Why is it so important to make your dream a reality? What happens to a dream deferred? The unfulfilled dream lingers in the mind, leading to blockage and frustration. Potentialities are put aside in favor of everyday practicalities. It often seems impossible to set aside the time and space necessary to actively pursue the dreams that would lead us to greater satisfaction in our lives. We are so mired in reality and so busy living by our clocks and calendars that we often forget what matters to us. Sounds familiar! Don’t let it be you. I dare you to turn your dreams into reality.
Why are dreams so important?
In our very busy lives, taking time to dream seems frivolous. However, if we do not have a dream all we have is our reality. Dreaming is the expression or our hearts and soul. It allows us to stop and ask ourselves: what do I really want for my live, what is it that is going to make me happy and fulfilled? Dreaming is the ability to proactively create and design our life the way we want it to be. It is medically proven that people who have passion and dreams live on average 7 to 10 years longer and they tend to be much happier.
What are some of the most common reasons that get in a way of accomplishing our dreams?
We let our doubts and fears dominate the air time and we have a tendency to go to strategy too soon. Our mind wants to know where the time, money, contacts or expertise is going to come from. We look at the way our live is and unless we can clearly see how the dream can be accomplished, then we start to doubt ourselves and we tend to compromise the dream down to our reality. And our society does a good job at reminding us of our reality. How many times do you hear? That is the way it is, face-the facts, that has never been done before, what makes you think you can do that and on and on. Looking at what is root us on the spot like a tree.
How do we overcome some of the obstacles such as Time and Money, Fear and Doubt?
It is such a story. “No time” or “no money” are not the real objections. The lack of belief in ourselves is what causes us to state something like, “I don’t have time or I don’t have money.” These obstacles are what I call: The “escapes” we all have used before (to ourselves and others) because truthfully we don’t believe we can GET WHAT we WANT.
To overcome those obstacles, it is important to realize that you are not alone. We all have limiting beliefs and fears. Not having enough time or money may be a reality but it’s only a limiting belief. There are usually creative alternatives for handling these issues: bartering services, asking for help, partnering with someone else – whatever the case might be. The ultimate question becomes: are you more committed to your dreams than you are to your reality? And start demonstrating that you are more committed to your dreams by taking actions. And in the actions you will gain confidence and self-esteem.
What would you recommend we do in order to increase our probability to turn our dreams into reality?
The people that are the most successful in accomplishing their dreams are usually not doing it alone. They have learned to articulate their vision with clarity and passion, excite, invite and enroll people in joining them - usually we are most successful when we have made a commitment to somebody else and here is where coaching is very effective – cheering us on and making us accountable.
If you are really serious about accomplishing your dreams and living your life more deliberately, you might want to take a look at The Dream Coaching Process®. This 10-step process has made something intangible, even esoteric like dream, into real and practical steps. And once you’ve learned this process, you will be able to use it to assist you in getting what you want and deserve personally and professionally.
Simply put, The Dream Coaching Process assists you in living your life by design and not by default. To choose what you want for your life because it matters to you. It allows you to reconnect with who you are and discover or rediscover what is truly important to you. To live deliberately…purposefully!.
Francine Allaire is the founder of The International Community of Daring Women (The Daring™ for short) and a Certified Dream/Vision Coach®. Visit her web site.
