

Updated Info

Tonysweetie
Me:Leslie, 21
DH: Tony, 22
Engaged: 12/31/03
Married: 3/26/05
TTC: 2006-2008

[honeygirl]

Checking into the new thread.

Welcome new ladies!

[Harmony96]

Subscribing. :)

Only 2-ish more months before DH and I TTC. :D

Andrea

[artist]

Hello! Just wanted to update as before I was 24 and I turned 25 in July! Thanks for the new thread though!


artist
Me: Kristin, 25
DH: Allan, 27
Engaged: 12/01/02
Married: 07/05/03
TTC: No idea when. Perhaps not until 2008 or later.

[tashaw6]

Subbing!

LOL at Your Majesty for unusual name on thread before!

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

We plan on our first child being a surprise, but finding out with the second. I think it is one of the great surprises in life. But, it all depends on how we feel when they ask us if we want to know!

[SQ2]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

Definitely! I could go either way, but DH doesn't like the idea of keeping information from us if there's a way to find it out. I tend to agree. We both feel it will be just as exciting to have a baby whether we know the sex or not. Plus it will just be easier in terms of gifts and stuff.

[Harmony96]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

Hard to believe that there is a QOTD that hasn't been asked in that loooooooong list. LOL. We are not going to find out. We would rather be surprised at the birth and I want DH to be the one to "announce" it maybe. :P

Andrea

[Sunshine]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

This will be something we finalize when we have to chance to find out. We have talked about it quite a bit, but we are always changing our mind.
The latest decision, for our first~YES....for the rest~No.

[SwiftyOWB]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth? Nope we have made a decision that we will not find out. I like yellow and green and I have always planned on having an all white nursery. Some day!!

[Janey]

Catching up as well!

QOTD: What are your top names right now?
If we have a boy, we'll be using B's name. It's a good name, and I think it's nice to keep good names in the family. :)

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
I'd love to go on a trip, but I don't see it happening. Too many out-of-town friends are getting married this year!

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Yep - my mom is a ferry-ride away and I'm sure will be over as much as I need her to be. His mom is 3 hours away so she won't be immediate support, but she'll help as much as she can.

QOTD: What is some of your favorite baby gear right now?
I haven't looked at baby gear yet. I do like those 3-in-one cribs though.

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind?
I think B is ready to be a father. He's nervous only to the extent that everybody's nervous to become a parent.

QOTD: What do you dread most about being a parent?
Going up and down the steep stairs with a baby in my arms.

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?
We have 2 cats, and I think they're going to be jealous. Whenever they crawl all over me while I'm watching TV I say to them, "What are you going to do when we have a baby??" But I don't think they'll be mean to the baby. I think they'll be put off by him and not want to be where he is.

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
We've always said two but then I tease: "What if we have three babies? What if we have four babies?" Then B gets an eyes-glazed-over look thinking about how our family would be with 4 babies (we'd probably have to move!).

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp?
I went to camp, and I can't imagine reasons why I wouldn't want to send them to camp. Camp is Fun! (And will probably be fun for B & Me, too!)

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Let's indulge while we still can!
Cosmopolitan! I only drink about 3-4x/year though.

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
I actually asked him this last week after I'd copied/pasted all the questions. He said, "Well, I hope to..." whatever that means. :p

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent?
We aren't really armchair parents, but when we see kids screaming, or begging for M&Ms or something, I'll turn to B and say, "You realize that's going to be our world very shortly, right?"

QOTD: Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you?
I don't think either of us is going to be the bad guy.

QOTD: Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?
Nope. He's always very good about reaching for the Trojans. Better than I am.

QOTD: why are you waiting?
We just got married, and we need flooring on the 2nd floor (that's where the baby goes).

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
I'm not sure. I suppose I'd try acupuncture & such, and if it still didn't work, I'd look into adoption. B's brother was adopted, and B's brother & SIL adopted a baby, so this is nothing new with their family.

QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby?
No way! I got mine done on my 10th birthday, I think that's a good year to do it.

QOTD: How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?
B would like to wait until the 1st trimester is over. I don't think I could wait twelve weeks to tell my mother anything... but I can't tell my mother and expect her not to run right out and tell everybody out of excitement. So, we'll see.

QOTD: When you TTC, will you just see what happens for awhile, or will you start charting right away? Anyone charting now?
My answer has changed to this one. I used to think charting was a little "Type A" for me... until my obgyn visit last month. I was looking for a non-hormonal type of birth control, and she suggested I read TCOYF. I read it all in one day, and the book made me realize it's not Type A at all... it's actually natural & organic, and I like that. I decided to chart starting this month. I had PCOS when I was heavy, and I'm wondering if it will be an issue when we TTC, and I think/hope charting will also help me figure that out as well.

And today's QOTD...
Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
I don't know. I go back and forth about this one. It seems like the sex of their child one of the last surprises people get in life, and I think it would be a little disappointing to not have the surprise. On the other hand... I'm not sure I could stand 9 months of anticipation when I know I could, if I wanted to, find out the answer!

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

I would like to find out. I HATE surprises! But I wouldn't tell anyone (which made my mom upset when I informed of this). I will paint the nursery gender neutral and then have the gender specific bedding/accessories put away, ready to go out when baby is born.

[honeygirl]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Yes. I'd go crazy not knowing!

We have had SO MANY QOTD, I think we'll have to either be really creative or recycle some of them. Otherwise we'll run out of things to discuss. :)

[DelSol]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?


We plan to find out. I think I'd go crazy not knowing for 9 months. I also think of this a way to bond with your baby, you can have a name picked out and start calling him/her by it.

[DelSol]

Heather,

Can you please update my information:

BeachBride19426 ~ change to DelSol
Me: Dana, 31
DH: Scott, 37
Engaged: 5/10/03
Married: 11/19/04
TTC: December 2005 - March 2006


Thanks!!!

[mimieliza]

Just checking in with the new thread. DH and I are going to start TTC right after Thanksgiving. I'm getting nervous. We're not ready in a lot of ways, but we're beyond ready emotionally. I think since we both want this so much, we'll make it work. :)

[MrsWilson]

My doctor mentioned testing for Cystic Fibrosis before TTC to see if one or both of us are carriers. It has brought up a lot of interesting discussions between us as to what we would do if we found out our unborn child had a problem.
QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)
No genetic testing, and no amniocentisis, unless the doctor deems it necessary.

[laurenc]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

yes, if possible! i don't do surprises or secrets very well, so it'd be a tough 9 months if i didn't at least try to find out!!!

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)

we've not talked about it, but if there was a need to test, i'd go for it. but, as far as i know, there's no need.

[tashaw6]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

Yes! This is something DH and I were 100% agreeable on! Finding out in advance enables you to do so much before precious baby is born! You are able to personalise your baby's room, choose colours without having to go neutral, cut the name decision making in half, get gifts that are specific for the sex. Also, I still think even though you know the sex doesn't mean seeing the baby when first born isn't a surprise!

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)

We haven't spoken about this. I would only consider testing if my doctor strongly recommends it!

[Sunshine]

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)
We have talked about this a little bit, I am only going to test what my doctor suggests. My family doctor used to deliver babies aswell, so I really trust his opinion!

[eli1126]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth? This is something I may be on the fence about! Both my sisters found out before and they told people. I may find out and not tell because I want everyone else to be surprised. As for not being able to "plan" my one sister who told people it was a girl ended up having to return so many pink and white outfits because everyone went crazy buying cute girly outfits! They didn't get diapers, onsies, or the safety items on the registry! They ended up having to run around return many of the outfits and buy the items that all babies need instead.
QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis?)
I would talk to my Doctor and see what they say. My Doctor or I would have to have a soild concern to go for an amnio because I think that for me the risks outway the benefits.

Beth

[LeslieandPaul]

[B]QOTD: .As for not being able to "plan" my one sister who told people it was a girl ended up having to return so many pink and white outfits because everyone went crazy buying cute girly outfits! They didn't get diapers, onsies, or the safety items on the registry! They ended up having to run around return many of the outfits and buy the items that all babies need instead.


Exactly why I wouldn't tell other people!

[stevesbabygirl]

Welcome ladies, I'm so glad that you've all joined me over here :D! Forgive me for making this a fly-by post, but I promise to update all of your information in the next couple of days!

[MrsWilson]

I seem to be full of questions. Hope you don't mind!

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? Here (http://www.constantchatter.com/showthread.php?t=567) are a list for grandparents.

[MrsWilson]

My parents are already thinking about what they want their grandkids to call them. My mom has so many siblings and they all want to be called something different by their grandchildren. It is harder and harder to come up with something that hasn't been "taken." I've always called aunts and uncles by Aunt Firstname and Uncle Firstname. My kids will probably do the same.

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
My parents will be Grandma and Grandpa, but I'm not sure about Paul's parents. Aunts and uncles will be Aunty [name] and Uncle [name]. I think our cousins (we're very close with a lot of Paul's cousins) and close friends will also be aunty and uncle.

[tashaw6]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? Here are a list for grandparents.

...I suppose granny and grandpa for grandparents and aunty or uncle so and so for uncles and aunts...

[DelSol]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? Here are a list for grandparents.

My mom is called Nanny (even our animals know her as that :rolleyes: ). My dad is called Pop Pop and Step Mom is Grandmom/Granny, which ever she prefers.

MIL will probably be called Grandma and FIL will probably be called Grandpa.


Happy Thanksgiving!

[Sunshine]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
My Dad will be called Grampa, and DH's mom will prob be called Gramma. Only b/c that is what I call my Grandparents, so they will prob copy what I call them?
ALso, There will only be 1 Aunt and Uncle, and they of course will be Auntie name and Uncle name. We also have a few close friends who will also be called Auntie and Uncle. My best friend just had a baby and I am her Auntie:D

[mrstim]

Threadmistress - can you graduate me?? ;)

We're actively TTC'ing! My last pill was Nov. 13th, and so I'm CD10 today and not preventing at all! It's so exciting, I forgot to come back here and say adios. :( I'll still be back to check in with you all - but for now I'm moving over to the Seeing What Happens thread!

Good Luck to everyone!!!
a

[Sunshine]

CONGRATS MrsTim:D

[Julss05]

QOTD: What are your top names right now?Christopher if it's a boy, no girl names yet.

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Get the house completely remodeled and go on a romantic getaway.

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives? I suppose. I have no family here so that will be interesting!

QOTD: What is some of your favorite baby gear right now?
none, haven't looked.

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind?He's glad we're waiting but maybe hoping for a surprise like me:)

QOTD: What do you dread most about being a parent?Lack of sleep!

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house?
We just adopted 2 kittens! If they are anything like my last cat they won't want anything to do with the baby and will be scarce until they get used to the little one. I have no concerns, I think our two little girls we just adopted will get along well with a baby.

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having? Two at the most, 3 would be a BIG oops!

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp? Sure unless they didn't want to go. Camp was always fun for me as a kid but I wouldn't force it.

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? Pina colada with malibu and coconut rum.

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons?
I think he would be affectionate but know where to draw the line to avoid embarrasement. He's a big hugger and we always say, "I love you."

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent? Sometimes but we try not to judge other people's parenting skills just acknowledge that we would respond differently.

QOTD: Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you? I know I will be. I grew up in a strict household and will probably be that way with my kids, more so than DH.

QOTD: Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait?"Nope. He's always very good about reaching for the Trojans. Better than I am." Same here:D, but he's coming around. One of these days he'll be brave enough to skip them.

QOTD: why are you waiting? We are both in the process of career changes. We need time to get health insurance set up in new jobs.

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids? Look into adoption of the human and furry kind and travel a lot!

QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby? I don't think so. I got my ears pierced at 4 and although it was my idea I didn't know what I was asking for, it hurt! My first year in school I ripped my ear while playing and messed up the hole so I wouldn't recommend for babies or young kids.

QOTD: How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant?
Probably right away:D.

QOTD: When you TTC, will you just see what happens for awhile, or will you start charting right away? Anyone charting now?
Not sure. I was charting for about a year and then stopped when husband got stationed overseas for 6 months. I know my body pretty well especially after charting so I think I would follow my own body signals and what I've learned to "just see what happens" and if that doesn't work I'll go back to charting. Honestly the charting online didn't always predict my ovulation day accurately so I wouldn't strictly go by that anyway.

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth? I really want to know but DH doesn't want to know so I'm not sure what kind of compromise we'll reach. Regardless I'd like to keep things nongender since we plan to have another one.

Genetic testing before TTC I didn't even know they did that before! Probably not, I figure they'll catch anything during the pregnancy and no need to be worried about something when I'm not even pregnant yet.

Hope everyone has a HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Good luck with TTC Mrs.Tim!

[honeygirl]

Best wishes MrsTim. Babydust to you! Come back and tell us when you're pregnant!

-Anne

[artist]

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?

No. I want to be surprised!

Genetic testing before TTC?

Heck no! That creeps me out. Though I will probably try to find out if the baby is healthy.

What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?

Probably just "Grandma/Grandpa [first name]".
And "Aunt/Uncle [first name]"

Our kids will actually have SIX grandparents (as their are step-parents), plus a great grandma! Yep, our kids will be quite spoiled!

[magrat]

My life has kind of turned upside down since I last posted. My 55 year old FIL unexpectedly collapsed from a massive brain hemorrhage last Friday and died early Monday morning. Luckily we were able to get back to England in time to be there when he died. It is just so shocking, he was so full of life and vitality and I was so looking forward to having my children know him and now they never will. It just really goes to show that however you try to plan things, you just can't.

QOTD: What are your top names right now?
Still Miles for a first name for a boy, but we're going to have to really consider Derek as a middle name, after FIL, even though I've always disliked it. I suggested to DH (who brought up the subject) that we could use FIL's bardic name (he was made a Cornish Bard for his work in music and education) - Ylewyth Essa, pronounced elloowith, and I'm probably spelling it wrong, I'll edit it later when I check. I've never been a fan of giving kids unpronounceable Celtic names, but in this case I feel more than justified :) It means musician of Saltash, and we'd leave out the Essa (Saltash).

What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?

Since DH's parents are English, they'll be gran or granny and granddad. Mine can pick something else if they want, but will probably just go for the standard grandma and grandpa.

The expense of having to fly to England unexpectedly and miss 3 weeks of work will really put us behind on our debt repayment schedule that was so vital for our TTC date. However, we may postpone paying back MIL the money we owe her indefinitely since 1) I'm not sure what her plans are now in terms of going on vacations and doing home improvements and 2) she's going to be doing very well financially as far as we can tell because of life insurance and generous pensions and grants for widows. Even my college-age SIL is going to get a reduction in her tuition and a pension. Plus MIL would probably prefer a grandchild to the money.

The only other change I can think of now is that originally the thought of having MIL and FIL over right away when I had a baby, potentially to stay in our house for weeks, was very daunting and possibly unavoidable. But now that it would just be MIL, I think an extended stay would be a lot more feasible, and she's really not the type to interfere.

[MrsWilson]

magrat--My condolences to you and your family! I am so sorry for your loss!

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?

[DelSol]

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentesis?)
We've never talked about it. I would look into if it was something the doctor said to do.

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?
I think it really depends on when it happens. If it's close to Father's Day. I would tell DH on Father's Day that we are expecting with a card signed from your little due around (date). As for grandparents to be, I'll probably buy a tiny baby photo album and have either of these things in it 1) a note in it saying your grandchild is due around (date), we hope you are excite about his/her arrival as we are and 2) if I can get an ultrasound picture I'd put that in as the 1st picture.

[LeslieandPaul]

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?
I bought a bib that says I love my daddy (there's a heart for love). I'll give that to him.
For our parents, i'm going to paint picture frames and stamp baby footprints on it. In the frame will be a piece of paper that says "Reserved for Baby [our last name] Due [date]" or something along those lines. For everyone else we'll just tell them (hopefully we can gather all our family and tell them and then gather all our friends and tell them).

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?

Here are some good possibilities for me:

Keeping the Baby Alive till Your Wife Gets Home
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0970793707.01._BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-dp-500-arrow,TopRight,45,-64_AA240_SH20_SCLZZZZZZZ_.jpg
(Or something similar)


"I found out that I was expecting again just a couple of days before our first daughters' 4th birthday. I went and bought one last gift for our daughter. At the party(all of our family and friends were there) I had our daughter open that gift last. It was a bib with "I Love My Big Sister" written on it. It took my husband(and everyone else) about 5 seconds to figure it out. It was great!"
-- Lynn

"Tabitha... my husband and i are working on our 3rd child. I always told myself that i would tell him in a fun way. Him and i are always giving eachother gifts just because, so i thought when i found out i was pregnant that i would go to the store and buy a pack of newborn diapers and wrap them up and give them to him as a gift. That way is a sure way for them to catch on quick. Good luck!!"
-- momof2ncali

"Make a diner with baby carrats,baby corn, baby back ribs, and a pickle and ice cream sunday for dessert... (don't expect him to catch on until the pickle part..)"
-- Jnewton

"My brother and his wife just anounced that they were having there first and they told us by giving each of us a baby picture frame with a note as the picture saying Picture coming June 23, 2004. It was really cute."
-- Tammy

"I made my husband cry with this one: It was our fourth wedding anniversary and we were out for romantic dinner. I had even sneakily put tampons in the trash in plain site so he wouldn't be suspicious that day. Then, at dinner we exchanged anniversary cards. His, of course, was a sweet romantic one. Mine however, was an invitation. It said you are invited to attend the birth of your second child, on the due date, at our hospital.... He jumped up from the table when it finally sunk in, with tears pouring down and wrapped me up in his arms. People sure were staring!! It was so neat."
-- Annie

"The day I discovered I was pregnant, I made an appointment with my doctor. And the next day I told my husband that I am going to see the doctor for a routine check up. Like always he accompanied me but to his supprise I drove the other direction he is not used to and asked me about it. I told him I just discoverd a special doctor and when we arrived to his suprise, it was a gynecology. And he just figured it out and he was so happy."
-- South Africa

"The grocery store by our house has a few specific parking spots for expecting Moms. So late one night I told my husband that I was craving some ice cream lets run to the store. I was sure to grab the keys and jump into the drivers seat. When we got to the the store I pulled into that "specific spot". He immediatly said honey you can't park here - I responded with a big smile, OOHH but I can!! It took him a minute but he figured it out. Good Luck!"
-- Pgarrigan

"i'm not pregnant yet but we are trying i hope to be before march 10th that is my husbands birthday i want to get a card that says happy birthday daddy and on the inside i'm gonna write happy birthday daddy you don't know me yet but i'm on the way and i can't wait to met you. mom has told me what a wonderful husband you are and i'm looking forward to you being my daddy so get ready i'll be here before you know it.. i love you both..."
-- iluvujay

"my brother in law and sister in law bought mini goodie bags that were palm size and filled them with jelly bellies. on the bag it said to a great grandma and great grandpa. Mom in law noticed right away. took father in law 5 minutes to relize the gift wasn't about the candy and theat's all they have talked about since"
-- kristy

[tashaw6]

Ooooo, thanks MrsWilson for that!!! I am saving that for ideas for later! I was just going to phone mine up and tell them...how boring!!! :D

[tashaw6]

Good luck MrsTim. Tons and tons of babydust! Don't forget to let us know all about it if you have a chance!!!

magrat, so sorry to hear that! My thoughts are with you!

[numberlady]

It has been a while since I posted in the last thread, so I know that I missed several of the QOTD's. I will start with just the ones that have been posted so far in the new thread

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Yes, I am a major planner and don't think I could stand the surprise. Plus I don't want to dress my baby & decorate the nursery in all green & yellow.

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentesis?) We watch all these shows on Discovery Health Channel about rare gene mutations or diseases, so we get thoroughly freaked out by some of the possibilities of problems with a baby. That being said, I don't think that I will do any testing, unless it is recommended or something is seen on the basic tests. If something is found, I suppose that we will continue testing to see what is going on.

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? I always called my grandparents Grandma & Grandpa, so I imagine that our parents will be called the same, unless they have a preference for something different.

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant? I always imagined that DH would be with me when I tested, so he would find out with me. For my mother & sister who live in the same city, I would probably have some fun and give them a "grandma/aunt" picture frame. All our other family is out of town and we don't get to see them very often, so we will probably just tell them on the phone. If we can think of a cute way to tell them we probably will.

[laurenc]

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?

well, i think we're going to call DH's parents "gammy" and "poppy" a la seinfeld because it's funny and unusual, and they get a kick out of it. my parents will probably be plain-vanilla "grandma" and "grandpa".

[PookiePrincess]

Hello all. I got married a month ago and figure now is the time to join this thread.

PookiePrincess
Me: Kristi - 26
DH: Sean - 29
Married: Oct. 29, 2005
TTC: 2007?

We are waiting for many reasons, one being that we just got married. I do have to say though, from the time we got engaged I got the baby question. Tons of people asked me ON THE WEDDING DAY when we would have a baby. Jeez, people, we JUST got married! But aside from that, I'm just not that ready. I have twin nieces who are 5 months old and just can't picture me doing that quite yet. I'd love to, but I value my sleep!

Also, realistically, we want to get into our own home, hopefully this summer. I would like to be there a little while and get it set up and settled in before we have a baby.

We are also paying off some of our debt so that we are in a better financial position.

Thanks for letting me join y'all!

[stevesbabygirl]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Absolutely! I want to be able to refer to my baby by sex, and if possible, by name before s/he is born. Plus, I'm way too impatient to wait to find out :p.

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentisis)?
We haven't talked about this yet. I would like to, but only if it's covered by insurance. I don't think we could afford it otherwise.

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
I guess we were rude, because we've never addressed our aunts and uncles as Aunt X and Uncle Y; we would just refer to them by their first names. As far as grandparents, I'm not sure. Grandma and grandpa will probably be pretty standard. I thought doing oma and opa would be cool though.

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others your are pregnant?
I think I might buy some little baby onesies of DH's favorite sports teams (Angels, Ducks, Clippers) and give them to him. As for parents, I was planning to do a save-the-date card for the due date.

Congrats MrsTim! Here's wishing you much luck, and I will update your stats!

[jnettie]

Hi! I'd like to join.

jnettie
Me: Jeanette - 27
DH: Cory - 27
Married: June 25, 2005
TTC: 2007ish

QOTD: What are your top names right now? DH likes Abby, I don't have any clue.

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC? I want to establish my career. I'm just about done with Grad school now. I'd like at least a year working first.

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives? DH has a large extended family that just loves kids. I have no worries about that. I also have a good friend who has a little guy who I can talk to.

QOTD: What is some of your favorite baby gear right now? I love baby shoes! Just love them!

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC? Is he excited and can't wait? Nervous, but will be ready when the time comes? Or is he glad that you're waiting and secretly hopes you'll change your mind? I know DH is more excited about kids than me. He'd like to start now, but understands my possition. Also, we don't have enough money or time to devote to a kid and it just wouldn't be fair.

QOTD: What do you dread most about being a parent? Everything!

QOTD: Pets! Do you have pets? What kind? Any thoughts/concerns about how your pets will react to a human baby in the house? We have 2 cats. I'm not too concerned with them. DH was worried about toxicplasmosis, but we've done some research and I'll be tested to see if I've already been exposed before TCC.

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having? No more than 2, but DH wants a dozen!

QOTD: Will you send you children to sleep away camp? Yes. I went to Girl Scout camp for a week for 3 summers and had so much fun.

QOTD: What's your favorite drink? That would be a tie between champaign and margaritas!

How do your DHs feel about kissing (or showing other types of affection towards) their sons? All kids need hugs and kisses from their parents! I would be upset if DH didn't show affection to his future son(s)!

QOTD:Anyone else here really good armchair parents? By this I mean, after you've spent time with OPK's (other peoples kids) do you and your DH hash out all that they do wrong or right and discuss what you would do as a parent? Certainly do. DH usually talk about how the parents handle a situation and what we might do. Or talk about our observations. I think it's important to learn from both the good parents and the bad parents.

QOTD: Any one else scared of being the bad guy out of the two of you? Well, DH is sure I won't be the bad guy, and he's not affraid to be the bad guy.

QOTD: Has your DH made any comments about getting pregnant now even though you agreed to wait? ALL THE TIME!

QOTD: why are you waiting? Career, no money, not enough room, just plain not ready!

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids? I would adopt. Actually, we've talked about adopting even if we can. There's so many kids that need a loving home. If we could provide that for even one, we should.

QOTD- If you have a daughter, will you have her ears pierced as a baby? No.

QOTD: How long will you wait to tell your parents/immediate close friends and family that you're pregnant? After the 1st trimester for everyone. I just couldn't tell my mom right away (she wants me to have a baby more than I do!) and would therfore have to wait for everyone.

QOTD: When you TTC, will you just see what happens for awhile, or will you start charting right away? Anyone charting now? Well, before BC, I had the world's most irregular periods. Charting would be a nightmare. I may even need some fertility help. But I'd rather not stress about it or fixate on getting pregnant, KWIM?

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth? NO!

Genetic testing before TTC Only if I knew that either DH or I were possible carriers. I don't think it's fair to your future kids to go ahead and have a baby even if you know that there is a 90% probablitity that he or she will have some sort of debilitating condition or a dramatically shortened life. Of course, I say that with the knowledge that neither of us has a family history like that.

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)? Hmmm. Well, Mom will be Grandma, Dad Grandpa, and Step-mom probably Grandma K. DH is Chinese, so I think that the kids should call his mom and dad A-yen and A-yeah (I think those are the Cantonese words!). He didn't seem so thrilled, not sure why, but it solves the problem of differentiating. Otherwise, Auntie Soandso, Uncle Whatshisface, etc.

[jnettie]

Even though I just joined, I'd like to add a QOTD:

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

I love kids, I want kids, but I hate doctors and tests and medical things and am totally freaked out about having a baby. The whole process just freaks me out. Everyone talks about how amazing and beautiful it is, but I just don't see it that way. I think of all the things that could go wrong. I'm totally freaked that I might need a c-section (I was breach). Anyone else?

[stevesbabygirl]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
I'm not petrified of being pregnant, or even really giving birth. I am most afraid of the recovery afterwards. It's the stuff that no one tells you, and when you start to hear about it, it's no good. All of the pain, bleeding, not being able to sit down, etc.

[LeslieandPaul]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
I'm not scared of being pregnant, but I'm freaked out about giving birth (I have a very low pain threshold). I'm also worried about what the delivery will do to my body and the recovery that it will require.

[guinevere]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

Not afraid of being pregnant, but of giving birth! I'm not afraid of the pain as much as other things going wrong after.

[MrsWilson]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

You ladies make me feel better! I am also not really afraid of being pregnant, but the giving birth and recovery part worries me. What is probably a little odd is that I'm a nurse, so I've been in the room when babies were born. I have seen how everything goes first hand. But, all the deliveries I have seen were your typical ones, Mom pushes and baby comes out. I'm more concerned about complications, such as, cord around baby's neck, or me going into HELLP syndrome! I had to learn about all the problems that can occur when in school, so I feel like I know all the bad stuff that could happen.

[Julss05]

"I made my husband cry with this one: It was our fourth wedding anniversary and we were out for romantic dinner. I had even sneakily put tampons in the trash in plain site so he wouldn't be suspicious that day. Then, at dinner we exchanged anniversary cards. His, of course, was a sweet romantic one. Mine however, was an invitation. It said you are invited to attend the birth of your second child, on the due date, at our hospital.... He jumped up from the table when it finally sunk in, with tears pouring down and wrapped me up in his arms. People sure were staring!! It was so neat."
-- Annie

I love this one!

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Yes! None of the women in my family have had problems getting pregnant but all have had miscarriages before sustaining a pregnancy so I worry that it will happen to me. I worry about complications at birth. I was born 2 months premature at 4 lbs., lungs weren't developed at birth so I was in the hopsital for a while, parents weren't sure if I was going to make it. Other than that I'm petrified of the pain. I've been with friends through labor and it looks pretty miserable even with the drugs.

Welcome newbies!

[PookiePrincess]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

No, not really. I can't wait to be pregnant and hope I have a good experience. My SIL was really wussy about it, and I'm gonna try not to be that way at all. I just can't imagine laying around for 9 months complaining about being pregnant. It's all part of the experience. And I'm not scared of giving birth, but I'm one of those people who thinks things like that are cool. It will be amazing to see what my body is supposed to do.

What I am afraid of is being pregnant and having a baby and never getting my shape back. I'm afraid of gaining weight and not losing it. Of never having a flat tummy again. Of having bbs that sag to my waist...things like that. But, I'm hoping I'm lucky in that department, too!

[artist]

How will I tell DH (and others) that I am pregnant?

A lot of people have these really cute clever ways to tell their DH's. I am guessing I won't be so clever. For one thing, DH would probably suspect it anyway because either we were planning it or the birth control got screwed up or something. He tends to pay attention to my cycle. It would be hard to surprise him. So, I'll probably just pee on the stick when he's home! As for others, I am guessing we'll just tell them when the time seems right, but not in a clever way.

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

I am not scared of simply being pregnant. Well, but I will be frustrated that I won't be able to paint with oil paints or do other things I like to do. I am petrified of giving birth! Maybe I wouldn't be so afraid of that if women would keep their mouths shut and stop sharing their birth stories. Those stories make me never want to have kids. Actually, I don't know which is worse, the women with the horror stories, or the ones who proudly brag, "Oh, it was so easy! He/she just popped right out and I barely felt it! In fact, it was a great moment and almost felt GOOD!" I do know that my mom and sister seemed to have these difficult labor stories though, so I am probably doomed. But, I WILL be taking the drugs. I know others are seriously opposed to that, but I don't feel the need to be in pain. I do hope that I won't have to have a C-section though. That sounds just awful!

[honeygirl]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
I'm not scared of being pregnant, but I'm freaked out about giving birth (I have a very low pain threshold). I'm also worried about what the delivery will do to my body and the recovery that it will require.

I feel the same way. I'm excited about being pregnant, growing a belly (and BB's hopefully), etc. However, I'm not looking forward to birth and all the pain, lack of modesty and recovery. Sadly, DH is afraid also. He's told me he won't be in the delivery room with me b/c he'd pass out! He is a bit squeemish so I'll probably be delivering alone.

[kris97]

Hello to everyone - I've been a huge lurker of this thread for a long time, and figured the new thread was the perfect time to join. :)

Me: Kristin, 30
DH: Ryan, 30
Married: 5/2/4
TTC: sometime in '06

QOTD What are your top names right now?
For a boy, Matthew James; for a girl, Adrianna or Isabella

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
Take one more major trip- maybe to California or the Caribbean. Otherwise, I'm ready. :)

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Definitely - my family will be *so* excited.

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC?
I think he's increasingly excited, but scared, at the same time. He wants to be in better financial shape, which I understand, but is probably unnecessary, given how well he's doing in his career.

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
Two.

QOTD: why are you waiting?
We've waited this long because we wanted to enjoy being married, to set up our house, and to put away some money. I think we'll be ready in the next three to six months, but I"m really just waiting for DH.

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
Adopt. No question about it.

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Yes

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
No, not really. Right now, I think it would be really cool to be pregnant. :)

[tashaw6]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

I wouldn't say I am completely petrified...I have to go with what honeygirl said! I'm excited about being pregnant, growing a belly, etc. However, I'm not looking forward to birth and all the pain, lack of modesty and recovery!

[Sunshine]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Well, I know they wont let you go that far along anymore.....but my mom had a Terrible birth with me, she was in labor for over 50 hours....so for that reason, I am terrified.
BUT, I have seen enough women give birth to know after it is all over, it was so worth it, and the pain is hardly as bad as it seemed.

I can not WAIT to be pregnant:D

[SQ2]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

Not of being pregnant, but definitely scared ****less about giving birth. I am NOT looking forward to that pain. I also really don't want to have a C-section for some reason and just the anticipation of not knowing how things will go, makes me anxious.

[eli1126]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

Strangely No, I think though that having two sisters go through it and a few friends who were very candid about the experience helped me. I'll definitely be medicated though :p

How will I tell DH (and others) that I am pregnant?

I'll probably have him with me when I take the test because I want him to share the moment together. I haven't thought about everyone else though. We won't tell anyone though until at least 10-12 weeks just to make sure everything is progressing well.

Beth

[jnettie]

You ladies make me feel better! :) I'm glad I joined this thread.

How will I tell DH?
Hmm, don't know. I'm not one for cleaver reveals. My cousin and his wife put their ultrasound for their first baby in a photo album for my aunt...and she didn't even notice! They made her flip back to the page and had to point at the ultrasound! :D

[honeygirl]

Now that I've started charting I'm noticing a interesting pattern, and I don't mean temps. Does anyone else have fleeting "let's just forget the condoms" thoughts on certain days of the month? The days I've felt that way (and fortunately ignored the instinct) when looking back at my charts are when I was fertile (pre-o). It must be some sort of biological drive or something.

Anyone else?

[filmgirl7]

Now that I've started charting I'm noticing a interesting pattern, and I don't mean temps. Does anyone else have fleeting "let's just forget the condoms" thoughts on certain days of the month? The days I've felt that way (and fortunately ignored the instinct) when looking back at my charts are when I was fertile (pre-o). It must be some sort of biological drive or something.

Anyone else?

Yeah, I know this one well. It happened to me the other night and actually kind of caused some consternation between me and FH. A casual "Well, I wouldn't mind..." was NOT what J wanted to hear. Oops. I guess I'll know better next month. He just doesn't understand that my biological clock is going TICK TICK TICK in my ear right now, especially since a friend of the family is pregnant with her third at age thirty-five and informed me that hers is considered a "high risk pregnancy" due to her age. SAY WHAT?!?! You mean in just 7 years I will be in the high risk category?? AHHHH!!!! :confused: :eek:

[Janey]

Now that I've started charting I'm noticing a interesting pattern, and I don't mean temps. Does anyone else have fleeting "let's just forget the condoms" thoughts on certain days of the month?

Yeeep. I'm there right now. Every time we start, I think, "Maybe he'll forget about the condoms this time." So far he hasn't, and there is a twinge of disappointment every time he reaches for them.

I found out last night that my best friend is unexpectedly pregnant, which made us talk about us being pregnant. He said we're not ready, and I said, "Yeah, we don't have a floor." He said Right. Then we talked about painting the nursery. In that, he's thinking that it would be easier to paint the nursery before we put the floor in rather than after. Which, that'd be great, except for the fact that I want a theme for the nursery and I want to coordinate the bedding with the walls and what-not, and I can't come up with a theme with bedding that might be out of stock by the time we get pregnant. I'd be so disappointed!

He said, "Well, how early is too early to buy bedding?" I said, "I don't know, but before we get pregnant is too early. I think buying bedding for a baby that isn't conceived yet might jinx the process."

[PG-rated]

QOTD: Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
Well, I want to, but DH doesn't want to, and he doesn't want me to know if he doesn't know. :rolleyes: So we'll have to figure this out. We may just have to agree that I won't tell him.

QOTD: Have you and DH talked about having any genetic testing done before TTC? What would you consider testing for? If positive for something such as CF, would you consider taking further steps to test your child (such as amniocentesis?)
I plan to ask my dr. about it at my next appointment; if she has any recommendations, we'll follow them. I'm not sure what we would do if we were at risk for having a baby with CF or something similar.

QOTD: What will your children call your relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.)?
Not sure about the ILs; my mom wants to be "Mindy," which is a sort of nickname that a couple of my younger cousins call her.

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?
For our first, I plan to ask DH how much he wants to know beforehand, since I expect he'll still be kind of nervous when we start to TTC. So if he wants to know every time I test, fine. If he'd rather I surprise him, that's fine too. It might be fun to do something cute for the ILs, but I imagine I'll just blurt it out over the phone to my mom, since I can't imagine keeping it a secret for any length of time.

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Pregnancy, not so much. Birth and recovery, absolutely. My mom had a very difficult labor with me and ended up unable to deliver vaginally, so I'm scared of a c-section. But I'm also scared of a natural birth. And I'm very scared of the recovery process. I'm ashamed to admit it, but part of it is vanity - I'm working like hell to get to a normal weight so that I can reduce the risk of complications during pregnancy, but it does bother me a little to think of spending years overweight, then finally getting back to a healthy weight, only to start the whole process over again by getting pregnant. :(

[lilo]

I have lurked around this thread for a while and am finally ready to join!


lilo
Me: Natasha, 30
DH: Jared, 33
Married: 10/15/02
TTC: March 2005

QOTD What are your top names right now?
not sure yet

QOTD: So, is there anything you really want to do before TTC?
buy a house!

QOTD: Do you feel like you will have a good support system once baby arrives?
Absolutely.

QOTD ~ How does your DH feel about TTC?
He's excited but also a little nervous I think

QOTD: How many kids do you plan on having?
three, maybe four but we'll see.

QOTD: why are you waiting?
We haven't been ready. I have really enjoyed being married without kids but now I'm now ready for the next phase of my life.

QOTD: What would you do if you couldn't have kids?
Not sure. Get more dogs?

Do you plan to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
yes, I couldn't wait that long.

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
yes and yes. :)

[laurenc]

for those of you who dont know, i'm in a clinical psychology phd program at a very competitive university. in order to get my degree i have to complete a one-year clinical internship. i've sent in 10 applications, and i can't apply for any more as the deadlines have all passed.

so far, i have been rejected from 2 internships, and have not gotten interview offers from any of the remaining 8 yet. as time goes on, i become more and more convinced that i won't get an internship this time around. i'm upset, naturally. (and it doesn't help that my socially inept advisor says things like, "oh well, rejection builds resiliency!" ughh.)

at the same time, my one glimmer of "hope" (if you can call it hope) is that if i don't get an internship, we'll probably start TTC right away. why waste another year? in that scenario, i'd have to decide whether i wanted to bunt and take an experimental psychopathology degree (which i'd be overqualified for, in a way, given that i've gone above and beyond the requirements and did all this extra clinical work), or whether i want to try and re-apply for internship next year. option A means i could potentially graduate this upcoming spring; option B means i'm a student at least two more years (the year i am waiting and the year i go on internship). of course, my career path and job options will vary depending on the degree, so i'd have to start scouting out jobs right away if i go for option A.

as attractive as the TTC-right-away option is, i would *much* rather keep things "according to plan" and actually GET an internship so i can finish with the degree i intended to get in the first place.

anyhow. i just thought i'd put that out there, as i can't really talk to anyone else about these things. you girls understand. :) now, onto the QOTDs.

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

yes. about the whole thing. but i'm also petrified of public speaking, and i do that regularly anyhow...

QOTD: What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?

for telling DH, i'll probably just call him up and start screaming into the phone. ;) for telling family, i would ideally like to wait until i have an ultrasound pic to send them, but in lieu of that... probably we'll go out to dinner with both my parents and DH's parents (and hopefully my brother and my BIL/SIL) and break the news then...

[Tonysweetie]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?

Not to be pregnant but giving birth HECK YA! Who wouldn't? I'm afraid of the pain, embarrassment of being totally exposed, medications etc. But I keep hearing when your pregnant and abotu to give birth you don't think about those things so hopefully my fear will be put at ease once I get pregnant :)

What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?

I'll probably just tell DH and far as family goes I'm not real sure. I kinda dread that day to be honest. I dont' think my Mom is that excited for me to get pregnant. Now DH side of the family will be THRILLED!

[MrsWilson]

laurenc--I hope things work out and you get one of the internships! As exciting as it would be to start TTC, I know you would rather go through your plans as expected. There are still 8 more chances for you! You're in my thoughts!

[laurenc]

laurenc--I hope things work out and you get one of the internships! As exciting as it would be to start TTC, I know you would rather go through your plans as expected. There are still 8 more chances for you! You're in my thoughts!

thank you MrsWilson -- i do appreciate the good thoughts. and yes, there are still 8 more places to hear from... it's just waiting to hear from them that is driving me nuts!!!

DH and i talked about TTC'ing sooner than expected in the event that plans go astray. he had his practical reservations, but otherwise he was excited -- he said, "well, if you don't get ANY interviews, we can start trying at christmas and we might have a baby by september!!!" :eek: he's usually not very good with things going off-track, he's a more "we MUST follow the plan OR ELSE" sort of guy, so it felt good to get a flexible, laid-back, happy response instead of a massive freak-out. gotta count your blessings, y'know? :)

[Annette]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
Not so much being pregnant but the birth part scares me. I don't want a c-section. I also hope I don't get stretch marks or a pouch afterwards. Becoming a parent is also scary too.

What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?

I will probably test while DH is around and then jump up and down and scream with joy. Since I am bad at keeping things to myself, I am sure I will end up calling my friends the same day. At work, it might be more difficult to not blurt anything out until 12 weeks.

[Janey]

it felt good to get a flexible, laid-back, happy response instead of a massive freak-out. gotta count your blessings, y'know? :)
Hooray for your DH! :D (and shame on your advisor :rolleyes: )

Lauren, I hope everything works out for you. You may yet get an internship; don't give up hope yet! But you know, it sounds like there's lots to look forward to even if the internship doesn't work out.

[lilo]

I realized yesterday that I posted our TTC date as March 2005 when I meant March 2006. oops! could someone please update my information? thanks. :)

he's usually not very good with things going off-track, he's a more "we MUST follow the plan OR ELSE" sort of guy, so it felt good to get a flexible, laid-back, happy response instead of a massive freak-out.

sounds very much like my DH! too funny.

What are some ideas (or *the* idea) you have for telling your DH and others you are pregnant?

I really like the card idea, if it happens around a holiday/birthday or maybe a cute baby top that says "Daddy's girl" (of course now that I say that, I'm sure we'll have a boy first. :D )

[DelSol]

Is anyone completely petrified of being pregnant or giving birth?
I not petrified of being pregnant. I am of giving birth. I hear the stories, watch the TV shows but I have a low tolerance for pain. I plan to have as many drugs as I possibly can. :D :o For all I know, I may not be able to go naturally, my mom couldn't go naturally with me so she ended up having a c-section, she was too small to squeeze me out.

[Julss05]

Does anyone else have fleeting "let's just forget the condoms" thoughts on certain days of the month?
Yes! I know I'll be ovulating in a few days. DH does 24 hr. shift work and mentioned having sex tomorrow. So in my silly head I'm thinking "if" by some chance I got pregnant it might be a girl because of the date and then I think of the possible due date and my mind starts to wander off....(sigh):rolleyes:. He's probably just looking forward to the sex:D. Lately we've been risky with when and how we use protection and still nada which makes me wonder whether getting pregnant isn't going to be as easy as I thought but we haven't actually gone all the way without anything either.

laurenc
Good luck with the internship. I'll be graduating this month and although an internship is not apart of my degree I might be doing that as well to get a foot in the door. I know how you feel about staying on course until school is done. With school almost done a big part of me wants to TTC by spring but then I think I should give myself time to get settled in my new career first. It sure is frustrating but I know waiting will pay off in the end!:)

[Annette]

To add to the previous question : Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

I'll probably freak out at first especially if I couldn't get a hold of DH.

[MrsWilson]

To add to the previous question : Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

Right now, this isn't a big concern to me. We work about 10 minutes from each other. My office is about 5 minutes from the hospital, so unless it was something extremely major, I could make it to the hospital and he would be there shortly afterwards. Plus, I work at a doctor's office.

[Janey]

To add to the previous question : Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
Hmm. I hadn't thought of that. I'm a SAHW so going into labor at work isn't an issue... but B is designing a high school right now in a place that is between 45 minutes to 1.5 hours away depending on traffic. I could probably get him to leave his cell phone on even during meetings up there, but man, the thought of him taking 1.5 hours to get to me... :eek:

I'm thinking I'm a C-section candidate, though... so maybe I'll be scheduled for a C-section and be able to choose the baby's birthday/time myself, and skirt the whole labor thing altogether. :)

[eli1126]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
I would actually prefer DH be at work because then he's easier to get a hold of! My biggest fear would be that he was at his parents, who I want no where near me when I give birth, and they would of course come along for the ride. I haven't thought much about being at the mall and having my water break or anything like that. I know when my sister went into labor she tried to drive somewhere just to get out (she went 2 weeks early and thought it was Braxton-Hicks) and had to turn back becasue the contractions were too intense. She then went home and vaccuumend her house :D

Beth

[BryantRN]

Hello ladies:)
I never knew this thread existed, how could that have happened when I have friends in here?? Anyway here's a little background on me and DH. We have been married since May 2004 and have been together total for 10 years. I am a labor and delivery nurse so you can just imagine how my bad my baby fever must be! We are just waiting until DH gets a job, he is just finishing his master's degree this month. He has two job offers lined up, so maybe it will be soon. Keep your fingers crossed for me. I will try to catch up on the previous postings so that I know everyone a little better. I am so excited to be here :).

Here's my info to post. Hope I am doing this correctly.
BryantRN
Me: Renee 32
DH: prefers to stay annon. 27
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: ASAP!! Just waiting on a job for him :)

[miaclear]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

Absolutly not. DH works just 15 min away from me and my work is litteraly a parking lot away from the hospital. Likely not the hospital I'll choose to have a baby at but if an emergency happens it's right there. Plus I work in a health insurance company and there are multiple nurses on staff and one of my coworkers was a paramedic before joining the company.

Ideally I would like to go into labor while with DH, the tv version middle of the night get up and go would be perfect.

[stevesbabygirl]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
I would just be concerned about my water breaking in public, and having everyone stare at me while I'm gushing all over the place. Other than that, I'm not too terribly worried. But I will make damn sure that DH starts carrying his cell phone around everywhere!

Welcome BryantRN!

[PookiePrincess]

To add to the previous question : Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

I would be afraid of going into labor at work, since I'm a teacher. The last thing I would need is to freak out my first graders!

Also, I work about 30 minutes from home and an hour from the hospital we'll go to. If I am at work, it will be complicated getting to the hospital. But my DH would just leave work and meet me there. I would probably get my mom to drive me to the hospital, if at all possible.

[honeygirl]

Welcome BryantRN, I'd guess that you're not afraid to go into labor at work. ;)

As for me, I hadn't really thought of going into labor without him. DH works from home, so odds are it wouldn't be an issue. We'll be in a different state when we TTC, so I'm not sure what my working situation will be.

[LeslieandPaul]

Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?

I'm not afraid of going into labour at work, or out somewhere. It would also be okay if DH wasn't around (if I need to I can call my mom!), but I am afraid that if Paul continues with his current job that he'll be out of town. I would hate that.

[Julss05]

I wouldn't be afraid of going into labor at work just a little embarrased:o. I work with 4 other women, 3 of which have kids so actually it is comforting to know I'd be with women who have already been through it. DH used to be in the Navy where he was gone over half the time, I'm used to handling anything by myself and have been through emergency situations before without him. Currently he works as a fire fighter so it might be hard to contact him if he's on a call but much easier than if he was overseas!

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically? I worry because both my sister and I had epilepsy and we have breast cancer on both sides of our family. Not even sure if I want a girl because I'd feel horrible if she had to go through either of those two.

[PookiePrincess]

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

I'm not worried about this too much from my side of the family, except for alcoholism being an issue. But my DH's family has diabetes, cancer, and some heart problems. So, that's a little scary. I just think we'd handle it and try to live a healthy lifestyle with our kids. Not much else we can do!

[stevesbabygirl]

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
Not too terribly worried. Cancer does run in my dad's family, but most of it is self-inflicted due to smoking, drinking, etc. The only concern I might have is cystic fibrosis, because it is more common in people of North American descent. I'm German, and DH is Scandinavian, so our chances are pretty high of being a carrier.

[magrat]

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

No. I do worry that they will have problems with their weight though. I don't, but DH does and I'm really afraid he'll pass it on to them. At least we'll be able to start them off eating healthy and practicing a healthy lifestyle.

I took my last BCP last night. I think DH and I are really ready to start trying, maybe right away in the new year if my cycle returns to normal quickly. I dunno...it's all been an extremely stressful two weeks and things like money seem less important now, at least less important than family. Since FIL will never get to see his grandkids, it seems even more important that DH's granny is able to, and she's not exactly in the best of health. We probably won't get pregnant right away anyway.

[BryantRN]

Thanks for all of the warm welcomes!! No, I guess that I can honestly say that I feel the safest if I went into labor at work, LOL. It is funny how many women say that their worst fear was having their water break in public. I can honestly say that in the hundreds of deliveries that I have been in, only maybe a couple have said that their water broke in public. The most common place.........in bed while sleeping. I think that TV has made us all afraid of the water breaking in public thing!

~Renee~

[Tonysweetie]

Well girls I am leaving this thread I became a grad earlier than expected. I got a BFP this morning. So excited! I'm a proven fact that withdrawl isnt'a form of birth control, lol :rolleyes: EDD August 2, 2005. God Bless!!!

[honeygirl]

Well girls I am leaving this thread I became a grad earlier than expected. I got a BFP this morning. So excited! I'm a proven fact that withdrawl isnt'a form of birth control, lol :rolleyes: EDD August 2, 2005. God Bless!!!

We'll miss you, but I knew early on that you didn't belong here. :) LOL

Happy and healthy 9 months to you, I'll keep following along in your journal.

[Tonysweetie]

Thank you Honeygirl! Nope, I never did "fit in" here, lol YAY!

[MrsWilson]

Congradulations, Tonysweetie! I'm thinking of you and your family today!

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

[MrsWilson]

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

We would like our kids to be about 3 years apart for a few reasons. It is easier to take care of a newborn with the older child being around three. By that time, hopefully, the oldest will be out of diapers and will be a little more independent. You can tell a 3 year old to bring you something and they understand. Also, when the oldest is a senior in high school, he/she can drive the younger one to school and basically look after his/her younger sibling that first year in high school. (This worked out great for my parents!)

[DelSol]

Congratulations Tonysweetie! Good Luck with everything.


Are you afraid of going into labor at work, or if you are out somewhere and DH is not around?
Yes! I'm afraid I won't be able to get in touch with DH. He never answers the phone when he is home and if I leave a message and say call me back, 9 out of 10 times he won't call me back. :rolleyes: Currently, I work really close to my hospital but I am looking for a new job because I hate this job so who knows where I'll end up.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
Not really.

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
I'd like to have my children 3 years apart. I think it gives your body a chance to recover, I heard pregnancy takes a huge toll on your body by depleting all the vitamins and nutrition so your baby can grow. I have a friend who has two older children and after both her sons, need to have major dental work done. The older one is able to help you and be more dependent to entertain themselves (hopefully).

[Janey]

Congrats Tonyssweetie! Good luck!

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
I suppose not -- everybody seems to have a propensity toward some disease or another. I don't want to not have kids because they might have a heart attack somewhere down the road. :) That said, though, I'm a little concerned that there will be obesity on both sides of my child's family, as there was in mine... and I know first-hand how horrible weight struggles are. To combat that, I don't keep non-nutritious food in the house, I'll encourage them to sign up for a sport, and my kids will just have to learn about nutrition, exercise, & calories early and from me, cause the schools certainly don't do a good job of that.

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
I'd have liked 3 years, but I'm thinking it's going to be more like 2 years. I'm getting old. :p

[DelSol]

QOTD: How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
I'd have liked 3 years, but I'm thinking it's going to be more like 2 years. I'm getting old. :p

I have to agree with you MrsHill, I am getting old too so my wish for 3 years apart probably won't happen.

[honeygirl]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
If we have 2 children I'd like them to be 2-3 years apart.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

Not exactly. I'm not worried about major illnesses, but I hope that our DD or DS inherits DH's teeth, no-allergies, good sinuses, better vision, etc.

Speaking of, new QOTD: What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I'd like our child to have DH's intelligence, my creativity/talent, my hair and DH's eyes.

[SwiftyOWB]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?We would like to have 2 children close together in age ex 16-18 months. My brothers and I are so far apart in age that I want my children to be close.
Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
I am concerned with some genetic issues in my husbands family but, we are prepared to handle any illness.
What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
I would hope our children would have my husbands work ethic, musical talent, and amazing intelligence.

[SwiftyOWB]

Also please add me to the list
SwiftyOWB
Name: Kelly, 27
DH: Joe, 31
Married: 11/6/04
TTC? 11/07ish

[Smittenk]

Subscribing! DH and I moved up our TTC timeframe form 2007 to 2006!! Now just trying to gather info and prepare my body.

Here is my info

Smittenk
Me: Alison (28)
DH: Mike (36)
Married: April 3rd, 2004
TTC #1: Spring/Summer 2006
Pets: Barley, born August 29th, 2005

Looking forward to getting to know you all!

[Smittenk]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?

I would like there to be 2-3 years between. I just want the first to be potty trained and able to play semi independantly.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?

Not really...we do have Chron's and cancer on my side but I cannot worry about that. I worry enough about other things I cannot control :rolleyes:

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?

I would like them to have DH's intelligence, hard working ethic, patience, morals, eyes, and metabolism!! I would like them to have my teeth, hair, compassion and love for the environment and animals (I guess that last one would actually be from us both).

[Janey]

Welcome SwiftyOWB and Smittenk!

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
Physical Traits: I hope they inherit B's smile, and my ears... only because I have my Nana's ears and it'd be nice to pass them down... not because they're especially great ears. I hope they get B's height -- being short is a PITA.
Personality Traits: I hope they get my language/spelling skills, and B's patience.

[LeslieandPaul]

How far apart in age would you like your children and why?
2-3 years. My sister and I are almost two years apart, and it was nice having some so close in age, but sometimes it was not enough of an age gap. More than 3 years is too much and makes it harder for siblings to be close.

Anyone concerned about illnesses your future children may acquire genetically?
If ADHD is genetic, that's the only thing I would be worried about because I know how hard it was for Paul to deal with.

What traits or features of you or your husband do you hope your child will inherit?
Physically, any traits from either of us-we were both very cute kids so I know they'll be cute. Also we're both short, so there's no getting away from that.