Ladies in Waiting, Volume 2

[RobynScott]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
Spring, definitely. Originally, I was thinking April, but now I am contemplating signing up for the Alaska marathon in June so I think right after that would be perfect :)

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you will TTC next year)?
-- Possibly training for (and completing) the aforementioned marathon (would be my third, but haven't done one since 2003)
-- Continuing to enjoy time in our house
-- Finding some time to relax :)
-- Getting back in shape and then TTC.

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

[eli1126]

Congrats Kristibell! A H&H 9 months to You!!

Posted by miaclear: Decorating a Nursery!

Everytime I walk by the room that will be our nursery, it's all I can do not to go in and start prepping the walls! The family who was here before us had three little girls and the room is really cute with purple plaid wall paper (sounds bad, but it is actually a cute girls room). I want to take the paper down and paint it to make a more neutral baby's room. I can't wait :)

Beth

[miaclear]

Oh yep....I do that too. I know where I'm putting the crib and the rest of the furniture and have already casually looked at decor options. All I can do now really is clean out the closet in there. Anything more than that will jinx me I think ;)

[RobynScott]

Heh - our eventual baby's room is currently full of junk. A 'storage' room in desperate need of clean sweep. I think the only thing that will get that room cleaned out is pregnancy - let's hope we get started on it before the end of 2006! :)

[fsb2005]

I'm new to this group. I just went of BC pills last month, and I've just started charting (my chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/10ac41). Very excited to start TTC in April!! :-)

fsb2005

Me: 28
DH: 29
Engaged: November 2001
Married: June 14, 2003
TTC: April 2006

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe? April 2006

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you will TTC next year)?

-Getting more used to NYC so that it feels like home to us
-Hopefully taking my last bar exam! (took NY in July, now taking Cal in Feb)
-Trip to Sicily in May
-DH's 30th birthday!

[LadyD088]

Decorating a Nursery!

I have to move before I can even start that and I will hopefully be PG when that gets started!! Gotta love it all. I can't wait to get a 3rd bedroom in hopes of quickly going in and getting it ready. I search for bedroom ideas already...Teddy Bear Theme is mine. I have the bedding and a few other ideas I will purchase once we get PG.

All so much fun!!

Deb

[Janey]

Welcome fsb2005! :)

Re: Nursery Decoration
I'm so with you gals. We have a nursery room upstairs, and it is the coolest room, with sloped ceilings, little cubbies, and a half-shelf-wall-thing. Right now it is the most horrible shade of pinky-lavander, and there's no flooring in there. I can't wait to get going. Flooring in the upstairs is the next house project after finishing the painting downstairs!


Okay so here's a question... I debate with myself on how best to go about doing this nursery thing. You all tell me if you think I'm being silly. I think about the best way to do things, and the EASIEST way -- and the way B wants to do it -- is this: 1) Prime walls ... 2) Paint walls ... 3) Put flooring in ... 4) Decorate w/ decor items.

In any other room, this is what I'd do. I wouldn't have to worry about slopping paint on a brand new floor, and that'd be great! Except, this is the nursery. And, well... I sort of feel like if I paint the nursery, maybe I'll jinx things? Or what if I paint the nursery in a color that perfectly matches the bedding that I want... and that bedding goes out of stock, and then I'm screwed and have to repaint?

So... should I go ahead and find a nice nursery color and paint away, even though there's no baby to be painting for? Or should I wait for the baby to give me the go-ahead, and just be careful not to slop paint.

[stevesbabygirl]

Nursery decorations - I bought the Classic Pooh nursery collection from Target.

[JLRenheos]

LadyD088 My 30th is in September. :eek:

[eli1126]

Welcome fsb2005!

Lady088 When are you moving?

stevesbabygirl that is too funny! I love the Classic Pooh, but SIL did it for nephew.

JLRenheos I am turning 30 in November! I remember thinking that was so old.......

Mrs. Hill I would go ahead and paint the room! I probably wouldn't go all out with nursery colors because I would want to wait until I had picked out the bedding and things that I wanted to go in the room. I change my mind about what I want in the nursery all the time so I will probably wait until I am pg to pick out everything!

I am getting so ready to TTC though! DH actually asked me if I wanted to start next month and I was so tempted except that I don't want to be pg for graduation..which is so shallow, but I just don't want to waddle up to get my diploma :p


Beth

[Julss05]

We have one of those storage rooms/future babies room. Over the summer we took everything out of the closet and painted it including the ceiling but now all the junk is back in the closet:rolleyes:. I'm hoping we won't have to repaint and I'll get lucky finding bedding that will go with what's already up;) . The paint color is a soft eggshell with white trim. I'm thinking of going with a lamb or jungle theme.

MrsHill-I'd go ahead and paint as long as the color will be something that will go with a variety of bedding because it may take a while to do everything if the floor and ceiling need fixed as well. If you really want to decorate around a specific bedding I'd purchase that first then do the painting. Another idea, paint the walls a neutral color and then add a more vibrant color that matches the bedding up half the wall. I don't know about you but I don't want to be fixing up a room well into my pregnancy!

Kristibell-Congrats!

Progress....
I guess on a good note we are being made to fix up the exterior of the house by the neighborhood association. We are getting all new siding put up and having the kitchen remodeled soon. Actually this works out great since we plan to TTC this summer. Now all I need is another job and vehicle and we are good to go! It's slowly coming together:). I'm making myself eat healthier and exercise more instead of concentrating on weight lost.

[PookiePrincess]

Nursery Decoration

We have a spare room in our apartment, but it's not a designated "it will be a baby's room" because hopefully we'll be out of this place soon!

The "Blue nursery for a Girl" thread has been tugging at me for the last week or so. Blue is DH and my favorite color, so that's a strong possibility. But in reality, there's no telling what we'll actually do.

Mrs. Hill: I think I'd paint first, too. Pick something you like or that you feel sure you'll find bedding to go with. Or I like the neutral color where you can add some color to some walls later.

[Little Angel '77]

Well, I might push this back... my newphews were just here

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?
April 2006-June, if nothing happens, Not sure when we will try again.

[jnettie]

Decorating a Nursery
Oh, man, our place is so small, I have no idea where we'd put a baby now! That's one major reason why we're waiting. I think we'd have to get rid of some major pieces of furniture to fit a crib in here!

[honeygirl]

Jnettie - OT but are you my WC coupon buddy? (I am anneg on WC)

[eli1126]

Decorating a Nursery
Oh, man, our place is so small, I have no idea where we'd put a baby now! That's one major reason why we're waiting. I think we'd have to get rid of some major pieces of furniture to fit a crib in here!


This is why I know I'll be very pg when the room actually gets made into a nursery! We don't have anything in the room, but I know we won't get the ambition until we have no choice :rolleyes:

Beth

[LeslieandPaul]

I need a new home before I can create a nursery, and by that time I'll hopefully be pregnant! We already have a dresser (that will serve as a change table once there's a changing pad on top) that I used until I moved away from home, and belonged to someone in my family before that.

[jnettie]

Jnettie - OT but are you my WC coupon buddy? (I am anneg on WC)
Hey! Yes I am! How funny! I was just clipping for you today!

/hyjack

[honeygirl]

Hey! Yes I am! How funny! I was just clipping for you today!

/hyjack

Sadly I'm jumping the train (I just posted this week about it). With my move in 3 months I'm too busy to keep up. I may join CC's train later this year.

You were a super coupon buddy, seriously you sent more coupons than my prior 2 people combined!

/hyjack :)

[stevesbabygirl]

Our guest room, which will be turned into our nursery, has a nice sage green on the walls, perfect for boys or girls, but I am also a huge fan of blue in a girl's room. I'm thinking of doing green on the bottom half and blue on the top half, separated by a wallpaper border. That way, it kinda looks like grass and sky, and I can put my Classic Pooh wallpaper murals up.

[Sab]

Hello ladies! I'm new to these boards, and I guess I'm a lady in waiting (and not waiting as patiently as I should). Here is the obligatory info:
Sab
Me: Sabrina, 20
DH: Nate, 25
Married: August 6, 2005
TTC: who knows... sigh
I know we need to wait to have a baby, but we both love children and are kind of begrudgingly waiting until we have the finances. Well, I don't know what else to say, so I suppose I should just keep this short...thanks for letting me join in!

[stevesbabygirl]

Welcome Sabrina :D! Do you like your name? The reason I ask is because it's my favorite girl's name! Also, do you have any nicknames?

[laurenc]

nursery decoration:

i'd like to do a bumblebee theme -- there's a story behind it. when DH and i were dating, i wanted to decorate my dorm room with a poster featuring a bee, and it said "bee happy." but the poster was overpriced and i didn't want to spend that much money on it. so DH surprised me by using a giant piece of construction paper and crayons and recreated the bee poster. a few things are not quite proportioned correctly, but it's a cute picture that we have hanging up in our kitchen. so, i think a bumblebee theme for a nursery would be sweet! :)

[SQ2]

For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

*Went off the pill Nov. 2005 and started charting. Will be TTC Sept. 2006 at the earliest.

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you will TTC next year)?

*Visiting a good friend in San Diego in March
*Parents and ILs visit in May
*Trip to England for a wedding in June and then Germany to visit our good friend
*10 year high school reunion (and trip home) this summer
*Possible vacation trip to my aunt and uncle's remote Canada lake cottage
*Celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary
*Celebrating our 28th birthdays this summer
*Good friend's wedding in September (I'm a bridesmaid).
*Starting my last year of grad school in the fall
*TTC sometime in the fall

[honeygirl]

Ladies, for those of you planning to TTC in 2006 there is yet another family planning group thread for you! It is called The Maybe Mamas: TTC #1 in 2006.

http://www.constantchatter.com/showthread.php?t=13863

I'll still hang around here, but find that as I get closer to TTC (only 3 months to go) I spend more and more time in the pregnancy and TTC threads. Anyone else obsessed like me? LOL :)

Have a great day!

[eli1126]

honeygirl Count me in as obsessed too!

Beth

[Julss05]

Thanks honeygirl, I'll have to check it out!

[Sab]

Thanks for the welcome, Heather. And yes, I do love my name... the only unfotunate thing about it was that Sarina the Teenage Witch was on tv for a few years growing up, so people associated me with that for a while. But I doubt any babies born now will have that problem! I seem to have a few nicknames: Sab, Sabby, and a few random people call me Bina or Brina.

I'm tempted to check out the TTC in 2006, but the last thing I need is to kick my baby fever into high gear...

[dpangel33]

I feel ya on the baby bug... everyone's journals I follow is TTC or already PG.

Now that I don't have wedding details to look at anymore I tend to look at baby furniture/bedding/supplies even though we're waiting 4 more years :rolleyes:

Good Luck though to all those ladies about to start TTC this year!!

[elissa]

Honeygirl, thanks for the info on the other thread. I think like you too I read more on TTC and the people that are pregnant the closer we get! :)

[laurenc]

i need to vent a bit...

last night my DH told me that his cousin got his girlfriend pregnant. they are going to be getting married in late march and the baby is due in september. the two of them are in their early 20s, have been together for maybe a year and a half, and neither of them really seemed ready for marriage before the news. plus, they both like to drink -- a lot -- to the point where, at our last family gathering, DH and i were seriously concerned about the both of them. the girlfriend drank a bottle of champagne out of a big gulp cup!!! i mean, i hope she hasn't pickled the fetus by now!! as a LIW, this has been difficult for me. for the past 12 hours, i've felt like i was punched in the stomach. it's not fair -- a little voice in my head keeps crying, "but we were next! at least we got married! at least we have a stable relationship! at least we have our lives together!!! why do they get to go next???" which i know is crazy, but still...

DH and i planned to go to italy the week of their wedding -- with the brother of the cousin-in-question. so now that trip is off, because our travel companion will be in the wedding party and DH refuses to travel abroad without him (his cousin speaks fluent italian and is a well-seasoned traveler, whereas DH and i consider disney world our big day out).

and, to make matters even worse, one year ago *to the day* i found out that a different one of DH's cousins was going to be a parent. *that* cousin had married at age 21 to an 18-year-old, about two weeks after we did. when i heard that information, MIL said, "well, i guess my sister gets to be the first grandma." this time around, MIL said to me, "and now my brother gets to be a grandparent too. i'm the only one left who isn't a grandparent."

january is so not my month!!!

sigh. i'm just so upset. i know that feeling upset is irrational and i have all these reasons why, but the bottom line is, i feel like i want to throw up. it's not fair. i don't at all see them as ready for a baby -- i don't even see them as necessarily ready for adult life. but it is what it is... i need a little while to just be upset and then i guess i will move on. but thanks for letting me vent away a bit... you ladies are the only ones who really "get it."

[eli1126]

((((HUGS)))) laurenc. After all this LIW business, I know I'll never look at another pg announcement the same way again. Deep dpwn I know when it is "my turn" people will be just 100% excited and happy for us because of many of the reasons you stated: We're married, financially secure, have a family friendly home, etc. Although it still doesn't help when other family members get to have their big reveal first. Hope today is a little bit better.

Beth

[PookiePrincess]

I'm sorry Lauren! The only advice I have is to think about how you will be in a better position when you do decide to have a baby. I know it's hard.

About a year ago I found out my cousin and his girlfriend were pregnant. Mind you, the last news I had heard about them a couple of weeks prior to that was they had broken up. So, they had broken up, then she found out she was pregnant. I don't know much about her (but I know there was no steady job or college degree in the horizon), but my cousin is not in college and will never go. He was working at the local grocery store with a $6 an hour job, 25 years old, still living with mom. They brought a child into the world and are now supposed to be getting married. Makes absolutely no sense to me.

I have come to the realization, though, that just because people don't do things the way I would, it's not necessarily wrong. I just don't see why people make their own lives so much harder. My cousin and his girlfriend will probably always struggle, but I'm glad I'm not the one living that life. I chose what I chose for a reason. I saw my mom struggle with no college degree as a single parent. So I went to college, waited until I was mid 20s to get married, and will wait almost 2 years to try to have a baby. Nothing wrong with that, but it is hard to wait.

[Squee]

Well I just thought Id stop in and say buh bye to this thread. I know I havnt been around much but I have been lurking. Thanks all!

[Julss05]

I saw my mom struggle with no college degree as a single parent. So I went to college, waited until I was mid 20s to get married, and will wait almost 2 years to try to have a baby. Nothing wrong with that, but it is hard to wait.

That is a big reason why I took that route also. I see my brother struggle with his 2 kids, working full time and going to school full time always tired, stressed, and with no money. It breaks my heart. It's hard to be jealous after realizing what a tough road some have taken by starting a family early with no education or good finances in place.

Batteling the bulge, anyone else trying to lose weight while their waiting? I need to lose at least 30 lbs. It's tough but I'm determined to make it happen this year. I went to the grocery store and bought a bunch of healthy foods and a new exercise video.

[PookiePrincess]

I'm not battling the bulge, but I would like to get into an exercise routine before we TTC. I just think that having the exercise will possibly make a pregnancy easy. But it's not easy to get started, I have little motivation. And I'm still a little over a year from TTC...so I keep telling myself I have plenty of time to start that later!

[DelSol]

I just started a weight lose program through Curves and joined their gym. I need to lose a lot and I am determined to do it. I can't pinpoint the exact month we'll be TTCing but I know it will be in 2006. I need to go food shopping and buy the healthy foods but need to read my weight lose book first for some substitutes for certain foods I don't eat.

PookiePrincess ~ start a routine now because I was always pushing it back and now my time will be here before I know and I feel I am not going to be at a good weight to carry my pregnancy when it happens.

[Smittenk]

PookiePrincess..I am in the same boat...but we are going to start TTC this spring/summer so my time is running out on starting an exercise plan!! It is great motivation when the time gets closer though. I have been trying to get to the gym three times a week and then on the odd days I can't make it or want to do more I do my core secrets at home. I want to try and get into really good shape before getting pregnant.

[honeygirl]

Well I'm not exactly trying to loose weight, but I too am trying to get into an exercise routine. I had 2 weeks off around the holidays and started working out regularly then. I'm 4 weeks in and doing okay (3-5x a week). Now if I can just keep it up!

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing? I'm using the eliptical and videos (pilates). I tend to get tired of the same videos though, any recommendations?

[laurenc]

thanks for the support, all -- i'm feeling a little better and am just trying to distract myself from the family chatter.

re: weight loss/workouts: i'd like to lose the 5 pounds i gained in nov-dec while i was laid up with a broken foot. i started going back to the gym this week. right now i'm just trying to get my cardio back up to speed, and i've been using the elliptical. usually i set the machine to the "kilimanjaro" workout (one giant hill) and try to keep my RPM at around 85-90 for 30-45 minutes. (then i go home and eat like a horse. ;))

[LeslieandPaul]

i'm also trying to get into an exercise routine before TTC. I don't want to lose much weight (only about 5-10 lbs), mostly I want to be in good shape, and have those habits in place for when I am pregnant so I stay fit and bounce back into shape easily after birth.

[Janey]

laurenc, I see you have already gotten some very good support here, but I wanted to chime in 100% agreement with what PookiePrincess said. You want a baby, but man oh man, don't be jealous of someone who is going to have to scrape and scramble their whole lives to make ends meet. Be glad that you are doing it the smart way and getting education/finances in first before the money sink known as a baby shows up!


As for the exercise routine... I'm back at it. My goal is to lose 25-30 lbs. before we TTC so that it's this 25 pounds I'm gaining during pregnancy and not an additional 25 pounds. I'm doing step aerobics M/W/F (monday & wednesday's classes also include a bit of weights) and the "Couch to 5k Challenge" on T/TH/Sat. I'm thinking I'm going to have to bump it up a notch and find a class on T/TH that I want to go to as well.

[dpangel33]

laurenc I experianced the same feelings as you when both my younger cousins got pg. I was jealous and hateful at first, but now am more sympathetic towards them.

I am the oldest grandchild and for some reason I had it in my head that I was suposed to be the first to get married and have the first great grandchild. Well I was the first to get married, but both younger cousins just had babies last year. I'm still not sure if I was more upset or if my grandparents were.
I feel bad for my cousins and their babies now, b/c neither of them have a hs diploma and are struggeling to care for their children. It makes me glad I am working hard to build a solid foundation that will one day support my future children.

Batteling the bulge: I too am trying to get started in an exercise routine. I used to walk the dog 2 miles daily and since we moved haven't. I started back up on thur and want to keep it up along with some simple crunches, leg lifts, and arm workouts. I have a goal to only lose 5-10 lbs and tone up so I can try out for the Mav's Dancers again in July.

[JLRenheos]

Battling the Bulge I just started working out 3 days ago. I like to do a little bit of everything like the recumbent bikes (precor), walk/run track or treadmill, fitball, lift weights & other machines. I'm really sore right now. I stopped working out for 2 mos. after working out for 8 mos. straight. I got a little burnt out with the amount of time & hrs. spent at the gym. I needed a break, but now I'm back at it again & I'm ready as ever. I'd love to drop anywhere from 30-40 lbs.! Now, if can stop eating like crap!

[PookiePrincess]

I tend to get tired of the same videos though, any recommendations?

I haven't tried any of these myself, but I saved this thread when it was started in July, thinking I'd get some videos and try them out...Favorite Workout Videos (http://www.constantchatter.com/showthread.php?t=2556) Hope that helps!

[honeygirl]

Thanks PookiePrincess!

[PookiePrincess]

No problem! :D

[artist]

What do you look forward to in 2006 (other than TTC for those of you who will TTC next year)?

Well, we are not TTC this year (2006). So far I am enjoying the change of what I am doing for work. For those who don’t know, I started working as a VISTA (volunteers in service to America) in December of 2005. If you’re not sure what that is, it’s kind of like the Peace Corps, but in America. I decided to do this in the same city I already live in since our house, dog, and now 2 cats (we just got another cat) are here, plus DH’s job is here too. I get a stipend which is of course not a lot. However, I was not making very much at my last job and I absolutely hated that job. Now I really love what I am doing. I guess the only thing is that I hope it will lead to something else as VISTA is just a one year commitment unless I decide to do another year. At the very least, when my year is up, I will be eligible for “no compete” status for Federal jobs.



For those who will be TTC in 2006 when is your starting TTC timeframe?

Like I said, it won’t be this year. However, whatever year it will be, I think TTC in July of whatever year would be cool because July is our anniversary month, plus the child would be born in April (so he/she might have b-day close to his/her dad). Also, I figure having a child in the spring would be ideal. It wouldn’t be too hot to be extremely pregnant. Also, it would be just warm enough so that once I was all healed up and ready to walk again, I could take the baby all over the place with the stroller and lose the baby fat. I just would not be too into potentially having post-partum depression, and ALSO having to survive an entire Minnesota winter (you know, having absolutely no sunlight)!

Decorating a Nursery!

Well, I haven’t thought about any of this much. I know we have enough space to accommodate children though. At the moment, our bedroom is upstairs. There is another “bedroom” up there, as well as this extra room. (Which is not a bedroom as it connects to another bedroom.) There is also a bathroom up there which is great! (There is another bathroom and bedroom downstairs too.) I guess eventually when we’ve had our 2 kids, our room will be downstairs with children upstairs. However, initially I think we’ll just be upstairs with the baby room upstairs too. As far as which room will be which though, I don’t really know. I guess it could all get changed around when the time comes. I figure the pregnancy hormones will kick in and that will be when the nesting will happen. As for colors, I am guessing I’ll pick something nice and neutral. Though I am an artist, I don’t necessarily envision doing some sort of an elaborate mural, but hey, who knows! I am thinking I’d probably paint before picking stuff out. I am thinking I’d probably want wood furniture and not white or any color, but something very simple and classic looking. And probably nothing too frilly or cutesy. I realize babies are “cute”, but I am just not into anything “cutesy”. Not that I’d do some sort of a super modern black/white/red thing either, because that wouldn’t be my style either.

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing?

I don’t work out. I am naturally thin. I don’t generally have a huge appetite either. I don’t plan exercise. It either happens or it doesn’t. I guess I walk (again, because it’s part of the day, not for exercise) sometimes and I get exercise when I take the dog to the dog park. I feel we need to get our dog there more often because HE really needs the workout! He’s a lab, so he’s very high energy.

That being said, I’d enjoy trying a pilates or yoga class. Not so much for the “workout”, but because it looks cool and it would help with my back and neck pain.


I HAVE A NEW ONE:

QOTD: Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?

I have had dreams like that before. Usually the dream involves me all of the sudden having this 2 year old son or something and not remembering at all being pregnant or having a kid, but this feeling of panic like, “Oh crap! What do I do? When did I have a kid? Why don’t I remember this?” Once the dream was that we adopted a toddler boy. There were all these orphans and also my sister and her family, my parents, and DH. My sister thought she should adopt this one child who went right up to her, but my sister realized she couldn’t add to her family as she has 3 kids already. My parents decided they were just too old and tired to do that. So, Allan said, “We should probably take him home. Nobody else can take care of him and we have enough space in our house.” Then the other night I had this very odd dream that I weighed the same amount I do now pretty much (so I definitely did NOT look pregnant), but I was somehow 9 months pregnant. In the dream, DH was really anxious for the child to be born and couldn’t wait to meet the new son/daughter. However, in the dream I was very nervous not only about the labor that would happened, but I was confused as to how I could be 9 months pregnant, yet not have gained a pound.

[jnettie]

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing?
Workouts? What's that?

Seriously, I have become soooooooo lazy! I'm not overweight at all, but my energy is way down and I'm getting "soft" for lack of a better word. I need me a workout!

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?
Yes, but they're always stress dreams. I'll be pregnant, but we don't have anything or DH leaves me. Or, I'll be holding a baby, and I drop it or keep hitting it's head on stuff. It's pretty aweful!

[Julss05]

Workouts- I do Power90 videos, they really work! I also bought Yoga, Booty, Ballet which is kind of silly but fun. Those two work out all my body parts pretty much. I also bought an exercise dance tape which is more getting the heartbeat up than working out the limbs but something different to try because I get bored easily with exercising. When I'm too tired to do anything but still want a workout I'll do yoga or go for a walk.

I have vivid dreams of being pregnant to the point of physical and emotional feeling. I also dream of having a baby in 2007, and the first year of it's life. Sometimes it's a girl and sometimes a boy. If I dream that we have two children (which we plan on) it's always a boy and girl but never twins. I'm just starting to dream about as the child gets older and being pregnant again for our second child. It's weird that my mind wouldn't let me dream about that until recently just like when I first got the baby bug I'd only dream I was pregnant but I'd never have the baby. Sadly I also dream of miscarrying:(. I read somewhere that dreaming of our future helps us get comfortable with something that we've never experienced before.

[LeslieandPaul]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?
I think I've had one or two, but nothing stands out in my mind. I'm sure once we start TTC, I'll have dreams (that'll probably stress me out!)

[Janey]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?
I have very vivid dreams (last night a robin was attacking my leg to get to the shrimp I was throwing into the snow :confused: ), but pregnancy/baby dreams are rare for me. I'm not sure what that means.

However, just this Monday, night B told me he had a dream the previous night that we had a girl toddler and a boy baby, and the girl toddler got kidnapped out of our house. :eek: He said he saw the van drive away and he told me to CALL 911!! and he ran out of the house and jumped in his truck and followed the van, talking to 911 while he was following them. The guys stopped the van and got out and ran, and the police chased them, and B went into the van and got our toddler.

He said, "It was very disturbing." I bet it was... especially since he rarely remembers his dreams. Then he said, "So, we're going to keep the doors locked, right?" I told him we would.

[SQ2]

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing?

I am a runner so I, well, RUN! :D I run 5-6 times a week. I'm a huge eater too so I guess this works well with my running habit. I am planning to continue running when I get pregnant, as long as my doctor will allow me to.

[JLRenheos]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?
I have before, maybe a handful of times or less. The dreams that I've usually have had, just involve me having a child. My husband on the other hand has had a dream that we end up with all girls.

[laurenc]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?

oh yeah... weird ones, too. like, dreams where my newborn can talk and reason logically, or dreams where i've had a baby that looks like my cat... i once had a dream that i was blamed for someone's miscarriage, but then got pregnant myself and had to give up the baby to the mom who miscarried... i usually wake up from these dreams feeling very upset -- they are often pretty nightmarish...

[dpangel33]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?

A few months ago I had problems sleeping b/c of nightmares, mostly about miscarrying or having abnormal pregnancies. It was getting so bad I thought I was going to have to seek professional help, but for now they seemed to have stopped and I can sleep through the night again.

[motray36]

Just found out one of my co-workers is pregnant! Apparently, the last 3 times someone here has gotten pregnant, 3 more women in the office follow very soon after - so we'll see!

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant? - My MIL just told me she had a dream that we had a little girl with strawberry blond hair that looked just like me...and she's always thought we were going to have a boy first.

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing? I'm bad, I don't :o . I tried for a while but I feel like I get so busy that I don't want to spend what free time I have working out. I know, it's an excuse!! I do want to start before TTC, so I can continue while I'm pg. We'll see!

[honeygirl]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?

I have a very active dream life, sometimes I think I dream too much. However, I don't dream about having children, only about being pregnant. Usually in my dreams I am unmarried and the pregnancy isn't planned, so they are stressful dreams.

[eli1126]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?

I have had dreams involving my nieces, but I haven't had a dream with a child I thought was mine. I do however, have a recurring dream that involves me losing a tooth :confused: I know that this dream started around wedding planning, but it has continued on and off since then :confused:

Beth

[artist]

For those curious about symobolism in dreams, here is a fun website: http://www.dreamdoctor.com/dictionary/

I do think it's interesting though that many of my baby dreams seemed more like adoption dreams. Not sure what that means.

Oh, and I too have had the "baby speaks fluently dreams", but those were when my sister was pregnant, so they were about her future children.

[PookiePrincess]

I don't remember my dreams very often, but when I do, they aren't really about being pregnant or having kids.

[Annette]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?
Yes. I don't remember the details though.

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing?
I'm bad, I don't . I tried for a while but I feel like I get so busy that I don't want to spend what free time I have working out. I know, it's an excuse!! I do want to start before TTC, so I can continue while I'm pg. We'll see!
I feel the same way! We'll go out hiking/biking on most weekends. We are hoping to get a treadmill so we can workout at home.

[LadyD088]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?
*Yeah, I do sometimes. There have been a few that I remember. One was we had a little girl - it was just a day in the life kind of thing. The other was the other night about me being PG. Not sure what it was about though. LOL

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing?
Ugh like a few of the other girls, I'm not. I too want to start before TTC'ing (which means I need to start NOW) I am trying to work it into my schedule because I would really like to keep it up while PG.

Deb

[aam64]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?

I've totally had pregnancy/baby dreams. When I was in college, before I met DH, I had this recurring dream that I had a baby boy and he was able to walk as soon as he was born. It was always stressful because I wasn't married and didn't have a boyfriend and had no idea how I'd managed to get pregnant.
I haven't had many lately, but DH woke up earlier this week and told me that he just had a dream we had a baby boy and named him Sandy. He was like "We can NOT do that!" :p I don't think I'll have a problem with that one.

[stevesbabygirl]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?
Yeah, I've had some weird ones that involve either freaking out because I'm 8 months pregnant and have not gone to any prenatal care appointments, or all of a sudden having a kid who's a year old and I have no idea where s/he came from.

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing?
One of my resolutions was to work out at least 3 times a week, and that hasn't really happened :rolleyes:.

[filmgirl7]

Ok, I really AM a lady in waiting now. DH and I finally got married on
January 7th!!! We decided we're going to wait until about August, since i'm planning to change jobs. I thought that would bother me but I don't mind as much as I used to....I know the time will come fast enough, and we have much to do to get ready!

So what kind of workouts are you ladies doing?
I know that I HAVE to work out during pregnancy if I want to stay sane. So, for now, I have a gym membership and I run about four times a week, and then I lift weights. I would love to lose 20 lbs. before ttc, but we'll see. DH and I will be training to do a 5K in March and hopefully a longer race over the summer.

[DelSol]

Do you ever have dreams that involve you having a child or being pregnant?
I've had them. I'm always in labor and then I have the baby and they say it's a girl but I never get to see her. I'll wake up and have to go to the bathroom very bad.

What kind of workouts are you ladies doing?
I joined Curves, I only went once last week. I was sick one day with a horrible headache, the other day I went out to dinner with friends, I had self-defense class on Thursday and Friday I got home and DH wanted to go out to eat. I am going to be better this week by going Monday, Wednesday & Friday, I wish they were open a little bit later (I think they close around 7:30/8PM and open on Sunday's.

Congratulations FilmGirl7!!!!

[stevesbabygirl]

Congratulations Filmgirl!

[LadyD088]

Welcome back FilmGirl!!! Congrats on getting married!! WOO HOO!!!

I just ordered my ovulation and pregnancy tests off ebay!! OMG, I just CAN'T believe the time is coming up SO soon. I have one more AF visit to go and we will be rocking and a rolling.

Deb

[honeygirl]

Congrats Filmgirl!

Yay Deb, almost TTC. Did you find good deals on ebay?

[LadyD088]

Hey Honey,

I guess it was good. LOL 20 Ovulation tests and 5 Preggo tests for $13 total. Figured that was a LOT cheaper than buying them in the stores. I'll let ya all know how they work!!

Deb

[LeslieandPaul]

I was talking to Paul last night (he's in Thailand) and we were discussing housing (we want to sell our condo and buy a house or townhouse) and conversation sort of got around to kids. WELL, did I ever get upset. He indicated that he thinks we won't even start TTC for another year away. I had to hold back the tears. I want to start this summer. I can be pregnant when we move (lots of people have done-my mom moved the week she was due to have me!). I didn't tell him this though. Instead, I tried to get off the phone, and when I did I threw a hissy fit (crying so hard my face hurt, and legs flailing). I was partially upset because he wants to wait so long, and also because I didn't tell him what I was thinking. I guess I"m not ready to have kids if I can't even tell my husband when i want to have them.
It's really hard for me with him being gone all the time and only getting to talk on msn for a couple hours in the evening, and occasionally talking on the phone. I want him to have a job where he doesn't have to travel, but he would most likely make less money, and then we wouldn't be able to afford a house (especially with the cost of housing right now, but that's a whole other story-we actually argued about it), and our condo is no kids allowed.
Sorry, I'm just really stressed out, and needed to share my thoughts.

[Julss05]

Leslie-Sorry to hear about that. It is hard when each person has their own timeline of how they want things to go. I can see why you need to move if you have kids but like you said wouldn't be impossible even if you were pregnant. We are supposed to TTC this summer as well provided that DH gets this other job he applied for. I was kind of hurt when I heard of the "stipulation." I asked him what happens if he doesn't get this job? Well then he's going to apply to some other job so we'll be waiting even longer to TTC. I was kind of mad, I wanted to say, why can't you be happy with where you're at so we can get the show on the road! But I didn't because I know he isn't and I want him to be happy not only with his chosen field but where he works. Anyway, I saw that you were wanting to move in the fall so if I was you I'd asked for a compromise to start TTC in the fall/winter after you move in instead of from a year from now. I don't know, good luck! It is tough. I think all of us would like to speed the waiting process up sometimes and it's especially difficult when you're waiting on the other person.

[Sunshine]

I am so sorry Leslie........



I hate to have somewhat good news now, but we will be TTC in less than 4 months now:D YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I cant believe how soon everything seems now:D I wish we didnt even have to wait that long, but at least I can see it in my path now:p

[LadyD088]

Leslie - I can honestly relate, somewhat. May of last year we were suppose to be TTC'ing however DH put an immediate stop on it. Like you, I cried myself to sleep and was in utter depression for awhile. It was also hard because two of my friends were due in August.

While I know now that it was a good decision - we relocated due to DH's job and the financials weren't what they should have been.

Sept of last year, DH (while at a Dodger game of all things) suddenly told me that we need to have kids in our lives and that we should start. Granted we pushed it off due to next month but the fact was HE was ready and I KNEW I was ready.

Its very hard when you are different wave lengths but there's got to be a reason why, you know? You just don't see it yet.

The only advise I can give you is to have a serious chat with your DH and find out WHY he wants to wait and then tell him your thoughts.

FYI, I totally plan on being about 3 months pg (if all works out correctly) when we have to move from where we are now. And you are right, happens all the time.

Sunshine - Isn't it amazing how quickly things come around? Gosh last Sept I thought Feb would NEVER get here and guess what? Its only 4 weeks away till I get to start TTC'ing!! OMG!! Its just crazy. Try to be patient...the months will fly by.

Deb

[Sunshine]

TY LadyD088!!!!!
YAYYYYYYYYYYYY for 4 weeks away! You must be SO EXCITED:D
We are going to Vegas in less than 4 months, and I keep telling myself, before I know it we will be back from Vegas, as trips Always come and go, and then TTC time will be here:D Time does fly, it is just when you are waiting for it to go by that it "seems" like it will take forever! LOL!

[honeygirl]

Leslie- I'm sorry to hear that TTC plans aren't progressing the way you'd like. I can relate to being ready before DH, that was the case with us also. When I was ready he would barely even tolerate talking about kids and kept pushing off potential dates (years really). I tried to be patient and slowly but surely talked about having children, reasons why, etc. I also prayed A LOT! :) Now he's on board and it is such a relief. I hope that once your DH is back home he'll come around soon!

[al'sgirl]

stevesbabygirl ... updated info ... thanks!!! :)

Al'sgirl
Me: Andrea, 33
DH: Al, 35
Engaged: December 12, 2003
Married: May 22, 2004
TTC: 2007-2008

Changed from late 2006 since I'm having foot surgery with a long recovery time.

[Janey]

Leslie, I'm so sorry you are in such a state. :( It can be so frustrating when you are so far apart from the person you love most on a topic such as TTC! I'm sure it just makes the physical separation that much harder. But - I think you definitely should talk to him about this angst you are having. I bet he will help you work through it if you let him know how you are feeling. When does he get home from Thailand? Maybe go out for dinner, and have a nice long talk.

[stevesbabygirl]

Copied from my LJ:
Steve's aunt Arlene is in town from Wisconsin right now. She's a really nice woman, so I'm always excited to see her. We got together with Steve's family and had some Olive Garden for dinner, yum! Arlene is planning to bring her granddaughter out here to California next summer as an 8th grade graduation gift, and they're going to go to Disneyland. Since I'm still young, and love that place, I was invited to go along, woo hoo! Arlene can't go on a lot of the rides, so she wanted someone to go along to go with her granddaughter. Needless to say, it didn't take much convincing on my part :p. But then a funny thought hit me. What if I was pregnant at that time? That would suck, because then I couldn't go on any of the rides! I know it's a completely random thought, but still, there is a possibility.

[stevesbabygirl]

Leslie, I'm sorry for your frustration. It totally sucks when they aren't on the same page as us. I have to keep my mouth shut sometimes because then my DH will say that I'm pressuring him too much. He's more open to talking about it now, but it still seems like it's a ways off.

Al'sgirl, you're updated!

[stevesbabygirl]

Uh oh, Graco has a new pattern called Sand Dollar, and I love it! And it has all of the coordinating pieces too! Move over Tyler, here comes Sand Dollar! In fact, they don't even have the Tyler pattern anymore, and it just recently came out.

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/8646SND2_z.jpg

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/6A00SND_z.jpg

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/9447SND_z.jpg

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/3800SND_z.jpg

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/2B00SND_z.jpg

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/633SND_z.jpg

[LeslieandPaul]

I'm actually going to Thailand to see him in 2 weeks, and I was hoping to talk to him then (and then we had our conversation last night, which frustrated the heck out of me). I think I'll still tell him how I feel when I get there.

Anyway, I saw that you were wanting to move in the fall so if I was you I'd asked for a compromise to start TTC in the fall/winter after you move in instead of from a year from now.

The problem is, it sounds like he wants to move a year from now, and then start TTC. I'd be happy to start TTC in the fall or winter. All I want is to know when it's going to happen, (i like to have things planned-my wedding was almost completly planned 8 months ahead of time) and to be on the same page as Paul.

Thanks for the emotional support everyone.

[LadyD088]

Heather - Did you REALLY have to post that? You Totally know my style and I LOVE it!!! Gosh, I hope its available in the next 12 months because as of right now...I'm all for it!!!! LOL

Deb

[Janey]

Leslie, take some nice deep breaths between now and then, and each time you inhale, be confident that the two of you can compromise somehow. And goodness - Thailand in two weeks! Have FUN!! I bet they've got some really good Thai Food there! ;) Mmm - my favorite! (See if you can bring home some recipes :D)

LOL Stevesbabygirl! It makes me giggle that you are so up on the patterns at Graco. Cute cute stuff, definitely.


Now I get to admit something embarassing: Baby Gear Confuses Me. And I'm embarassed to even ask the questions that would unconfuse me, since I'm not even pregnant. Quite a few times I've thought of starting threads in the Parenting section asking questions about the gear, but then I think that they will think I'm crazy. Which I probably am - who are we kidding? :p So for now, I see pictures of baby gear and my head goes: :confused:

[stevesbabygirl]

Deb, it's pretty brand new, probably within the last month or so, so I'm sure it will be around for a while. If not, I'm going to be very upset if I miss out on it!

MrsHill, ask away in here :D! I know more than I should, as I'm sure some others in here do, so someone should be able to answer any questions you might have!

[stevesbabygirl]

Deb, there's this one too, which is also super cute!

This one is really cute too. It's called Oxford Blues:

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/7A00OXB2_z.jpg

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/9452OXB_z.jpg

http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/3935OXB_z.jpg

This swing is really interesting, but it holds a baby up to 30 pounds:
http://www.gracobaby.com/assets/images/product/1A00OXB_z.jpg

Here's a better view of the pattern:
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B0009Z3JRM.01.PT08.LZZZZZZZ.jpg

[Janey]

OK. Here we go.

Are there good reasons to not want to get a 3-in-1 crib?

I've seen people in other threads say they do not want a dropside crib. Why do you suppose someone would/wouldn't choose a dropside crib?

If I get a jog stroller, do I need a stroller like the "Oxford Blues" one that stevesbabygirl posted?

What in the world is a Travel System??

Our nursery is upstairs, and our bedroom is downstairs. I'm hoping the baby will be able to sleep in a bassinet in our room until s/he sleeps through the night. How long can a baby sleep in a bassinet? And do babies usually sleep through the night after the 'no more bassinet' mark?

Why would someone need a pack-n-play?


... I think those are all of the questions I have. For now. ;)

[stevesbabygirl]

Are there good reasons to not want to get a 3-in-1 crib?
3-in-1 cribs are designed to grow with your child, going from a crib, to a toddler bed, to an often times full sized bed. If you plan on having more than one child, that might not necessarily be prudent, because then the next baby that comes along will need a bed. I believe they are also more expensive.

I've seen people in other threads say they do not want a dropside crib. Why do you suppose someone would/wouldn't choose a dropside crib?
Not sure of the answer to this one, but my guess would be that the little latches you have to push to drop the side down could pinch little fingers. On the other hand, it is much easier to pick your chid up out of a dropside crib because you don't have to lean over a railing.

If I get a jog stroller, do I need a stroller like the "Oxford Blues" one that stevesbabygirl posted?
I think babies have to be a certain age/size before you can take them out in a jogging stroller, like 6 months or able to sit up on their own. I believe that they are more maneuverable, but a standard stroller is also good to have on hand. For one thing, they can hold a car seat, where as a jogging stroller can't (though I did see one today that did).

What in the world is a Travel System??
A travel system is an infant seat and stroller, purchased as one package, rather than buying them separately.

Our nursery is upstairs, and our bedroom is downstairs. I'm hoping the baby will be able to sleep in a bassinet in our room until s/he sleeps through the night. How long can a baby sleep in a bassinet? And do babies usually sleep through the night after the 'no more bassinet' mark?
Not sure how long babies can sleep in a bassinet, though I probably wouldn't keep them in there after they learn to roll over and/or sit up. I would say at most, a month or two. Babies vary on when they start sleeping through the night. Often times, they will start at around 2 or 3 months, then wake up a lot when they are around 4 months. I know mothers whose babies didn't sleep through the night until they were 9 months old, so it all depends.

Why would someone need a pack-n-play?
I think this is especially handy to have in travel/visiting situations. It can serve as a crib for the baby to sleep in while away from home, and it can be used as a playpen as well. They often come with changing tables too. Many of them often come with a bassinet part that hooks onto it as well, so you could use that in place of a real bassinet or cradle.

HTH!

[stevesbabygirl]

Okay, so I was pathetic and went to BRU today to check out the Sand Dollar pattern. As expected, it wasn't as cute in person, but it was still very cute, and still #1 on my list. Since it isn't a travel system, I'm thinking of asking DH if I can buy one of the pieces soon, and then the other piece later. We'll see how that goes :rolleyes:. I was hoping to see the Oxford Blues one there too, but they didn't have it.

The diaper bag is super cute, and so is the high chair! The diaper bag has another bag inside it, so you have the dark blue one, and then the plaid one inside. It also comes with a little changing pad and a wipes case. Very cool :cool:. The high chair folds to just 7 1/2 inches thin, so you can store it anywhere! Do I sound like a salesman or what?!

[LadyD088]

Heather - I HAVE to have that 2nd Pattern - EVEN better than the first. UGH, so my style!!! TY TY TY!!! You know that is going into my journal TONIGHT!!! HEHEHE

Mrs. Hill - Ok there are NO stupid questions!! I don't know all the answers but here are my thoughts.

1. Some people don't want 3 in 1 cribs because they plan on using the crib for the next child. I know, but to each their own opinions. I'm with you, 3 in 1 is the ONLY way to go for me!!

2. Drop Side? I have NO idea. Maybe a safety reason? I guess I don't care because I'm tall enough that if they don't drop then I'm ok.

3. Jogger Stroller - Guess its easier for running. Would you need another? It would be nice so that when you go shopping, you have a place to put the packages, drinks, misc...unlike a jogger, they usually don't have that.

4. Travel System - From my understanding its a stroller with a car seat that attaches. This is great for newborns so you don't wake them up. I think they are convenient and plan on getting this type of system. You can use the stroller after the child no longer fits in in the car seat (when you have to get the next stage car seat).

5. Bassinet - I don't know how long they are good for. Sorry, no help here. However, I don't think that babies sleep through the night when they are out of the bassinet...you will probably have to get up once or twice still (from my friends experiences)

6. Pack-N-Play: Think of it as an All-In-One travel system. Changing Table, crib, play area. They are great for those who have to travel with their child a lot.

Hope that helps. If I'm wrong, I hope someone will clarify and give their opinions as well. Remember, its all what YOU like in the end and what YOU are comfortable. And please, ASK questions!!!!

Take Care...Deb

[stevesbabygirl]

DH said I could get the diaper bag :D! I was on the website, and kinda gasped (actually, I said sh*t :p), and when he asked what was going on, I told him that the diaper bag was more than I thought it would be. Then I showed him the picture and all the cool stuff that came with it, and he said "well, why don't you buy it?" Yay :D!

[stevesbabygirl]

Deb, I know, I'm so bad for you :p. I don't think it's in the stores yet though because it's not available online yet.

[LadyD088]

Woo Hoo Heather on the Diaper Bag!!

As for the Graco stuff, that's all good. I won't be officially shopping until we are PG so that later the better...to be on my registry!! Thanks so much and yes, you are just a WEE bit bad for me!! LOL

Deb

[laurenc]

leslie -- i too am sorry you're dealing with this right now (this = TTC & house debates, and having DH be so far away). it's such a roller coaster, isn't it? what's good is that at least you both are on the same page about wanting kids in the first place and wanting a home -- some couples aren't even in agreement about those fundamentals! but i know, it's just so hard to add time to what already seems like an impossibly long wait.

[artist]

leslie-
Yes, sorry about the frustrations! I guess I don't know the details of your situation, but it sounds like at the moment anyway your marriage is long distance? That must be hard! You guys will figure out something, but I do agree with others who said it is important for you both to be on the same page. I can also understand how that would be frustrating to not know approximately WHEN you TTC if you're eager to do that soon.

Mrs. Hill-
Thank you for asking questions! I am totally clueless when it comes to all this stuff. Not that I will be having kids anytime soon, but I swear I know nothing about all of this stuff, such as say baby "gear".


Oh, and to add to those questions, what is "BRU"?

And about strollers, so there is the jogger kind, that other kind that is photographed, what about this kind?

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B00075RZUG.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg

I think my sister always liked having one of those for quick throwing in the car. (I guess they are lightweight.)

As for young babies not being able to be in those jogger strollers, shoot! I always kind of pictured being able to just jog around after a couple of months or so. Guess I was wrong! Oh well.

So, my cluelessness got me thinking and now I have another QOTD:


In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"? Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies? Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday? (As for your "birth order" I realize not everyone has an easy way to answer that. For example, maybe you're the youngest, unless you count younger step-siblings. So, answer how ever you want to on that part of the question.)

I am the youngest. Not only that, but the youngest grandchild on both sides. I never had a baby sibling or even a baby cousin. Well, other then when my cousins started having babies. I have done some babysitting in my life, but honestly, not so much for little babies, more for toddlers and older. My sister does have 3 girls though, so I have had contact with babies due to that.

I do sometimes wonder if some of my fears/apprehensions are because of being the youngest. I fear I just won't have a clue what I'm doing when I do finally have kids! (Though I am sure a lot of it probably comes naturally.) I feel like I know so very little about babies in general. I do think I know a lot about kids though. I've worked with kids a lot more for various jobs and other things. But babies? Gosh, they just seem so fragile! They are fragile. I think I might be a very nervous parent the first few months of the first child.

Also, because I am the youngest, I've never had to deal with a baby. Yes, I do like babies, believe me I do, but when I think "baby" I also think "a lot of work" and "a lot of responsibility" and "no more freedom". Perhaps if I had a younger sibling, though those things are certainly true, I wouldn't feel so reluctant about it because I would already know what it's like to have to be waken up by someone crying a lot. Does that make sense? So to me it all sounds so foreign. The most I've had to deal with is a puppy trying to get housebroken.

My sister on the other hand, who is 6 years older then me and often acted like a second mama to me when I was a kid had her own kids right away. She got married at age 21 and pregnant at age 22. She seemed totally fine with it all and says they planned that pregnancy.

Interestingly enough, my mom also waited awhile to have her kids and she too is the youngest whereas I think her sisters had kids at younger ages and earlier in their marriages. Then again, I suppose my mom was a young adult around the time of the pill, so that is likely a big factor.

[honeygirl]

MrsHill - I am far from an expert at baby-stuff questions, but I do have a comment regarding the pack-and-play. Now without the picture Stevesbabygirl posted I wouldn't have known that was a pack-and-play (PAP from now on), LOL, but my friend has one. She has a 2 story home and has the PAP downstairs. She used it after her baby was born as a downstairs sleeper (the part on the left side of the picture) and the right side thing to change her diapers. She says when the baby is big enough she'll sleep in the main part of it.

So it's not just for travel, can also be a handy-dandy sleeper/changer at home! :)

[artist]

"Pack and Play" is a new term for me, but that does make sense that it could be used at home too! Good to know! (Our house is 2 story, so I could see how that would be convenient.)

[PookiePrincess]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"? Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies? Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?

I am the oldest of two. I really don't think this affects my feelings or what I know about babies. When my brother was born, I ran away from home on my tri-cycle.

I can honestly say that I've never been a baby person. Up until a year ago, I just didn't get the fascination. I never wanted to hold a baby EVER. (BTW, artist, they aren't as fragile as they seem!) I just couldn't imagine people hanging out with a baby and just talking to him/her. Seemed boring. I've had opportunities to be around babies. I worked at a daycare and made it very clear when I started that I would not change diapers. I always liked older kids (3+).

Of course, you'd think being the oldest that I'd be the first to have babies, but it didn't work out that way. I'm kind of glad it did because I've learned a lot about how I will and won't do things when I have kids from my brother and SIL. Granted, they have twins, but it's nice to see them struggle through and learn from them first. It doesn't make me as nervous about the whole process at all.

I really guess it was after my nieces were born that I really became okay with babies. I get the fascination now. I jump at the chance to hold one of them. I understand how big a deal it is when they can hold up their head and discover their hands are attached to their bodies. One reason I like it so much is it holds off my baby bug until we are ready.

So, I guess being the oldest has affected what I know and how I'll do things, but not in the way you'd think.

[stevesbabygirl]

artist, not sure if you were asking what kind that was, but it's called an umbrella stroller.

[artist]

Pookieprincess-That all does make sense! I do think babies are very sweet and I always think for example my friends' babies are great, but I really never been one of those going nuts over babies like a lot of other people do. But like you said, having neices is a little different! (And I am lucky to be the godmother to my oldest neice who was also our flower girls!) I think part of that is just that as my neices, they are MY neices. I know, they're not my children, but I do love them so much as they are family. So I think I know what you're talking about.

And yes, I too tend to feel more of a connection to older kids. Maybe it's because they talk? Babies are sweet, but kids get more fun once they get to be toddlers and older. Then again, I've always gotten a kick out of junior high and high school kids and a lot of people can't imagine actually enjoying that age group! (FWIW what I am doing for work now does sometimes include being around kids.)



stevesbabygirl- Thanks! I didn't know that's what that was called! I guess what I was wondering though is are they necessary or useful? I am just sort of wondering, how many and what strollers does a person need? There seems to be all these very different versions of strollers as well as the whole baby carriage thing.

Hmm, I guess at this stage in my life I look at all that stuff and either think "cute" or "huh?" but never about practicality!

For example, this:
http://www.babycar.co.jp/stroller-big-gara8.jpg
looks so darned cute, almost vintage, like something you could take for a nice stroll around the lakes or in a nice park on a Saturday afternoon in the summer, along with a blanket, some picnic food and a newspaper.

But hello! Snap out of fantasy daydream land! Cute as it is, is it practical and again, how many and what types of strollers, etc. does a parent truely need? Gosh, or what about strollers with fancy tops to keep rain out? Is that necessary?

Or, for those in winter climates, what about wheels/tires? When we have kids, we will have to consider things like snow and ice.

[stevesbabygirl]

I think umbrella strollers are good because they are cheap and lightweight. That way, you don't have to lug around the heavier strollers if you just want to go out and run a few errands. Plus, I think they're good for older kids, like the 2-4 age range if you're going to be out all day.

[stevesbabygirl]

OH, missed one!

BRU = Babies R Us

[LadyD088]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"? Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies? Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?

I am an only child. I think this makes me want to have kids as quickly as possible and as many as possible. I want a big family. Growing up it was just me, my mom, my aunt and uncle around 99% of the time. I want to experience a large family and have my kids have that too. Be there for each other, etc...

I totally think it contributes to my wants and needs to be a mom and to more than 2 children. Other than getting married, this is the most important goal for me to hopefully be able to achieve.

Deb

PS I feel like I answered that as if I were on the Miss America Pageant!! LOL

[Smittenk]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"? Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies? Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?

I am the youngest of 4 and I am the only girl. I loved being the baby! I also always had the "maternal" instinct. I loved playing mum to my baby dolls..wrapping them up in blankets, taking them out on walks in the doll buggy etc.

Saying all this I am a little worried that I won't know what to do with an over achiever oldest child. I am super laid back and don't think I will push my kids. My hubby is an oldest child (of 4) so I think we will balance each other quite well. When he pushes them to hard I will calm him down...and vice versa.

[dpangel33]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"?
Im the oldest of two and the oldest grandchild on my mothers side.

Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies?
Yes growing up I always thought I would get married first and have the first grandchild/great grandchild. I've always wanted to have kids right away, but reality set in and it's not feasible right now. When we do have kids I want an age gap of at least 4.5 yrs like my brother and I. Having my younger brother around didn't teach me much about babies as I was 5 when he was born, but as a kid I was just estatic I could change a diaper by myself :D .

Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?
I think it has made me more excited as I will probably (hopefully) have the first grandchild (I already missed out on first great grandchild :( , Im a brat I know :o ) Like Pookieprincess said Im glad I can watch others go through it b/c it shows me how challanging, rewarding and life changing a baby will be.

[motray36]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"? Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies? Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?

I am the oldest of 2 girls...my sister, who is 5 years younger than me, got pregnant at 17 unexpectadly. She wasn't happy about it, and I started to get really peeved that the things that I would be SO excited about (shopping, for example) were horrible for her. I felt like she was stealing my thunder...I'm older, I should get to go first. I completely realize this was all selfish, and I totally understand her situation, but that little jealous part of me definitely came out. Now I can't wait for her hand-me-downs and advice..and when I say can't wait, I mean CAN"T WAIT! :p

[Janey]

Re: Birth Order: I am the first of two. We are 3 years and 1 month apart. I don't think this has any effect on me wanting kids. I think the feeling comes more from a) being a woman and b) turning 33 :eek: next week.

Thank you all for the answers on the baby gear! That is fantastic. :D I'm so glad you gals are here to ask questions to, where nobody's going to think I'm crazy. Or at least if you do, you won't say it outloud.

We still have the bassinet that my late grandfather slept in when he was a baby in 1920. All of his kids, and his grandkids, and now his great-grandkids have slept in that bassinet. It is absolutely precious.. and I may be lucky enough to have that for a couple of months. Perhaps after that, a pack-n-play will do until the baby is sleeping through the night, at which point the baby goes upstairs, and the pack-n-play goes over to Grandma's and stays there.


Strollers are stressing me out.

I am really trying to figure out a way that I don't have to have both a jog stroller and a regular stroller... the minimalist in me says that I should choose one and be happy. :p I want a jog-type stroller because I do a lot of walking/jogging for exercise, and I'm not sure a regular stroller will have enough shock absorption, especially over the rooty-paths I tend to frequent. But the problem with the jog strollers is that they are pretty big and not really great for urban/mall type situations. I guess an Umbrella stroller would do... but then you miss out on the storage. I think it's time to come to the realization that I will likely have two and probably three (if you count the umbrella) strollers.

So here's the other stroller delimma. Babies #1, 2, and possibly 3 are going to come pretty close together. So when Baby #2 is here, Baby #1 is still going to need to be in a stroller. So that means FOUR strollers, because at that point I'm going to need something that looks like this:

http://us.st11.yimg.com/store1.yimg.com/I/barebabies-store_1881_44466380

And when I'm out walking for exercise, I guess I'll just need to wear Baby #2 while Baby #1 is in the stroller.

[I]What happened to my minimalist lifestyle?!? What happened to William Morris, and the idea of less being more? [/irrational panic]

... sigh ... Maybe I could find some of this stuff on Craigslist.

[artist]

OH, missed one!

BRU = Babies R Us

Oh! Of course! (Too bad we can't make the "R" backwards though!)

[artist]

Happy birthday MrsHill!!! (early)

I think it's just confusing to know what to do with so many options with strollers. I kind of like the concept of a jogging stroller. However, do you look stupid with it if you're just walking and not running? I've tried jogging before, but I honestly don't jog too often. Though, are those strollers better with "rough terrain"? Such as say a dog park? Which strollers are best at going up hills? My neighborhood is quite hilly! Oh, and my dad loves to run, so if I had that kind of stroller, maybe he'd take the kid while running sometimes! Which stroller is easiest to maneuver while also trying to walk a very hyper lab who tends to pull?

As for malls, I pretty much try to avoid them whenever possible. I suppose those umbrella strollers would be handy for that. Though I hate malls, I do tend to go to Target and the grocery store, but I guess those places have shopping carts. How do you bring an infant to Target though?

Oh, and it seems a lot of strollers say "ages 6 months or more". Do people tend to not put infants in strollers? I guess it does seem a lot of parents of newborns just carry carseats around, but that would get so heavy after awhile. I have a bad back, so the less carrying the better. Oh, not that I wouldn't hold my own child. That maybe should be phrased differently, but I hope it made sense! But to be perfectly honest, anytime I hold a baby kid, I do prefer to sit down because it really does hurt my back. Oh boy, that makes me think pregnancy will be a LOT of fun for me! (Not!)

[artist]

... sigh ... Maybe I could find some of this stuff on Craigslist.

Sure, or perhaps there is one of those websites with "free stuff" people are getting rid of. You never know, maybe someone is getting rid of a nice enough stroller their child outgrew but the fabric is a little faded. (Perhaps one of the strollers you won't be using for everyday use.) Or, do you have a friend of sibling with kids who could loan or give you some stuff?

Which leads me to also ask...

As for used baby stuff, what is stuff that okay to get used and what is definitely not okay used?

For example, I don't think I'd want a used car seat. The safety standards change so often. But something like one of those bouncy seats or something? Who cares if it's used! Or, maybe you want everything new.

[stevesbabygirl]

artist, that's where the beauty of the travel system comes in :). You just snap the carseat into the stroller, and off you go! That way, you don't have to carry the seat around, which I imagine would get crazy heavy after a while.

Definitely would not recommend a used car seat. Aside from safety standards changing, you don't know if it's been in an accident. High chairs, swings, pack and plays, and bouncers would probably be just fine.

[stevesbabygirl]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"? Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies? Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?
I'm the oldest in the family, and the only girl. I'm not sure if it has anything to do with my feelings about babies and stuff like that. I do like to consider myself to be fairly traditional, but I don't know if that has anything to do with the birth order. And I'm not in a race with my brothers, since one is 19, and the other still lives at home and is 24.

[artist]

artist, that's where the beauty of the travel system comes in :). You just snap the carseat into the stroller, and off you go! That way, you don't have to carry the seat around, which I imagine would get crazy heavy after a while.


The thing is, when I went to the Target website, this looked like the coolest stroller to me, in that it is the "jogger" type, but also seems to have some of those bells and whistles of the other types.
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B000AMECSE.16._SCLZZZZZZZ_SS260_.jpg
However, it's not advertised as being a "travel system".

There is this:
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B0000DCUUT.16._SCLZZZZZZZ_SS260_.jpg
which doesn't have as high of a rating from people who've bought it. Also, it says for "up to 40 lbs." Forgive me if this is a stupid question, but about how old is a 40 lb. child or better yet, how long would that stroller last?

That seems to be the only jogger/travel system that Target sells anyway.

[stevesbabygirl]

The first one isn't a travel system because it doesn't have a car seat with it. I believe a 40-pound child is about the size of a 3 or 4 year old, so it would last a while.

[Janey]

Well, I think I've solved my stroller delimma. I think. Maybe. I think I want a stroller like this:

http://mii.babyuniverse.com/product_images/pic/103/l103-85886.jpg

And the jog stroller can come from Craigslist or Freecycle. I will wear Baby #2 as long as possible, and maybe baby #1 will be walking enough by then that s/he won't really need a stroller.

artist... you liked the other carriage... did you see this (http://www.specialtybaby.com/sicrobdostin.html)? So pretty, but my goodness... $500...! Ya know, I thought the wedding industry was bad. But my lord - the baby industry really puts the wedding industry to shame. :p

[LadyD088]

Mrs. Hill - Wait a second. Is that stroller for a Doll? It says it is. I am SHOCKED!!! $500 for a DOLL stroller? No FREAKING way!! Honestly.

Doll prams are suitable for toy use for ages three and older.

ITA with you regarding the Wedding Industry and the Baby Industry!! They know its a demand and will charge any price for what they have. So horrible.

Deb

[Janey]

Mrs. Hill - Wait a second. Is that stroller for a Doll? It says it is. I am SHOCKED!!! $500 for a DOLL stroller? No FREAKING way!! Honestly.
Yeeep. It says: "The Oberon is a timeless classic, a subtle and stylish carriage worthy of any treasured doll." And $500 is the SALE price; MSRP is $700. Unbelievable.

Makes me feel not so bad about a $200 real stroller. :p

[artist]

Oh my gosh! I am at work and trying reeeeeeeeeeally hard not to bust out laughing now! Who in the hell buys a DOLL carriage for that price?

Yeah, I guess if any of us want to get rich quick (don't we all?) by starting our own business...think babies and kids stuff!

I think I've heard for example that there are four types of marketing styles when it comes to advertising to children...such as commercials. I think one type is designed to get the kid to just whine and whine and beg and plead until the parent gets so fed up he/she buys the thing for the kid just to get him/her to shut up. Another style is designed to get the kid to appeal to the parent. (For example, "You should buy this for me because it is really educational...will teach me how to take care of a real dog...will make sure I get my exercise..." and the parent is sold on the idea.) I don't remember what the other two styles were, but I thought it was very interesting. So, when you DO have your kids, just remember that when they start begging for toys they see advertised!

[artist]

I believe a 40-pound child is about the size of a 3 or 4 year old, so it would last a while.

Thank you! I honestly have no clue what different aged kids usually weigh!

[Julss05]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"?
Oldest of 6.

Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies?
When, Oh yes! I learned early on having babies was a big responsibility and wanted to wait until the time was right. Knowledge of babies, surprisenly no. I don't feel any more prepared than someone of a different birth order or only child. Why? I guess because although I have some experience with raising children they were not my own to raise. If I didn't feel comfortable with something I just handed my siblings off to my mom;), but you can't do that when it's your own! As the oldest I think it has made me very protective, a natural care-giver, and headstrong at times:p.

Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday? Yes. I fear health problems that might exist either at birth or as they get older but being a sibling of that big of a family I'm very excited to be starting my own! The bond and love that we all share is something that can never be taken away.

I love the umbrella stroller! Why not have one of each type of stroller?:D Honestly all the new baby stuff has my head spinning. I can just see DH and I spending hours trying to decide on something!

[Annette]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"? Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies? Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?


I'm an only child. I also know we want to have more than 1 child. I don't have much knowledge about babies. I was 13 when I last babysat an infant and from that point on I wasn't around babies or toddlers at all. Now we live in a neighborhood with lots of kids and my cousins with their kids live nearby, so we're kind of getting used to them.

[Janey]

Why not have one of each type of stroller?:D
Ka-ching! Ka-ching! Ka-ching! :p

So my mom called while I was looking at baby gear yesterday, and I told her, "Well, I think what we ought to do when I get pregnant is get a pack-n-play, which will stay at our house until the baby stays upstairs and then it can go to your house." She says that's a good idea, cause then the baby will have a place to go when it's over.

So we're talking about strollers, and she says, "Oh yeah - you have to have a good stroller." I tell her that I can't believe how expensive stuff is, and that the baby industry is way worse than the wedding industry. So she says, "Yeah, I remember getting a stroller that was really expensive. I don't remember how much it was, but Grandma Doris bought my stroller and I remember thinking it cost more than I thought a stroller should cost." I say yeah no kidding - I looked and saw the one I want and it's $250. She says, "HOLY CRAP!!!" Then she to ask me what this thing is doing that it's worth $250. So I explain to her about the stroller, and she tells me that she thinks Grandma spent $100 on hers. I said, "Well... comparing 1973 prices to 2006 prices, that's probably about right."

So then I said, "Well, lucky for you, the pack-n-play seems to only be about $100." She said, "Oh wait a minute - *I* am buying the pack-n-play?" I said, "Yes, it's going to be at your house!" She argued that it was going to be at my house first, and I said, "Right but you're going to let me borrow it." She laughs and says ohhhh I see how it works. Then I said, "You're supposed to be excited about this stuff!"

Incredible. No wonder people wait until their finances are in order before having a baby.

[honeygirl]

Man this thread is hopping lately, I love it!

Well I spent some time looking at "baby gear" online last night. It made my head spin. I hadn't really thought about all the "stuff" involved with having kids, I've been focused on the getting pregnant part. :)

I've decided (for now) not to buy anything baby related, not even maternity clothes. I'm hopeful and trying to trust G*d that we'll get pregnant this year, but I also want to keep my emotions protected in case we can't easily, or ever. If I have a bunch of baby-stuff it would make it more painful. KWIM?

I did the same thing before getting engaged/married. I wouldn't even buy a bridal magazine until the ring was on my finger. :)

Have a great day!

[PookiePrincess]

Okay, since we're discussing baby gear, has anyone popped into the diaper bag threads??? Who knew a diaper bag was such a big deal!

[stevesbabygirl]

Haven't been in there, but there are some crazy bags out there.

[Janey]

OK - I gotta tell you gals. I have never been one of those girls who buys expensive clothes. Other than my wedding dress (which doesn't count), the most expensive dress I've ever bought myself is a $195 bridesmaid's dress that I'll be wearing in May. I don't have a bunch of expensive shoes -- most of my shoes come from either Nordstrom Rack or outlet stores, and my most expensive pair of shoes are Asics running shoes. I have one purse -- it's black leather, and it got white paint on it from when we were painting the inside of our house in October. I haven't gone to look for another one. Designer jeans don't turn me on - the jeans I wear are $25. I just don't give a rip about that kind of thing except that...

I want a Petunia Picklebottom Asian Brocade Diaper Bag!!

When did I turn into a fad-loving, I-want-the-best-stuff, not-even-pregnant-yet girl? And better yet, how in the world did THAT happen?


ETA - honeygirl, I hear you on not buying things, and that is a very sensible way to do it. I haven't decided if I'll go that way or the other. I suppose it would depend on what it was, and how good of a deal I'd be passing up. Clothes are a dime a dozen so I probably wouldn't buy that... but if I found some piece of 'gear' for 75% off or something.. I might just go ahead and buy it, and consider it a gift to someone (maybe me ;)).

[LeslieandPaul]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"? Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies? Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?

I'm the oldest, but only by 20 months, so it doesn't contribute to my knowledge of babies, and I don't think it affects the way I feel about having a baby.


Diaper Bags-I'm going to Thailand soon so I'm going to look for knock off Kate Spade diaper bags, because I like them, but don't want to spend the money on the real thing.

[Smittenk]

Diaper Bags

The way I go after new purses I know I will be one of those mothers with 5 or 6 diaper bags! I really like the OiOi bags...those are my favourite right now. I am liking the petunia picklebottom ones too..I was helping my pregnant friend yesterday pick out hers.

Leslie...you definitely have to post a pic if you find a kate spade on on your travels!!

[eli1126]

Diaper Bags: I haven't dared go into the thread yet, but I'm sure I will.
I am so guilty of browsing web sites and looking for strollers, car seats, baby gear! It broke my heart to read a RedBook article that said you don't need to spend a lot on that stuff , but to put it on your gift registry :( I want the cute matching gear! Around here you only get 1 baby shower and people tend to decide what they think you should have :rolleyes:

Beth

[Julss05]

Diaper Bag
I've seen/heard of diaper bags that look like a backpack and are made of some durable material that not only I but DH would feel comfortable using because they have a solid color instead of a baby print. Something like that would be cool:).

[artist]

Diaper Bag

I haven't gone in that thread either. Where is it anyway? Well, like other posters here, I am not into clothes shopping, purse shopping, or shoe shopping. I can't imagine I'll get all that into what diaper bag I get. (As far as what brand name, etc.) However, like the previous poster just said, I would care a lot about it being something DH would feel comfortable carrying. So, something that is either black, brown, blue or a color that is masculine enough or neutral enough. That and I guess I wouldn't want something that looks too much like a purse! Maybe a backpack style is the way to go? To be honest, I don't think I would want to carry around some cutesy baby print diaper bag either. So, I'd also prefer a more neutral diaper bag that doesn't scream, "I'm a diaper bag!"

[DelSol]

In your family of origin, where are you in "birth order"?
I'm the oldest, I only have one sister.

Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies?
I always thought I would be the first get married and have a baby but it didn't work out that way. I was previously engaged to be married in 2000 a few months before my sister and my wedding was called off. My sister got married and 2 years ago in July had the first grandchild. I think that should have been me, by now I probably would have had at least 2 children. Oh well, I guess I am better off.

Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?
I'm excited to about having a baby, I don't have too many fears but not having enough money plagues my mind. I also worry about being older and having a baby in my 30's vs 20's.


Diaper Bags?
Haven't even thought about it. I will have to check out the thread to see the trends though.

[laurenc]

In your family of orgin, where are you in "birth order"?

i was the older of 2 children, 21 months apart. DH was also the older of 2 children, 29 months apart.

Do you feel this has anything to do with your feelings about things like when to have a baby or your knowledge of babies?

well, i've always had a precocious tendency -- i always wanted things before they could "naturally" happen, and in many cases i got them. i have always felt an intrinsic pressure to move on to "the next level" before i am able to actually do so. i believe this is a result of being the older child in complex ways that i can't really get into here. (therapy fodder, y'know?)

Do you think your birth order contributes to your fears/apprehensions or excitement about having a baby someday?

i hadn't ever really made the connection, so i can't say yes or no for sure just yet.

diaper bags

i want a vera bradley diaper bag!!! i've considered buying one now because their patterns often have a limited run, but i can't bring myself to be so bold...

[LadyD088]

Diaper Bags?
Well, the cheaper the better - as long as its big enough to hold everything needed, that's all I care about. Just like my purses and shoes, I am so not a designer girl, its sad!! LOL

Deb

[stevesbabygirl]

New QOTD:

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

I go through waves where I obsess over baby stuff, and TTC. My DH knows this, and this time, has no patience for it. He's actually said some pretty mean stuff over the past few days to me, hurtful things. He isn't always like this when we talk about TTC though. I think he lets me express it up to a certain point (remember, he was fine with me buying that diaper bag a week ago?), and then can't stand to hear it anymore.

[Julss05]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?
Oh yes, I think it's the worst when they change the subject altogether and don't even acknowledge what's been said especially when it's something that important. I have a tendency to put the horse before the cart by planning everything out ahead of time but him on the other hand doesn't see the need in planning or even discussing something until we are ready to do it. This can be very frustrating! I love him bunches though and am realizing that getting pregnant and having a baby will require unplanned, unorganized, and uncontrollable situations. For example, I feel like I should go back to charting in May if we plan to TTC in July but I know he's probably not going to like all the monitoring to get pregnant and thinks it should happen "naturally" which maybe he's right. I will probably stress myself out too much anyway if I know exactly when I ovulate and still don't conceive that month. Lately he hasn't said or done anything jerkish when it comes to TTC I think because we are both feeling more ready for it.

[Janey]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

No, but he does not seem to have the same enthusiasm as I do. :rolleyes: I get a lot of "Uh-huh" type answers. I'll be really excited about something and say: "When we have babies, this that and the other thing! Isn't that great??" And he'll say, "Uh-huh." That sort of thing.

Heather, I'm sorry he's being a jerk. :( He'll come around.


ETA: LOL - B is hanging a closet organizer thing in our front hall closet. He just called to me, "You wanna see the laser level in action??" The laser level was an impulse buy when I sent him to Lowe's last week for some spackling compound. When he came home with it, I made this face :rolleyes:. So I said, "Sure" and went in there, and he said: "Do you see how awesome this thing is?? It's like Blam! Mark here, Mark here, Mark here and we're done!" and he was totally excited. I said, "That's GREAT honey!!" and I hugged him and he sort of got all giddy about the laser level and I said: "Do you see how you feel about the laser level? This is how I feel about the baby stuff." He told me he was excited about the baby stuff too and I said, "Yeah, but you're not giddy-excited, the way you are about the laser level. I am giddy-excited." He agreed that he was not yet giddy-excited, but confirmed that he did want to see the strollers. :p

[laurenc]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

sometimes. like, he'll be very exasperated, like in a "we've been through this a thousand times already..." sort of way. he's an engineer, if he can't solve a problem then he doesn't want to be bothered. and he can't do anything about the way i feel about having to wait... so sometimes he can tolerate listening to me babble and other times he just doesn't want to be faced with a problem he can't solve.

generally, though, he's been pretty supportive.

here's an interesting story: DH's grandmother is not doing so well, she's probably got alzheimers, and DH's grandfather was recently in the hospital for his heart. my MIL was at the hospital with GMIL and they were sitting in the waiting room... well, GMIL had no idea why she was there, what was going on with her husband, or where she was, but she asked my MIL several times: "when are lauren and tom going to have a baby?" i found it somewhat amusing that her brain isn't doing well enough for her to understand where she is, who she's with, etc., but she sure can remember that DH and i haven't yet reproduced!!!

[PookiePrincess]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

No, not really a jerk. He's never like that towards TTC. There are times he gets excited and mentions "when I'm pregnant" or "when we have a baby." It's actually cute sometimes. But I'm not overly obsessed yet (still trying to be in a position to obsess over building a house). I think about it a lot, and I know we are waiting for the right reasons. But when we do decide to TTC, I want him to be all in. I know people who pressured their husbands to have babies right away and it doesn't usually make for a healthy relationship (especially as parents) and I don't want that. I'm content with waiting. But, right now I try not to talk about the TTC thing unless he brings it up first. Then I know he won't take it the wrong way. Okay, that got a little off topic and long-winded...sorry! :)

[artist]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

Not really, but then again, I don't bring up TTC real often. And when I do, it's usually not specifically about TTC. I am more likely to say things like, "Someday when we have kids..." instead of "When are we having kids?" or "Isn't that stroller just great?" I guess in the ideal world we'll want to have a baby at the same time. Let's hope that happens!

But, sorry your DH is being that way. That's got to be pretty annoying and I suppose hurtful. He probably doesn't mean to be a jerk. Maybe he's just nervous or confused about it all, but is being a jerk due to that. Not that it's fair or right, but I bet he's not intentionally being mean.

[honeygirl]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

Sometimes, but not as much recently. In the past (when I first joined this thread) I could barely talk about TTC at all b/c DH would freak out. Now he's pretty great about the talk (since we're close to TTC'ing), but if I say too many baby-related things in one day he'll tell me that I'm obsessing. I'm trying to ease him into things like breastfeeding, maternity clothes, baby gear, etc.

Sorry about your DH, maybe it will get better once you guys agree to a TTC timeframe?

[stevesbabygirl]

He just doesn't see the point in talking about and/or obsessing over something that's not going to happen yet. Sometimes, he's fine having the conversation, sometimes he's like "whatever," and then some other times, he's a jerk.

[DelSol]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

I'd have to agree with artist. I don't bring it up too often, mainly because my feelings get hurt and I get depressed about not having a baby. Occasionally, I'll say when we have a baby. On the other hand, I know out TTC time will be this year. DH is even selling his metal detector because lately he hasn't had anytime to use it then he added plus we'll be having a baby soon and we'll be doing stuff with the baby. It's the word soon that pisses me off because I want to know when. I want to know when he'll be back at work because then I will know when it will be 2 - 3 months after he goes back that we'll be TTCing. I have to say though he has been doing a lot of work to get our 2nd bedroom cleaned out and moving the majority of the stuff into his office in the basement. Hmm makes me wonder what is going on in his mind, he'll never come out and say what is really on his mind so it leaves a guessing game! Men!!!

stevesbabygirl~ sorry about your DH, one day he'll come around and surprise you. Plus side is you were able to buy the diaper bag, my DH would never even think of letting me do that, not that I need his permission, but he would never understand. I guess that's why I have never bought anything pertaining to "our baby".

[LadyD088]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

Well mine used to but now he's not. I don't get much time to actually talk with him about this stuff because he works so much. I think that probably helps. It leaves me to obsess and plan and get things together. I am Very much like Julss05 - I am a planner, big time. However, I do want DH to feel involved and like he has made decisions too so...I will lay off a but until we get PG (now that I've picked out all the gear, the bedding, and the furniture) LOL

Heather - Just hang in there. I remember how Ryan was before we got married. The word Marriage scared the crap out of him and he wouldn't EVEN bring it up and when I did, forget it, it was always a fight.

I think some guys just want to deal with it when they are ready and I am sure that Steve will be soon...just give him some time. Maybe layoff a bit and let him chill out. I know its hard but use us to share your obsession. Sometimes if you give him a little space, they come around.

Take care missy!!!

Deb

[Smittenk]

Does your DH ever act like a total jerk when you bring up TTC?

Nope not at all...but DH says that he will be happy whenever it happens. He is turning 37 this April and I think he has been ready for quite a while.

The only reason we don't already have one is because we moved to Europe and he knew I wanted to travel quite a bit...he didn't want to take that away from me. We also wanted to be married for a bit before adding another person.
I have assured him now though that I am ready to start TTC this spring!!

[artist]

DH is even selling his metal detector because lately he hasn't had anytime to use it then he added plus we'll be having a baby soon and we'll be doing stuff with the baby.

Wait, why does your DH have a metal detector???

[Julss05]

Tonight over super I was saying how I wish I could just come home from work without having to do anything else. For the past 3 years I've been working and going to school and now I'm working and trying to find another job. Sending resumes and filling out applications seems to be eating up a lot of time. In fact I have an interview tomorrow! Anyway DH reminded me that there will always be something going on besides work especially when we have kids kind of like letting me know we shouldn't leave that out of the picture. He seems to be bringing it up more so that's good right?! I think we are almost ready for TTC......

I agree about giving him some space and time to get use to the idea. It's taken us 7 years of being together and almost 4 years of marriage for both of us to feel ready.