It’s Saturday night and you are getting ready for date night.
The babysitter is in the next room, the kids are all tucked in and your husband calls out “honey, are you almost ready?” Sure, you’re almost ready…ready for a nervous breakdown, that is. You call back, “be right out honey” all while still trying to figure out what to wear on a date with the man you have been married to for 7 years with two children.
You think to yourself, why does it matter? Should it matter? You used to be able to whip up the best outfit in town; you were known for your effortless style. Now the only thing you can muster up are the words date night…woohoo!
What if you had your very own fashion fairy godmother?
What if there was a virtual stylist that could whip you back into the hot number you were when you were out with the girls? The 2008 version that is.
It’s all too common; when motherhood happens you tend to forget about YOU - what nurtures you and what it means to take care of you. When you finally get the time to plug into some quality YOU time or your relationship, you are either too tired or too programmed to care for those who need you most instead of yourself. You think yourself that you don’t need to go out, the kids will both be out of the house by 2018. What’s another ten years, right?
Date night can actually push you into a place of anxiety and discomfort. Perhaps you have been completely focused on being a mother and your marriage has been scheduled into date night. Now, you have adult time and no idea how to enjoy it.
Help is on the way.
You can have your very own stylist…virtually. Just you, me, your wardrobe and a webcam. You can’t get more personal than that. If you can Skype in your underwear with your husband when he is out of town, then I can certainly look in your closet.
No more cancelled evenings over what not to wear. No more fights with your husband who always tells you, ‘Honey, you look fine.” Well fine isn’t always good and good certainly isn’t great. Instead, you want to hear, ‘Honey you look HOT!’
Hot happens when you ask for help and let your husband off the hook.
When you walk out in an outfit that took minutes to put together with that swagger suggesting that you both go have a little fun, both of your hearts will open right back up to when you first met. It is your responsibility as the women to keep the mystery of marriage alive whether you are in the mood or not. Asking your husband, “do I look fat in this?” just turns you man into one of your girlfriends. You don’t want that.
Get dressed for your self. Go fill up your tank and get some HOT on. And remember as Seal said to Oprah about his supermodel wife Heidi Klum, “Happy Wife, Happy Life.”
Make yourself happy and your family will follow. C’mon you know who really wears the pants!
Let’s get dressed. Make it a date night tonight.
Barbra Horowitz is a personal stylist and the West Coast correspondent for British Vogue online. She has also written Closet Control: The Ultimate Guide to Revitalizing Your Wardrobe and Revolutionizing the Way you Store It and regularly hosts Fashion 411 on Karma Sol Radio.
